Question for the ladies

[alain88]

Speaking from a man's point of view, I can see a woman with big breasts or a nice ass and instantly get aroused. If she was willing, I would do her right there not even knowing the woman. I'm sure most guys are like that. Is there anything a man can do or look like that would make a woman feel the same way?

 

[M's girl]

Speaking from a man's point of view, I can see a woman with big breasts or a nice ass and instantly get aroused. If she was willing, I would do her right there not even knowing the woman. I'm sure most guys are like that. Is there anything a man can do or look like that would make a woman feel the same way?

I'm sure there are women who can feel/be like that, but I'm not one of them. Sure, I can like a man's appearance and think "well there goes a fine one" but do I (instantly) want to have sex with him? Not really.

I have fucked on first dates though, so when instant attraction is there I'm not one to wait for months, but there has to be at least the intention of a relationship of some sort. I have never been interested in anyone just for a quick fuck.

 

[Eilan]

Is there anything a man can do or look like that would make a woman feel the same way?

Housework. Seriously.

 

[M's girl]

Housework. Seriously.

So you fuck the plumber, carpenter and guys like that?

 

[Eilan]

So you fuck the plumber, carpenter and guys like that?

Only if my husband asks nicely.

Watching men do the domestic stuff--vacuuming, laundry, etc--gets me going. Men doing women's work. French maid uniform entirely optional.

 

[SesameStreet]

Speaking from a man's point of view, I can see a woman with big breasts or a nice ass and instantly get aroused. If she was willing, I would do her right there not even knowing the woman. I'm sure most guys are like that. Is there anything a man can do or look like that would make a woman feel the same way?

Not for me. I am simply not geared that way.

 

[alain88]

I didn't think so. Wonder why that is? I thought maybe a woman looked for a big bulge in a guys pants or something, but then again, from what I read on these posts most girls think size doesn't matter. I rarely notice a woman checking out my crotch like I do a woman's tits or ass, so I guess guys and girls are wired different. That being said, there is one girl I work with that I know I've caught checking out my crotch, but she hasn't tried to jump my bones yet, so maybe my bulge isn't big enough. LOL!

 

[Bobmi357]

I didn't think so. Wonder why that is? I thought maybe a woman looked for a big bulge in a guys pants or something, but then again, from what I read on these posts most girls think size doesn't matter. I rarely notice a woman checking out my crotch like I do a woman's tits or ass, so I guess guys and girls are wired different. That being said, there is one girl I work with that I know I've caught checking out my crotch, but she hasn't tried to jump my bones yet, so maybe my bulge isn't big enough. LOL!

Women are wired differently from men. They aren't affected as much by visual cues as we guys are.

You want the girl to desire you and rip your clothes off? Take the time and effort to get to know her. Find out who she is as a person, not just as tits and and ass.

Take her out to dinner and dancing, or just a walk in the park and talk to her. Yes, talk to her, not to her boobies.

Frankly I think women have the right idea, sex with a heavy emotional context sounds a lot better than just plain old sex.

 

[sunandshadow]

Well personally, any pale slender guy with long hair (but no facial hair) has my immediate attention. Bonus points if he's wearing pretty goth/punk clothes. But, I'm not a particularly typical example of female taste. A lot of women seem to react to the "barechested muscular guy in jeans on a horse/motorcycle" look. Or for a more romantic, less sexual reaction a lot of women like to see men doing something nurturing, like playing with a small child (preferably not his child, though), and yeah, a guy who does housework (cheerfully), or a guy who can cook a tasty meal or paint a beautiful picture or sing well...

 

[M's girl]

They aren't affected as much by visual cues as we guys are.

Oh, but I am. I just don't want to jump them right away. There has to be something else that's clicking. And when I'm in a relationship I just don't ever think that way. Why would I, when I've got everything I want at home?

 

[Leah57]

as I said to my dear BF yesterday....

"just cuz you've made your selection, doesn't mean you can't still look at the menu"!

While we both can appreciate a fine specimen of the human form of the opposite sex - but that doesn't necessarily mean that we want to 'jump their bones', either. The best sex in the world comes from working at nurturing a great relationship through open honest communication and trust between 2 individuals.

 

[Tuomas]

I'm sure most guys are like that.

...assuming they have an IQ under 80, perhaps

I think that's a stereotype, really.

