So, I'm a switch, but when submissive often if not mainly a service submissive. A lot of service submission lacks the sexual aspect or the eroticism that you'd expect- But in my experience certainly isn't the only type of D/s that can be non-erotic. One of my partners for example I have a mostly nonsexual relationship with, but they help me with the scheduling of my day (i.e have a certain amount of control over what I do and when), they might tell me when to cook for myself or for them when I'm with them, I'll meal prep or do the dishes for them, make the beds, that sort of thing, but they also are very caring towards me and fill almost a parental role in how they structure my day with me and remind me to take care of myself. We very rarely even kiss but there does tend to be some physical contact like cuddling or hugs, and from what I gather, what they get out of it is knowing we're both enjoying ourselves and them knowing they've put my mind at ease and given me a safe, comfortable envoirement to be of service in and focus on nothing but that. I've also been a "human footstool" or table a few times and I've enjoyed it thoroughly- I do actually find that kind of erotic, though, so I'm not sure if that quite fits the bill!
From the dom side of things, I really enjoy the feeling of having someone at my service like that- Someone who is dedicated to serving me with their *literal entire body* is just very heartwarming and attractive to me, whether it involves sex or not. The same applies with bondage, it involves such an immense amount of trust to let someone tie you up and manipulate your body inbetween oodles of rope and I feel very touched and loved when a submissive shows that trust they have in me through letting me tie ropes with/on them. A lot of whats attractive to me personally in non-sexual or non-erotic D/s dynamics is honestly the trust and having that chance to make someone feel deeply safe and cared for even in a non-sexual way.
From the dom side of things, I really enjoy the feeling of having someone at my service like that- Someone who is dedicated to serving me with their *literal entire body* is just very heartwarming and attractive to me, whether it involves sex or not. The same applies with bondage, it involves such an immense amount of trust to let someone tie you up and manipulate your body inbetween oodles of rope and I feel very touched and loved when a submissive shows that trust they have in me through letting me tie ropes with/on them. A lot of whats attractive to me personally in non-sexual or non-erotic D/s dynamics is honestly the trust and having that chance to make someone feel deeply safe and cared for even in a non-sexual way.
