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Once every two weeks is fine for her.
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My honey and I are like that.. though it was more pronounced when we first started dating. I was a sex fiend when we first met, wanting it all the time, every day, if I could have it. He was fine with once or twice a month. We've since synced our libidos, somewhat, though I still want it more than he does, but y'know, we compromised.
I dealt with it by playing online, and at first, didn't tell him about it. Don't take that route. It causes pain. It causes heartache. And it feels like cheating.
He and I sat down and had a very serious talk about what we both wanted sexually, as every other part of our relationship was just wonderful, and we decided that, my needs weren't being met, and I should have some outlet for that. We've since decided that I can play online and on the phone, as long as it's when he's not home. When he is here, he deserves my attention. Fair enough, I think, and I don't use the extra priveliges often at all, anymore. I've settled down rather a lot, and am quite happy to just masturbate (I have an active imagination), and to make love with him.
As for your wife's orgasms.. the first woman I was with had orgasms like that.. she'd have one, and be finished. You couldn't touch her after that, because she got so sensitive it hurt her. She'd just shut down sexually for a few days, and then be her good old horny self after that.
I know it hurts to talk to your wife, but there are different tactics one can take.. instead of ALLOWING it to become hurtful (because, let's face it, we allow ourselves to be hurt as a defence mechanism to criticism), just say that you love her, and that you would like to have a sexual release more often than you are getting one. This might mean that you have sex more often, or that she consent to you owning pornography, or to you playing online, or whatnot. As far as her only enjoying one position, I can relate. I enjoy rather a few BUT, I am very partial to missionary. It just feels the best and is most intimate, to me. Sometimes being so hardlined one way might be because she's afraid to not be good in other positions. Maybe she thinks that certain positions make her look unattractive? Maybe she feels that some positions are dirty? Maybe she's suffered abuse in the past, and is wary of things that might get out of hand?
I don't know your wife, but those are possibilities.
Just have a talk. Don't ALLOW it to get hurtful, just hold her hand and reassure her that you love her, and that you are dedicated to her, but that you have certain needs that she might or might not fill... and you want her support in fulfilling those needs.
I dealt with it by playing online, and at first, didn't tell him about it. Don't take that route. It causes pain. It causes heartache. And it feels like cheating.
He and I sat down and had a very serious talk about what we both wanted sexually, as every other part of our relationship was just wonderful, and we decided that, my needs weren't being met, and I should have some outlet for that. We've since decided that I can play online and on the phone, as long as it's when he's not home. When he is here, he deserves my attention. Fair enough, I think, and I don't use the extra priveliges often at all, anymore. I've settled down rather a lot, and am quite happy to just masturbate (I have an active imagination), and to make love with him.
As for your wife's orgasms.. the first woman I was with had orgasms like that.. she'd have one, and be finished. You couldn't touch her after that, because she got so sensitive it hurt her. She'd just shut down sexually for a few days, and then be her good old horny self after that.
I know it hurts to talk to your wife, but there are different tactics one can take.. instead of ALLOWING it to become hurtful (because, let's face it, we allow ourselves to be hurt as a defence mechanism to criticism), just say that you love her, and that you would like to have a sexual release more often than you are getting one. This might mean that you have sex more often, or that she consent to you owning pornography, or to you playing online, or whatnot. As far as her only enjoying one position, I can relate. I enjoy rather a few BUT, I am very partial to missionary. It just feels the best and is most intimate, to me. Sometimes being so hardlined one way might be because she's afraid to not be good in other positions. Maybe she thinks that certain positions make her look unattractive? Maybe she feels that some positions are dirty? Maybe she's suffered abuse in the past, and is wary of things that might get out of hand?
I don't know your wife, but those are possibilities.
Just have a talk. Don't ALLOW it to get hurtful, just hold her hand and reassure her that you love her, and that you are dedicated to her, but that you have certain needs that she might or might not fill... and you want her support in fulfilling those needs.
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*smile* I'm a receptionist. My office work requires me to type at least 70 words per minute (as we write while people talk), but my office last clocked me (on a training program) at 98 words per minute, with no mistakes.
*smile*
And a lot of people are averse to having their partner play online... while I understand that aversion, I also understand that it is just play.. and my partner understands that as well. I love HIM, and HIM ONLY (though I'm polyamorous, he alone as my heart right now), and am faithful to him, because he wishes it so. Play online is merely for release, for fun, to scratch the itch, as it were.
Good luck!
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And a lot of people are averse to having their partner play online... while I understand that aversion, I also understand that it is just play.. and my partner understands that as well. I love HIM, and HIM ONLY (though I'm polyamorous, he alone as my heart right now), and am faithful to him, because he wishes it so. Play online is merely for release, for fun, to scratch the itch, as it were.
