Omg Stupid Dumbass Utis!!!

[ghostgurrl13]

I have to rant about this somewhere...here is best because my sexual activity is a secret from most of my fb friends lol and this frequent occurrence of UTI could only be related to that!

AUGH! I have been having UTIs ever since I became sexually active roughly 10 months ago. I go to the doctor, get an antibiotic, and it goes away. The next time I have sex, it comes back. This time I actually started voiding immediately after intercourse, and it worked a couple times, but a few days ago I had intercourse and I still contracted a UTI the next day...I also am not sure what to do, because I was on my period at the time I felt the first symptoms, so they can't really do a urine culture. But it is getting really painful...And I am so SICK of getting them! I don't know how to prevent them. Maybe they could prescribe me an anti-biotic just for everyday that would help...This has really put a damper on my sex life. I even had a thought that I should just have sex with girls because clearly I can't have sex with boys without getting a fucking uti...

I got cranberry capsules to take since I contracted this infection, but I don't think that they are fixing it...they may just help to prevent for me. I am immuno-supressed as well so I am probably more susceptible to them...

 

[simplegirl]

I feel for you, that totally sucks. Talk to your doctor and tell him you get UTI's with sex. I do believe that they can prescribe an anti-biotic that you can take when you have sex, but my memory is a bit fuzzy on that. At the very least, you could see a gynecologist or urologist.

Peeing immediately after sex does help. So does wiping front to back and not vice-versa (I know, but it must be mentioned). Does your partner tend to rub your urethral entrance (pee hole)? Some guys do, thinking it's the clitoris. So maybe point him in the right direction and make sure he has clean hands. Plus avoid anything perfumed down there.

You could also try positions where he wouldn't be rubbing up against your urethra, such as reverse cowgirl, or on your belly with your legs closed.

Best of luck and hopefully you get can helpful advice on here.

 

[ghostgurrl13]

Wow thanks Simplegirl! I knew some of that stuff (peeing after intercourse, wiping etc.) but I didn't think about changing up sexual positions. Usually we stick with positions where we are facing each other.

I did tell my Dr. that I got them with sex, and she just told me the typical list of things to do to prevent, and she gave me an antibiotic as well that got rid of it at the time. I think she wanted to check if I have some bladder disorder as well because she wanted to get a lab done after I was done with the prescription to see if I still had the signs of infection without the symptoms. Unfortunately I put that off too long and now I have another one!!

 

[satindesire]

Wow thanks Simplegirl! I knew some of that stuff (peeing after intercourse, wiping etc.) but I didn't think about changing up sexual positions. Usually we stick with positions where we are facing each other.

I did tell my Dr. that I got them with sex, and she just told me the typical list of things to do to prevent, and she gave me an antibiotic as well that got rid of it at the time. I think she wanted to check if I have some bladder disorder as well because she wanted to get a lab done after I was done with the prescription to see if I still had the signs of infection without the symptoms. Unfortunately I put that off too long and now I have another one!!

Is your partner wearing a condom? Usually that helps a LOT.

 

[evanslily]

I feel for you. A close friend of mine used to get UTIs every single darned time she had sex - kind of put her right off doing it. Not good.

Have you looked into taking D-mannose? Some people get good results from taking the stuff (another of those well-kept secrets, I guess - like taking L-Lysine to prevent cold-sores . This is a link to a UK site that sells it (there's more info here too) - I'd have thought you could get it in the States too: http://www.usingdmannose.co.uk/HealthArticles/index.htm

 

[ghostgurrl13]

Satin --
We do use latex-free condoms (I'm allergic to latex) but only when we are ready to finish. We have talked about making the switch to having them on full time, and maybe its time we did that. Its sad because there is not as much development into latex-free condoms as the latex ones.

evanslily --
I would be fine with taking another medication so long as it doesn't interfere with my current meds, obviously. It would have to be approved by my doctors or a pharmacist. They have told me to avoid most "natural" medicines because they can effect my body's absorption of my have-to-take-them-to-stay-alive meds. But thanks for the name, I've never even heard of D-Mannose!

 

[dollface007]

Satin --
We do use latex-free condoms (I'm allergic to latex) but only when we are ready to finish. We have talked about making the switch to having them on full time, and maybe its time we did that. Its sad because there is not as much development into latex-free condoms as the latex ones.

Yikes. Do I really have to tell you what a bad idea this is??? You're basically doing the same thing as having sex with no condom and then pulling out! I hope you have both been tested for STDs and are using a backup method of birth control (like the pill).

 

[tumbledown]

I had a phase where I got them all the time, two went on to become kidney infections. Doc eventually put me on an antibiotic that he wanted me to take regularly, ok well I don't intend to ever stop having sex so being on an antibiotic the rest of my life??? Just taking it a few months screwed up my gut microflora I am still dealing with it years later.

I stopped them with a simple acidification method - that's what the cranberry is supposed to do but guess it's not powerful enough for some of us. So I started swigging an ounce of lemon juice whenever I even thought I might be feeling like a uti was in the works. Repeat every two hours til you feel confident no uti is coming on.

