Phone Sex Experiences

[CurvyBlackChick]

There are a few threads regarding phone sex here on LIT, however, I am looking for more specific answers:

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish, voice, specific words that reach out and grab you etc...

Do you have phone sex with a specific theme in mind or go with the flow of the conversation?

Do you jump right into it or have a casual conversation first? If you have a casual conversation first, is it because you want to, need to or you feel your partner would like it but you could do without it?

Is phone sex simple for you? Ex: you could get off with anyone (assuming gender requirements are met - this is a deal breaker for most) regardless of their style, content etc....

Have you had experiences where you hung up within seconds or you were hung up on?

What do you prefer the most? Role playing, talking about experiences, listening to someone masturbate while you talk dirty or vice verse; add your preference if missed.

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish etc..

Have you explored different ways of having phone sex to determine which way you prefer best or have you followed the same format.

Have you ever moved from the phone to web-cam only to be disappointed because the person did not fit the image you conjured up in your mind or vice verse?

How do you feel when the person finishes and hangs up immediately? Do you do this? What is a reasonable expectation for both parties afterwards assuming you do not have simultaneous orgasms?

 

[formerlyFITD]

I can only speak for myself but looks don't matter too much, just a woman with a nice voice and nice laugh if I make her giggle who is not afraid to let herself go with both the moaning and the filthy talk. I've had a few awkward experiences where the girl sounded like she was reading a grocery list but even in those circumstances, patience and encouragement help - it doesn't come as naturally to all of us.

Themes sometimes enter into it but are not necessary. I've done taboo roleplays and talked about shared fetishes which can be fun though

As for the conversation, I've had full blown hour long conversations with someone before any phone sex at all happened if I get on well with someone or she wants to get to know me first but at the same time I've dived right into it with strangers when that's all we both wanted.

I could probably get off with anyone but it's definitely more fun with some people than others.

I have been hung up on by one or two women right after which, although it doesn't feel great immediately, I'm not offended all that much if it happens.

I love hearing moans, breathing and even the sound of someone's wet fingers or their toy(s) as we talk as well as discussing our fantasies. I also like to instruct or be instructed sometimes too which can be hot.

I'll admit, I have moved to webcam and been less attracted than I'd anticipated but if there's a connection between you both I've found it's still fun. I've also been way more attracted by some than I'd imagined too which is always a nice surprise

I have never just hung up on someone either before they have finished or before I have said thank you. I've had some partners in particular be very multi-orgasmic and either held off my own orgasm for a while and just encouraged hers or enjoyed mine and kept talking until she was fully satisfied.

Hope that's kind of what you were looking for

P.S. I love your hot pics!

 

[1sickbastard]

Maybe you could jump-start the conversation by relating some of your own experiences?

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

Thanks for your response. So I would classify you as a very well-rounded phone sex participant...you go with the flow when needed.

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

Maybe you could jump-start the conversation by relating some of your own experiences?

LOL! I knew someone would respond this way. I really became tired of typing. Everything I wrote is my experience. I am working on dealing with the web-cam image situation. I've been put off a few times because the image I conjured up did match the voice...I know that sounds silly call me shallow. Thus far it has not been my style to exchange pleasantries I really don't want to spend anytime on your age, looks, what errands you ran previously etc. I would hope details such as appearances, age/ others would have been discussed (if necessary for the chat) prior to our phone conversation like via an ad "19 year old male loves older black girl with huge tits" blah blah blah. Yes I've hung up on people and they have hung up on me. I won't spend too much time talking afterwards- none really but I do try and help you cum. I definitely could use some help on the phone I prefer for the guy to do all the work as I am really not that creative. Most people I find really want to talk I'm sure I missing out, I actually find it kid of scary to have a conversation. So I started this thread to take notes. Okay, I'm tired of writing, I'm not a writer please excuse all grammatical errors!

 

[Sensualdreamer]

There are a few threads regarding phone sex here on LIT, however, I am looking for more specific answers:

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish, voice, specific words that reach out and grab you etc...

Usually I find that in talking to a guy via IM first will help me know if he's capable of turning me on. Age isn't so much a factor, looks can play a small percentage, but ultimately it's his voice and his mindset that will cause me to respond.


Do you have phone sex with a specific theme in mind or go with the flow of the conversation?
I typically go w/ the flow of the conversation.

