Property markings

[Dreamliner]

With a mark, and outside those that cause bruising through a play session, whilst on the back and butt are great and can be visually appealing, the image I enjoy is watching a partner, looking at a large mirror and letting her fingers caress and stroke her mark, one that she can see, so one on her front, placed strategically for me is important.

It reinforces who she is and who she is with.

 

[Primalex]

We’ve just started toying with the idea of embarrassing tan lines

Interesting. I've never thought about tan lines as marking.

I enjoy tan lines on female bodies. It's like a meat quality grade - "You are seeing something now that is usually not so exposed." I like that a lot - which is unlike usual me, who likes things to be uniform.


I'm kinda mad at me now that I never connected the dots of using tanning as semi-permanent marking before. Stencils and self-tanning lotion or tanning beds...oh, the possibilities.

 

[Blase]

I've done body writing when I had subs who didn't have to worry about it being seen. In fact, I have a distinctive signature that I like to use.

Once with an online sub I did a sort of reverse marking. I asked her if she was wearing any jewelry (this was before I gave up text-only play because of all the ringers out there): When she said that she was wearing a ring - not anything especially personal like a wedding band - I told her to take it off. And it stayed off until I gave her permission to put it on again, which did not happen that evening.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I love teasing by kissing all around the cock. Abdomen, pelvis, top of thighs.

I have a sub who is 22 years younger and this is one of his punishments.

If I was to mark him, it would be the outline of my kiss above and left of his cock.

To remind him he is mine and how he is punished when bad.

His future girlfriends and wife will always wonder.

 

[Master_Doctor]

Ive been in the lifestyle a long time. Ive owned many slaves through the years. Ive never permanently marked a slave showing my ownership. Life being what it is, I have never felt comfortable asking, much less demanding a person permanently take on a mark to show that I own them. After all in 22 years. Ive only ended up with one slave for life (14 years and going).

Im rather old school about it however. Each on of my girls has had a unique individual Collar ( choker necklace) made for them that they wear constantly during their waking hours. I would consider an eternity collar (one that is normally made from Titanium or Platinum and once placed around the neck cannot be taken off... The only way is to have a jeweler cut it off). But that is as far as I will go. I see no need to get a tattoo or branding. I value intelligent women... I would personally never want them to feel like cattle.

 

[AnnieLit]

Ive been in the lifestyle a long time. Ive owned many slaves through the years. Ive never permanently marked a slave showing my ownership. Life being what it is, I have never felt comfortable asking, much less demanding a person permanently take on a mark to show that I own them. After all in 22 years. Ive only ended up with one slave for life (14 years and going).

Im rather old school about it however. Each on of my girls has had a unique individual Collar ( choker necklace) made for them that they wear constantly during their waking hours. I would consider an eternity collar (one that is normally made from Titanium or Platinum and once placed around the neck cannot be taken off... The only way is to have a jeweler cut it off). But that is as far as I will go. I see no need to get a tattoo or branding. I value intelligent women... I would personally never want them to feel like cattle.

It is not up to you to decide how your sub feels about a symbol on her body. Yes, if it is forced on her in some way, she might think about herself as a cattle. But if she comes to you and tells you that she would like to have your mark on her... You might refuse to give her permission to do so, sure. Just don't tell her anything about your cattle idea, because it is rather insulting. To her it is a symbol of what is NOW. She knows that most likely you are not her forever, but if she wants to have a lasting reminder of what was even when she is not yours anymore, let her. Let her have something that will always take her back to the happy time when she was in love enough to offer you her body for marking.

 

[Lady2020]

I'm not a fan of physical marking, permanent or temporary. Word play does it for me in a session. "You are mine" works for me, as well as a few other phrases.

 

[Master_Doctor]

honestly?

It is not up to you to decide how your sub feels about a symbol on her body. Yes, if it is forced on her in some way, she might think about herself as a cattle. But if she comes to you and tells you that she would like to have your mark on her... You might refuse to give her permission to do so, sure. Just don't tell her anything about your cattle idea, because it is rather insulting. To her it is a symbol of what is NOW. She knows that most likely you are not her forever, but if she wants to have a lasting reminder of what was even when she is not yours anymore, let her. Let her have something that will always take her back to the happy time when she was in love enough to offer you her body for marking.

How *I* feel about any mark placed upon my slave... is definitely relevant. Saying how I feel about it is as bad as discounting how she feels about it. I didnt say a word about how she felt or should feel about it. I merely shared how I felt about the it and my experience with MY sub/slaves over two decades. Why should I not be honest about how I feel about such a permanent marking? Should I be dishonest and lie to her? I think not. My relationships are based on love, honesty and caring for each other regardless of other dynamics. Even if we agree that she is my personal property it doesnt change the fact that we agreed to be open and honest with each other.