Also try to always 'use the bidet' rather soon after sex - obviously most places don't have a bidet (bummer) but even simply rinsing with a nice big cup of warm water does wonders. Both these techniques together and I haven't had a uti in... hmm, it's been over ten years.

 

[infinity706]

So does wiping front to back and not vice-versa (I know, but it must be mentioned).

Well, you could also just spread your pussy lips open with your fingers and expose your pee hole, so you don't piss on yourself in the first place. It's not like there's probably a woman here that doesn't play with herself, anyway. Of course, if more women did that, the women's room could have urinals and they could write their names in the snow, just like the guys. Yeah, off topic, but it's worth mentioning.

Satin --
We do use latex-free condoms (I'm allergic to latex) but only when we are ready to finish. We have talked about making the switch to having them on full time, and maybe its time we did that. Its sad because there is not as much development into latex-free condoms as the latex ones.

evanslily --
I would be fine with taking another medication so long as it doesn't interfere with my current meds, obviously. It would have to be approved by my doctors or a pharmacist. They have told me to avoid most "natural" medicines because they can effect my body's absorption of my have-to-take-them-to-stay-alive meds. But thanks for the name, I've never even heard of D-Mannose!

I wouldn't expect non latex condom development in the near future, either, considering the only non latex, rubber sex toys I've ever seen are 100% silicone (expensive as hell) or polyurethane (tastes like shit).

 

[meathead96]

I have to rant about this somewhere...here is best because my sexual activity is a secret from most of my fb friends lol and this frequent occurrence of UTI could only be related to that!

AUGH! I have been having UTIs ever since I became sexually active roughly 10 months ago. I go to the doctor, get an antibiotic, and it goes away. The next time I have sex, it comes back. This time I actually started voiding immediately after intercourse, and it worked a couple times, but a few days ago I had intercourse and I still contracted a UTI the next day...I also am not sure what to do, because I was on my period at the time I felt the first symptoms, so they can't really do a urine culture. But it is getting really painful...And I am so SICK of getting them! I don't know how to prevent them. Maybe they could prescribe me an anti-biotic just for everyday that would help...This has really put a damper on my sex life. I even had a thought that I should just have sex with girls because clearly I can't have sex with boys without getting a fucking uti...

I got cranberry capsules to take since I contracted this infection, but I don't think that they are fixing it...they may just help to prevent for me. I am immuno-supressed as well so I am probably more susceptible to them...

Hey Ghost,
We had the same problem. Wife kept getting them, with no explanation as to why they happened, when previous marriage had no problem. Then we found out that my blood sugar was messed up, and her prev hubby had no blood sugar problems. Started using a condom for ALL of intercourse, not just the finish, and it cleared up. Not as much fun for me (losing sensation), but a lot more comfortable for her afterwards. (have your partner checked for sugar problems too, if you haven't already).
Not a doc, just letting you know our experience.

 

[amissmosely]

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[fuckmeat]

First off, if you're prone to UTIs you should drink plenty of water. Not coffee, soda, juice or anything else; at least 50% of your fluid intake should be pure water. You should drink at least 2 litres of fluid a day. Caffeine is a diuretic and you should avoid it altogether so switch to decaf tea/coffee/soda.

Diuretic: Any substance that tends to increase the flow of urine, which causes the body to get rid of excess water.

Your GP should have done some routine blood tests to rule out problems with your kidneys or blood sugars. If not, ask for those tests. Also, your boyfriend my be harbouring the bacteria without suffering (because he's not immunosuppressed) and then re-infecting you. Go to an Family Planning/STD clinic together and get a course of antibiotics to take simultaneously. DON'T have any intimate contact for a couple of weeks and that may be an end to your problem. You should also get both of you checked for STDs as chlamydia can manifest with similar symptoms and if he has it, he'll just keep re-infecting you. Chlamydia can also be passed through oral sex so condoms won't keep it contained unless you use them for oral too.

Cleanliness is a good idea. Get some unfragranced wipes suitable for intimate use and use them on yourself and your partner before sex; mouths, hands, genitals. Make him clean his teeth or at the very least, use mouthwash. It might kill the spontaneity slightly but it's better than another UTI, right? Don't use wipes on your pussy after though, as you can push germs up the urethra that way. Instead, pee and then shower. Make sure any toys you have are thoroughly cleansed with disinfectant wipes before and after each use. If you use lubricant, use one that comes in a tube or a bottle with a pump. Pots of lubricant (i.e. anything you scoop fingers into) can harbour bacteria. Make sure you cleanse yourself thoroughly using a frangrance free product designed for intimate use when you shower. Avoid soaking in the bathtub because you can also pick up germs there, especially if it isn't always washed out thoroughly between uses.

Wear cotton underwear rather than synthetic fabric and briefs rather than thongs. You can save your slutty undies for when you're planning a date night but for day to day wear, you want a breathable cotton gusset that isn't giving you a permanent wedgie. If you often wear tight clothes, you may want to rethink that. Skinny/hipster jeans, panty hose or anything that's tight around the crotch will cause abrasion during the day, making you more susceptible to infection. By all means wear tight clothes for a night out or whatever, just not as standard. Also, wash your underwear, pyjamas and panty hose at 60C and use a biological detergent rather than non-bio. That should keep any nasty little germs from clinging to life in your knickers. Delicate little thongs etc can be handwashed, just throw some regular disinfectant into the bowl (nothing with bleach!) and then make sure you rinse them thoroughly.

