Question of the day: Does size or skill matter more

[Astroboy]

How do you describe feelings that vary from person to person?

This is understandable as everyone has their own idiosyncrasies...I like to know what's worked in the past or works for other people...I would so love to be able to understand what a woman feels...what is it like to a have a hard shaft inside and be able to pulse around it...what its like to have a nubbly button that can cause so much sensation.

I agree that a combination is much better than just hard shafting (although a good pumping session does get me coming). Its also good when a woman takes control/can move as well...dancing without moving your feet but making the toes curl

I don't mind a bit of noise...as long as you don't SHOUT in my ear...groaning and grinding turns me on...why should the talk be labelled "dirty"... I think "Fuck me harder, faster" gives good clean instruction "Fuck me harder big boy" brings a smile to my face and "Slide that slithering salami, into my soaking slit" willhave me rolling of the bed in laughter...its a good piece of alliteration though...

BTW
LTR I really like your avatar

 

[lovetoread]

BTW
LTR I really like your avatar

Thanks,it suits me.

As far as your sayings...

"Fuck me harder big boy" is my favorite. I use it all the time.

But your saying of "Slide that slithering salami, into my soaking slit" is gonna have to be tried....<laughing>

 

[darrenfate]

It seems like the best times are those in which we last longest. I agree with LTR, on this. Huge explosions of passion have their place for sure, but the thought of long sustained love making is a real turn on.

Say LTR, why don't you slide on over here and we can push each other to new heights? After all, perfect practice makes perfect!

BTW, what are you reading now? , Darren

 

[lovetoread]

It seems like the best times are those in which we last longest. I agree with LTR, on this. Huge explosions of passion have their place for sure, but the thought of long sustained love making is a real turn on.

Say LTR, why don't you slide on over here and we can push each other to new heights? After all, perfect practice makes perfect!

BTW, what are you reading now? , Darren

Oh are you saying you have the skills needed to practice with?

Its a long slide from here but if you think you can handle it....

 

[kaaskop]

skill or size?

Hello,

one thing I have experienced: most of those, who are big, don't care about the skills. those who are smaller, need the skills and they care about it.
i think i am average (i never measured, since i don't really care), but i never had complains, so ....

kaaskop

 

[Sabineteas]

Re: skill or size?

Hello,

one thing I have experienced: most of those, who are big, don't care about the skills. those who are smaller, need the skills and they care about it.
i think i am average (i never measured, since i don't really care), but i never had complains, so ....

kaaskop

Ok, to elaborate:

I like foreplay, touching, kissing, licking, squeezing. That helps to get me ready. Then you can slide that salami into me. But don't just pump it in and out, vary the motion, try to hit my clit with your pubic bone<god I love that>. Movve from side to side, rotate inside me. Talk dirty to me. Kiss my nipples, my neck, my ears, my lips. Hold my bum while you are moving inside me. Touch my clit with a finger if you can't hit it with your pubic bone.
Even a finger in that other place does something for me. If we are doggy, pull my hair, spank me a little<no bruises please>. Tell me how good I feel to you. Anything sensory will make it better for me.

Now, do I orgasm? Not every time, but you can make me feel so good if you do a lot of the above that I don't care.

Last, when we are done, offer to sleep on the wet spot. I will love you forever if you do that.

 

[howndawg]

my two cents

I've always thought skill to be the most important aspect. If you have size but don't know what to do with it, 1) you could hurt somebody and 2) your not going to bring alot of pleasure to your partner.

I really think the best skill you can possess is how to read your partner emotionally. Know what they like/don't like. Most of the time you can tell what sorts of activities they like by the type of personality they have. Everybody's different - that's evident by reading the various posts on this board. The one common thing that we all share is the want of orgasm. How we get there or what brings us to that point is different.
As for myself, I like variety. Sometimes I like to be soft and sensual with alot of carressing and light touching, other times I want to just roll them over and go like dogs. But the bottom line is to always make sure you comply with the mood of your partner.

ok, I've rambled enough....have a pleasant evening!

 

[PowerOfOne]

SKILL!!!! I do not entertain the idea of being split asunder by a huge cock. Most huge cocks live only in someones imagination anyway. Bring me the skill, I promise I will not laugh at the size.

 

[ALeeInAStorm]

Very Important Topic

I am going to pop in and say what I have to say and pop out again.

I agree, skill is much more important than size. The are many aspects that fall under the topic of skill. I won't bother to list those as I am sure we are all pretty familiar with what we think makes great sex. That is the key.

There is now the aspect of size, Size does make a difference as well. There is that perfect fit for everyone. I am sure we all now about how girth can make all of the difference in the world.

As a gay male I have had good and bad experiences no matter the size or the skill. Not to be too graphic but, I have always found very short penises to be very annoying. Very large penises can be very painful and then there are the penises that I am sure were not meant to be placed in a human, but were by some cosmic mistake.

I also agree with the statement that was made earlier, usually men with big penises are so impressed with their size that they never bother to aquire skills to please their partners.

 

[PowerOfOne]

RE: Size or skill

"It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog. "
- Mark Twain (1835-1910)

 

[Mae13]

Sabine's Point!!

Oooh, Sabine hit on a wonderful point I feel like elaborating on...that sometimes elusive creature called "The Orgasm"! Some combination of Tasmanian Devil and Whooping Crane you ask?! No, it's much better than that!!