In a LOVING, CARING relationship, how both parties feel about anything inside (much less that is supposed to represent that relationship) their relationship is valid and has value. I never once have ever tried to decide/ choose for any of my girls how she feels. I resent you accretion that I do.

I suppose you think I should support a slave's desire to have a permanent marking on her body even though I would hate seeing it and feel guilt at being responsible for it. You dont think that she will figure out how I feel about it after the fact? You dont think that would cause serious damage to the relationship? Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has such a mark... in their NEXT relationship? Few, in my experience cherish such markings after the end of the relationship except by natural passing.

Perhaps you might want to be a little less judgmental and just see my post as an equal but alternate view? What a concept... rather than inferring that I attempt to tell my sub/slaves how to feel.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

It is not up to you to decide how your sub feels about a symbol on her body. Yes, if it is forced on her in some way, she might think about herself as a cattle. But if she comes to you and tells you that she would like to have your mark on her... You might refuse to give her permission to do so, sure. Just don't tell her anything about your cattle idea, because it is rather insulting. To her it is a symbol of what is NOW. She knows that most likely you are not her forever, but if she wants to have a lasting reminder of what was even when she is not yours anymore, let her. Let her have something that will always take her back to the happy time when she was in love enough to offer you her body for marking.

I don’t follow your thinking. While of course a submissive is entitled to her own opinion and feelings about permanent markings, how does that lead to the dominant partner setting aside his/her own reservations about leaving said permanent marking and doing it anyway.

Also, I don’t know many people who’ve had a tattoo from a former relationship who don’t regret it. Anecdotally, the few people I know who had relationship based tattoos have gotten them covered. I sure as heck would look at that with regret and not fondness for what was. I still can look back on some moments with previous partners and feel the happiness that was, the satisfaction in giving him what he wanted, and I’m sure happy that I have the memories and that the bruises were temporary.

 

[MeekMe]

I don’t follow your thinking. While of course a submissive is entitled to her own opinion and feelings about permanent markings, how does that lead to the dominant partner setting aside his/her own reservations about leaving said permanent marking and doing it anyway.

Also, I don’t know many people who’ve had a tattoo from a former relationship who don’t regret it. Anecdotally, the few people I know who had relationship based tattoos have gotten them covered. I sure as heck would look at that with regret and not fondness for what was. I still can look back on some moments with previous partners and feel the happiness that was, the satisfaction in giving him what he wanted, and I’m sure happy that I have the memories and that the bruises were temporary.

I’ve contradicted myself in terms of markings. But I understand the post you’re commenting on. I suppose, in this context I see someone that is interested in multiple partners. I, myself, would not want to wear the Mark of someone that wants more than one of me. I’m not against poly.

However, a scar is interesting to me. I’ve watched someone burn scare transform over the years. I’m slightly fascinated by it. The person in question doesn’t talk about the scar, they made the decision at a time when they really shouldn’t have agreed to the mark (not d/s related).

If given the chance, I think I’d be ok with this. But no tattoos. I can’t explain why but a tattoo is just out of the question for me. But a scar? I have scars from less pleasant times in my life, maybe a new one for the happy things can give me a different feeling about my body?

I say this without relationship context. I think I would do this for the happiness of another. I don’t know that that is a healthy ideal or not. At the moment, I suppose I wouldn’t want someone to tell me their negative thoughts about it if they were the person wanting the mark. I can make that decision and live with it because I still have a brain.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I certainly see nothing wrong with markings, temporary or permanent, and I would not judge someone for wanting a permanent mark. I was taking issue with the assertion that a dominant partner should give someone a permanent Mark representative of a relationship even if he/she did not want to.

I’m intrigued by your discussion of a scar... that is quite different from a tattoo. Depending on the context, I could see that being a pleasant forever mark. It’s all so personal and situational.

 

[Dreamliner]

It’s all so personal and situational.

There it is in one simple sentence. Thank you TPH. Surely it is what partners decide between each other, what is right for them. Later, if the situation changes then you manage that situation or change in circumstances.

I had not thought of a scar MM. I need to ponder that now.

Our brain is our largest sexual organ (although some might say our skin is), perhaps people need to use it more often, whether it be subtle or more explicit. But appropriate to the partners, the situation and what you are looking to achieve.

 

[MeekMe]

I certainly see nothing wrong with markings, temporary or permanent, and I would not judge someone for wanting a permanent mark. I was taking issue with the assertion that a dominant partner should give someone a permanent Mark representative of a relationship even if he/she did not want to.

I’m intrigued by your discussion of a scar... that is quite different from a tattoo. Depending on the context, I could see that being a pleasant forever mark. It’s all so personal and situational.

Fuck autocorrect! The word Mark should not have been capitalized. (>_>) I know a Mark.

I agree with you. I was more thinking about the idea of insulting someone for wanting it. Though, there are hucow kinks (it’s pretty hot sometimes) so I imagine there are those out there that would love to be considered cattle.

Scarring, in this case branding, is incredibly interesting to me.

