post-sexual encounter concerns....

[daisygirl53705]

Hey everyone,
This past weekend, I was at a party where the sole purpose was to get as wasted as possible. While that mission was easily accomplished (and anticipated to be honest), what I did not expect was a drunken hook-up with a complete stranger. While I was with the dude, I somehow had the state of mind to make him get off me once I realized that he didn't have a condom on and neither of us had one with us.

My question now is: Is there anything I can do to make sure I didn't catch anything from him? I know that neither of us came - he wasn't even close to the precum stage when I pushed him off. So other than through smooching, there was no fluid exchange. Is there anything I should be doing at this point?

I'd really appreciate your collective wisdom on this,
thanks,
d.g.

 

[SweetErika]

If he was inside you, how could you know there was no precum?

If you're correct, the risks could be HPV and HSV. Transmission of both can occur even if a person doesn't have any symptoms.

I'd go talk to my doctor or local sexual health clinic (like Planned Parenthood) about the risks and see if there are any abortive/preventative meds for those viruses, then follow their advice for testing, just to be sure.

 

[SweetErika]

Double post.

 

[M's girl]

.....This past weekend, I was at a party where the sole purpose was to get as wasted as possible. While that mission was easily accomplished (and anticipated to be honest)......

Well now... look at all the benefits here! The sole pupose? Hmmmm...

Listen, you KNOW you are in danger of having catched something from the guy. Precum is precum and can emerge at any stage. You just basically have to do what SE said; go see a doctor and have you checked out. It's the only way to know for sure....

I hope a hangover is all you came home with from that party... I really do.

 

[emap]

What they said.

Plus one addendum, ALWAYS carry condoms, at least one no matter what, the darn things are pretty small, you can fit one between your breasts in your bra for crying out loud.

I'm not kidding here, it's not like it used to be, at one point in time all you had to do was make sure he was clean and your pretty well set, now, doesn't matter if he's waxed and polished, you can die just letting him take a feel of your insides. Always and I do mean always, pack at least one condom in your pocket purse or bra simply because, there is no way of knowing if he is clean, is actually a virgin or was tested last week, unless your at his place and he shows you the document, though never trust that, takes 2-3 weeks to get the document, he can have HIV, HPV and genital warts now.

Good rule of thumb anymore, if he isn't carrying or not asking if you have one, dump him with blue balls, because dying with AIDS is one of the worst ways to go.

 

[human_male]

Fingers crossed.

 

[daisygirl53705]

Thank you very much for the suggestion. I will go get it checked out today.
God - I'm glad i was alert enough to push him off once I realized what ws going on. But next time: either condoms or nothing.

Thanks again for the good vibes...
d.

 

[SweetErika]

Thank you very much for the suggestion. I will go get it checked out today.
God - I'm glad i was alert enough to push him off once I realized what ws going on. But next time: either condoms or nothing.

Thanks again for the good vibes...
d.

Yes, be very glad you were alert enough.
Be happy someone didn't slip something in one of your drinks.
Be thankful your partner allowed you to stop it, and be pushed off.
Be extremely grateful you got out of there with STI worries alone, not as a woman who had just been raped.

No one deserves to be assaulted, but you have a responsibility to be smart and protect yourself as best as you can. Getting drunk and putting yourself in a sexual situation with someone (stranger or not) is just plain stupid. Hell, it happens all the time with NO drugs or alcohol.

You were lucky this time; hopefully you'll be smart, and not leave it to chance, next time. Take care of yourself, Sweetie.

 

[Cockyfox]

Remember to repeat a checkup in about 4-6 months, too.

 

[Momasboy17404]

I guy can have precum anytime he gets erect. Plus I doubt you inspected his genetals for shankers. Girl never get so drunk you out of control. Thank goodness you were able to get a grip that night.

Condoms suck but I prefer to live and I'm to young and to stupid to have kids yet.

Hope you turn out okay.

 

[daisygirl53705]

thanks - yea. I think just a scare like this is enough for me to realize that I need to have condoms with me all the time. Even though I didn't plan for any sort of a hook up, better safe than sorry.

I was able to get in touch with the guy - he says he's clean, has clean bill of health as of a month ago and is willing to fax over med records to prove it. But regardless, I have an appointment set up to be tested - again, better safe than sorry. (will be new mantra i think - at least when it comes to this stuff).


thanks for your feedback and advice.
lesson learned (x10000000).
d.

 

[Chicklet]

I was able to get in touch with the guy - he says he's clean, has clean bill of health as of a month ago and is willing to fax over med records to prove it.

the only thing i was going to add that no one else had said was to try to get in touch with the guy and see if he'd admit anything to you. but you were too smart to wait for me ^^

i happen to be a very trusting person, and if it were me i'd probably believe him, but yes definitely go ahead and get the check-up anyways. it's always nice to know you have a clean bill of health... sort of like a bonus gold star for doing nothing.

good luck = )

 

[CowBoy18^]

i hope you wait to have sex with someone else before you find out the results too.

 

[wicked woman]

the only thing i was going to add that no one else had said was to try to get in touch with the guy and see if he'd admit anything to you. but you were too smart to wait for me ^^

i happen to be a very trusting person, and if it were me i'd probably believe him, but yes definitely go ahead and get the check-up anyways. it's always nice to know you have a clean bill of health... sort of like a bonus gold star for doing nothing.

good luck = )

Unfortunately being that trusting in this situation can kill you. People lie about this. She's right to get tested (as you said).

 

[StuffItIn]

Remember to repeat a checkup in about 4-6 months, too.

Yes, very important!

 

[werdsmith]

best wishes.

 

[bare_pussy]

if this happened recently, you more than likely wouldn't know for at least a few weeks if he gave you anything....

so if you go soon, make sure you follow up a month or 6 weeks later, and then again. an std can take 6 months to surface....which is why its recommended that sexually active people (non-monogomous) get tested every 6 months or so. at least that's what i've been taught.

i'm very careful so i usually get tested once a year....but when i moved to dc and went a little buck wild, i got tested 3 times in one year. no harm in playing it safe other than the co-pay of the doctor!