Non-Genital Orgasms

[Never]

How to? Is this even possible? What's a good starting place for beginners?

 

[Ksb]

How to... well, thats really hard. I guess it depends on what YOU like.

I've only had one, from lots and lots of neck-kissing, whilst tied up and him grinding on top of me. I like all of them seperatly. When they were all done together with him whispering dirty things in my ear between kisses it was... pretty damn hot.

He had played with my clit beforehand, and I was absolutly dying to cum. I think that played into it alot - since i'm in a LDR, we tend to hold off cumming for a couple of days before we can meet up and him teasing me, then stopping was almost unbearable. It wasn't the most explosive orgasm of my life, but it was definatly memorable.

I'd say... lots of teasing beforehand, do everything non-genital that they really enjoy and hope for the best. Even if it dosen't lead to an orgasm, i'm sure it'll be enjoyable

 

[tmtrouble2006]

How to... well, thats really hard. I guess it depends on what YOU like.

I've only had one, from lots and lots of neck-kissing, whilst tied up and him grinding on top of me. I like all of them seperatly. When they were all done together with him whispering dirty things in my ear between kisses it was... pretty damn hot.

He had played with my clit beforehand, and I was absolutly dying to cum. I think that played into it alot - since i'm in a LDR, we tend to hold off cumming for a couple of days before we can meet up and him teasing me, then stopping was almost unbearable. It wasn't the most explosive orgasm of my life, but it was definatly memorable.

I'd say... lots of teasing beforehand, do everything non-genital that they really enjoy and hope for the best. Even if it dosen't lead to an orgasm, i'm sure it'll be enjoyable

Absolutely correct. The brain is the number one sex organ. Getting sensory input to the point of ecstacy is possible.

 

[yoshimitsu]

I knew a girl that said she had orgasms at raves. And not just sitting on the speakers but just from the intensity of the music and vibe.
Now if you hop on top of 30,000 watts of speaker your chances are even better.

 

[jros4]

i have

do you consider the ass a genital? I have had orgasms by using a finger on my self or other objects. it was awesome to do that.

 

[raspberries]

Absolutely correct. The brain is the number one sex organ. Getting sensory input to the point of ecstacy is possible.

It most certainly is possible for me....I delight in sucking a man's cock, and in the past year, I have begun to enjoy that so much and get so excited doing it that when a man cums in my mouth, I have a spontaneous, no-contact orgasm at the same instant....

I can't give you any how-to advice, except for just get fully into whatever the thing is you are doing! And do lots of the things you really get into!

 

[Exciteher]

How to? Is this even possible? What's a good starting place for beginners?

Oh jeez, sucked into the Lit forum once again...

Yes, non genital orgasms are possible, and for both men and women. People with spinal cord injury can do this, and do.

I had a partner that was a body worker, LMT, Reiki master, breath worker etc. She taught me how to do this (facilitated is a better way to put this...everyone is different and there is no "one correct path"), and I can orgasm from my nipples, soles of my feet, thighs, neck, ears, inner forearms-all sorts of places, and it can all blend into a "whole body" orgasm too.

So...the first secret is that the mind and body are one...even though language and thought tend to provide us with an illusion they are separate.

As for how to:
I can only speak for myself, your mileage will vary...the rest of what I have to say may be unique to me, but for what it is worth, here is what I learned, and the things I was "taught" that made the difference for me.

The second secret is that "sexual sensation" or "arousal" is actually a manifestation of an energy, and learning to move, receive, give and even recognize that energy is a key.

The third secret is really get in touch with your body... "be in your body"... so often we numb ourselves (can you feel the texture of your underwear against your skin right now?) and we are not even aware we are doing that. We armor ourselves...and that may have its place in our crazy society, but one can chose to do differently in certain contexts.

The forth secret is this: Awareness. Both "mental" and "physical". Being aware of how even the slightest touch, the softest sound, the most subtle taste or fragrance or the most indescribable shade of any color... etc... feels -and also affects us. Learn to focus on any part of your body...and feel it. Dive into it. Is that part tense or relaxed? Does it feel near or far away? Is it hot or cold? If that part of your body were a sound...what does it sound like? As you focus..does that part of your body give you an image? Is that part of you aroused and happy to get to play with you?

