No one here likes me!
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Whispersecret
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LONG ASS POST...BEWARE
GREAT thread, LL. GREAT.
I am constantly analyzing this board, its dynamics, and how I interact on it. I'm well-aware of how weak my self-image is in some ways. Don't think that I mope around thinking that I'm nothing and that if I died, no one would care. Far from it. I'm confident about many aspects of myself, even conceited, but my feelings about how I look and my sex appeal are below average. So, I often refrain from doing certain things here on the BB because I know that my true motive would be to get strokes from people. Sometimes, though, I do it anyway. Take flirting, for instance. Sure, it's fun, but underneath, I feel when I flirt that I'm looking for ego-stroking.
Honestly, how important is it to you that you feel accepted here? The importance that BB acceptance holds for me waxes and wanes. Sometimes, I'm in a bad mood, from offline junk or something happening on the BB, and I don't care too much about whether I'm accepted. Those are the times when I get negative, accusatory, overly-critical of others and what they say.
If I'm feeling down, acceptance here can mean a great deal. However, I usually don't post an "I need sympathy" thread, because I'm so aware of how...well, obvious those always seem to me. I usually seek my hugs on ICQ where my closer BB buddies are.
What is it that makes you feel validated here?
--When people mention me in their reply, then I know that what I said stayed with them.
--Agreement certainly validates everyone. We all seek that.
--Not many people tell me how great I am (with the exception of THX), but when it happens, sure, I get a big kick out of it.
--No one kisses my ass here that I know of.
--When someone mentions some thread I started a long time ago--that really strikes a chord.
--When people respond ON TOPIC to a thread I start, that validates my starting the thread.
--I really enjoy hearing people say, "Great thread, Whisper," so I've made an effort to say that more often myself.
Do you feel that you use this board as a means to bolster your self esteem? Generally, I've noticed some of the same things that you have, LL, as far as ways that people seek attention. (excessive flirting, shit-stirring, whining that no one likes them or pays attention to them, kissing major ass-age, posting pictures of their ass (lol), consistent slamming of others, and constantly crying for help/sympathy). I'd like to add:
--"I'm leaving" posts/threads are cries for attention too, for the most part.
--Sometimes outrageous posts describing exaggerated or way-out-there sexual views or habits seem like attention grabbers too.
--Also, in a way I think that everytime a regular posts a pic, it's for the attention that garners. Hell, I've considered posting my own pic. I struggle with that decision because I know that deep down, for me, it would just be a call for compliments.
--Also, I think that spending a great deal of time here on the BB could be an indication in and of itself that that person needs attention and acceptance that they're not getting elsewhere. I could be wrong.
--When people say, "I don't really expect anyone to reply to this thread..." you just know they're really hoping someone will.
To answer the question:
I whined in a thread called, "I'm tired of feeling bad because nobody wants to fuck me" (or something like that.) But, in my own weird way, I think that at least that was an honest post because I was acknowledging the fact that I was feeling needy. <shrugs>
I don't come here with the express purpose of making myself feel better. But, coming here DOES boost my self-image, and I keep coming.
The biggest boost to me has been the response to my story, "Hostile Takeover." I got and continue to get such wonderful letters, that I check the Top Lists every single week. I keep every single fan letter. I even keep track of how many letters I've gotten. I had a hard time not posting often on a thread dedicated to my story, and I would often refrain from posting because I didn't want it to look like I was just keeping the thread on the top of the list. I've enjoyed the attention so much that I even angled my next novella away from non-consent so that more people would read it.
Have there been times when you have felt unaccepted here? How did you deal with it? Yes. See above about my whining thread. For a while I avoided popularity/list threads. Then, morbid curiosity drew me, and I found that not being included didn't hurt as much as it had before. I think I've grown beyond the whining stage. (Are there stages of BB self-awareness, like the stages of dying? I'll bet Lasher has a list of stages.) Now, my self-esteem gets a bigger boost when I'm mentioned on a list than vice versa.
I felt unaccepted when there was talk about a group gift for Angelique and Xander, and no one had told me about it. But I shrugged it off.
I was proud that I was able to do that fairly easily.
I feel especially low when I venture to flirt and no one responds. That really sucks. That's when the little voice inside sneers, "SEE? Even online men aren't interested. When are you going to learn?"
I think that this BB serves many purposes for many of us. I venture to say that not everyone is ready to admit the role it plays in their lives. For me, this thread illustrates that clearly. That's not to say that anyone who said they don't need acceptance, etc. is fooling themselves, but I do think some are.