Do you jump right into it or have a casual conversation first? If you have a casual conversation first, is it because you want to, need to or you feel your partner would like it but you could do without it?
It largely deppends on the person. Sometimes it's a matter that I've called other guys w/ no intention of phone sex and the conversation was casual but then I end up getting aroused where it becomes phone sex. I've only ever given a couple of guys permission to call me if they *just* want to get off.


Is phone sex simple for you? Ex: you could get off with anyone (asumming gender requirements are met - this is a deal breaker for most) regarldless of their style, content etc....
No it's not. I can't respond to just any guy. A lot of guys tend to have the same MO and they want to talk about wanting me to do XYZ to them were I there. Well that may be the truth but I view it as selfishness on their part. Shouldn't it be that they would want to do ABC to me?


Have you had experiences where you hung up within seconds or you were hung up on?
Not quite. The worst that's happened so far was that I sent a guys cell phone crashing into his hot tub


What do you prefer the most? Role playing, talking about experiences, listening to someone masterbate while you talk dirty or vice versa; add your preference if missed.
Again depends on the situation. Some guys I enjoy listening to them talk dirty while I touch myself. Other times I prefer that they touch themselves at the same time where we listen to each other, etc.,


What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish etc..

All comes down to the gender, voice, and ability to turn me on mentally

Have you explored different ways of having phone sex to determine which way you prefer best or have you followed the same format.
I've recently w/ one guy done a cam and phone session at the same time. I enjoyed that w/ him...but only b/c I've learned to trust him, and he turns me on

Have you ever moved from the phone to web-cam only to be disappointed because the person did not fit the image you conjured up in your mind or vice versa?
No. Before they even get my phone number I've seen them and they've seen me.


How do you feel when the person cums and they hang up immediately? Do you do this? What is a reasonable expection for both parties afterwards assuming you do not have simultaneous orgasms?If I know before hand that a guy is ONLY looking to get off I don't mind if they hang up afterwards. I try not to but then again it all depends on the guy. A reasonable expectation would be that if they raced towards orgasm and they're not getting me off where I'm able to cum w/in a few minutes that it's likely we won't be talking again any time soon

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

Hi, thanks for responding to my questions.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

If the woman can have multiples, and makes noise...I am interested....

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

If the woman can have multiples, and makes noise...I am interested....

When you say multiples-do you mean immediately back to back or within hours?

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

When you say multiples-do you mean immediately back to back or within hours?

within minutes....

 

[Eclectic2012]

I've found that great phone sex is like great real sex; once there's a connection and you're both thinking together it's wonderful. And like meeting people...sometimes you know this right away, sometimes you have to dig deeper. But I think it's always worth the shot. And for me, it's always about the voice!

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

When you say multiples-do you mean immediately back to back or within hours?

I guess that's why I hang up. I'll have to work on it but after all these years I don't see anything changing. Sucks for me!

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

And like meeting people...sometimes you know this right away,

I'm a big fan of knowing right away. I have not experienced this online but definitely in person. I'm a huge fan of chemistry.

 

[vibes]

I think you just should try it out

 

[Eclectic2012]

I think there's less information to evaluate online; it takes a little longer or a greater chance of being wrong. But then that's part of the fun.

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

I think you just should try it out

I'm working on getting over my fears.

 

[vibes]

I'm working on getting over my fears.

I know ... take your time, I was kidding ... it definitely works better if you already know a bit of the other person, to me at least

 

[Pandages]

There are a few threads regarding phone sex here on LIT, however, I am looking for more specific answers:

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish, voice, specific words that reach out and grab you etc...
Not specific on the age and I would entice her with restraints.

Do you have phone sex with a specific theme in mind or go with the flow of the conversation?
Go with the flow. Structure isn't sexy.

Do you jump right into it or have a casual conversation first? If you have a casual conversation first, is it becasue you want to, need to or you feel your partner would like it but you could do without it?
Conversation if she feels uneasy.

Is phone sex simple for you? Ex: you could get off with anyone (asumming gender requirements are met - this is a deal breaker for most) regarldless of their style, content etc....
Phone sex is very simple. I just love hearing women get off.

Have you had experiences where you hung up within seconds or you were hung up on?
Neither.

What do you prefer the most? Role playing, talking about experiences, listening to someone masterbate while you talk dirty or vice versa; add your preference if missed.
I'm a listener but I love to give her something to think about.

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish etc..
Gender. Only one penis in my fantasies. Sorry guys.

Have you explored different ways of having phone sex to determine which way you prefer best or have you followed the same format.
Not really.

Have you ever moved from the phone to web-cam only to be disappointed because the person did not fit the image you conjured up in your mind or vice versa?
Not at all. I'm usually turned on but her personality. The voice is a bonus.