What guys look for in a woman is a lot more "standardized", but what gets a girl going is a lot more specific and is connected with her self-identity. Women are attracted to visual stimulus, but there is a lot more differenciation in what they like, so there is no one thing you can do to be "hot".

In other words, what Bombi357 said. And Leah:

The best sex in the world comes from working at nurturing a great relationship through open honest communication and trust between 2 individuals.

 

[alain88]

I'm not talking about great sex. I mean just pure unadulterated lust and I have to have the girl right now. It happens to me all the time and I just wondered if it did for you ladies. You might like to kid yourself that it is a stereotype but I can assure you it isn't....and it has nothing to do with IQ. Most guys I know would go after an attractive woman initially for sex and if a relationship develops well, that's icing on the cake.

 

[Shayol]

Tuomas, I think youre on to something.

I never been the type to worship men like brad pit or whatever, witch a fair share of my friends sure have filled their quota.. Me shaking my head over sutch..

Anyways.. newyears 2007.... I got a lethal shot...

I can not really point my finger on what it was about him that made the ground rock. But tall, dark curly wild hair, black clothes that did show some of a curlyhaired chest, eyes that seemed to burn through my clothes... And i have met a lot of "goth" ppl without this reaction before..
I was truly shocked my my instant reaction, was like i had changed to a different person. I would do anything to just get near him. When i got close to him at the dance floor I could not help rubbing my butt at his groin.. ..

And me that condiser myself as shy among strangers.... sadly/thankfully he just disapered later... Learning this about myself was truly frightning, and at the same time I was thrilled about it. Feeling very alive for the first time in years. If I see him again I am not sure to run away or never let him go

So.. I think it quite pos for females to turn on complete strangers as well...
Atleast I know it would not have taken much of an invitation that night.
I do not think this was a once in a life time.. if it was i will never forget it..

Another thing i have thought of is .. if i had got into a relationship.. would the magic attraction last...??

Ah well.. my input hehe

*daydreams*

 

[Alyx]

No two women are alike in their reactions to men. For myself, I've never felt the urge to jump a stranger and doubt I ever will. If I see an attractive man I may look twice, or maybe three times, but that's about it. And I certainly wouldn't be looking at his crotch.

What a man has in his pants isn't my first interest. What he has between his ears is. My husband is incredibly smart, hilariously funny and blazing hot in bed - listed in order of my preference. If he'd been hot in bed, but dull and uninteresting, we never would have had much of a relationship and it certainly wouldn't have lasted as long as it has.

Before I was married, men had to catch my attention with something more than good looks or the fact that they had a dick. Sex without some sort of connection is boring as hell. I'd rather invest in a good vibrator or two and take care of myself than worry about some lame ass hookup from the bar scene and having to get rid of him as soon as I got my jollies. YMMV, of course.

There is no magic pill or sock stuffing technique you can use to attracted the type of "fuck 'em and leave 'em" women you seem to be looking for. They're out there, but simple supply and demand would dictate that they don't have to look as hard as you do.

 

[cloudy]

What a man has in his pants isn't my first interest. What he has between his ears is.

Good lord, thank you.

Any man staring at my boobs or my ass is about as interesting as Beavis and Butthead to me. No way he's getting within touching distance. I've been stared at like that, and all it makes me feel is like I need to take a shower.

Yuck.

 

[M's girl]

No two women are alike in their reactions to men. For myself, I've never felt the urge to jump a stranger and doubt I ever will. If I see an attractive man I may look twice, or maybe three times, but that's about it. And I certainly wouldn't be looking at his crotch.

What a man has in his pants isn't my first interest. What he has between his ears is. My husband is incredibly smart, hilariously funny and blazing hot in bed - listed in order of my preference. If he'd been hot in bed, but dull and uninteresting, we never would have had much of a relationship and it certainly wouldn't have lasted as long as it has.

Before I was married, men had to catch my attention with something more than good looks or the fact that they had a dick. Sex without some sort of connection is boring as hell. I'd rather invest in a good vibrator or two and take care of myself than worry about some lame ass hookup from the bar scene and having to get rid of him as soon as I got my jollies. YMMV, of course.

There is no magic pill or sock stuffing technique you can use to attracted the type of "fuck 'em and leave 'em" women you seem to be looking for. They're out there, but simple supply and demand would dictate that they don't have to look as hard as you do.

Amen to (all ) that!

