Questions for JMohegan

[DiscusDave]

1 - hardihar

2 - I bring my own.

3 - A little over 20 years ago. And you?

I would love to go back and fight as a minuteman in the American Revolution. That who time period just seems so incredible to me.

Let me preface my next question by asking what some of your favorite foods are?

Then... if you had to give up one of your favorite foods for the rest of your life (could not it it anymore... just stop cold turkey *no pun intended*) what would it be?

Maybe these definitions from Merriam-Webster will help the food discussion. I've read a good number of food magazines & love watching the Food Network. It seems to them that each word below has its own connotation.
Gourmet: a connoisseur of food and drink.
Gourmand: one who is excessively fond of eating and drinking.
Foodie: a person having an avid interest in the latest food fads.

Is foodie really in the dictionary? Wow! The things you learn. And I had never even herd of a "gourmand." Guess I'm a little bit of the first two.

 

[intothewoods]

<laughs> You should hear English in Korean ads.

JMo, how do you feel about tea? Or tisanes? (Tisane: an infusion [as of dried herbs] used as a beverage or for medicinal effects.) Personally, I adore tisanes. I avoid actual tea as much as possible.

Maybe these definitions from Merriam-Webster will help the food discussion. I've read a good number of food magazines & love watching the Food Network. It seems to them that each word below has its own connotation.
Gourmet: a connoisseur of food and drink.
Gourmand: one who is excessively fond of eating and drinking.
Foodie: a person having an avid interest in the latest food fads.

Ooh, a tea snob. That's hawt. I think of a gourmand as about the same as a foodie, frankly, since many foodies just dabble in cooking. Mostly they're all about the eating. I really like to cook and am a fresh new ingredient fanatic, but am not at all a fancy, complicated food person.

Trying to get people to like me, I guess.

I go through cycles, often enough I'm in "I don't give a fuck" mode, but it gets lonely.

I really didn't know that about you. Feelings of loneliness are tough, but I think it's important to like yourself, as trite as that sounds. So a bit of I don't give a fuck is a good thing.


Question for JM: Did you ever feel any shame about your preference for D/s or kink?

If anyone else here never felt shame, I would like to know if they have an idea why that is, where that came from.

 

[JMohegan]

Question for JMohegan: how do you like your coffee?

Please don't tell ITW, but I'm not an espresso fan and don't even grind my own beans.

I take my coffee with a bit of 2% milk.

JMo, how do you feel about tea?

I like very lightly sweetened iced tea. Honest Tea is my favorite brand.

Thanks for the gourmet/gourmand/foodie definitions. I knew the first, but not the other two.

I would love to go back and fight as a minuteman in the American Revolution. That who time period just seems so incredible to me.

Let me preface my next question by asking what some of your favorite foods are?

Then... if you had to give up one of your favorite foods for the rest of your life (could not it it anymore... just stop cold turkey *no pun intended*) what would it be?

The HBO series "John Adams" is out on DVD. I highly recommend it for someone interested in that period of time. I'd be interested to know if it changes your mind about wanting to go back.

My favorite foods are fresh berries. If I had to choose, I'd keep the strawberries and blueberries and give up the black.

Question for JM: Did you ever feel any shame about your preference for D/s or kink?

For D/s or control issues, no. But I felt shame as a sadist for years, yes.

Have you felt shame on the other end?

 

[rida]

Question for JM: Did you ever feel any shame about your preference for D/s or kink?

If anyone else here never felt shame, I would like to know if they have an idea why that is, where that came from.

Embracing D/s was just like discovering that I liked doggy style: a different flavor.

The hardest was getting over enjoying sex in my young discovery days, and once married, that being married didn't mean to have to out-grown open relationships or poly desires. Once I was ok with that, the rest has just been details (puzzling, but not shameful).

Please don't tell ITW, but I'm not an espresso fan and don't even grind my own beans.

I take my coffee with a bit of 2% milk.

Your secret is safe with me
And confession for confession ... I at times drink Instant Kiddie Barley Coffee

 

[DiscusDave]

If anyone else here never felt shame, I would like to know if they have an idea why that is, where that came from.

I've felt a little shame and anxiety as I've been discovering my Dominant and sadistic side this past year and a half, because some of my closest friends (who I've known for years) don't really know about this side, and it would be difficult to explain to them. Especially one of my very long term and close friend who talks regularly and openly about how happy he is that he's not into "weird shit" or "kinky sexual things." (his words) But I understand where those views have come from for him and I feel confident that in time when I'm more sure of myself and my interests they will be informed. But for the time being I feel a little ashamed... but mainly because I feel like I have to hide this from those who are close to me and care about me.