Good luck!
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*smile* Well thank you. Like I said, I haven't used my privelige in cyber for a LONG time, but when I do, yes, I'm quick. *smile*
And thank you for the compliments.. the glasses are new, and I was wary about them.. my last pair did nothing for my face, and I've gone so long ignoring my bad vision.. I finally HAD to get new ones.
My man likes my glasses, as well. *grin*
And thank you for the compliments.. the glasses are new, and I was wary about them.. my last pair did nothing for my face, and I've gone so long ignoring my bad vision.. I finally HAD to get new ones.
My man likes my glasses, as well. *grin*
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*sigh* and then you get situations like mine - where i am a morning person, and he is a night owl.
and god forbid i should actually expect him to perform in the am!
hell, NO!
i just have to sit back and deal with it, fuckyou very much.
and be ready when HE wants it.
(which is probably why, after 11+ years, i am well on the way out of this relationship.)
and god forbid i should actually expect him to perform in the am!
hell, NO!
i just have to sit back and deal with it, fuckyou very much.
and be ready when HE wants it.
(which is probably why, after 11+ years, i am well on the way out of this relationship.)
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*sigh* and then you get situations like mine - where i am a morning person, and he is a night owl.
and god forbid i should actually expect him to perform in the am!
hell, NO!
i just have to sit back and deal with it, fuckyou very much.
and be ready when HE wants it.
(which is probably why, after 11+ years, i am well on the way out of this relationship.)
I'm sorry to hear that your relationship isn't working out for you... I wish you the best.
Oh, and sorry for sounding bitchy in the percing thread.
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it is i who should be apologising to you for that thread.
my biz had just failed (that day, in fact), my partner had just ticked me off, and i was ready to scream at the entire world - and you copped it.
please accept my apology
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Re: Dang should have met you in another life
rofl - you better organise this with your SO first, don'tcha think?
anything and everything, thankyou! i am soooooooo a morning wake-up sex kinda gal!
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rofl - you better organise this with your SO first, don'tcha think?
anything and everything, thankyou! i am soooooooo a morning wake-up sex kinda gal!
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Originally posted by warrior queen
Ms_Lilith
it is i who should be apologising to you for that thread.
my biz had just failed (that day, in fact), my partner had just ticked me off, and i was ready to scream at the entire world - and you copped it.
please accept my apology
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Sorry, Erotic man, I'm gonna hijack a bit more.
I'm so sorry to hear about your business, and your partner, WQ.. that absolutely blows.. but you have always presented yourself as a resourceful woman, and I have no doubt that you will make some rockin' lemonade.
*hugs*
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*smile* Thank you. I like 'em. I tried on about 50 pairs of burgundy-rimmed glasses. These worked the best.
I hope you find some that work for you.
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My glasses look very dorky Lilith. They are way to big. I need to get some new ones. You look very good in yours.
*smile* Thank you. I like 'em. I tried on about 50 pairs of burgundy-rimmed glasses. These worked the best.
I hope you find some that work for you.
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ERMan,
Did you marry my ex-wife?
You have my sympathies, in any case.
Talk with her. Tell her how men and women are different and men need physical sex. And it's her job as your wife to satisfy you, as it is your job to talk with her and listen when she needs you.
It probably won't get any better, but good luck.
Did you marry my ex-wife?
You have my sympathies, in any case.
Talk with her. Tell her how men and women are different and men need physical sex. And it's her job as your wife to satisfy you, as it is your job to talk with her and listen when she needs you.
It probably won't get any better, but good luck.
Re: ERMan,
Oh. My. God.
Approach her with that attitude, ERman, and you're as good as silent-treatmented, and it won't earn you a fuck, in ANY way.
Good god, I can't believe you just said that stuff.
Women need physical sex, too. And it is not HER JOB to pleasure him, nor is it HIS JOB to listen to her. Jesus Christ. Like she doesn't have to listen, and he doesn't have to pleasure? Like they're really JOBS, and not natural parts of a loving relationship?
Good god.
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Did you marry my ex-wife?
You have my sympathies, in any case.
Talk with her. Tell her how men and women are different and men need physical sex. And it's her job as your wife to satisfy you, as it is your job to talk with her and listen when she needs you.
It probably won't get any better, but good luck.
Oh. My. God.
Approach her with that attitude, ERman, and you're as good as silent-treatmented, and it won't earn you a fuck, in ANY way.
Good god, I can't believe you just said that stuff.
Women need physical sex, too. And it is not HER JOB to pleasure him, nor is it HIS JOB to listen to her. Jesus Christ. Like she doesn't have to listen, and he doesn't have to pleasure? Like they're really JOBS, and not natural parts of a loving relationship?
Good god.
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