[Edited by whispersecret on 09-27-2000 at 11:22 PM]
GREAT thread, LL. GREAT.
I am constantly analyzing this board, its dynamics, and how I interact on it. I'm well-aware of how weak my self-image is in some ways. Don't think that I mope around thinking that I'm nothing and that if I died, no one would care. Far from it. I'm confident about many aspects of myself, even conceited, but my feelings about how I look and my sex appeal are below average. So, I often refrain from doing certain things here on the BB because I know that my true motive would be to get strokes from people. Sometimes, though, I do it anyway. Take flirting, for instance. Sure, it's fun, but underneath, I feel when I flirt that I'm looking for ego-stroking.
Honestly, how important is it to you that you feel accepted here? The importance that BB acceptance holds for me waxes and wanes. Sometimes, I'm in a bad mood, from offline junk or something happening on the BB, and I don't care too much about whether I'm accepted. Those are the times when I get negative, accusatory, overly-critical of others and what they say.
If I'm feeling down, acceptance here can mean a great deal. However, I usually don't post an "I need sympathy" thread, because I'm so aware of how...well, obvious those always seem to me. I usually seek my hugs on ICQ where my closer BB buddies are.
What is it that makes you feel validated here?
--When people mention me in their reply, then I know that what I said stayed with them.
--Agreement certainly validates everyone. We all seek that.
--Not many people tell me how great I am (with the exception of THX), but when it happens, sure, I get a big kick out of it.
--No one kisses my ass here that I know of.
--When someone mentions some thread I started a long time ago--that really strikes a chord.
--When people respond ON TOPIC to a thread I start, that validates my starting the thread.
--I really enjoy hearing people say, "Great thread, Whisper," so I've made an effort to say that more often myself.
Do you feel that you use this board as a means to bolster your self esteem? Generally, I've noticed some of the same things that you have, LL, as far as ways that people seek attention. (excessive flirting, shit-stirring, whining that no one likes them or pays attention to them, kissing major ass-age, posting pictures of their ass (lol), consistent slamming of others, and constantly crying for help/sympathy). I'd like to add:
--"I'm leaving" posts/threads are cries for attention too, for the most part.
--Sometimes outrageous posts describing exaggerated or way-out-there sexual views or habits seem like attention grabbers too.
--Also, in a way I think that everytime a regular posts a pic, it's for the attention that garners. Hell, I've considered posting my own pic. I struggle with that decision because I know that deep down, for me, it would just be a call for compliments.
--Also, I think that spending a great deal of time here on the BB could be an indication in and of itself that that person needs attention and acceptance that they're not getting elsewhere. I could be wrong.
--When people say, "I don't really expect anyone to reply to this thread..." you just know they're really hoping someone will.
To answer the question:
I whined in a thread called, "I'm tired of feeling bad because nobody wants to fuck me" (or something like that.) But, in my own weird way, I think that at least that was an honest post because I was acknowledging the fact that I was feeling needy. <shrugs>
I don't come here with the express purpose of making myself feel better. But, coming here DOES boost my self-image, and I keep coming.
The biggest boost to me has been the response to my story, "Hostile Takeover." I got and continue to get such wonderful letters, that I check the Top Lists every single week. I keep every single fan letter. I even keep track of how many letters I've gotten. I had a hard time not posting often on a thread dedicated to my story, and I would often refrain from posting because I didn't want it to look like I was just keeping the thread on the top of the list. I've enjoyed the attention so much that I even angled my next novella away from non-consent so that more people would read it.
Have there been times when you have felt unaccepted here? How did you deal with it? Yes. See above about my whining thread. For a while I avoided popularity/list threads. Then, morbid curiosity drew me, and I found that not being included didn't hurt as much as it had before. I think I've grown beyond the whining stage. (Are there stages of BB self-awareness, like the stages of dying? I'll bet Lasher has a list of stages.) Now, my self-esteem gets a bigger boost when I'm mentioned on a list than vice versa.
I felt unaccepted when there was talk about a group gift for Angelique and Xander, and no one had told me about it. But I shrugged it off.
I was proud that I was able to do that fairly easily.I feel especially low when I venture to flirt and no one responds. That really sucks. That's when the little voice inside sneers, "SEE? Even online men aren't interested. When are you going to learn?"
I think that this BB serves many purposes for many of us. I venture to say that not everyone is ready to admit the role it plays in their lives. For me, this thread illustrates that clearly. That's not to say that anyone who said they don't need acceptance, etc. is fooling themselves, but I do think some are.