 

[intothewoods]

Please don't tell ITW, but I'm not an espresso fan and don't even grind my own beans.

I take my coffee with a bit of 2% milk.

I like very lightly sweetened iced tea. Honest Tea is my favorite brand.

Thanks for the gourmet/gourmand/foodie definitions. I knew the first, but not the other two.

The HBO series "John Adams" is out on DVD. I highly recommend it for someone interested in that period of time. I'd be interested to know if it changes your mind about wanting to go back.

My favorite foods are fresh berries. If I had to choose, I'd keep the strawberries and blueberries and give up the black.

For D/s or control issues, no. But I felt shame as a sadist for years, yes.

Have you felt shame on the other end?

This is very difficult news for me but I will try and soldier on.

I feel like s&m is more acceptable in some circles I run in, but giving up control to a man is a little weird. At least to the extent it would be articulated. I personally feel some discomfort (was a lot, now is much less) in the dichotomy between nice, normal mom professional and D/s as well as the attraction to kink.

Embracing D/s was just like discovering that I liked doggy style: a different flavor.

The hardest was getting over enjoying sex in my young discovery days, and once married, that being married didn't mean to have to out-grown open relationships or poly desires. Once I was ok with that, the rest has just been details (puzzling, but not shameful).




Your secret is safe with me
And confession for confession ... I at times drink Instant Kiddie Barley Coffee

I enjoyed sex before but I had a lot of self-imposed restrictions and parameters to that enjoyment.

I've felt a little shame and anxiety as I've been discovering my Dominant and sadistic side this past year and a half, because some of my closest friends (who I've known for years) don't really know about this side, and it would be difficult to explain to them. Especially one of my very long term and close friend who talks regularly and openly about how happy he is that he's not into "weird shit" or "kinky sexual things." (his words) But I understand where those views have come from for him and I feel confident that in time when I'm more sure of myself and my interests they will be informed. But for the time being I feel a little ashamed... but mainly because I feel like I have to hide this from those who are close to me and care about me.

Just my perspective, but if I had to do it again I would not tell anyone about the bdsm interest, except for my closest friends that I gab about sex with (a limited group) who are accepting and "alternative" to some degree or another. I went through a period of time where I told some other people in an effort to be understood and accepted, but in the end I feel like their token freak friend. And fuck that, you know? There's almost a certain salacious enjoyment on their part and it really annoys me. I have had to reestablish boundaries so that they would learn that my love life is not a fucking punch line. For me, it is a question of privacy and on a need to know basis.

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

Ooh, a tea snob. That's hawt. ... Did you ever feel any shame about your preference for D/s or kink? If anyone else here never felt shame, I would like to know if they have an idea why that is, where that came from.

Tea snob? rofl Never considered myself one. But I am very picky about what I like. That really refers to everything in my life though. I know exactly what I like, and don't like, and am willing to try most new things at least once. My favorite brand is Bigelow. Not all tea companies seem to realize, or care, that they need to individually wrap each tea bag to keep the essential oils trapped. Those are what give tea their flavor!

As for being kinky, I detest having to hide that side of me. And while I don't consider myself really sadistic I am quite looking forward to doing certain things to our new sub. I figure the "shame" part of it has a lot to do with the way I was raised. It's been hard trying to justify what I like to myself.

... I like very lightly sweetened iced tea. Honest Tea is my favorite brand. -- Thanks for the gourmet/gourmand/foodie definitions. I knew the first, but not the other two. ...

You're quite welcome. Not sure I've heard of that brand. Trying to find herbal teas over here is oddly very hard! They all adore real tea. Blech. I do like those Southern style "sweet teas" though. Mmm.

 

[Marquis]

I'm a big fan of gourmet tea and start almost every morning and end every evening with a cup. I get looseleaf teas from Teavana, a retailer in my local mall that I think is nationwide, and order some from SpecialTeas.com

I enjoy the flavor of all teas, black, green, white, oolong, whatever. I also enjoy some herbal varieties like rooibos and mate, but not crazy about the hibiscus/fruit melange type brews although they can add some good flavor to a brew made for ice tea.

One of my favorite teas to chill is the Morrocan Mint from Teavana which is a fairly inexpensive mixture of Chinese gunpowder green tea and dried mint leaves.

 

[Netzach]

I like teas that taste like campfire. I have a bunch of this Russian Caravan that's so heavy on the gunpowder M won't sit near me.

I was also a huge fan of honest tea but I recall them not putting any sugar in anything back in the day and then they did, so I fell out of love when I needed them to be like that and then sugar was in everything except maybe the mint.

