physical sensations during anal

[atl_couple]

Hi all,
Quick question for anyone who wants to chime in. I am the male part of the couple and I love anal. That is, I love licking and penetrating her ass and I love imaging her penetrating my ass. I often think about it all day at work and then finally play with myself with a dildo when I get home. The problem is, the reality never lives up to the fantasy. I love thinking about playing with my own ass, or having her penetrate my ass with a strap on, or just walking around with a butt plug. But I find that it is 100% mental for me, and I get no physical pleasure from it. If I hit the right spot, I will get that "pee" feeling, but I'm not sure it feels good. I usually end up just stroking my cock until I come after which the entire desire ends and I feel like playing with my ass did nothing for me. Of course the cycle goes on and eventually I am really horny and want something in my ass again. When I go for it again, I does nothing for me physically. I tried a butt plug, a thin dildo, a thick dildo, a vibrator, a strap on. Nothing, but I keep wanting to try again.

So my question is, when people say they love anal, are you referring to the physical sensations or the just the idea of it and the mental stimulation?

Any why, if it doesn't feel good to me, do I want to keep trying again and again?

 

[Pinkneonsocks]

For me, it's a combination of both.

 

[pinkflames]

It used to be mostly the idea of anal that turned me on rather than the physical sensations.

Nowadays, I have the best orgasms imaginable from anal sex or anal masturbation. I would suggest you keep trying as often the body needs to be trained to recognise pleasure.

 

[shiny5437]

One thing I found is that orgasms from prostate stimulation take a lot longer to develop than penis orgasms.

Whereas when you masturbate with your penis it feels good immediately whereas with prostate stimulation it takes a good few minutes before the actual stimulation is pleasurable. The feeling is sort of "I'm not sure I'm enjoying that but don't stop."

Often a combination of penis and anal stimulation is needed to move things along.

It took me a couple of years to recognise this so just hang in there and it is worth it

 

[ZoeBird]

I hated the physical sensations when I first started having anal sex, but after I got used to it I started to enjoy it a little at a time. Now I enjoy it but only if I am in the mood for it. I think you definitely need to be into it both physically AND mentally for it to be a pleasant experience.

 

[PoeticMusings53]

So my question is, when people say they love anal, are you referring to the physical sensations or the just the idea of it and the mental stimulation?

Any why, if it doesn't feel good to me, do I want to keep trying again and again?

Enjoying giving oral sex, BDSM, being the top in strapon sex, or working hard to bring your lover to orgasms in positions that you don't find particularly pleasurable all have little/nothing to do with gaining physical pleasure. A lot of sexual activity is only satisfying on a psychological level.

Do it if you want to do it. Don't do it if you don't want to do it. There's no "shoulds".

 

[carryonmyfriend]

Oh, I'd have to say I enjoy it on quite a few levels. I can merely slide my finger from the base of my spine to my sack very gently and get incredible pleasure especially when I touch anywhere near my anus let alone right on it. Very shallow penetration feels good in an immediate way to my penis but deeper penetration adds a whole new level to the feeling. In short, I must have a helluva lot of nerve endings in and near my ass cuz it knocks my socks off.

 

[Submission13]

As long as you aren't hurting yourself why not keep trying it again...? Hum it is different but good. Best of luck relax and enjoy! I enjoy the physical and mental aspects of anal.

 

[jo_love_pink]

For me its both.Ilove the feeling of surrendering to him.But I can have fantastic orgasms while he is fucking my ass.

 

[good_bi]

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[Julie_in_the_north]

A very interesting question.

I love anal sex, and sometimes I masturbate anally, too. But what do I like about it? I'd echo other responses here, by saying that a very significant element is psychological. Partly, because it's naughty, risque, taboo, decadent, wanton, and a kind of 'turning up to 11' of sex. There's also the intimacy, and the heady sense of power exercised, given, and taken. When my partner penetrates me anally, I've giving my anus to her - the most private, secret and perhaps delicate part of my anatomy. Performed in the right context, anal sex is an act of love, and its emotional weight acts, for me, as a very sexual stimulus.

Beyond that, I think it's matter of how we're calibrated, individually, in terms of physical sensitivity. As well as the mental factors, I genuinely experience a great deal of intensely pleasurable, sexual, sensation from my anus. Both from its exterior surface, its opening, and the first inch or so inside. Having my anus licked or stroked, or a finger or sex-aid inserted into it, feels absolutely gorgeous. Well, there *are* a lot of nerve-endings there. And it's definitely a sexual feeling. I'm physically aroused, my genitals respond, as if to sex, and if it's sustained, I will probably have an orgasm.

Then there's the odd matter of the sensation of deep anal penetration. Obviously, the anatomy inside your anal passage is not designed for feeling anything, never mind sexual pleasure - and the sensation is clearly nothing like as sensuous and rich as you'd feel in your vagina. But - and it's very difficult to render the experience verbally - there is still something about the intense feeling of fullness inside my bottom which really works for me. I have no idea why, or how. It feels very strange at first, and rather like you need the loo, but when you get used to it, it's glorious, and makes for a beautiful orgasm.

So...er, that's how it works for me! Didn't realise I had so much to say about it! But I suppose my point is that anal sex is very unpredictable in terms of how it makes us each respond. I happen to be very sensitive there, but most of us are probably less so.

 

[8incock]

I love it when my wife fingers my ass while she is giving me a blow job. I also like the "going in" part when using a big dildo. I found that i just need to let go and be totally uninhibited. When i do I can cum just using a dildo on my ass.

 

[millieteases]

For us it's both mental and physical...the "naughtiness" factor makes it a bit exciting, but it does actually feel good...not always right at the start, but as we progress and things relax a bit. The spouse says it does take a while for prostate stimulation to work, but it feels pretty good once you get there.

 

[NightDrive]

A lot of stuff in regards to sexual activity is more exciting for the mental part of it. Even blowjobs, at least when you haven't had very many, are more exciting because you're like "omg there's this hot chick and she's got my dick in her mouth!" but then as it goes, you're kinda like... "Uh, this is cool but it's not nearly as cool as I thought it was going to be."

I don't know, maybe I'm just an odd one, but that's how I felt with my first few blowjobs, the anticipation of getting a blowjob outweighed the actual physical pleasure. It might be the same thing with anal.

 

[fiesty_wench]

I had the same experience. I've only tried anal once, but it was definitely less exciting than my fantasies. I'm just going to keep trying it with various other things to stimulate other parts. I think at some point, my brain will get the message.