Question for the ladies

[cheney_dude_2022]

One of the biggest obstacles to good sex is the lack of communication. Women may be a bit worse than men but it is not a big gap. I can only guess at the reasons but sometimes we just do not know what we want or need or we are afraid of offending our partner if we do know and tell him. Men probably have it a bit easier as their orgasms seem to arrive pretty simply. I think women tend to be all over the place and I know it took me a number of years to figure out what worked best for me. As a general rule, women are not taught to be sexually aggressive so initiating sex might not come easy for her.

Island55, communication was difficult at best with her on what she thought good sex was. There was many of times that I wondered if she knew what she wanted. For me, my orgasm was just as elusive as hers was. I could count on one hand the number of times I got her to orgasm.

 

[cheney_dude_2022]

I think sex is mostly mental so with the right build up. I think one of the best tools for a woman to use is anticipation. Set up a date and let him or her think about it all day or even a couple of days. I would think it is important that the anticipation not be a maybe but a solid we are going to get it

I want him to last long enough and do what is needed to make me have a good orgasm. I don't want him to go much longer after that. Then we can rest and do it again and try for another orgasm. If he takes too long, but still can't make me cum, I'm going to fake it and get him to stop. I will give him a hand job or suck his cock to make him cum.

gtnlynn,

She wouldn't do a hand job or a blowjob. If I wanted to get my orgasm, then it was going to be done by me alone..

 

[Islander55]

Island55, communication was difficult at best with her on what she thought good sex was. There was many of times that I wondered if she knew what she wanted. For me, my orgasm was just as elusive as hers was. I could count on one hand the number of times I got her to orgasm.

I believe that many people do find it difficult to talk about sex and especially about what they really want. Probably worse for younger females but it is not strictly a female problem. And she may not have known what she really wanted or was afraid to admit it. Maybe the animal world has the right idea. The female goes into heat. looks for the biggest and strongest male around, gets it done and then says thanks, I will be good until next year now.

 

[Ravinder40]

I just turned 65 and do not need a guy that can last forever. By the time I am ready for the main event. I am petty well aroused and do not need to much time to get off. I do not care to have my orgasm and then have him need an extra 15 or 20 minutes to finish. At my age most of the guys are past the quick cummer stage. Ideally I like to have my orgasm and then enjoy his orgasm as I am coming down from my high. Even better if we both cum at the same time but that only happens occassionly . Even if he cums first, I can usually get off. Even if I use my hand and just enjoy the feeling of him inside of me.

U are really a great person.......

 

[bimale1980ca]

I believe that many people do find it difficult to talk about sex and especially about what they really want. Probably worse for younger females but it is not strictly a female problem. And she may not have known what she really wanted or was afraid to admit it. Maybe the animal world has the right idea. The female goes into heat. looks for the biggest and strongest male around, gets it done and then says thanks, I will be good until next year now.

Talking about sex, fantasizing and so forth are all things my wife struggles with.

 

[blkjames]

At 54, im leaning this way right now but on occasion, still enjoy that "marathon "fuck(last night for example with my I guess hes considered my cub hes my something if you know what I mean). I have been into much younger guys last 10 years or so and there is a mix of these "kids" that can go all night popping 3-5 times, those that can pop twice in 20 mins and done(most common for that age group, and the rare, "3 pumps and a dump", never good.

You love me then,I can cum quickly or loooog time. It's up to the ladies and what they want.

 

[Bettytheboo]

I'm lucky and I can orgasm easily a number of times. I think if a man can remain hard and continue having sex with me after he orgasm's is mind blowing. But if goes on for too long I become exhausted and turn to jelly but it's still enjoyable for me. I like it when my man becomes hard for me about two or three times a night, it's very nice to know a man finds me that sexy.

 

[bimale1980ca]

I'm lucky and I can orgasm easily a number of times. I think if a man can remain hard and continue having sex with me after he orgasm's is mind blowing. But it goes on for too long I become exhausted and turn to jelly but it's still enjoyable for me. I like it when my man becomes hard about two or three times a night for me, it's very nice to know a man finds me that sexy.

Wow, yes that is hot. Not all men can get hard that often or quicky too.

 

[Islander55]

Talking about sex, fantasizing and so forth are all things my wife struggles with.

When I was younger, I certainly was not as open and willing to talk about sex as I am now. I think experience has a lot to do with it. It takes awhile to figure out what we really want as opposed to what society thinks we should want. I have always had fantasies but it is only in the later years that I have been willing to share them. Your wife is probably just like many women.

 

[UtilityCurve]

When I was younger, I certainly was not as open and willing to talk about sex as I am now. I think experience has a lot to do with it. It takes awhile to figure out what we really want as opposed to what society thinks we should want. I have always had fantasies but it is only in the later years that I have been willing to share them. Your wife is probably just like many women.

Always wondered if my partners (from the earliest, so that goes back to the McKinley Administration ) interrogated my fantasies as a vicarious pleasure.

I55, to your mind, is society explicit about what women "should" want? From this side of the room, such expectations as there are (and there are) seem rather vague. Having a high body count or having extramarital sex are transgressive, but the message has always been kinda fuzzy about what number is "high" and extramarital condemned for both sexes, not women particularly.

 

[Islander55]

Always wondered if my partners (from the earliest, so that goes back to the McKinley Administration ) interrogated my fantasies as a vicarious pleasure.

I55, to your mind, is society explicit about what women "should" want? From this side of the room, such expectations as there are (and there are) seem rather vague. Having a high body count or having extramarital sex are transgressive, but the message has always been kinda fuzzy about what number is "high" and extramarital condemned for both sexes, not women particularly

Quite frankly I am not sure what society expects or wants any more. It seems to be all over the place. And sexuality is probably one of the more confusing issues. I think many women claim to support traditional sexual mores but then end up having affairs for one reason or another. Not all women but I think the number might surprise many people. When I first started teaching, I remember being shocked to hear to young women discussing the plans to go to Newport for the evening and get laid. Neither were married but they were both in relationships.

 

[bimale1980ca]

It seems we talk about men having extra marrital affers often. Men with wives having sex with other women or other men. You have to remember that it always takes to Tango. The other person in that affair be it male or female is either single or not single but making choosing to have that affair. Granted maybe one could not be telling the truth to the other.