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RJP might have a point about the Tequila, although in my experience Tequila usually loosens ones inhibitions as to what they will allow to be DONE to them.... still might be worth a shot.
I for one LOVE to perform oral on my wife, which is why I'm good at it. When I go down, I don't have a timetable in mind. Nor do I expect or demand reciprocation.
You may wonder what the result of this approach has been over 13 years.
The answer is that I have given her more oral-orgasms than either of us could count, while I have received fewer blowjobs than I have fingers.
Obligation BJ's are just as bad as obligation sex. I'd rather jerk off than know that she was doing something just for me..... so I go without.
On the rare occasions that she wants to do it.... it's amazing. I just wish she wanted to do it more often.
I also realize that I have fallen prey to that tired stand-up comedian's line about sex before marriage and kids being a "hook".
I was with more than my fair share of women before I got married, and I never met a pussy I didn't like. So don't let him pretend that you are the problem. As long as you shower regularly, and keep yourself clean .... he has no excuse in my book. I don't know if you shave, but the less hair there is, the longer I want to stay.
I also love it when a woman talks me through it. Too many women just lay there and wait for us to figure it out. If you can get him down there, touch yourself. Open yourself up to him. Tell him what you want him to do. Explicitly.
If there is a particular sexual scenario that he enjoys, promise to rock his world on that front if he will rock yours with his mouth and hands. Make it fun. Encourage him every step of the way. If he does something you don't like, immediately point him in a different direction rather than responding negatively.
My guess is that he is either nervous about his proficiency, or has some type of hygeine concern.... most likely the former. We men don't like to feel inadequate. A little encouragement will go a loooong way.
Especially if you are shaved, because his saliva will mix with your juices and make it seem like you are even more wet than you are. That in addition to your actively cheering him on and telling him what you like should result in a mind blowing orgasm for you.
Don't be shy. If you want him to bite your clit.... tell him. If you want him to lick or finger your ass... let him know. Grind yourself -slowly- against his face as he does his business. When he hits just the right spot or rythmn, stop moving and push his face against you. Even if its just for a second... he will register that move as something you like, and he will go back to it when he's unsure of himself.
Any man can learn (or be taught) to eat pussy well. At our basest level, sex is about virility. If we feel, or know that we can please our woman sexually, it is a huge ego-boost.
Stroke his ego a little more, and his cock a little less. You might get exactly what you're after.
In closing, I would just like to point out that most of the married men I've seen posting on here are interested in cock for more than one reason. I think a lot of us are just looking for another guy who's in the same boat as us.
We know that we can give head better than most women, and since we can't get it at home..... we wonder if there's a magic-bullet waiting in cyber space.
"You do me, I do you" kind of like oral mutual-masturbation. After which we return home with a little more pep in our step. That's the fantasy, anyway.
Nothing is ever that simple.
~rant over~
RJP might have a point about the Tequila, although in my experience Tequila usually loosens ones inhibitions as to what they will allow to be DONE to them.... still might be worth a shot.
I for one LOVE to perform oral on my wife, which is why I'm good at it. When I go down, I don't have a timetable in mind. Nor do I expect or demand reciprocation.
You may wonder what the result of this approach has been over 13 years.
The answer is that I have given her more oral-orgasms than either of us could count, while I have received fewer blowjobs than I have fingers.
Obligation BJ's are just as bad as obligation sex. I'd rather jerk off than know that she was doing something just for me..... so I go without.
On the rare occasions that she wants to do it.... it's amazing. I just wish she wanted to do it more often.
I also realize that I have fallen prey to that tired stand-up comedian's line about sex before marriage and kids being a "hook".
I was with more than my fair share of women before I got married, and I never met a pussy I didn't like. So don't let him pretend that you are the problem. As long as you shower regularly, and keep yourself clean .... he has no excuse in my book. I don't know if you shave, but the less hair there is, the longer I want to stay.
I also love it when a woman talks me through it. Too many women just lay there and wait for us to figure it out. If you can get him down there, touch yourself. Open yourself up to him. Tell him what you want him to do. Explicitly.
If there is a particular sexual scenario that he enjoys, promise to rock his world on that front if he will rock yours with his mouth and hands. Make it fun. Encourage him every step of the way. If he does something you don't like, immediately point him in a different direction rather than responding negatively.
My guess is that he is either nervous about his proficiency, or has some type of hygeine concern.... most likely the former. We men don't like to feel inadequate. A little encouragement will go a loooong way.
Especially if you are shaved, because his saliva will mix with your juices and make it seem like you are even more wet than you are. That in addition to your actively cheering him on and telling him what you like should result in a mind blowing orgasm for you.
Don't be shy. If you want him to bite your clit.... tell him. If you want him to lick or finger your ass... let him know. Grind yourself -slowly- against his face as he does his business. When he hits just the right spot or rythmn, stop moving and push his face against you. Even if its just for a second... he will register that move as something you like, and he will go back to it when he's unsure of himself.
Any man can learn (or be taught) to eat pussy well. At our basest level, sex is about virility. If we feel, or know that we can please our woman sexually, it is a huge ego-boost.
Stroke his ego a little more, and his cock a little less. You might get exactly what you're after.
In closing, I would just like to point out that most of the married men I've seen posting on here are interested in cock for more than one reason. I think a lot of us are just looking for another guy who's in the same boat as us.
We know that we can give head better than most women, and since we can't get it at home..... we wonder if there's a magic-bullet waiting in cyber space.
"You do me, I do you" kind of like oral mutual-masturbation. After which we return home with a little more pep in our step. That's the fantasy, anyway.
Nothing is ever that simple.
~rant over~
