Question about VERY irregular periods

[Society]

My girl has VERY irregular periods, like her last one was only 3 days long, and she hasn't started yet. She's all worried she's preggo right now, I'm not but she is. But is that normal for a 3 day period? She's not on Birth control ethier to help her have regular ones. Whenever we have sex I pull out before I cum, even with a condom on, so I'm not worried. I never put it in her without a rubber on. But do a lot of you females here have very irregular periods? I'm thinking she's over reacting to things currently.


Thanks for your posts in advance reguarding this.

 

[bisexplicit]

I had irregular and painful periods until I went on birth control.
And I would say about half of my friends had or have irregular ones.
So, as far as I can tell, its pretty much normal to not be normal...
If there is a reason shes not on bc, which there are plenty of valid ones, then she should stick with it not and just try to take a few deep breaths and realize her period is normally not coming consistently. If there isn't any particular reason, I would seriously recommend it.
Personally, before going on it the pain I had was /so/ bad I would have to take days off school. But, now, I can take some advil and be fine. Also, it helps with regulation, and with break-outs.

 

[EJFan]

one thing that kinda jumped out at my bro...

Whenever we have sex I pull out before I cum, even with a condom on, so I'm not worried.

does this mean that there are times when you DON'T wear a condom? if so, i suggest that you start making it a habit rather than a once in a while type of practice. precum can get her pregnant too... and however good you are at controlling your ejaculation, precum is gonna do its own thing.

as far as the period thing goes... she has to see the groin-o-cologist about that. the pill can help but she needs to see the doc regardless.

 

[bisexplicit]

EJ: Over in story ideas someone was trying to tell me that it you were "unlikely" to get pregnant if you did the "pull-out" method. For me, I'd like better odds than that, hehe.

 

[SlyKitten]

I used to have a very irregular period as well. I could bleed for 1 day or 7 at a time, have 2 periods in a month or not at all for 3... Maybe a pregnancy test would be a good idea if she feels nervous?

And a quick note on coitus interromptus... not a good idea for birth control. I know you said you use a condom and well good for you. But pulling out before ejaculating; not a very sure way to prevent pregnancies - not to mention STDs!

 

[RamapoNJ]

EJ Fan, he said:

I never put it in her without a rubber on.

I suggest her looking into birth control and if she is so worried that she might be pregnant, why not take the test?

 

[AppleBiter]

3 day periods are not unusual.

 

[Society]

one thing that kinda jumped out at my bro...



does this mean that there are times when you DON'T wear a condom? if so, i suggest that you start making it a habit rather than a once in a while type of practice. precum can get her pregnant too... and however good you are at controlling your ejaculation, precum is gonna do its own thing.

as far as the period thing goes... she has to see the groin-o-cologist about that. the pill can help but she needs to see the doc regardless.

No, I 100 percent of the time wear a condom, I'm NEVER without any.

 

[Society]

She's STD free as well as am I, so we're cool on the STD thing. But like I said, I'm NEVER without a condom, but I'm always not even CLOSE to her vagina when I pull out and cum in the condom.

 

[EJFan]

No, I 100 percent of the time wear a condom, I'm NEVER without any.

ahhh... sorry... i missed that other sentence somehow. reading comprehension isn't my long suit today. my bad.

 

[Society]

ahhh... sorry... i missed that other sentence somehow. reading comprehension isn't my long suit today. my bad.

It's all good But I myself am not too worried, but she's goin crazy about it

 

[AppleBiter]

You know, I think in just about every M/F relationship, you have at least 3 or 4 good pregnancy scares. Comes w/the territory.

 

[Society]

You know, I think in just about every M/F relationship, you have at least 3 or 4 good pregnancy scares. Comes w/the territory.

Yeah, we've had 1 already...

 

[SweetErika]

She needs to go to the doctor. While short and irregular periods aren't unusual, there are lots of things that can cause them, and some are serious. While she's waiting for the appointment, have her take a pregnancy test just to put her mind at ease. She and the doctor can figure something out to regulate her...pregnancy scares are really stressful and can also contribute to irregularity.

Edit: If you've already had a scare, look into a back-up method of birth control with her doctor. When we couldn't afford a pregnancy, we used the pill AND condoms just to be super-safe.

 

[Society]

She needs to go to the doctor. While short and irregular periods aren't unusual, there are lots of things that can cause them, and some are serious. While she's waiting for the appointment, have her take a pregnancy test just to put her mind at ease. She and the doctor can figure something out to regulate her...pregnancy scares are really stressful and can also contribute to irregularity.

Edit: If you've already had a scare, look into a back-up method of birth control with her doctor. When we couldn't afford a pregnancy, we used the pill AND condoms just to be super-safe.

She's getting on BC within 2 weeks, and that'll be back up. Condoms are a must right now, but still remain a must even when she is on BC. But yeah sunday we're goin to the store so she can check to be safe.

 

[EJFan]

It's all good But I myself am not too worried, but she's goin crazy about it

one of my closest friends ever went through this not long after she lost her virginity (with the same guy, in fact) and she came to ME rather than him... she wanted comfort, stability and someone to get the test from the store. me, on all counts.

point is, make sure you're there for her in all ways possible. i'm sure you're doing that already... i just couldn't help but think about my friend and how that whole situation was an indicator of how doomed they were.

