on cheating and kinks

[SoftCaresser]

I don't want to bug you people in details, so I'll just give you tldr and if you have any questions ask me here on over DMs. Not doing this as I think like I'm doing something wrong, sexual morals are low with me... nor I ask for your approval. Maybe advice, guidance or just talk of some kind.

So, tldr: I'm almost 50 now, fit as fuck, horny as fuck. Married with a couple of kids. She's vanilla, has a let's say normal sex drive and is not into kinky stuff. Kinda we have sex few times per week, or we make out with bj/hj. But, I'm a perverted horny fuck. Over the years I've cheated her a number of times, had some ONSs, and a few long term lovers. All those affairs were completely sexual, those girls were nymphomaniacs of the best kind, as it was something I needed and was looking for. Free use sluts, in the most beautiful meaning of the word. I'm not at all in BDSM, but some of them loved being dominated, slapped, choked, stuff like that. Made em cum easier. Plus piss, squirt and stuff like that...

Wife suspects nothing as our life/work was always good enough for me to cheat with no issues. I work as an engineer and have traveled around the world for project needs. Some lasted from few months to even half a year, so imagine what kind of relationships you can build with girls/women with that kind of freedom.

Besides being a pervert in real life fucking, I've joined this site as I love incest. Have to say never done anything in real life and am against underage and molesting stuff, but am approving con incest between adults. And incest stories I read here which are fabulous. Real life - I've met only a few girls with whoom I could talk about it, as they're either open or had some experiences. Did a hell lot of real life roleplay, some even before I knew those existed (when I was a teen I fucked a milf who wanted to call her mommy, and I was there for the pussy).

If there are perverts here, do you approve or judge me? Are there morally straight people here who think I'm an asshole? I don't need to hear "think about her" stuff, I did, of course I did. Sha has a happy life. Has her hobbies and gets from me all the love and care she needs. It's my needs that were always the issue. If you want to know more, ask...

No judgement here. Just understanding.

 

[RustyRedheadSpitfire]

I don't want to bug you people in details, so I'll just give you tldr and if you have any questions ask me here on over DMs. Not doing this as I think like I'm doing something wrong, sexual morals are low with me... nor I ask for your approval. Maybe advice, guidance or just talk of some kind.

So, tldr: I'm almost 50 now, fit as fuck, horny as fuck. Married with a couple of kids. She's vanilla, has a let's say normal sex drive and is not into kinky stuff. Kinda we have sex few times per week, or we make out with bj/hj. But, I'm a perverted horny fuck. Over the years I've cheated her a number of times, had some ONSs, and a few long term lovers. All those affairs were completely sexual, those girls were nymphomaniacs of the best kind, as it was something I needed and was looking for. Free use sluts, in the most beautiful meaning of the word. I'm not at all in BDSM, but some of them loved being dominated, slapped, choked, stuff like that. Made em cum easier. Plus piss, squirt and stuff like that...

Wife suspects nothing as our life/work was always good enough for me to cheat with no issues. I work as an engineer and have traveled around the world for project needs. Some lasted from few months to even half a year, so imagine what kind of relationships you can build with girls/women with that kind of freedom.

Besides being a pervert in real life fucking, I've joined this site as I love incest. Have to say never done anything in real life and am against underage and molesting stuff, but am approving con incest between adults. And incest stories I read here which are fabulous. Real life - I've met only a few girls with whoom I could talk about it, as they're either open or had some experiences. Did a hell lot of real life roleplay, some even before I knew those existed (when I was a teen I fucked a milf who wanted to call her mommy, and I was there for the pussy).

If there are perverts here, do you approve or judge me? Are there morally straight people here who think I'm an asshole? I don't need to hear "think about her" stuff, I did, of course I did. Sha has a happy life. Has her hobbies and gets from me all the love and care she needs. It's my needs that were always the issue. If you want to know more, ask...

I don’t think you’re going to shock many people here.


The incest fantasy aspect is probably the least surprising thing in your post. Most adults who’ve spent any time around erotica know there’s a significant difference between fantasy, roleplay, fiction, and what someone actually wants in real life. The fact that you enjoy a fantasy doesn’t tell me much about your character by itself.


As for the rest, I think you’re asking two different questions.


The first is whether I judge you for being highly sexual, kinky, adventurous, or for wanting things your wife doesn’t want. No, not really. Human beings vary enormously in libido, interests, and appetites. Some people are perfectly content with a few intimate encounters a month. Others seem to have an engine under the hood that never stops running. That’s just reality.


The second question is whether I judge the deception.


That’s harder.


What struck me reading your post is that you’re unusually honest about your motivations. You’re not describing a loveless marriage. You’re not claiming neglect. You’re not portraying yourself as a victim. You’re essentially saying, “My wife is a good partner. I love her. I also want things outside the marriage and I’ve chosen to pursue them.”


I think many people will respect the honesty while still disagreeing with the choice.


The part I’m always curious about in situations like this isn’t the sex. It’s the assumption that a long-term partner has no idea. Maybe she doesn’t. Maybe you’re genuinely that careful in your deceipt. But after decades together, people often know more than they’re given credit for. Not necessarily details. Sometimes just a feeling that there’s a room in the house they’ve never been invited into.


You say she has a happy life. I have no reason to argue with that. The question I’d ask is whether she would describe her life the same way if she possessed all the information you do. That’s not a question for me to answer. It’s probably not even a question you want answered.


For what it’s worth, I don’t see a monster in your post. I see a man who has spent a lifetime managing a mismatch between who he is sexually and what his marriage provides. Whether people approve of how you’ve managed it is another matter entirely.


And yes, before anyone asks, those are two different conversations.