Questions for mainly ladies...

[Teddybear1626]

Ladies these question is for you...

1.I have a man that wants me to take the lead all the time but i'm very shy and always wait for him to start things how do i get things started? He would also like me to blindfold him and do my thing while he sits there but i dont know what to do to make his motor run! help

2. He wants me to strip for him, but i'm very self concious how do you ladies get over that?

3.We are very much into oral sex any ideas on how to spice it up? just last night i tried altoids on him and he loved it! any others?

 

[Vixandra]

Well, 42 looks and no posts, I figure I'll take a shot at it. Here's my thoughts:

1.I have a man that wants me to take the lead all the time but i'm very shy and always wait for him to start things how do i get things started? He would also like me to blindfold him and do my thing while he sits there but i dont know what to do to make his motor run! help
Being with someone intimately should be a thing of trust (unless its one night stand type of thing but that's a different thread). To trust someone else you have to trust yourself first. Know that you're sexy and alluring in your own right and you will be. Confidence shines through. If S/O wants to be blindfolded go for it. THe lack of sight may highten his other senses. So bring out the feather, ice cubes, bubbly champagn, whatever floats your boat to run along his body. If you're not sure what will "make his motor run" then experiment. Tell him to give you verbal/vocal feed back on how much he likes what you're doing.



2. He wants me to strip for him, but i'm very self concious how do you ladies get over that?
Find some music that makes you feel like dancing. Celein Dions' "Falling into You" is a good one. "Seduces Me" is another. Wear something that doesn't have 1001 snaps/ties/whistles to it that you can get out of alone. Would be rather funny to have to ask his help getting out of your little black dress.
Practice in front of a mirror with a chair, imagening he's in it if that'll help you. Rehersal can be a way to figure out that, hey, I can't move like that without falling over him in a not so good way.

3.We are very much into oral sex any ideas on how to spice it up? just last night i tried altoids on him and he loved it! any others?
hmm... spicy oral sex. If you've a bench seat in your vehical, things can get fun while he's driving, if he has enough concentration. Would advise doing this at night though, away from major freeways. Those back paved country roads can come in handy.
Can also add the aforementioned chapagn (which I can't spell). The bubbles in the bubbly create a very interesting sensation against one's most sensative skin.

Well, hope this helps or at least gives you some ideas.

 

[Teddybear1626]

thanx for the tips i'll let you know how it goes!

 

[angela146]

1. Every once in a while, try putting the moves on him but tell him that you are doing it for your own pleasure more than his. Lay him back and enjoy him. Play with his body, explore, touch all of those areas that you would like to touch if only he would hold still.

That might help you build up your confidence in yourself. You will probably find out how incredibly easy it is to please him even when you aren't trying.

2. You get over it, in part, by getting good at it.

As Vixandra said, practice in front of a mirror. I would take it a step further. Admire your own body while you do it. Strip for the woman in the mirror and watch her strip for you.

A very big thing: practice putting both hands behind your back and unhooking your bra without bending or twisting. It takes a lot of work to get your balance and not shove your tits out awkwardly.

Bend from the waist (not the knees) when lowering panties. Turn sideways sometimes and look at him over your shoulder.

Figure out how to keep the crotch of your panties from sticking between your legs.

As much as possible, keep the legs together and knees locked, even when bending over.

If possible, allow your clothes to drop to the floor rather than lowering them. This is particularly effective with blouses. Once the buttons are undone, put your hands behind your waist with arms streight and shrug your shoulders so that it slides down behind you.

Remember that it's also sexy to put clothes on.

One of my favorites: Enter the room topless except for a plain bra. Carry a stack of pretty bras with you, lots of styles and colors, neatly folded, and put them on a stand within reach.

Then, put them on and take them off one at a time. Do each one a different way. Sometimes facing away, sometimes to the side sometimes streight on. Sometimes lower the straps first, sometimes unhook first, sometimes hold the cups over your breasts, sometimes cover yourself with your hands.

Ask him what he likes best: which bra(s) which style(s) which orientation(s). Hopefully he'll just babble and say "all of it".

You can do the same with panties.

Finally, wear heels while doing this. Make the heels the second to last thing you remove (the stockings come last), or, leave the stockings and shoes on as you make love. A lot of guys like fucking a woman with her shoes and stockings on.

3. Tea and icecream treatment: Take a cup of hot tea and a bowl of icecream. Have him sit down. Kneel in front of him and alternate. A mouth full of tea, go down for a while, a mouth full of icecream, go down for a while. Back and forth. The change in temperature may send him out of his mind.

Also, if you don't like swallowing, make him come into your mouth while it's full of icecream. The cream will hide the taste and texture and let you swallow it without feeling or tasting it.

Make sure it's vanilla and that he can see it leaking from the corners of your mouth. He won't know how much of the white stuff is come and how much is icecream.

When you're done swallowing, pull off of him and use your finger and tongue to get every last drop of white stuff off of your face. Actually, the leakage will probably be all ice cream but he doesn't need to know that.

Howzat?

 

[angela146]

Every time I see the title to this thread, I misread it. Immediately the vision comes to mind of a bunch of women wearing red flannel checkered shirts and singing:

"She's a lumberjack and she's OK, She sleeps all night and she works all day."