[Edited by whispersecret on 09-27-2000 at 11:22 PM]
Oliver Clozoff
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Great post, WS! There's a lot of wisdom there. I'm still contemplating my answer to this thread.
Until then, though, all I have to say is that I've been feeling run down lately and suspect it's because I haven't been getting my RDTA.
Shake it for me, woman!
Until then, though, all I have to say is that I've been feeling run down lately and suspect it's because I haven't been getting my RDTA.
Shake it for me, woman!
shit4brains
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Hell, I haven't been accepted either..maybe because I have a shitty nickname and post stupid replies.. anyway, I accept you, for what it's worth..
Ezzy
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Re: LONG ASS POST...BEWARE Short Assed post
Thank you for paying attention,when I needed it.
EZ http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm2/sleep.gif
ps.Last posting on this thread I have said enough or too much.Not going to cry for attention on here anymore LOL!
[Edited by Ezzy on 09-27-2000 at 11:45 PM]
Whispersecret said:
Thank you for paying attention,when I needed it.
EZ http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm2/sleep.gif
ps.Last posting on this thread I have said enough or too much.Not going to cry for attention on here anymore LOL!
[Edited by Ezzy on 09-27-2000 at 11:45 PM]
Purple Haze
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I'm happy with that, Whispersecret. I wish I had typing skills, my posts wouldn't be so short and to the point, or off the point, and I wouldn't spend as much time trying to write. I spend alot of time correcting mistakes and restructuring paragraphs.
I would like to say: "good thread", but this isn't your thread, It belongs to Lovely Latina with the really white ass (love you for your guitar knowledge , AND that beautiful ass), and I'm compelled to tell everyone if I feel my posts are valid, and If I feel accepted, if all of this bolsters my self-esteem, I hope not.
All I can say is good post, Whispersecret, flirt with me, I flirt back, and I'll never be part of the in-crowd here, they bore me to tears.
I'd love to take a swipe at some of the annoying dweebs that post on everything in sight, but I can't type that fast, so I'll let Lasher or Ramlick clean up around here.
I would like to say: "good thread", but this isn't your thread, It belongs to Lovely Latina with the really white ass (love you for your guitar knowledge , AND that beautiful ass), and I'm compelled to tell everyone if I feel my posts are valid, and If I feel accepted, if all of this bolsters my self-esteem, I hope not.
All I can say is good post, Whispersecret, flirt with me, I flirt back, and I'll never be part of the in-crowd here, they bore me to tears.
I'd love to take a swipe at some of the annoying dweebs that post on everything in sight, but I can't type that fast, so I'll let Lasher or Ramlick clean up around here.
Gaucho
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Oliver Clozoff said:Great post, WS! There's a lot of wisdom there. I'm still contemplating my answer to this thread.
Until then, though, all I have to say is that I've been feeling run down lately and suspect it's because I haven't been getting my RDTA.
Shake it for me, woman!
Let it be known to all who read these words that the good doctor and I are charter members of the WSTS (WhisperSecret Titty Shake) fan club. The club was formed when I happened to mention the therapeutic effects of titty-watching for men and Dr. Clozoff weighed in with the official RDTA (Recommended Daily Titty Allowance). Whisper kindly offered her services for our study and, well, the rest is history.
All I can say, Whisper, is thank you from the bottom of my heart for the great and noble service that you are providing. Now, if we could just get a few other women on this board to share the wealth...
btw - Whisper, I still have your message to me on this subject and I just wanted you to know that I concur wholeheartedly. And if you'd ever like to increase your circle of ICQ buddies, just let me know.
Oliver Clozoff
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Exactly, Gaucho Amigo! (by the way, why are you standing in that spangled leather poncho? )
As founding members of the WSTS (and as far as I know, the only members), we're incredibly lucky to be the recipients of this unique therapy and frankly I feel a little guilty. Think about how many men out there aren't getting their RDTA and are suffering increased cardiovascular morbidity and mortality as a direct result.
Also, frankly I feel downright guilty for hording so much sweet titty all to myself. Therefore, I feel a moral obligation to initiate a coast to coast recruiting drive for new initiates. Perhaps a coast-to-coast tour is in order?
I wholeheartedly agree with your idea to get other women into the act. WS is obviously the most qualified therapeutic titty-shaker, but as much heart disease is out there, she's bound to get tired eventually.
So, come on ladies. Shake it for our health!