Learn to squeeze every bit of sensuality from the smallest or lightest stimulation, movement, thought or fantasy.

Speaking of "squeezing" I seem to have two general ways of building an orgasm. One is a 'tense" way. Sexual tension builds, squeezes and tightens until it releases. This is the first way I orgasmed...I think it is the most common way most people do.

The other way is a "relaxed" way. Sexual energy is received, invited in, breathed in and moved around in my body until I am saturated with a relaxed sexual energy. If too much energy collects in my genitals, or any place like my nipples etc... I (or someone) "moves" it to somewhere in me that does not have as much of that energy...yet. Eventually one becomes so completely energized and aroused... you can get an orgasm from specific places, "tipping points". Those will vary from person to person...I now think it can be "learned" to be from any place. The slightest tensing..or stimulation..will cause the built up energy to release. This was a major revelation to me, and produces the most intense orgasms I have... so far anyway.

My partner was able do this ( non genital orgasm) from the "tense" state...or the "relaxed" state...but perhaps women are better at that. In anycase, I think the way we are taught about sex leaves us using only a few percent of our actual sexual potential.

One more secret. I hold the intention to build orgasm, but if I get too attached to having one, it gets in the way...I get in my own way actually. I have found that merely 'inviting" as much sexual energy into myself as possible, feeling where it wants to go that day, moving it where it feels the best and 'playing"... is a key for me. The same sort of thing holds with my intentions toward my partner, and she towards me.

Where for a beginner to start?

I was lucky to meet a partner who knew about this, but at the beginning she made me do a lot of work by myself. It is about self exploration. At first I was so skeptical! She provided demonstrations..then made me practice. For instance, the very first demonstration was this: She started stroking the top of my hand with just one finger. She told me, " I am pouring all my sexual energy into you through my finger...feel it?" Well, I could. Just that thought got me aroused, and it felt like her finger was beaming something into me. She made me close my eyes, and said.."I'm having such sexy thoughts about you right now...feel them flowing into you?" I could, it was like her finger was leaving this amazing "trace" as I felt her stroking the top of my hand. She kept this same thing up, stroking my hand and saying variants of this same thing. As time passed, the feeling became more and more intense, she keep checking in with me, asking me to focus on the energy from her finger, telling her what I was physically and emotionally feeling that instant. I could feel every little movement of her finger and I was getting increasingly aroused. Finally she said...open your eyes and watch me stroke you. I did...and I was ASTONISHED to see her finger "stroking" back and forth in space... 2 inches above my hand!!! Her sly smile was priceless....

What a convincer. She made me repeat this... but made me do it for and by myself.

A book that is a good start is "Psychic Massage" by Roberta DeLong Miller. This book has exercises in it, and this was the first "homework" I was given. It is no longer in print, but is available for near nothing "used" on the internet. The part in it about breathwork, bringing energy in and moving it around or out into someone else is fundamental. BTW, I left a whole discussion about breathing out of my anecdote above to keep things short ... er... shorter. lol! An amazing book.

Another good starter is 'The Art of Sexual Ecstasy" by Margo Anand, as are books ( good books..there is a lot of exploitive crap out there) about Tantra and Kundalini yoga.

Bottom line is we all experience arousal and get fixated on genitals, but I am not sure that it is appreciated that orgasm is an effect of an energy, and that this energy can be invited in, actually moved about in ones body, and moved between bodies, and is worth exploring for its own sake... no matter if it leads to orgasm or not.

...just get fully into whatever the thing is you are doing!

Yes! This is the essence.

 

[Laster]

I have had orgasms from giving BJ's and I didn't even touch myself.
I have also had orgasms riding horses nude.

 

[FurryFury]

I've had orgasms from reading the right words written in the right way at the right time without touching myself.

Fever and lack of sleep aiding this IMO.

LMAO!

OTOH, orgasm while dreaming in sleep also was non genital.

Fury

 

[Bert Notorius]

I don't think it's technically possible to have an orgasm with out genitals.