 

[PhilLusty]

1. Every once in a while, try putting the moves on him but tell him that you are doing it for your own pleasure more than his. Lay him back and enjoy him. Play with his body, explore, touch all of those areas that you would like to touch if only he would hold still.

That might help you build up your confidence in yourself. You will probably find out how incredibly easy it is to please him even when you aren't trying.

2. You get over it, in part, by getting good at it.

As Vixandra said, practice in front of a mirror. I would take it a step further. Admire your own body while you do it. Strip for the woman in the mirror and watch her strip for you.

A very big thing: practice putting both hands behind your back and unhooking your bra without bending or twisting. It takes a lot of work to get your balance and not shove your tits out awkwardly.

Bend from the waist (not the knees) when lowering panties. Turn sideways sometimes and look at him over your shoulder.

Figure out how to keep the crotch of your panties from sticking between your legs.

As much as possible, keep the legs together and knees locked, even when bending over.

If possible, allow your clothes to drop to the floor rather than lowering them. This is particularly effective with blouses. Once the buttons are undone, put your hands behind your waist with arms streight and shrug your shoulders so that it slides down behind you.

Remember that it's also sexy to put clothes on.

One of my favorites: Enter the room topless except for a plain bra. Carry a stack of pretty bras with you, lots of styles and colors, neatly folded, and put them on a stand within reach.

Then, put them on and take them off one at a time. Do each one a different way. Sometimes facing away, sometimes to the side sometimes streight on. Sometimes lower the straps first, sometimes unhook first, sometimes hold the cups over your breasts, sometimes cover yourself with your hands.

Ask him what he likes best: which bra(s) which style(s) which orientation(s). Hopefully he'll just babble and say "all of it".

You can do the same with panties.

Finally, wear heels while doing this. Make the heels the second to last thing you remove (the stockings come last), or, leave the stockings and shoes on as you make love. A lot of guys like fucking a woman with her shoes and stockings on.

3. Tea and icecream treatment: Take a cup of hot tea and a bowl of icecream. Have him sit down. Kneel in front of him and alternate. A mouth full of tea, go down for a while, a mouth full of icecream, go down for a while. Back and forth. The change in temperature may send him out of his mind.

Also, if you don't like swallowing, make him come into your mouth while it's full of icecream. The cream will hide the taste and texture and let you swallow it without feeling or tasting it.

Make sure it's vanilla and that he can see it leaking from the corners of your mouth. He won't know how much of the white stuff is come and how much is icecream.

When you're done swallowing, pull off of him and use your finger and tongue to get every last drop of white stuff off of your face. Actually, the leakage will probably be all ice cream but he doesn't need to know that.

Howzat?

I think I just fell in love LOL

these would all be awesome for me........

 

[Teddybear1626]

i really liked the hot and cold idea i cant wait to try that one out!

 

[angela146]

I think I just fell in love LOL ... these would all be awesome for me........

Well, send a copy of this thread to your girlfriend and grovel.

Also, picking up your socks and putting the lid down would be nice.

 

[ReadyOne]

Toping you bf...

Start with the hooker mindset. This is a job. The more effective I am at getting him off, the better. I'm not here to orgasm; I just have to be wet enough to get him in.

Detach youself from the situtation and become a movie director. Become a sports coach with a playbook to call from. Become a scientist conducting experiments.

Make a rough plan. Pkay it through in your head; even take down notes if you need to. Collect the materials your plans needs, blindfold, ice, ties, lube, and lay them out like you're setting up to perform surgery.

When the time comes, just plunge in and follow your plan, run your experiments, rehearse the scene, etc. Keep you mind busy and on the task.

This sounds cold and mechanical (which it is) but it works to get you moving and to start you moving again when you stall.

By the time you've got him tied spread-eagle on his back and teased his cock into a blue bulb, you'll have no trouble lowering yourself on it and riding it for your own pleasure as well as his pleasure.

After a few times, practice will let you connect again as lovers even as you control the encounter. You will find youself making love again, and using sex as a form of adult play. (Toys are toys!)

And BTW, don't put anything off the list which your imagination or reading brings to mind. He will accept almost everything which doesn't trigger some great inner fear of his or push a hard limit.

The fact you're doing something, anything, will get him hot. Exactly what you are are doing to him won't make much difference.

A lot of things will work just fine, particularly the second or third time when you know more about their effect on him. (For example when and how hard you pinch his nipples, or locate his prostate with your fingers up his ass.)

So don't write something off or quit too soon. Try it again at a different times and in a different ways before you move it to the bottom of the list.

In summary...

1. Attitude -- nothing you do is going to be wrong. You will not fail; you will only find that somethings work better than others.

2. Organize and prep. Falling back on a plan when you start to freeze up.

3. Don't panic and quit too soon. Keep going. Give everything a good chance to work.

4. Doing kink, by defination, is never embaressing or disgusting. Somewhere people are doing and enjoying virtually everything you can think of. No reason why you shouldn't be one of them.

 

[Teddybear1626]

I havent had the pleasure of trying anything out yet hopefully soon though ladies thank you again for the tips!