How do you feel when the person cums and they hang up immediately? Do you do this? What is a resonable expection for both parties afterwards assuming you do not have simultaneous orgasms?
Never hang up right away. Talk a bit and laugh after then go on your way.

 

[1sickbastard]

LOL! I knew someone would respond this way. I really became tired of typing. Everything I wrote is my experience. I am working on dealing with the web-cam image situation. I've been put off a few times because the image I conjured up did match the voice...I know that sounds silly call me shallow. Thus far it has not been my style to exchange pleasantries I really don't want to spend anytime on your age, looks, what errands you ran previously etc. I would hope details such as appearances, age/ others would have been discussed (if necessary for the chat) prior to our phone conversation like via an ad "19 year old male loves older black girl with huge tits" blah blah blah. Yes I've hung up on people and they have hung up on me. I won't spend too much time talking afterwards- none really but I do try and help you cum. I definitely could use some help on the phone I prefer for the guy to do all the work as I am really not that creative. Most people I find really want to talk I'm sure I missing out, I actually find it kid of scary to have a conversation. So I started this thread to take notes. Okay, I'm tired of writing, I'm not a writer please excuse all grammatical errors!

Grammatical errors are excused. (And grammer nazi's are invited to piss off!)

Now I have a more clear idea about where you're commming from.

If what you're looking for is a virtual quicky with a hottie, then treat it the same way you would in real life. You're not involving yourself emotionally so be upfront about your expectations and don't sweat the after sex ettiquette. Just be safe.

From my own experience and preferences, I can tell you that because there is no physical contact, I need more than an emotionless jerk-off session. I can do that all by myself w/o the hassle and bs.

I like making the intellectual/emotional connection. I like the extended conversations that are the virtual equivalent of foreplay & afterplay. I like the flirting and process of seduction that leads into phone sessions, and I thoroughly enjoy hearing my partner's voice as the play heats up and leads to climax. I'm never satified to let my partner have only one.

Is that reply of any use?

 

[PlayfulLittle1]

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish, voice, specific words that reach out and grab you etc...
Generally for me I've already chatted online extensively before things ever go to voice. But it's always nice if I can have an idea of what the other person sounds like first. So far I've only voiced with men, but...

Do you have phone sex with a specific theme in mind or go with the flow of the conversation?
It depends on who I'm talking to. Sometimes I'll just watch porn with them, and listen to each other play. Sometimes it's straight up talking dirty, sometimes it's more of a roleplay situation, "I do this to you, you do that to me" sort of thing.

Do you jump right into it or have a casual conversation first? If you have a casual conversation first, is it becasue you want to, need to or you feel your partner would like it but you could do without it?
Ordinarily conversation drifts to other things post-orgasm.

Is phone sex simple for you? Ex: you could get off with anyone (asumming gender requirements are met - this is a deal breaker for most) regarldless of their style, content etc....
Simple other than the fact that I'm pretty shy. So it takes a lot for me to get to that point with someone in the first place.

Have you had experiences where you hung up within seconds or you were hung up on?
No, not so far.

What do you prefer the most? Role playing, talking about experiences, listening to someone masterbate while you talk dirty or vice versa; add your preference if missed.
I think I prefer sort of laid back unstructured conversations, with lots of teasing, and I'm a sucker for some laughter.

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish etc..
Voice, often. If I've heard them in some other format first.

Have you explored different ways of having phone sex to determine which way you prefer best or have you followed the same format.
See above!

Have you ever moved from the phone to web-cam only to be disappointed because the person did not fit the image you conjured up in your mind or vice versa?
I've watched on cam, but I've never been on cam. And yeah, I can think of once where it was sort of disappointing, but it was sort of doomed from the start.

How do you feel when the person cums and they hang up immediately? Do you do this?
No, usually either one of us has a reason to have to leave (work, sleep) or it drifts into regular conversation for a while. I think I'd probably be a little freaked out if they hung up right away.

What is a resonable expection for both parties afterwards assuming you do not have simultaneous orgasms?
Laughter. Chitchat. Thanks.

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

Gender. Only one penis in my fantasies. Sorry guys.

LMAO!

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

Grammatical errors are excused. (And grammer nazi's are invited to piss off!)

