Not sure where to put this...

[LaidBackNJ]

....and this is my first post. Hey all, long time lurker. Anyway, to the point! I've got 2 things I'd like to discuss. If this is the wrong place, let me know where to post!

I'm 20 years old, healthy, go to the gym almost everyday and have a the best diet you can have in a college cafeteria. Anyway, recently it seems like when I reach orgasm, there is less cum than there usually is, around half. I know it seems kind of weird, and I didn't know where to turn to really, so I came here. Could it be something in my diet? Possible dehydration? I drink water regularly (usually 2 to 3 bottles a day, not including meals).

Second (and I understand you get these VERY frequently) I'm still a virgin (and not so experienced either). I am currently seeing someone who is also a virgin. Problem is she goes to school out of state in the South and I am here (as you can see from my username) in New Jersey. Now we started talking before winter break and when she came home and we hung out, we really hit it off. Apparently the physical attraction is there because we have made out quite a few times for extended periods, but nothing more than groping really.

Call me old fashioned, nervous (God knows I am lol), call it what you will, basically during spring break I am going to her school to spend like 5 days. I want to make some sort of move. Got any tips guys and gals? I really like this girl and don't want to come off as some guy only in it for sex. (There were times where she made advances, so I have a feeling she is ready to move to the next step, though I haven't really talked to her about it.

Sorry for the wall of text...I tend to ramble

 

[Mr.G]

Talk to her

Come across as a mature caring potential lover. Just talking can be erotic enough but find out if she's on birth control. If you're both virgins and nobody has been having oral sex with the Defensive Line of the local football team the chances of having a serious STD appears minimal.

If you act mature and show that you are concerned that if you do have sex everything will be OK with her then it'll remove a lot of the worries she has that you're just after sex. If you were, you likely wouldn't care to even ask the question. Find out if she wants to go to "neutral" territory if you do decide to have sex - a motel so she doesn't have you wandering the halls looking for the can in the AM with a pair of her panties sperm-glued to the back of your head and everybody knowing "she's done IT"

Sex can be incredibly exciting at your age. I think I remember. My biggest mistakes waay back then was just acting like any other horny geek. Not until you realize how much of a turn on it is to get HER off (over and over again if yuou can) that you realize your pleasure comes secondary and then you have a chance of becoming a competent lover. Believe me. She'll appreciate the effort.

Good luck. Tell her Mr. G sez HI.

*edit* If you've never gone down on a chick before bring a jar of chocolate syrup - the stuff you add to milk for a milkshake - and apply it in all the most interesting spots. Pretty soon you won't need or want it (still fun tho sometimes) but it'll get you enjoying it a LOT the first time not to mention she will too. Experiment. Use your imagination.

 

[LaidBackNJ]

haha, yea, I definately AM just another horny geek (arent we all at heart?), but don't really want to come off as that. As for making sure she enjoys it, thats my biggest concern. Like I said, not much experience so I think it is more of a nervousness or something of taking the next step.

Also, being the geek that I am, I also did some reading, on this site and others, just to prepare myself. Thanks Mr. G, you said pretty much what I was thinking, but I just wanted to hear it come from someone other than myself. Much appreciated man.

 

[SweetErika]

The decreased ejaculate could be due to a zinc or other nutritional deficiency. You might try adding a safe amount of zinc in the form of zinc-rich foods and/or a supplement and seeing if that puts you back near/to your normal amount of ejaculate.

Of course if you're masturbating more, you'll have less each time, too.

Be yourself, go with the flow and don't worry about making moves. Overthinking it will screw it up.

And FFS, do NOT add chocolate syrup or ANY kind of sugar (including milk products, like whipped cream) to your lady's pussy! Yeast and other infections are NOT fun or sexy!

 

[Sweet_Lily]

Discuss birth control and STDs! If you cannot talk about sex and the repercussions, you should not be having sex at all.

We can only presume that you know some of what she likes (because you've got to the heavy petting stage). Continue doing those things but slowly advancing. Watch her, and yourself for hesitations. If you change your minds, that is ok - there is always another time.

Tell her what you like, what feels good and hopefully she will do the same. I am sure she is as nervous and scared about this as you are. No negative comments! 'Oh my god your lips are huge!!' could scar her for life. Concentrate on how good she looks, feels, smells, tastes and you will put a lot of her worries to rest.

First time intercourse can be disappointing, so beware of that. It may not be all that you've imagined (it certainly won't be what you've seen in porn movies!) In the excitement you may lose it within a very short time. That's ok, don't be embarrassed.

Good luck. Be honest with her and yourself about everything and you will be fine.

 

[night&day]

I Would Suggest ...

that once you are involved in your heavy petting, you just tell her what you want, and ask if she want it too.

As you should not be having unprotected sex the amount that you cum will not ne that much of a factor. If she wanted you to remove the condom and discharge on her, or so she could see it (as many women like to do) suck as jacking you off the amount that you squirt may be more of an issue. As it was noted, masturbating before and/or frequently will casue a decrease. Suggest that you cut back some on masturbating. If you are afraid you might be too quick on the trigger so to speak, you might consider masturbating a few hours before seeing her, but don't masturbate daily for the week before.

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

a motel so she doesn't have you wandering the halls looking for the can in the AM with a pair of her panties sperm-glued to the back of your head and everybody knowing "she's done IT"
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lmfao!!!!!!!!

i dont know how to help you dude, i just thought this was very very amusing.

 

[subwannabe]

I really didn't understand your first question regarding ejaculate amount and diet. The wording suggests that your diet hasn't actually changed. If you were filling yourself with Big Macs, fries, and doritos before and changed your diet then it is possible changes in your body could take place. If you have always been a fairly healthy eater then I don't see how it could change ejaculate amount. I tend to think Erika is on the right track by suggesting you are probably masturbating more than you used to and this has caused the difference, not diet.

As far as your other problem goes I would just suggest to be yourself and let things naturally develop. I don't think there are many people anywhere who were experts when the lost their virginity. Good luck.

 

[LaidBackNJ]

Thanks for the words everyone.

I'll look into the zinc-rich foods and stay away from putting chocolate syrup on the lady parts. Odd thing is, I have been masturbating less...

Anyway, like I said, I think this was more of a me needing to hear what I was already thinking. Thanks all.