 

[FurryFury]

I don't think it's technically possible to have an orgasm with out genitals.

Hmm, I think it must be.

Fury

 

[Bert Notorius]

Hmm, I think it must be.

Fury

...to have an orgasm without genitals or to have an orgasm without direct genital stimulation?

 

[FurryFury]

...to have an orgasm without genitals or to have an orgasm without direct genital stimulation?

I'd have to research it but I believe both are possible. I know the second one is.

Fury

 

[Exciteher]

I don't think it's technically possible to have an orgasm with out genitals.

Well, technically possible or not... it happens, and it can be learned.

Just think... the g-spot (still disputed by some die-hards..lol!) was not even recognized (in THIS culture) to exist until about 70 years after man first flew. Only a few years ago, the differences between heart attack in women, and it's different symptoms in women was not appreciated. Both sexual medicine and research, and women's medicine is woefully underfunded and those fields are only now beginning to gain the priority they should always have had.

In the mean time, for ages men and women have been having orgasms in their sleep, ejaculatory and not... many, many people have experience with that.

Paraplegics and genital amputee's have learned to have orgasms.

How can this be? ( technically, that is.)

For a more formal scientific inquiry... start here:

"Is there a neurobiology of love?"
Komisaruk, B. R. & Whipple, B.
Wenner Gren Symposium, Stockholm , SUEDE (28/08/1996)

"Love as sensory stimulation : Physiological consequences of its deprivation and expression"
Komisaruk, B. R. & Whipple, B.
Psychoneuroendocrinology ISSN 0306-4530
1998, vol. 23, no 8 (2 p.1/4), pp. 927-944

Abstract:
"..... we propose a neuroendocrine mechanism underlying sexual response and orgasm. The latter includes vaginocervical sensory pathways to the brain that can produce analgesia, release oxytocin, and/or bypass the spinal cord via the vagus nerve. We present evidence of the existence of non-genital orgasms, which suggests that genital orgasm is a special case of a more pervasive orgasmic process.''

 

[MR.GGG]

No Way! ..... Way !!!!

Ha, you gotta love it. Half a dozen women post submissions describing how they can come just from giving a good (my guess is excellent) BJ and then along comes a "That's impossible" post.

 

[travelboy]

I have had woman have full orgasms from bj me - 3- and also from me touching their breasts only -1.

as to feeling somone stroking me/them by stroking above but not touching them - with their eyes closed etc - i have done this and it does work - but nto so far to orgasm level. Until you experience it you wont believe it.

I am a chartered accountant by training for g-ds sake so if i can get an awareness of this touchy feely stuff - y'all can . DOnt allow yourself to be limited .. and this website is one heck of a place to start experimenting with yourselves - your minds and your bodies.

enjoy the journey.

 

[Bert Notorius]

Ha, you gotta love it. Half a dozen women post submissions describing how they can come just from giving a good (my guess is excellent) BJ and then along comes a "That's impossible" post.

You mean me?

If so, I think you're missing my point. The initial premise was titled "non-genital orgasm", not "orgasm without direct genital stimulation". I would assume all of the testimonials are from women with normally functioning sex organs. Maybe I'm splitting hairs, but their orgasms are directly tied to the physiological triggers that occur in and around the genitals themselves. And as far as sexual function in the disabled, I know for fact that at least males, even quads, are capable of ejaculatory response without the possibility of pelvic sensation. As for spinal injured women, I have no direct knowledge but I am positive that the physical manifestations of orgasm can be achieved.

If you take the the genitals completely out of the equation, I'm not sure what you have left, at the point of orgasm.

 

[lettinggo]

I have my strongest orgasms when he has his; whether he's inside me or not. I also have them fairly regularly when he plays with my nipples.

He's told me that his ex was actually boring, because she gushed every time she orgasmed, and she had them far too easily. He swears that by pinching her ear between his fingers, she would cum in buckets.

 

[badattitude]

He's told me that his ex was actually boring, because she gushed every time she orgasmed, and she had them far too easily. He swears that by pinching her ear between his fingers, she would cum in buckets.

As I'm orgasmically challenged, this makes me want to kill her.