I don't like mint tea. It has this armpit-y quality to me. Which is sad, I know the benefits and feel like I should like it.

 

[rosco rathbone]

He's got PM's off for some reason....


Wanted to send you this link, Jmo

http://trueslant.com/juliansanchez/2009/12/16/the-politics-of-ressentiment/

 

[Netzach]

RR links are the best.

 

[JMohegan]

He's got PM's off for some reason....


Wanted to send you this link, Jmo

http://trueslant.com/juliansanchez/2009/12/16/the-politics-of-ressentiment/

Haha! Ohh, that's brilliant!

Here's to expanding one's french vocabulary.

 

[yourmissl]

Schadenfreude???

The "Politics of Schadenfreude"?


I'm... Oh, God. Sometimes just so embarrassed.


Fun thread.

JMohegan, if you could spend an afternoon with any person, living or dead, who would it be?

 

[WriterDom]

I like teas that taste like campfire. I have a bunch of this Russian Caravan that's so heavy on the gunpowder M won't sit near me.

I was also a huge fan of honest tea but I recall them not putting any sugar in anything back in the day and then they did, so I fell out of love when I needed them to be like that and then sugar was in everything except maybe the mint.

I don't like mint tea. It has this armpit-y quality to me. Which is sad, I know the benefits and feel like I should like it.

I have mint growing in the garden right now. Probably peppers too. I've lost interest in it at this point.

 

[rosco rathbone]

http://bostonreview.net/BR29.3/perlstein.html

 

[JMohegan]

http://bostonreview.net/BR29.3/perlstein.html

And yet.... elections are still won in the middle, 60 is the new 50, Wall Street's got both sides of the aisle on a leash, and Walter Cronkite is dead. What hope is there, really, for meaningful achievement through democracy in this country?

This is a hell of a one-two punch, Rosco, this and the Mother Jones piece. I've been politically active my entire life, and consider awareness and activism to be a moral imperative. But lately, I've been thinking it's time to check out.

 

[rosco rathbone]

And yet.... elections are still won in the middle, 60 is the new 50, Wall Street's got both sides of the aisle on a leash, and Walter Cronkite is dead. What hope is there, really, for meaningful achievement through democracy in this country?

This is a hell of a one-two punch, Rosco, this and the Mother Jones piece. I've been politically active my entire life, and consider awareness and activism to be a moral imperative. But lately, I've been thinking it's time to check out.

I keep voting Democrat for petty reasons: Limbaugh Republicans are so fucking smug when they win, and so delightfully rageful when foiled.

 

[intothewoods]

I keep voting Democrat for petty reasons: Limbaugh Republicans are so fucking smug when they win, and so delightfully rageful when foiled.

Gah, no, they just rant and rave about Hitler and socialism. Or are Glen Beck Republicans a different breed?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Gah, no, they just rant and rave about Hitler and socialism. Or are Glen Beck Republicans a different breed?

As far as I can tell, the Beck people are the conspiracy heads who get off on right-wing scholarship and specious interpretations of history and the Limbaugh types are just your basic Southern frat-boys (a breed I know all too well as a graduate of one of our nation's finest southern state schools.)

 

[JMohegan]

I keep voting Democrat for petty reasons: Limbaugh Republicans are so fucking smug when they win, and so delightfully rageful when foiled.

Ha. I'd say the Supreme Court is as good a reason as any.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I love the way this guy's mind works:

http://www.spectacle.org/1200/agre.html

http://web.archive.org/web/20010726030451/http://www.indymedia.org/print.php3?article_id=3159

http://grassrootsjournal.org/canvas-article-02.htm


This is the best analysis of the rhetorical style of online conservatives I've ever seen: http://home.att.net/~hugh2you/jargon1.txt

 

[intothewoods]

As far as I can tell, the Beck people are the conspiracy heads who get off on right-wing scholarship and specious interpretations of history and the Limbaugh types are just your basic Southern frat-boys (a breed I know all too well as a graduate of one of our nation's finest southern state schools.)

Hmmmm, that's really interesting. I have probably been too isolated amongst my fellow elitists. You know, I just realized that the only person I know who drinks lattes is a Republican. Anyway.

 

[Netzach]

You're forgetting the important shut-in demographic, and people who answer 0-1 when asked how many friends they have. IE: my family.

 

[rosco rathbone]

http://afterthefuture.typepad.com/afterthefuture/

"Institutional Corruption", Thurs Jan 28

 

[JMohegan]

http://afterthefuture.typepad.com/afterthefuture/

"Institutional Corruption", Thurs Jan 28

I'm about halfway through.

Audio's helpful. I've been taking out my disgust on dirty pans while I listen.