I tried to fix a few sentences and I corrected the spelling
Yes your reply helped. I seem to be the odd ball, everyone seems to want to get to know the person first. In person I would have to - I've never had a one night stand but over the phone I guess it does not matter because I do not intend for it to go further. Another trend I see is the fellas like to talk women into multiple orgasms something I've never experienced over the phone, physically with another or solo so that explains the quick bye. Maybe if I had that to look forward to I'd stay on the line longer

 

[ManOSafety]

There are a few threads regarding phone sex here on LIT, however, I am looking for more specific answers:

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish, voice, specific words that reach out and grab you etc...

Someone that I've found a connection to through previous chatting/talking online

Do you have phone sex with a specific theme in mind or go with the flow of the conversation?

Starts off with a theme we've discussed in our previous conversations, but then can go anywhere that feels right.

Do you jump right into it or have a casual conversation first? If you have a casual conversation first, is it because you want to, need to or you feel your partner would like it but you could do without it?

Typically jump right into it, because the call has been made for that purpose.

Is phone sex simple for you? Ex: you could get off with anyone (assuming gender requirements are met - this is a deal breaker for most) regardless of their style, content etc....

No, I cannot get off with just anyone, there has to be that connection made previously.

Have you had experiences where you hung up within seconds or you were hung up on?

Fortunately no hang-ups from either end.

What do you prefer the most? Role playing, talking about experiences, listening to someone masturbate while you talk dirty or vice verse; add your preference if missed.

I would say it starts off with some role play, but then I love to hear her masturbating while I talk dirty and then I enjoy masturbating for her while she talks dirty to me.

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish etc..

Same fantasy

Have you explored different ways of having phone sex to determine which way you prefer best or have you followed the same format.

I don't think I've tried anything different, maybe I need a teacher

Have you ever moved from the phone to web-cam only to be disappointed because the person did not fit the image you conjured up in your mind or vice verse?

Have not moved from phone to web-cam, the few web-cam experiences were just that...watching or showing off, no talking.

How do you feel when the person finishes and hangs up immediately? Do you do this? What is a reasonable expectation for both parties afterwards assuming you do not have simultaneous orgasms?

I would be disappointed if they didn't allow me to finish as well. I like a little chitchat before hanging up, but just a little.

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish etc..
Gender. Only one penis in my fantasies. Sorry guys.
Question: Suppose your conversation is going great it's actually the best phone sex ever. What would you do if your partner threw in a bi - aspect such as a male coming up behind you and began to lick, suck, fuck....how would you handle the conversation at this point? I'm very interested to know.

 

[CurvyBlackChick]

There are a few threads regarding phone sex here on LIT, however, I am looking for more specific answers:

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish, voice, specific words that reach out and grab you etc...

Someone that I've found a connection to through previous chatting/talking online

Do you have phone sex with a specific theme in mind or go with the flow of the conversation?

Starts off with a theme we've discussed in our previous conversations, but then can go anywhere that feels right.

Do you jump right into it or have a casual conversation first? If you have a casual conversation first, is it because you want to, need to or you feel your partner would like it but you could do without it?

Typically jump right into it, because the call has been made for that purpose.

Is phone sex simple for you? Ex: you could get off with anyone (assuming gender requirements are met - this is a deal breaker for most) regardless of their style, content etc....

No, I cannot get off with just anyone, there has to be that connection made previously.

Have you had experiences where you hung up within seconds or you were hung up on?

Fortunately no hang-ups from either end.

What do you prefer the most? Role playing, talking about experiences, listening to someone masturbate while you talk dirty or vice verse; add your preference if missed.

I would say it starts off with some role play, but then I love to hear her masturbating while I talk dirty and then I enjoy masturbating for her while she talks dirty to me.

What factors help you choose your partner? EX: looks, age, gender, same fetish etc..

Same fantasy

Have you explored different ways of having phone sex to determine which way you prefer best or have you followed the same format.

I don't think I've tried anything different, maybe I need a teacher

Have you ever moved from the phone to web-cam only to be disappointed because the person did not fit the image you conjured up in your mind or vice verse?

Have not moved from phone to web-cam, the few web-cam experiences were just that...watching or showing off, no talking.

How do you feel when the person finishes and hangs up immediately? Do you do this? What is a reasonable expectation for both parties afterwards assuming you do not have simultaneous orgasms?

I would be disappointed if they didn't allow me to finish as well. I like a little chitchat before hanging up, but just a little.

Do you jump right into it or have a casual conversation first? If you have a casual conversation first, is it because you want to, need to or you feel your partner would like it but you could do without it?

Typically jump right into it, because the call has been made for that purpose. Finally I'm not alone.

I don't think I've tried anything different, maybe I need a teacher. Me too!