It might sound like a lot of hassle but most of this stuff can quickly become routine with time. I hope you manage to resolve the problem.

 

[irishwoody]

In my experience what helped - have not this problem in several years now... while it used to be every time.
1. Changing positions a little - just preventing vigorous rubbing a certain way, not changing our choice of positions. We still do all our old positions (and more) but not quiet as vigorously.
2. Peeing directly after sex - now a matter of routine, small wipe up too..
3. Plenty of lubrication where it matters - this helps things slip and slide and helps preventing to pump/push natural bacteria where it shouldnt be.


Woody

 

[ghostgurrl13]

Thanks guys!
I don't think either of us could have any STDs since we are each other's first and only sexual partner. That's not typically feasible.

I am on an antibiotic now (yay!) and am getting a test later this week to ensure my bladder is emptying completely. Additionally I am going to see urology. The cranberry has helped to ease the symptoms a lot.

Hopefully we can understand what is causing my particular problem soon. Obviously everyone's body and infections are different, so what works for most may not work for everyone or every type of infection. But I'll know more by the end of the week.

 

[MissNastyKitty2]

Ok. I get a lot of UTI's but only when I have anal to vag sex (took awhile to figure that one out). I used to do it ALL the time with no issues. I'm talking like 10+ yrs...and within the last two yrs all of the sudden EVERY time I have anal I get a UTI. So, sadly we quit that, because putting a condom on, and taking it off and on over and over is just a mood killer.

Frequent UTIs have totally fucked up my bladder, so please please be careful with this. I mean, I could pee every 20 minutes.

But I've heard that it is VERY common for some girls just to get them every time they have sex, and they can put you on a low dosage of antibiotics for sex. I know a couple people who have had that. You only take them after having sex.

Cranberry pills and juice, in my experience don't really help after the fact. You have to take them all the time to prevent. And even then it doesn't really work I don't think.

I've heard that its all in the position you do it too, you could be rubbing against the pee hole more lol. and as others said pee after sex, shower if you can.

Also, how long is it between each infection? Its possible they haven't sent it out for a culture and seen what its susceptible to, and the are giving you meds that aren't fighting it 100% so it just keeps coming back. I know that was my problem in the beginning. They can see what kind of bacteria it is, if its from...excuse me here...your ass haha, or from something else. They put that bacteria in a dish and see what kills it, thus giving you the right meds.

The first time I ever had a UTI I had it for like 2-3 months cause they didn't culture it to find out what would kill it. They came to discover that anything with sulfate (I think it was) doesn't work for me.

Another big thing, if they give you 3 day meds, maybe ask for the 7day meds. 3 days NEVER works for me, but 3 days do.

Also, check with your doctor and see if you can establish just calling for meds. I couldn't keep affording to go in and be tested, and get the meds. Eventually I could just call and tell them I had a UTI and get the meds. Also AZO brand now has "pain" pills for it, only the max strength ones work and you have to take them like clockwork. it doesn't cure it, but kills the pain after awhile. They also have Pee tests for at home, so you could call your doctor and say you got a positive on it and want the meds.

 

[mattguize]

Just a quick note:

My SO has a history of kidney problems (hereditory, or however you spell it) but its something we've always managed. However, at the beginning of the year we ended up having the fun experiance of rushing into hospital because she was in intense pain, burning up and vomiting (not pleasent.) Turned out what caused it was a mixture of Kidney problems, fever and - yep, you guessed it - a UTI.

So since then we've done everything to make sure we dont end up with a repeat experiance - cranberry juice, cleanliness, comdoms...you name it, we've done it. And it was going well, until the other week when she got another UTI (we'd had a heavy week of sexual activity to account for it!) so we went to the doc's and the doctor suggested she drink a glass of water with half a teaspoon of bicarbonate soda mixed in. apparently, this reduces the acidity of the urine, which allows the body to fight by itself. So we tried it...and guess what? it cleared right up after a day or so.

I'm not saying this will work for everyone, and a medical professional is always the first and best point of contact. but it worked for us. bicarbonate soda. weird, hey?

 

[ghostgurrl13]

Yeah I saw urology today. They had done a couple tests and an xray and said the my right kidney was a little bit swollen, so we're gonna get a test done specficially to see if I have any kidney stones. But we pretty much decided it was being caused by intercourse so they are giving me a post-coital anti-biotic.

 

[MissNastyKitty2]

Don't ever treat on your own. I know people who have died from UTI's because they went untreated.

 

[thatgirl2136]

I was having this similar problem for about two months and I had to start looking at the big picture of what I was all doing.
I would go into your doctor and have them scan for yeast. That was the main factor to mine even though I didn't have a full blown yeast infection. My birth control that I had just started sometimes has the side effect and that was what was causing my agony even though my doc said it was the smallest amount, it was being irritated when I had sex.
Also, have you started any new drinks or foods? I also found that my favorite v8 drink would start one within an hour of drinking it.