 

[Lurnk]

Women in general tend to dig deeper than men when it comes to attraction. Nonetheless, it's a very good thing for scores of men that intelligence, personality, etc. can mean anything and everything.

I've experienced insta-lust a handful of times when the right set of physical attributes touched my cross hairs. Half the time, though, they doused the flames the moment they spoke.

 

[eudaemonia]

I thought maybe a woman looked for a big bulge in a guys pants or something,

Maybe once in a while in passing but not as a rule.

I've experienced insta-lust a handful of times when the right set of physical attributes touched my cross hairs. Half the time, though, they doused the flames the moment they spoke.

Post of the thread!

 

[SesameStreet]

Women are wired differently from men. They aren't affected as much by visual cues as we guys are.

You want the girl to desire you and rip your clothes off? Take the time and effort to get to know her. Find out who she is as a person, not just as tits and and ass.

Take her out to dinner and dancing, or just a walk in the park and talk to her. Yes, talk to her, not to her boobies.

Frankly I think women have the right idea, sex with a heavy emotional context sounds a lot better than just plain old sex.

You hit the nail on the head. Most women need to think that the man sees them as a person and not just as a walking sex toy. Sex with a heavy emotional quality is SO much better than just a bang with someone that is just a set of boobs and a vagina. It is good to read on here that some men realize that.

 

[SesameStreet]

I'm not talking about great sex. I mean just pure unadulterated lust and I have to have the girl right now. It happens to me all the time and I just wondered if it did for you ladies. You might like to kid yourself that it is a stereotype but I can assure you it isn't....and it has nothing to do with IQ. Most guys I know would go after an attractive woman initially for sex and if a relationship develops well, that's icing on the cake.

And what about those women who are more the Plain Janes? Are most men so shallow that they won't even think about these women. If so you are missing out because many of the Plain Janes are dynomite in bed. And have some brains too.

 

[sunandshadow]

And what about those women who are more the Plain Janes? Are most men so shallow that they won't even think about these women. If so you are missing out because many of the Plain Janes are dynomite in bed. And have some brains too.

A huge percentage of arousal is visual - there's really no denying that (except for blind people I guess). A man or woman can get someone's attention in lots of ways other than looks, but looks are rather unavoidably what we notice first every time we encounter a person. And evaluation of those looks is not something people decide to do, it's mostly instinctual/subconscious what you like and how pick or not you are. Given that there are a ton more overweight men with short hair around than skinny men with long hair around, I would be much better off if I could change what I considered attractive, but I can't.

 

[Lookingforideas]

I had a neighbor at one time that when i first saw him I thought damn hes hot but that was it. Then when i started talking to him and getting to know him was when I got that unbearable lust for him. Because his attitude and personality was has hot as his looks were.

 

[alain88]

The sad fact is plain janes will have to work harder to be noticed. I love big tits so a rather plain looking woman with nice boobs has a good chance with me. That being said, once someone gets to know a person and personality comes into play all bets are off. What I was talking about was just the purely immediate physical reaction I get to a beautiful woman. I'm jealous in a way, because, to repeat, even with clothes on I can see big tits or a nice ass. I was wondering what us men can do to get you ladies to lust after us just on a physical attribute. I guess a speedo would be too obvious! LOL

 

[bobsgirl]

No two women are alike in their reactions to men. For myself, I've never felt the urge to jump a stranger and doubt I ever will. If I see an attractive man I may look twice, or maybe three times, but that's about it. And I certainly wouldn't be looking at his crotch.

What a man has in his pants isn't my first interest. What he has between his ears is. My husband is incredibly smart, hilariously funny and blazing hot in bed - listed in order of my preference. If he'd been hot in bed, but dull and uninteresting, we never would have had much of a relationship and it certainly wouldn't have lasted as long as it has.

Before I was married, men had to catch my attention with something more than good looks or the fact that they had a dick. Sex without some sort of connection is boring as hell. I'd rather invest in a good vibrator or two and take care of myself than worry about some lame ass hookup from the bar scene and having to get rid of him as soon as I got my jollies. YMMV, of course.

There is no magic pill or sock stuffing technique you can use to attracted the type of "fuck 'em and leave 'em" women you seem to be looking for. They're out there, but simple supply and demand would dictate that they don't have to look as hard as you do.

Assuming you're the Alyx I think you are, does your hubby know how lucky he is?

Nice to see you posting.