Orgasms not like they used to be

[temp256]

The past week or so, my orgasms have been...dull. Even with my new vibrator, I can barely manage to get more than one. This wouldn't be much of a problem if the second weren't at least twice as good as the first. I'm no longer satisfied with a single dull one.

Not much has changed, so I don't know what the problem could be. Has this happened to anyone else? I've only had this ability for a couple months, and I don't want to lose it already.

 

[Chicklet]

I wouldn't worry about it too much.

For me, my orgasms vary with the month. I have better orgasms right before and after my period, for instance. I don't know why, it just seems to happen.

Things can trigger unsatisfying orgasms in my life, too... things like stress, work, anything out of the ordinary... sometimes I have killer orgasms for months on end, and then unsatisfying ones for a few months after that.

Don't worry about it. Everything's going to be fine in the end All the transitions your brain and body are going through, don't worry about one that's only been going on for a week. Maybe the bad orgasms are only there to make you notice how good the FANTASTIC ones are = )

 

[pinkeden]

Perhaps you've somewhat desensitized yourself; which I'm lead to believe may be possible since you mentioned you've got a new vibrator. I know I get a new toy and I'm so excited just to be using it, but I find once I get to it (for the 3rd or 4th day in a row) it's just nowhere near as good. Plus; if you're focussing orgasm as your main "goal"rather than just enjoying sensations etc; that will definitely detract.

Buzz that button too much and it wont work as well.


Maybe you need a little self-abstinence? Avoid touching yourself in any sexy way for 3 days/ upto a week or so, do the aromatherapy, bubblebath, candles, nice skin lotion etc. dealio for yourself and I'll bet you'll be ready to explode..


That said, I agree with Chicklet as well regarding the different timing in your cycle, life circumstances and situations, but it sounds to me more like you've gone down the path of desensitization. Either way, treating yourself every now and again can't do any harm.

Keep us posted.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Desensitization may be a problem, but I doubt it. It sounds to me like this probably has to do with some hormonal changes, stressful life situations, or both. A woman's orgasm is extremely mental, way moreso than a male's. It could be a physical problem, but I'd always check to see if there is some kind of stress that might be bothering you.

It could just be a phase too, one that goes aways in a couple weeks.

 

[temp256]

It's not desensitization since I usually only do it 2-3 times per week. I never get any more excited if I wait longer. It's not my cycle because I don't have one. (I probably should have mentioned I'm (currently) male...)

Stress could be the problem. And unsatisfying orgasms only contributes to stress...

I must admit I have been a bit goal oriented toward the second orgasm, but so far that's the only way I can obtain it. The first one comes naturally, but I've always had to work for the second.

 

[TBKahuna123]

It's not desensitization since I usually only do it 2-3 times per week. I never get any more excited if I wait longer. It's not my cycle because I don't have one. (I probably should have mentioned I'm (currently) male...)

Stress could be the problem. And unsatisfying orgasms only contributes to stress...

I must admit I have been a bit goal oriented toward the second orgasm, but so far that's the only way I can obtain it. The first one comes naturally, but I've always had to work for the second.

ALright, so I totally whiffed on that one! The Avatar threw me.

Good luck to dude, I know I've NEVER had multiple orgasms. In fact to me it sems impossible becasue after that first one if someone even looks at my penis it hurts.

It still could be mental, I mean even though we guys are more visual and physical, the mind still plays tricks on us. It could still be hormonal too, though our hormone levels aren't as touchy as the females of our species. I think I would point to stress personally. I know for me this is the one thing that can ahve the largest effect on my libido.

 

[coastal-boy]

could be as simple as the beginnings of a cold...where you really don't have any symptoms other than...i feel odd...and i feel unmotivated and that shows itself

 

[temp256]

Yay, it's back! I think the trick is to tense all my muscles to reach the second orgasm. It's odd. After the first, I lose sensitivity. Tensing my muscles doesn't do much for sensitivity, but it gives me a feeling of building up to a huge orgasm quite unlike the first. I must do more research...

I hope it's not a fluke, as that means stress is taking its toll on me. Wanting to be a girl is quite stressful...

 

[human_male]

Most of mine are a complete waste of time. I barely feel anything. Sometimes I have a nice one but mostly I wonder why I even bothered. I'd assume it's just what happens when you get old but it's been that way since I was in my twenties. Maybe it's coz I'm lacking an emotional connection with someone.