Please Teach me about Sex

[Under_Sun]

You ever eat so much that afterwards you actually feel like you don't ever have to eat again? Not like a sick feeling, but a boredom with something that moments before was the center of your existence. There's nothing like a post-orgasmic aftershock in men that i know of, so we can pretty much be completely done after we extricate ourselves. A lot of the time it coincides with a sensitivity that's so subtle that it's painful just for the sheet to touch shrinky--forget about a female who's still muddled/silly from her orgasm trying to yank your cock off yer body. The logic goes, 'he liked it before and it made him hard, he'll like it now and make him hard.' Even if it's still hard it can be that sensitive.

oh I can understand that! I do not touch "shrinky" like a giddy girl trying to yank anything. More of a soft nuzzle...not thinking about trying to make it hard again... oh I hope my partners never thought that I wanted to make it hard again! I just like to .... um... love the softie too.

Thank you for your perspective. I was wondering if it might be painful.
Very interesting.

 

[Under_Sun]

Invite friends? Ha! Like I'm going to share...

That's just his collection for me. I have my own sinkful at home. Hmm, you know, I really don't need that many, do I? Dildo Sale!

What do you use them for?

Did you know you just went over 11,000 posts? You have been here a long time. Did you help Al Gore invent the internet?

 

[Under_Sun]

So interesting.

Maybe I need to start having two men with me so I have something to play with while Mr. Softie #1 gets a little desensitized.

I like your term, after-softy. I think I will add it to my vocabulary.

Thank you for your information, very helpful.

How long do you think is okay to wait?

How long have you waited after it softens? One of the worst things I ever did to a man was think he wanted more right after it went soft, I thought I eased it back to my mouth and he practically screamed....it seems like some guys are very tender after the orgasm so I now leave an after- softy alone.

 

[Under_Sun]

You are a sick woman, annaswirls. Stay out of the kids toybox. If you are that desparate for a sex toy, try the kitchen.

what? is that wrong? I mean, just the parts, not the whole doll, now that would be shocking.

ps no worries, we have no dolls in this house, I will not be dismembering them for my perverted purposes.

We have all boy toys. I guess a light saber might work, especially the kind that glow and vibrate with their sound effects.


Or I could just go to Eve's Adult Yard Sale and stock up on the real-fake thing.

 

[Under_Sun]

oh I like the idea of taking turns with needs and wants.

My turn! I need you to take out the garbage. I want you to rub my stinky feet. OKAY Your turn!

that is not very romantic. I seriously think there might be something wrong with you. You really should get those books that were recommended.

I am only half kidding. Can you tell which half?

 

[Under_Sun]

hmmm this sounds very familiar... I wonder if we have met...

She takes all of me, she bites my cock and fingers my ass. When I explode and my body is shivering and bucking, my cock is electric and, while extremely wonderful, too intense to be touched. But she does. Gently. Listening to my reaction, she continues over time. And when I soft and still engorged, it turns into true cock worship. She cuddles me and comforts my dick with her hands, face and breasts.

I love good foreplay. Personally, sometimes I think after-play is the very best.

 

[Under_Sun]

The black mamba in Hugo's shower:

Oh! oh oh oh!!!

I want one!!!!!

 

[Under_Sun]

I am back at my first reply and think I should stop now before I start talking to myself again.


Thank you! I have another question, but I have to get the Black Mamba off my mind first before I can think clearly.

~Undergirl

You have all be so very helpful! I learned a lot. I think the best course of action seems to be ASK! Not as in "let's have a conversation about this" ask, but right before... I can just ask permission before touching, kissing, tasting, adoring "after-softy"

May I please give Pedro a little kiss?


I think that will be appreciated by all. I did not realize how much variety there is in the reactions, but it makes sense. I won't take it personally if he says "give him a minute..." or "how about a little snack first" I will just lick his fingers instead. They deserve a little appreciation and love too.

 

[CharleyH]

I am no virgin, but I do have difficulty getting certain information out of my lovers for one reason or another.

Can you help me?

After years of reading, watching, listening and my favorite, hands on experimenting... and still all these questions!!

Please feel free to answer, lurk, hijack or ignore. Please join me with your questions as well. I might talk to myself too if you know what I mean

I am hoping this is an appropriate place to put this thread. Poets are usually so open and honest with everything, especially here. I thought I could get some good answers here. I know you have a big contest going on, but maybe you could take a break to help out a girl stranded by the side of the road, holding the "lug nut loosening thinggie" looking very confused.

