Non- Sexual Privacy

[HottieMama]

i have such issues surrounding my privacy online and IRL, that i don't think i would be able to handle my PYL (if i had one...) having access to everything i did online or reading my hard-copy diaries etc... My journals may be something i choose to share with them but for it to be a matter of routine would probably stop me from writing in the first place....

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I have never had to justify any of my decisions. And I wouldn't. I have occasionally had a sub or slave ask if I would elaborate, and if I said no, they would leave it at that. This is because they have learned to trust Me to make the correct decisions.

Eb

I may singularly be the world's worst 'submissive' Eb Ma'am. While I respect the dominant position on this one even with ensuing trust I really struggle accross a broader spectrum to just comply outright sometimes. Seems rather self destructive within the context. Not to mention counter-productive . Perhaps it's ego or that I haven't been taken 'firmly in hand' in recent years. Actually toying with the possibility it's simply not in me anymore. How about that for a potential epiphany ?

 

[Ebonyfire]

I may singularly be the world's worst 'submissive' Eb Ma'am. While I respect the dominant position on this one even with ensuing trust I really struggle accross a broader spectrum to just comply outright sometimes. Seems rather self destructive within the context. Not to mention counter-productive . Perhaps it's ego or that I haven't been taken 'firmly in hand' in recent years. Actually toying with the possibility it's simply not in me anymore. How about that for a potential epiphany ?

Actually I don't have a problem with that. We all have aspects of our personality that we cannot and/or will not control. Perhaps it is a hard limit or even a range of hard limits.

Sometimes we do not realize there are things we just cannot do until we try to do them.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

A hard limit would also be over decisions about my son. I may ask for an opinion or advice but I remain the decision maker. That said, there are very little decisions to make as my son is older now. But I have asked for help, advice etc and his words have helped.
Even in vanilla relationships that I know of very few women give up control over their children to a man, even if he is the children's father.

I think even the potential reality is more a stretch than the actual concept I originally postulated on this one . I am really only versed to comment on previous experience and project best case scenario into the future. I concur with all you have said Miss Shy.

I love this line "de essence de 'Rebecca' ", and I agree you can't know someone through general correspondence they have written, but you can get an idea of trends of thoughts and whether they have fixed, fluid or ever changing points of view.

When he and I met, he read many posts that I had put on Lit prior to knowing him. It gave him an overall view of who I was and what sides of me I was happy about sharing.
I didn't laugh when you said you were reserved, I grinned and smirked a little; but I did not laugh (honest ). It is good to hold some things back, to be shared with only a few. I am very open about many things, but very private about other things in my life. Hence, in some ways I am 'shy' (no giggling, laughing or smirking allowed!).

Understood , reading is a fair indication . Particularly so over a more expansive time frame. I have well defined perceptions of people who a regulars on this board based on little else. As to the accuracy all we really have is direct feedback if there is engagement . That still leaves a reasonable margin for error . We do agree however there is a fringe and beyond which may not be as overtly attainable 'here'.

I don't see emails as essentially private, just personal at times.

I did a little experiment yesterday . I decided to be 'mindful' about private correspondence . I wrote things and then reread them as if they were up for scrutiny. I found myself editing out "de essence de 'Rebecca ". Interesting to me that I felt I projected more of myself in expressing less of myself . Still with me ? Perhaps it hinges on the notion of compliance and that when it comes down to bare bones in this thing called D/s it's not about the lower cased part of the human equation. I don't remember doing that before with exception of complying with some very strict rules in regards to my dominants privacy. The 'legacy'. Outside of that I was never allowed to edit or constrict my thoughts or emotions to him. That rule was as hard and fast as the ones he set about his privacy. Ohh I think this post just helped me to understand something. Yay I think .......lol

My thoughts are private and like you, I share them with only a chosen few.
So many times I find it easier to talk to people about sex than I do about ordinary day-to-day life stuff.

Ohh interesting Miss Shy , your comment bears further thought on my part. I'll defer for now.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Actually I don't have a problem with that. We all have aspects of our personality that we cannot and/or will not control. Perhaps it is a hard limit or even a range of hard limits.

Sometimes we do not realize there are things we just cannot do until we try to do them.

Thank you Eb Ma'am

 

[Ebonyfire]

Thank you Eb Ma'am

You are welcome. I was just thinking that many times we do not know how we will react or if a particular activity will become a roadblock until we come to it.