BUT!

It is not the ONLY thing that makes the sexual experience enjoyable! It seems so many people have a hard time believing this one, why?! Yes, they are *wonderful*; yes, I would be a bit frustrated if I never had experienced one in an encounter; and yes, sometimes after a sexy night with a lover I want to feel one take me over so strongly the neighbors hear me scream...whoops, there I go digressing again! (Please forgive me? )

I guess my point is this: sex and orgasm can be compared to that timeworn example of racing through life to get to the destination, only to realize you missed all the glory of the trip!

In my experience, there is nothing more aggrivating than having a fellow so wrapped up in ideas that he *couldn't* have been big/skilled enough because I didn't come that it washes away all the previous enjoyment in the end! Sometimes this can take the form of sulking, or that "well, was it good for you?" sort of thing...sometimes an agressive attempt to MAKE it happen (which kills the mood quicker than about anything I could imagine!)...sometimes into some melancholy, weeping diatribe of "how I can't seem to please you"...I mean, honestly! What part of all that whimpering/moaning/gasping/begging for more/yowling/howling did you not understand?! Just because the "Big O" didn't happen, does that mean all my other pleasure was wasted? Hell no!

Sometimes with the right touch a person hits start to 'O' in 30 seconds...sometimes the fun of the game can be an entire day (or weekend if you're lucky!) of playing, touching, indulging, devouring, loving...all without that form of release. As a matter of fact, restraining from orgasm through lengthy playsessions makes for one unbelievable grand finale when it all 'cums' together <Double entendre intended, of course!>

I guess what I'm tryin to say (In way too many words!) is:
Enjoy the hell out of the trip. If the end of the road showers you with ecstasy, enjoy the hell out of that too, but realize it has no effect on the beauty of the journey.

Mae<Long-Winded>13


P.S. And Sabine? Utilize the living room floor more often...or perhaps the dining table, the kitchen counter....the back yard maybe? Then noone has to sleep on the wet spot, wheeee! Lol

 

[Sabineteas]

Mae

Mae, I don't use the living room floor much at all, I hate rug burns<laughing>.

I understand you completely. Guys, the woman doesn't have to orgasm everytime. Believe it! Although an orgasm is fantastic for a woman, listen to Mae. Listen to your woman. If she is squirming under you, in front of you, panting, moaning<let your imagination and experience run wild here>, she is probably really enjoying what you are doing to her. That is what is important.

I don't have to cum everytime I make love or fuck. Sometimes just the intimacy is enough. But remember, I still and so does any woman, have to have foreplay. We are not get our clothes off and stick it in me people.

Think about what is erotic. Some of the best times I had with a man was partially dressed, teased, made so so excited and then taken. But in every one of those cases, my partner made me want him so bad I would have done it on a sidewalk with people walking by us.

Make us want you! Then let us love you.

 

[lovetoread]

I don't have to cum everytime I make love or fuck. Sometimes just the intimacy is enough. But remember, I still and so does any woman, have to have foreplay. We are not get our clothes off and stick it in me people.

Think about what is erotic. Some of the best times I had with a man was partially dressed, teased, made so so excited and then taken. But in every one of those cases, my partner made me want him so bad I would have done it on a sidewalk with people walking by us.

Make us want you! Then let us love you.

Well to respond about the foreplay,I like enough to make sure it wont hurt going in,but I am not into a long pre-sex act. Usually a wonderful back rub and being thrown over whatever is near is good enough for me.

I think being really turned on,and no it doesnt have to be by touch, is the most important thing. Give her a sexy letter,whisper in her ear,heck take the kids away and let her have some personal time and things will go well.

The most important thing is to show that you want her, and act like she is the most important thing on your mind.

The mind is a very underused when it comes to the act of sex.

 

[cactiphile]

The most important thing is to show that you want her, and act like she is the most important thing on your mind.

The mind is a very underused when it comes to the act of sex.

Nice to hear that from some one else.

I was going to say, size? skill? phooey.
How about 'being there', making that person feel like they are
are the centre of your universe?

The other thing no-ones mentioned is communication.
From experience, this is a vital thing with size, everyones different
you have to learn how to please each partner .

On the mental side of it, from a male perspective the teasing and the gradual buildup the longer the better, teasing and anticipation make things all the sweeter.

c.

 

[lovetoread]

On the mental side of it, from a male perspective the teasing and the gradual buildup the longer the better, teasing and anticipation make things all the sweeter.

c.

Ah a valuable piece of advice....

 

[UnBonTipo]

The Truth

as a gifted man on the skill side, with an average (at best)-sized cock, let me say, with 100% certitude, size matters. it pays to not kid oneself.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Skill comes before size for sure......

A friend dated a guy a few months back that was no bigger than her tumb when fully erect. But he had other skills that did not need the assitance of his 3rd thumb. She said in the 20 odd years of being sexually active he was one of the best lovers she had ever had.

 

[Dynamite]

I would have to say actually, skill. Not so much in performance or anything. Sex begins in the brain like Dr. Ruth says. A lot has to do w/ whether or not you are actually turned on by that person.

Some think they have skill, but actually don't. Kissing is my big thing. If he can't kiss decently, I don't let him hit any bases. He's out of here.