I'd love to help you. Are you asking us because we can interrogate? With force?

 

[annaswirls]

I'd love to help you. Are you asking us because we can interrogate? With force?

oh my god, can y'all help me too?

 

[AoNoDoY]

How long have you waited after it softens? One of the worst things I ever did to a man was think he wanted more right after it went soft, I thought I eased it back to my mouth and he practically screamed....it seems like some guys are very tender after the orgasm so I now leave an after- softy alone.

Mmmm, I don't think I'd ever scream, but guys do tend to come down rather quickly after orgasm. I, of course, usually try to be sensitive to my partner's continued state of arousal, especially if it's been a few days (weeks, months!) and I'm all worked up... But I have been known to roll over and snooze away, too

Oh I am sorry you are not proud of soft squishy Pedro! You need some serious cock worship to get his ego where it belongs

I am curious, though. I understand how he likes naughty talk and a nap, but what does she feed him as a snack?

Soft squishy Pedro has never been my best feature. Now hard valient Sir Pedro is another story. Oh, I have been known to revel in the feeling of shame that comes with my exposed flacidity...

Yes, cock worship sounds good right about now. Excuse me while a make a phone call. (Talks on phone). Nope, not happening tonight.

The snack is not for little Pedro but for big Andy, hellooo? (Or maybe it's for P by way of A) Coffee, fruit juice, ice water, danish, cereal, snack bar, pizza, avacodo, whatever is around and needs eatin'.

The black mamba in Hugo's shower:

I'm know I'm new to this group, but what the hell?

May I please give Pedro a little kiss?

Pedro appreciates the attention and well wishes. He has been awfully lonely lately.

Then again, I like being denied sometimes more than having attention, and I tend to get off on abuse, so there's just no simple answer, it seems...

I like to leave it in after climax too... and to do some Kegel exercises to tease a bit.

Oh that's a beautiful thing...

I didn't know that some guys did not like oozing onto their partner's skin. I know some girls are strangely queezy about it. I love it. Like a little fun gift to play with. Finger paints.

Thank you for your perspective, very helpful! You have a lucky partner.

I've definately gotten more comfortable over the years with the joys of jizz and post-coital fluids, but when I was an adolescent, I was very averse to leaving any kind of evidence of masturbation around the house for mother to find, know what I mean?

It's almost like being a bedroom neat freak. Not too hard to imagine. It's surprising to me that some women I've known are very neat and tidy in the house, but just like things tremendously sloppy in the sack, what gives?

Thank you for your perspective, very helpful! You have a lucky partner.

Correction: HAD a lucky partner. Well, I was the lucky one, I think, but that's all over now. I have another prospect who is just oh so sexy and deviant, and's fun and open and uniquely perverse, but she does not want it to be anything regular. Which is frustrating to say the least. But that's not an issue for this sex chat thread I suppose.

 

[annaswirls]

Yes, cock worship sounds good right about now. Excuse me while a make a phone call. (Talks on phone). Nope, not happening tonight.

No wonder Pedro is lonely. You must have dialed the wrong number, I did not even hear it, you goof!

I'm know I'm new to this group, but what the hell?

hell indeed. welcome.

Correction: HAD a lucky partner. Well, I was the lucky one, I think, but that's all over now. I have another prospect who is just oh so sexy and deviant, and's fun and open and uniquely perverse, but she does not want it to be anything regular. Which is frustrating to say the least. But that's not an issue for this sex chat thread I suppose.

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of course it is. Go on..... what are her perversions. Have you any photos Andy? Have you seen Eve's sink?

 

[AoNoDoY]

No wonder Pedro is lonely. You must have dialed the wrong number, I did not even hear it, you goof!

Oh. Ooooh! Touche, Ms. Annaswirls, touche. I consider myself lightly chastised and Pedro considers himself worshipped. Satisfaction permeates from the both of us. Thank you...


of course it is. Go on..... what are her perversions. Have you any photos Andy? Have you seen Eve's sink?[/QUOTE]

Well, first of all, before we met in person, (we met online, craigslist, she liked to troll for egregious penis photos to send to her sister. no, i did not post an egregious penis photo on craigslist, she found my post in strictly platonic, and couldn't help but be drawn to its pitiful charm...or something.)

at any rate, so she's suffering from terrible insomnia and we have many late night conversations and somehow the conversation turns to porn and she tells me some porn she's looking at so we're looking at porn together in our respective homes, late at night. at this time she was living in another state, getting ready to move to the city where i live.