I had not thought of a scar MM. I need to ponder that now.

Our brain is our largest sexual organ (although some might say our skin is), perhaps people need to use it more often, whether it be subtle or more explicit. But appropriate to the partners, the situation and what you are looking to achieve.

I’m glad I could offer something to think about. (o^^o)

 

[hbcacouple]

Markings

We have played with markings. Years ago, we played with a work friend of mine that was interested in crossdressing. I convinced him to get bikini tan lines at a tanning parlor and after they were pretty well defined, we went to Blacks Beach in southern California. We hung out near the gay area and he was suitably embarrassed (and turned on.)
My husband purchased a collar for me and had some dangly charms made that spell BBC and SLUT. On occasion he will change the spelling and will leave it out for me to wear on date night. It is usually a clue as to what he has planned for our evenings entertainment. They are not too bold but someone that stares or examines them can easily figure out what hey spell.

 

[bone251]

Maybe take sex and relationships out of it.

How would you feel if you had a Barney the Dinosaur or Fred Flintstone tattoo from childhood and then grew up?

 

[Orchidea73]

So, what's your stance on marks or being marked - hot or not?

Starting with removable markings like pens, permanent markers or lipstick over to semi-permanent like hickeys, bruises and bite marks or permanent like tattoos or brandings.

Where do you draw the line or what are the requirements for each category?

Never had a problem with bruises and bite marks. I've never even tried to cover them. Shrugs. I like to give and receive. But I've never seen them as marking on purpose. I just loved to bite the man and scratch his back, for example. I respond quickly to the natural smell of the skin and the touch. So if there is a chemistry than the reaction comes natural. It's "primal" I guess.

So, tattoos are out of the question. Marking like pens too, not for me. As for collars, I just happened to love them as accessories. I wouldn't put it to show that I'm somehow yours, but I would put it to "tease" you.

 

[AZsurfer40]

I do like the feeling of ownership but prefer she wears something as simple as an anal plug or garter for me. Reason is my tastes change and I like variety.

Once a mark is made, it's there, one and done. Ho hum.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Highly endorse as long as he gets as much pleasure from sporting them as I get from seeing them

 

[o_pague]

The strength of the relationship, the partnership, relies on trust and confidence in your partner. In my view, this is paramount in a D/s dynamic.

That knowledge you can rely on that partner, not to abuse that trust and confidence where you are safe and secure. That provides the comfort to explore the boundaries together, in an environment you know your psychological and physical health will not be compromised.

Absolutely. Well said.

When I asked the Missus to permanently brand me, we discussed it on and off over many weeks, in fact probably about a year. She's a nurse and was against it at first. After much research on both our parts, I backed off from my original unrealistic request and she lightened her objection as we arrived at doing a small mark in a location normally not observable in public and that only had meaning to us. She used the head of a pin heated to white hot and applied sideways to a count of three, branding me with a tiny t shape (t for "timorous one," one of her nicknames for me when we're playing). Hurt like hell, just as I'd hoped it would, but did not do serious injury, just as she had expected after researching burns. Many years later, the tiny tee-shaped brand remains--always a reminder of my occasional desire to submit to her and of our mutual trust that engaging in D/s behavior is made of.

Our secret was potentially compromised only once when I was asked about it during a physical by a nurse practitioner. I shrugged. Then I truthfully mentioned that I had done a lot of welding through the years, which seemed to satisfy.

 

[skadibound4u]

When I was with a Dom he used to use henna to mark me on my ass with his initials. I also wore a collar with an id tag and I still have the collar as a keep sake but without the tag. I cannot see the reason for permanent markings because life changes and it is a bit like when you get the name of a girlfriend tattooed on you and you break up and have someone new it can be quite embarrising I would guess.

 

[HUNGRYHOLLOW]

When I was with a Dom he used to use henna to mark me on my ass with his initials. I also wore a collar with an id tag and I still have the collar as a keep sake but without the tag. I cannot see the reason for permanent markings because life changes and it is a bit like when you get the name of a girlfriend tattooed on you and you break up and have someone new it can be quite embarrising I would guess.

That’s why I use majic markers

 

[wallstreetguy]

Marking

The only kind of markings I believe in are by using my mouth:
biting and leaving a mark; and telling her that she is mine.
That should be enough.

 

[wallstreetguy]

Yes, my preference. For everyone else, whatever makes you happy.

 

[Moochienanu]

I love big, beautiful bruises that start to bloom almost immediately.
I love dark, reddened capillary-broken skin from teeth.
I love my gorgeous, symbolic tattoo... and I’m fairly certain I always will.
I love how it feels, how I felt receiving each and every mark.
I love how being marked makes me feel like I get to carry the feel of that moment, that time, for longer...even forever.

 

[zali]

I love the feeling I get knowing the imprint of his hand will bloom a bright red on my arse.

I neither want or need anything permanent, but I would wear His collar.