no oral skills

[sanitywhy]

Ok so my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years and I was terrified for a long time to go down on her. I got over that but I still suck at it among other things and I need some serious help. It is causing a lot of stress in our relationship. Help please help!

 

[SpiritRider]

Practice, Practice, Practice.....

and it might help if you asked and she told you what she likes. Every woman is different and likes or wants different things.
Whatever you do don't treat it like a porn movie...

 

[SweetErika]

Yeah, communication is the biggie. My husband didn't become skilled at oral until I clearly communicated what I did and didn't like.

If communication is a little difficult, you might try playing a "game," like tracing the alphabet and numbers on her vulva while she tells you which motions work best for her. Then you can expand on and experiment with those moves in future sessions.

Also, She Comes First by Ian Kerner is a great guide. We were lucky enough to find it through our local library's ebook system, but I'd say it's well worth the $11.

 

[curiousgeo62]

Yeah, communication is the biggie. My husband didn't become skilled at oral until I clearly communicated what I did and didn't like.

If communication is a little difficult, you might try playing a "game," like tracing the alphabet and numbers on her vulva while she tells you which motions work best for her. Then you can expand on and experiment with those moves in future sessions.

Also, She Comes First by Ian Kerner is a great guide. We were lucky enough to find it through our local library's ebook system, but I'd say it's well worth the $11.

That book is very good. I have to tell you that I have been with two women since reading that book and they think I am the best oral lover in the world. I read the book four times. The first time I was able to try the techniques, I focused on the first few. The woman I was with was moaning so loudly, I was shocked! Each time I was with her I added a step until I got to the point where I slipped a finger into her ass just as she was cumming. She told me she almost passed out! The pleasure was off the charts for her.

Also, each woman is different, so not even a book is going to tell you everything. If you "listen" to her body, it will tell you the rest of what you need to know. Also, if you are enjoying it, she will enjoy it. You have to love what you are doing to really make it effective.

Good luck!!

 

[TheMysticMan]

Search.

Goodluck man! I'm sure she'll be tearing out your hair in no time.

 

[teknight]

Search.

I like the way you think.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Frankly, all you need to do is heed the words put down by Ted Nugent in his 7th opus entitled "Wango Tango". I've included the passage here, if you're not already familiar. I've bolded the particularly important parts, but honestly, it's all good.

All right! It's zee Wango, zee Tango
1-2-3-4
Come on boys
Time to Wango

My baby she like to rock
My baby she like to roll
My baby she can dance all night
My baby got no control
She do the Wango Tango

My baby she can scream and shout
My baby she can move it out
My baby she can take a chance
My baby got a brand new dance

Wango Tango
Wango Tango
It's a Wango Tango
Ooooh yeah! (oooooh..)
Baby!

My baby like to rock
My baby like to roll
My baby like to dance all night
She got no control
She do...

Wango Tango
Wango Tango
Wango Tango
Ooooh yeah! (oooooh..)

Yeahhhhhhhhhh!
Baby! Baby! Baby! Ooooh I like the way you look baby
You look like you're made for me honey
If you wanna take a little chance
I'm gonna show you a new dance
Baby I gotta Wango down one time with you honey
I like it, I like it, I like it, I like it, I like it
Well, it's a brand new dance
Yeah been sweepin' the nation
I said a brand new dance
A rock 'n' roll sensation
Yeah I like it baby, I do it every night
I got to do it 'cos I like it so much
Oh honey believe it baby
You see it's a crazed gyration of the rock generation
It's my motivation to avoid the nauseation, frustration
When I need some lubrication - Baby!
Kinda like, goes kinda like this
You take her right ankle out
You take her left ankle out
You get her belly propped down
You get her butt propped up
Yeah lookin' good now baby
I think you're in the right position now baby
Yeah but if you ain't quite ready I'll make sure everything is a little bit nicer 'cos
I'm gonna get a little talcum
I'm gonna borrow it from Malcolm
Yeah you look so good baby I'm startin to drool all over myself
I got the droolin', droolin', get all wet, salivate, salivate
I got salivate late, salivate late, salivate late
Got salivate, salivate, salivate, salivate, heh heh heh
Yeah you look so good baby, I like it, I like it, I like it
You know what I been talkin' about honey
It's a nice dance, we gotta a nice dance goin' here
Now what you gotta do, I'll tell you what you gotta do
You got to pretend your face is a Maserati
It's a Maserati
It's a Maserati
It's a gettin' hotty
It's a Maserati, Maserati, Maserati
It's a fast one too man, that thing's turbocharged
You feel like a little fuel injection honey?
I'll tell ya about it, I'll tell you about it
I'll check out the hood scoop
I gotta get that hood scoop off, shine and shine and buff
I gotta buff it up, buff it up, buff it up, buff it up, buff it up,
Yeah, shiny now baby, heh heh heh
You've been drivin' all night long
It's time to put the old Maserati away
So you look for a garage, you think you see a garage
Wait a minute, Hey!, there's one up ahead
And the damn thing's open
Hello! Get in there!

Is my baby alive? (Is my baby alive?)
Is my baby alive? (Is my baby alive?)
Is my baby alive?
She Wango'd to death

Wango Tango (Wango Tango)
Wango Tango (Wango Tango)
Wango Tango (Wango Tango)
Wango Tango (Wango Tango)
Wango Tango
Wango Tango
Wango Tango
Wango Tango
Wango Wango
Tango Tango
Wango Wango Wango Wango
Tango Tango Tango Tango

Hope this helps!

 

[silverwhisper]

sanitywhy: first things first, congrats on breaking through that barrier! your GF is lucky: she gets to teach you how to go down the way she wants, so in time, you'll be amazing.

as the others said: she's gotta be comfortable saying "hey, when you [x], that's awesome!". since you've been together for 5 yrs, i'm betting you two are comfortable telling one another stuff like that--but if not, get comfortable.

when she tells you "do [x]" or "less of [y]", listen.

i'm kinda curious why you were so afraid for 5 years, though: ?

ed

 

[Earl]

You won't get good until you really want to be there. If you don't enjoy giving head then the chances are you won't be really good. Your willingness to please your girl and really wanting to be between her legs will be sensed by her. She will know if you are there with some reluctance.

 

[Sweet_Pea24]

You won't get good until you really want to be there. If you don't enjoy giving head then the chances are you won't be really good. Your willingness to please your girl and really wanting to be between her legs will be sensed by her. She will know if you are there with some reluctance.

Yep! I agree with this one! You have to really love it if you wanna be good. If you love doing something you catch on to it like a fish to water. You get in there and just try to get her honey all over your face lol. If you don't like it you don't learn much of anything, especially if you don't want to make contact.

It's the same with both sexes I think. I've had an oral fetish since my first Popsicle lol, and it only got worse from there. You can't suck a mean dick if you're afraid to close your mouth around it right? Not that you do that, I'm just saying lol. If you want to be good at something, I mean if you really want to blow her mind, you can't be in there like you're 1/2 afraid of it. You gotta love it all, even the slippery parts.

My hubby calls puss juice nectar and honey. You gotta love it like that!

I mean does it stink or something? That would suck...I would't want to either if it stinks lol.

If it's causing that much friction, that may be what she thinks you think! (For gods sake don't read this and go say "Nahh honeh! Yo puss don't stink." either lol) That might get you knocked in the head.

 

[Tmmldr]

Hmmm....

Are there any hot videos that do a good job of showing the techniques of going down on a girl?

 

[jehoram]

Hmmm....

Are there any hot videos that do a good job of showing the techniques of going down on a girl?

Search the threads for "Nina Hartley"

She did a great how-to video on cunnilingus. The post contains the link to it.