MorgaineLaFay
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Ice Cold said:
Pretty Intense...not knowing the groove...
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You mean it isn't just me?!?!
I know exactly how you feel Morgaine & Wiggles!! My situation was a bit different in that we were best of friends (or at least that's what we said-unsure of making that "title" jump), but even now two years later all I have to do is hear a song, a certain scent in the air, or even look into my photo albums and it takes me back. I've tried everything I can think of to make it stop and move on with my life- I've even moved 400 miles away! But as soon as I cross the county line my heart races and my mind fills with questions and worry/anticipation for it seems even though we haven't spoken in two years every time I visit I run into him-either the freeway, or clubs that I've never been to, or even the grocery store at 3:30AM looking oh so attractive as one does when the midnight munchies kick in after a night on the town! I have always run away from these situations, hopefully without him noticing me!
His mother recently contacted me and filled me in on what is going on in his life (he's engaged, but no date set) and it devestated me. But I have to say that while we did have the best of times together they are part of my memories now and you can't live in the past. It also helps that when I get into one of "those" moods that I think of what went wrong, what were the final blows and I ask myself are they things that I would relent if done again? Every time I've come up with the same answer-No, it isn't worth it to change myself to fit someone else, nor would it be fair to expect him to do the same.
It definatley depends on why the relationship didn't work out for you. Time does change people, but you can't force the change, they need to make change for themselves. If you are brave enough to even stop and talk to him on the street then you take that next step and try it again but the key is not to make the same mistakes again, otherwise whats the point? Why put yourself through all that again? Live with no regrets!
ok....memory lane is a little painful.....I need an alcoholic beverage now!
I know exactly how you feel Morgaine & Wiggles!! My situation was a bit different in that we were best of friends (or at least that's what we said-unsure of making that "title" jump), but even now two years later all I have to do is hear a song, a certain scent in the air, or even look into my photo albums and it takes me back. I've tried everything I can think of to make it stop and move on with my life- I've even moved 400 miles away! But as soon as I cross the county line my heart races and my mind fills with questions and worry/anticipation for it seems even though we haven't spoken in two years every time I visit I run into him-either the freeway, or clubs that I've never been to, or even the grocery store at 3:30AM looking oh so attractive as one does when the midnight munchies kick in after a night on the town! I have always run away from these situations, hopefully without him noticing me!
His mother recently contacted me and filled me in on what is going on in his life (he's engaged, but no date set) and it devestated me. But I have to say that while we did have the best of times together they are part of my memories now and you can't live in the past. It also helps that when I get into one of "those" moods that I think of what went wrong, what were the final blows and I ask myself are they things that I would relent if done again? Every time I've come up with the same answer-No, it isn't worth it to change myself to fit someone else, nor would it be fair to expect him to do the same.
It definatley depends on why the relationship didn't work out for you. Time does change people, but you can't force the change, they need to make change for themselves. If you are brave enough to even stop and talk to him on the street then you take that next step and try it again but the key is not to make the same mistakes again, otherwise whats the point? Why put yourself through all that again? Live with no regrets!
ok....memory lane is a little painful.....I need an alcoholic beverage now!
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I heard from someone from my past a few weeks ago and it really threw me for a loop. I had tucked my feelings away and cut her out of my life about five years ago. It was great to talk to her but it hurt at the same time.
We don't live too far away from each other and we talked about getting together so we could meet each other's spouses and rekindle our friendship. As much as I'm looking forward to that, I'm scared of how I'll handle seeing her again. Especially with my wife and her husband present.
This woman got to me like nobody before or since. Just hearing her voice was enough to release a flood of memories.
Whoever made the comment about songs or scents, etc. reminding you of someone, I know exactly what you're talking about and I agree 100 percent.
We don't live too far away from each other and we talked about getting together so we could meet each other's spouses and rekindle our friendship. As much as I'm looking forward to that, I'm scared of how I'll handle seeing her again. Especially with my wife and her husband present.
This woman got to me like nobody before or since. Just hearing her voice was enough to release a flood of memories.
Whoever made the comment about songs or scents, etc. reminding you of someone, I know exactly what you're talking about and I agree 100 percent.