 

[Mary Hall]

I have irregular periods due to polycystic ovaries, i either have them once a month or i don`t or i bleed longer than 5 days. It`s a pain in the ass that i`m now taking 2 sets of medication to combat the damn cysts

 

[LunarKitten]

EJ: Over in story ideas someone was trying to tell me that it you were "unlikely" to get pregnant if you did the "pull-out" method. For me, I'd like better odds than that, hehe.

Actually, my husband and I used this practice sucessfully for almost a year - when we decided to start trying to get pregnant - which we were able to do almost immediately.

 

[LunarKitten]

Three to four day cycles are not unusual - unless she usually has them longer or if they were not heavy enough to soak a pad/tampoon in an hour. You can get pregnant when using a condom - eg, I have a 12 year old from just that. Some women do have "false periods" after getting pregnant - usually the result of the embryo attaching itself to the uterine walls to begin forming the aminoic sac for the fetus.

I wouldn't be too worried, if you pull out when using the condom. But you may want to buy her a test. She may just need a little reassureance the test will give her - and also let her know it's ok, that you won't abandon her if such a thing were to happen. Female hormones are a tricky thing, at best. Sometimes she just needs the love and reassurance that everything will be ok, just in case something "impossible" happens.

 

[Lynxie]

I'm in agreement that she should make an appointment to see her doc and have things checked out. Any number of things could cause irregularities in her period... stress, change of diet (anorexic women often stop menstruating altogether), illness, etc. It's best to rule out the bad stuff and have a professional help figure out what to do about it.

I'm like Bi... when I'm not on the pill, my period is horrible. It lasts about 8 days, and I get cramps so bad that I frequently vomit or pass out. In high school, I missed days every month because of it. I was on the pill for 5 years, and was fine... then I went off it for a year (insurance / inaccessibility issues). I went back on this past fall, but had my period for two months straight, so I stopped. I'm seeing my doctor again in a couple of weeks to discuss other pills or other methods of BC. Right now I'm 3 weeks late for my period... I always get a little nervous, but they're late almost every time. When I was 17 I actually went 6 months without getting it... talk about making my boyfriend paranoid. Hopefully I'll find something that'll work this time around.

 

[bisexplicit]

Actually, my husband and I used this practice sucessfully for almost a year - when we decided to start trying to get pregnant - which we were able to do almost immediately.

While it may work well for you, its not something that I'm willing to risk. I'm too young, unable to support myself or a baby, too unstable, want to finish school first...the list goes on and on.
I also feel like its something that shouldn't be put out there as an excellent way to prevent pregnancy, just because, for many people, its not all that effective.

 

[LunarKitten]

While it may work well for you, its not something that I'm willing to risk. I'm too young, unable to support myself or a baby, too unstable, want to finish school first...the list goes on and on.
I also feel like its something that shouldn't be put out there as an excellent way to prevent pregnancy, just because, for many people, its not all that effective.

I wasn't putting it out as an excellent way, I simply said it worked for myself and my husband, in response to the "unlikely" comment. Most people think it doesn't work at all. Yes, it something that has a high risk - the man has to have self control and nerves of steel for this, and this is why not many people use the method or that it fails for them. However, it is a form of birth control. No form of birth control is 100%, unless you completely abstain from any form of sexual contact - someone cumming on your upper thigh but not entering you can still have a chance of getting you pregnant if the sperm comes anywhere close to your vagina. See my post on condoms, it's how I got pregnant with our 12 year old. Birth control pills also have a failure rate of about 2%, IIRC, so maybe we shouldn't use those as a reference either?

But this is a How To thread, so I felt it was a worthy contribution to say it does work for some people, even if birth control methods is a bit of a highjack since the thread is about irregular periods.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I have irregular periods due to polycystic ovaries, i either have them once a month or i don`t or i bleed longer than 5 days. It`s a pain in the ass that i`m now taking 2 sets of medication to combat the damn cysts

Another note in this regard, there are polycystic ovaries and then polycystic ovarian syndrome, which is a bit different. My wife has battled PCOS her whole life and she has had irregular periods among other things. The syndrome went untreated for 15 years and now she has a ton of problems, including infertility.

I've learned so much more about this in the last few months that it's scary! I don't mean to sound alarmist, but this is something that is only recently starting ot be correctly diagnosed and it is extremely treatable. The only reason my wife is having such trouble is that she has gone untreated for so many years.

The key is if she is having irregularities, go see a gynocologist. There's nothing wrong wiht being safe and knowing for sure. It may very well be nothing, but if there is a problem and you catch it early, these things can be treated before they cause any damage.

 

[Society]

Thanks so much everyone

 

[bisexplicit]

I wasn't putting it out as an excellent way, I simply said it worked for myself and my husband, in response to the "unlikely" comment. Most people think it doesn't work at all. Yes, it something that has a high risk - the man has to have self control and nerves of steel for this, and this is why not many people use the method or that it fails for them. However, it is a form of birth control. No form of birth control is 100%, unless you completely abstain from any form of sexual contact - someone cumming on your upper thigh but not entering you can still have a chance of getting you pregnant if the sperm comes anywhere close to your vagina. See my post on condoms, it's how I got pregnant with our 12 year old. Birth control pills also have a failure rate of about 2%, IIRC, so maybe we shouldn't use those as a reference either?

But this is a How To thread, so I felt it was a worthy contribution to say it does work for some people, even if birth control methods is a bit of a highjack since the thread is about irregular periods.

While I may be incorrect in my assumptions, I feel that you were somehow possibly offended by my post. That was not the intent.
I realize no form of birth control is 100% effective, however some are more effective than others.