at any rate, we have some shared porn moments, but these incredible 3 hour long phone conversations, and we have a real connection, just wonderful communication,

she doesn't ever want to get into anything explicity dirty coming from her mouth, but it's cute because we're looking at porn etc

i sent her a link to lit also, and she fell in love with the first series of stories she read, btw, i don't think she's come over to the chat side yet

so we have lots of phone calls and naughtly little texting and then she arrives inthe city and we meet, and we fool around a little,

and then i finally spend the night and we just finally get into it for like a whole weekend

well, i'm not doing a very good job of getting into what makes the whole thing perverse, it just has something to do with her personality and her teasing, i will have to think more on that

also, she loooves when i tell her about my little man crush on this guy i'm taking spanish lessons from, Sr. Juan

fooling around with her kind of plays into my denial thing, it seems she wants to sort of verbally deny her lust but while we're in bed stroking each other but physically wants to appease it or

and she has this incredibly pure smooth white skin. I am a major sucker for beautiful skin. she's very fair and creamy. and she loves the way i kiss, which is great. the kissing is good. she's just damn sexy.

she also doesn't want to make any decisions and she likes I think when i talk her into things, which is unusual for me, because i like it when i get to be a big pussy...
heheheh

and there's this whole aspect of her not wanting to see me as a boyfriend per se, she wants to just be friends, whereas I've told her I think she's amazing and sexy and beautiful and I want her all to myself, and I tend to favor being in a more serious relationship, so I have all kinds of weird feelings about that, wrapped up in jealosy, because now that she'd moved to the city, i think she's finding a lot more attention for herself than she had where she moved from, damnit.

Also, i did see the sink. I have no comment other than the girl in question has said she would love to put a toy in my butt. (giggles like a school girl).

at any rate, the naughty texts and long conversations have fallen off and now i'm working weekend nights, which is just no good for anybody (except my underemployed ass)

thanks for asking....

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Haven't tried it yet. Not sure what to do with it.

Try not to get 'flushed ' with success

 

[Under_Sun]

Also, i did see the sink. I have no comment other than the girl in question has said she would love to put a toy in my butt. (giggles like a school girl).

I highly recommend this toy if you are starting out in the butt exploration. It is awesome. My bf loves it.

Called the Swizzle Stick

 

[UnderYourSpell]

I highly recommend this toy if you are starting out in the butt exploration. It is awesome. My bf loves it.

Called the Swizzle Stick

Tut no-ones written a review on it
Try the Wampant Wabbit it goes round and round and screws (oops scuse me!) itself in

 

[AoNoDoY]

thanks for the tip re: swizzle stick. how many inches long is it?

i realized after writing all these things about the new girl that she's giving me the run around. I like the run around and I hate the run around. I talked to her a long time last night and found out she slept with another dude recently.

this probably could be a different thread, tell me if it should be, sorry if i'm being maudlin, is there a relationship discussion thread around here?

i'm trying to decide what to do... do i enjoy our occassional chats, phone calls, texts, the occasional dinner date, the occasional sleep over (which are all very satisfying in many ways) and try to let go of my jealousy over the fact that she's going to be seeing different people? or do i let my anger build and cut things off with her and stop chasing after her and go out and meet some new people?

i do tend to favor being in more committed relationships, but i think that preference may be somewhat born out of insecurity that maybe now would be a good time to face...

 

[AoNoDoY]

Please feel free to answer, lurk, hijack or ignore. Please join me with your questions as well. I might talk to myself too if you know what I mean

Now i am hijacking and talking to myself. Quick, Under Sun, ask another sex question...

 

[Under_Sun]

I am not sure how long it is, I am not good with estimation... maybe 6 inches? It feels very good going in, or just twisting around once it is in there-- it has two holes for your fingers, so you can twist it back and forth really easily, pull it in and out -- very convenient.

Is this new girl married? It sounds like she might be... or maybe involved in a committed relationship. I am not putting judgement on her for that, there are many polyamorous souls out there.