)As founding members of the WSTS (and as far as I know, the only members), we're incredibly lucky to be the recipients of this unique therapy and frankly I feel a little guilty. Think about how many men out there aren't getting their RDTA and are suffering increased cardiovascular morbidity and mortality as a direct result.
Also, frankly I feel downright guilty for hording so much sweet titty all to myself. Therefore, I feel a moral obligation to initiate a coast to coast recruiting drive for new initiates. Perhaps a coast-to-coast tour is in order?
I wholeheartedly agree with your idea to get other women into the act. WS is obviously the most qualified therapeutic titty-shaker, but as much heart disease is out there, she's bound to get tired eventually.
So, come on ladies. Shake it for our health!
Whispersecret
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OH, MY GOD! I'm crying from laughing so hard! SHIT!
I'll come back and reply later. I have to cook dinner for my boys. SHIT!
You, Charter Members, you guys are the best! Look up at the ceiling--that's where my esteem is right now. <smooches>
I'll be back in a few hours.
I'll come back and reply later. I have to cook dinner for my boys. SHIT!
You, Charter Members, you guys are the best! Look up at the ceiling--that's where my esteem is right now. <smooches>
I'll be back in a few hours.
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This was a great thread. Everyone staying on topic and posting an in depth discussion of their feelings and attitudes. Now it's being hijacked.
Please, maybe you could start your own thread for this? It's not really appropriate here.
Thank you.
Please, maybe you could start your own thread for this? It's not really appropriate here.
Thank you.
Whispersecret
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Four posts does not a hijack make. My apologies to LL, just the same.
Shit4Brains, judging solely by your handle and your post, I'd say you need to buck up and accept yourself before you so generously go around accepting other people.
I'm absolutely certain you have good qualities. Why don't you chuck that name and re-register?
Doc, I've been remiss in my duties. Meet me for some "booster shots" outside of this thread. My ICQ is 66443580. I hope you're goin' into plastics, because I'm gonna need a lift after all the shakin' goin' on. Seriously, I'm looking forward to your response to LL's questions. I have a feeling you'll be able to aptly analyze your own involvement in the BB.
Ezzy, I had no intention of slamming you, even indirectly, with my comment about the "I'm leaving" threads. I hope you're not feeling abjectly down about that. I hope I didn't hurt you.
PH, ironically, I try to shave my posts to the bare minimum and almost always end up with tomes of commentary. <sighs> Maybe it's because I type like a pro... Is there a direct ratio between length of posts and typing speed?
And, Gaucho, my sweetie, it was I who coined the term, RDTA! (See my ICQ# above so we don't annoy the anonymous poster.)
Again, LL, great thread. I'd love to hear some other viewpoints.
Shit4Brains, judging solely by your handle and your post, I'd say you need to buck up and accept yourself before you so generously go around accepting other people.
I'm absolutely certain you have good qualities. Why don't you chuck that name and re-register?
Doc, I've been remiss in my duties. Meet me for some "booster shots" outside of this thread. My ICQ is 66443580. I hope you're goin' into plastics, because I'm gonna need a lift after all the shakin' goin' on. Seriously, I'm looking forward to your response to LL's questions. I have a feeling you'll be able to aptly analyze your own involvement in the BB.
Ezzy, I had no intention of slamming you, even indirectly, with my comment about the "I'm leaving" threads. I hope you're not feeling abjectly down about that. I hope I didn't hurt you.
PH, ironically, I try to shave my posts to the bare minimum and almost always end up with tomes of commentary. <sighs> Maybe it's because I type like a pro... Is there a direct ratio between length of posts and typing speed?
And, Gaucho, my sweetie, it was I who coined the term, RDTA! (See my ICQ# above so we don't annoy the anonymous poster.)
Again, LL, great thread. I'd love to hear some other viewpoints.
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I was reading happily along until I got to "sympathy fuck." The blood rushed from my head to the other place, I rolled over on my back, and wagged my tail.
LOL
LOL
Whispersecret
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For what I'm about to do, I apologize in advance to Lovely Latina, whom I respect very much.
<lifts her t-shirt over her head and jiggles her little mammaries>
Accept me! Boost my self-esteem! Validate me! YEAH!
Okay, you may now go back to your regular programming...
Still waiting for Latina's and Oliver's answers to the questions, by the way.
<lifts her t-shirt over her head and jiggles her little mammaries>
Accept me! Boost my self-esteem! Validate me! YEAH!
Okay, you may now go back to your regular programming...
Still waiting for Latina's and Oliver's answers to the questions, by the way.
