Percentage of women who orgasm

[littlebabyclit]

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[Ellafun]

Uh, thank you ?

lol! I didn't mean to be awkward. Just that I appreciate your circumstances. I meant it more like a virtual hug.

 

[NippleMuncher]

That may be true for some women, but not for all with orgasmic dysfunction. It isn't always the mindset i.e. "all in the mind." And what if neither party can figure out how to create proper stimulation ? And what if all the stimulation tried goes nowhere ?

Obviously, there is no "one size fits all" answer here. Barring any physical anomalies that would prevent orgasm, then it probably is more of a "mind" issue than you think. Personal experience has shown me that there is a significant segment of the female population that don't even know themselves what is needed to stimulate them, much less be able to tell a hapless partner. Instances like this, there is no amount of practice that will work.

Environmental factors such as stress, diet, hormones, etc., can inhibit one's ability to orgasm, this applies to both men and women. Emotional connection to your partner may be insufficient to produce results. The list goes on and on.

Take a look at threads such as the "Try This And Report Back" thread at the number of people who didn't know what was possible until they tried the techniques outlined therein and had great success. Point is, just because you "think" you know what you're doing, doesn't mean that you actually know. Sometimes you need a little guidance, whether that be a thread on a forum, or a book on love making, or possibly specialized equipment, who knows what it will take.

Sex and orgasm is as much about the journey as it is the destination. Open your mind to new emotions, new experiences, new methods and techniques, maybe even a toy or two and you will likely find the right path to orgasmic success.

 

[Que]

Of course you orgasm. You're a man and I'd wager there are few men ever born whose dicks don't work to at least minimal capacity. Premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction? Sure. Inability to orgasm? Who's ever heard of a man who can't orgasm at all, ever? God/nature/karma/whatever wasn't so kind in regards to the full functionality of women's anatomy, in my opinion.





That may be true for some women, but not for all with orgasmic dysfunction. It isn't always the mindset i.e. "all in the mind." And what if neither party can figure out how to create proper stimulation ? And what if all the stimulation tried goes nowhere ?




Uh, thank you ?

I get that you were (understandably) perturbed when you responded above, however your statement is just as ignorant. Many men have difficulty especially if they are on anti-depressants, and pressure from women to cum is just as likely to perpetuate that cycle.

Ive been off anti-depressants for years and still this is a problem for me. I have to feel very connected, I have to be pretty convinced my partner is into the process or I might as well not bother.

Women who have never had a partner who is an-orgasmic (or nearly so) take it very very personally. "what's wrong? aren't I doing it right? aren't I attractive enough?" I've gotten the latter from a woman who makes her living being attractive. Pressure isn't fun for anyone.

 

[littlebabyclit]

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[littlebabyclit]

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[NippleMuncher]

I know you mean well but I get annoyed when people continue to tell me it's in my head, fix my head. If my friend Hitachi can't even help me, nobody can. I'm almost 47, it's never happened, just destined to be pre-orgasmic or anorgasmic, I guess.

I am not saying that it is all in your head, only that your head plays a huge role in creating the orgasm to begin with. What I am suggesting is that there are a whole lot of things going on that nobody understands or cares to understand, and unless you're willing to explore you ultimately may never find a resolution.

You hinted at a problem due to birth control. Query vividly points out how other commonly used prescription drugs can have physical and psychological effects on your body's ability to respond to stimuli. IMHO, the establishment is far too quick to broadly medicate for things that are not chemically treatable. All they are doing medicating the symptoms, they're not curing the root problem, it doesn't matter if the issue is physical or psychological, let's medicate and forget about it.

All I'm saying is not to give up. Find better doctors - preferably outside of your HMO (if you are part of one ) which doesn't care about your needs, only providing minimal and cheap maintenance. Start with physical and health issues first. A sound body will give peace of mind. Work on your mental health too by reducing stress and drama in your life. Unresolved psychological issues absolutely affect your body and your ability to function 'normally'.

Ultimately, you have my sympathies, I do truly wish you the best and hope that you are able to resolve whatever is going on.

 

[DooleyDarter]

My wife is one of those multi orgasmic kinda gals,, once you get her wound up, them O's just seem to bounce on out of her.

 

[Reba67]

Is that 67% who orgasm during PIV part of intercourse? I don't very often climax when he's thrusting, but sometimes I do. Usually I need some sort of other direct clit stimulation to orgasm. But I consider that part of sex. Sex is from the start of when we're kissing to getting the clothes off to each getting at least one orgasm.

When I'm stressed, it's harder to orgasm and sometimes I'm just happy to help my husband get off, but most of the time we each get a turn.

 

[2981notrohrm]

I insist that my wife get an orgasm. For me, it's very important that she gets off, and if she doesn't...out comes the vibrator afterwards (me using it on her.) Really, it just gives me more opportunity to tease the fuck out of her.

 

[sweetsoccermom]

I have an orgasm every single time, or we are not finished
The vaginal orgasm is defined more by rhythmic gripping for me,
Stimulation of the special spot is where the flood happens

 

[sweetsoccermom]

amen, brother!

I insist that my wife get an orgasm. For me, it's very important that she gets off, and if she doesn't...out comes the vibrator afterwards (me using it on her.) Really, it just gives me more opportunity to tease the fuck out of her.

You are clearly a perfect gentleman

 

[ratherabsurd1]

You should orgasm every time .. I agree with you for sure

 

[ratherabsurd1]

I don't think you should force it though .. Sex is supposed to be fun and spontaneous I believe