It seems to me that the two of you are after very different things. You are going to wind up being hurt, one way or the other, I predict this very strongly. It is up to you if you want to enjoy it longer and have it hurt more later? Or maybe enjoy it until you are sick of her and then it won't hurt as much? It is a hard call, but if she is not interested in a committment and you need one, then it is not going to work.

thanks for the tip re: swizzle stick. how many inches long is it?

i realized after writing all these things about the new girl that she's giving me the run around. I like the run around and I hate the run around. I talked to her a long time last night and found out she slept with another dude recently.

this probably could be a different thread, tell me if it should be, sorry if i'm being maudlin, is there a relationship discussion thread around here?

i'm trying to decide what to do... do i enjoy our occassional chats, phone calls, texts, the occasional dinner date, the occasional sleep over (which are all very satisfying in many ways) and try to let go of my jealousy over the fact that she's going to be seeing different people? or do i let my anger build and cut things off with her and stop chasing after her and go out and meet some new people?

i do tend to favor being in more committed relationships, but i think that preference may be somewhat born out of insecurity that maybe now would be a good time to face...

 

[Under_Sun]

Now i am hijacking and talking to myself. Quick, Under Sun, ask another sex question...

Hi Andy!

Okay, sex question.

This is more of a sex and moral problem. Suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

My lover does this thing to me. Oh my lord. He takes me to a place oh my surely you know, but he is the only one to have ever taken me there-- G-Spot Massage, manual. I honestly thought of it as myth before meeting him.

Here is the thing, my main partner has never even tried this. So.... we are in a committed relationship (shut up, I know) and he KNOWS I go around with other people. He knows but we do not talk about it. It sounds awful to say it, but we have a 'don't ask, don't tell" policy that has worked for 16 years.

At any rate. I want him to do this to me too. But I do not want him to feel jealous or insecure. I do not want to rub it in, so to speak.

What do you suggest? Should I say I saw it on the internet? Read about it in a magazine? Should I just forget about it and enjoy what we do have, which is very good?

Thanks!

 

[boja987]

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[Under_Sun]

Under Sun, if you enjoy the G-spot massage, you will really enjoy cervical orgasms.

you have already sold me.

How do I get one?

 

[PandoraGlitters]

If the cervix were sensitive and had any nerve endings, wouldn't that make childbirth impossible due to the extreme sensitivity of the area?

I know that it is not very sexy to tell the truth sometimes. I should probably be saying things like, "I've always heard that it's possible to orgasm while gagging eagerly on a man's thrusting meat!"

As for the books I recommended, those aren't dry texts. (pun intended.) They are accurate information and funny and engaging. I went to a live reading of them and it was really difficult not to be aroused even though it wasn't meant to be sexually arousing. Check them out.

 

[boja987]

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[PandoraGlitters]

Pandora, the cervix is sensitive, but not as sensitive as the clit. Once a woman is very VERY aroused, the cervix is more receptive to touch.

Almost all of the nerve endings in the vagina are near the extensive network of the clitoris. The clitoris has 18 parts which accounts, also, for "G-spot orgasms." The cervix has no nerve endings per se but may be responding to pressure or dilation. When I orgasm and when female lovers of mine have orgasmed, there has been a fluttering in the cervix when it dilates due to clitoral stimulation (whether internal clitoral stimulation or external clitoral stimulation). Perhaps this is what you are describing is the repeated opening and closing spasms of the cervix that accompany a very strong orgasm caused by clitoral stimulation?

Any part of the body, when stretched to 10 times its normal size, would probably feel like a ring of fire. It would feel a whole lot worse if there were a lot of nerve endings there.

I am not saying that I doubt your experience or your wife's, but what I know is that women feel most intensely the stimulation to the clitoris that happens both inside and outside of the vagina. Too many women for far too long have felt like sexual inadequates due to the spread of misinformation that the clitoris and clitoral orgasms were "immature" or "inferior." I just would love to see that dark age ended now and for women to relax and orgasm the way they are most comfortable orgasming without it having to be a circus feat. Not that experimentation is a bad thing at all! I applaud you and your wife for engaging in it!

The truth is that only 30% of women ever orgasm during penetration, ever! So if you could report orgasming during in-out penetration as a woman, you would be in the minority even if it happened only once! For most women, orgasm simply does not happen during penetration. Yet most women will feel inadequate because of this and will feel like they have to practice, study, get surgery, whatever it takes to orgasm the way the porn movies tell us we're all supposed to. All that instead of simply loving the female body and letting it experience pleasure the way it wants to.

I know that this is probably turning off every man at Literotica for me to say these things. And I'm sorry. But I cannot lie, and will not perpetuate the myth that undermines clitoral importance in female orgasm any longer. Time, and orgasms, are precious.

blessings and good sex to all of you.