Questions for the ladies

[Hiroyuki]

Hi, I am not new on the forum and surf here a lot. Recently I have been wondering about how you ladies felt on the first time that you were approached with the idea, concept, suggestion, request or attempt of anal sex. I am curious to know as many opinions as possible about this subject. Bellow there is a small group of questions that you might answer if you want.

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?


2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?


3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?


4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?


5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?


6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?


7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?


8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.


9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.


10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?


11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).


I apologize for the long questionnaire, I am curious to find as much as I can from opinions from others about this.

 

[Kailey_86]

1-How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?
i was 19...a month ago or so.

2-What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?
i try not to think about it too much. i didn't like the idea at first but once i tried it, i loved it.

3-What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?
He was experienced and i trusted Him. i figured that He knew what was going on and He would take it slow at first so that it wouldn't hurt. If it hurt the first time, i don't think i would have ever really wanted to try it again.

4-In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?
It hurt at first so we added some lube which made things a lot less painful. He started out slow and then started speeding up. i loved it. i think i might have even had a couple of orgasms from it, surprising for me. As is said earlier, if it hurt, i would have been reluctant to try it again.

5-After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?
Well, i felt a little sore afterward but not too bad. i definately felt empty though. i also felt proud because i had overcome a fear. ii didn't think i would like anal and i was very afraid of being hurt. As for feeling dirty, yes, i felt a little dirty, both literally and figuratively speaking.

6-If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?
N/A

7-If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?
i felt great after the act and i did want to repeat the experience but not that night. At that point it had been a long late night and we were both getting tired.

8-Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.
i only experimented with anal stimulation on my own after someone told me to. i don't really like doing this. Actually, i hate doing this. i don't know why. i like to keep the back door closed unless i have guests.

9-Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.
He was. i responded by saying over and over "i'm scared, it's going to hurt, be gentle."

10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?
Mmm...i only had anal sex that once. The rest is for me to know.

11-Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).
i haven't had it enough times to say.

 

[Mazuri]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?

36 and curious

2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?

I enjoy it but not on a daily basis. It's something we use to spice things up or for variety.

3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?

As it was me, I suppose I felt pretty ok

4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?

We went very slow and well lubed and so it was a very pleasant experience. It only gets better.

5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?

None of the above. I worried a bit about the hubby thinking it was ick, but we talked and were both ok. A bit sore, but not excruciatingly so...just sore.

6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?

First was so N/A.

7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?

Yes we wanted to and did and have. After, we felt that we'd brought something new and fun into our sex lives we didn't have before.

8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.

Yes I did before I suggested it to my husband to ensure I wouldn't freak out on him. I bought a small vibrating anal plug to see if I could relax and get used to the feelings.

9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.

I was and he was fine with it. His only concern was my pleasure.

10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?

When the urge strikes.

11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).

We don't plan it but it's only occasional for when we want something different.

 

[Hiroyuki]

Thank you for the replies.

 

[sunandshadow]

Boy, am I the only one it hurt like heck despite having plenty of lube? I found a finger or a bullet vibe pleasant, but a cock stretched me painfully at first.

 

[wickedlady31]

butt sex

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it? I saw it in porn at 14, thought the people were crazy. First HAD anal sex when I was 28


2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it? I think it is a bit gross but it feels good!


3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex? My husband tried it before when he was unattached.....I was curious about it and when he asked me..I said I'd try it.


4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences? The first time, was a bit uncomfortable. It felt like a knife going in..once in...and the muscles adjusted to the feeling of something in there..it was okay. I did not realise just how sensative my clit became with a dick in my ass. The more I have had anal sex, the pain is still there upon entry but my orgasms are very intense.


5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?
After my first time I felt happy. I tried something I did with no one else ever..shared it with my husband....My ass hurt and some hemerrhoids formed but it was not so bad...the worst was farting cum....eeew! I know..gross

6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again? SEE ABOVE


7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience? I reluctantly tried it again....and the second time my husband sort of forced himself in..it hurt to the point I cried....it took me about 6 months before I tried it again!


8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt. NO


9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea. HE did


10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine? We have Anal sex once in a while....it is sort of a treat and changed pace from routine sex. We have kids..our sex is not predictable..we try to do it twice a week.


11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).
SEE above

 

[Ast87]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?

i was 19 - it was my boyfriend and it made me curious

2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?

its enjoyable...not really disgusting.

3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?

it kind of shocked me, but only because I had no idea he wanted to try it. i didn't think badly of him because he didn't push the issue with me

4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?

it felt a bit weird because it was the first time i'd even had anything in my ass...but my boyfriend was very gentle and slow and was very aware of how i was feeling

5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?

i felt fine...kind of excited because i knew that it was something my boyfriend and I had shared something special. i wasn't sore at all

6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?

7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?

I wanted to do it again because I enjoyed it and it was something different what what we usually did

8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.

No I hadn't


9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.

It was my boyfriend, because I had mentioned one night about a girl that I knew that was 'famous' for doing it all the time. i was a bit suprised that he wanted to try it, but he was very curious and that made me curious too.

10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?

we only do it on the odd occasion...we've only done it maybe four times in the past year

11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).

its only an occasional varitation...we enjoy it but prefer PIV sex or oral much more

 

[JessieSexpot]

I must admit, the thought of anal sex makes me very nervous. I have never done it and don't think I ever will.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?

I was 17 and my husband asked me for it. I said yes right away. I loved him and that was all that mattered, he doesnt hurt me, then ftera while our boyfriend filled my pussy, all of it on my wedding night (of course he and I had HOURS alone befor our boyfriend showed up lol)

2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?

I love it. After my husband and I spilt i didnt have it again till i loved another person, and again , i loved it. ts the trust thing with me, along with the fact i love anal.


3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?

I loved him, I still do. He had balls for asking me and takeing a risk. I loved him more for being honest about his desires


4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?

It felt as if he was coming home, no pain at all, and we didnt have any extra lube and he aint small by any means


5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?

I felt closer to my husband, not dirty in any way


6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?
n/a

7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?

i did when i fell in love wih another man after me and my husband split

8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.

i played with fingers, hairbrushes, as i was young, still in my mid teens, (married at 17 fyi) i liked it okay, nothing grand till i had the real thing


9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.

My husband did, i agreed, i will do anyhting for him


10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine

in a dry spell atm

11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).

occasional thing, maby once a week

 

[southernsky]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?

I was 17, and i felt curious about it.

2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?

I think it's just a bit disgusting, kind of taboo, and that combination turns me on like crazy.

3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?

I don't know- I've had to BEG for it in order to get it :sigh:

4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?

My first experience- he "slipped" and rammed it in, and it hurt like none other. I waited three years after that to try again, and did it on my own with a vibe a bunch of times. The next guy I tried it with also "slipped" even though I warned him to be very careful and watch out for that. I was pissed as hell, and we only tried it a few times after that. I do it on my own now.


5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?

I felt a little weirded out and a teeny bit dirty, but I came so fucking hard from it that I wasn't thinking much


6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?

I decided to try it again because I hate not being able to do things that I think should be pleasureable. I used a tiny vibe and practiced getting used to the feeling.

7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?


8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.

I used a small vibe on my own and still do

9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.

I seriously had to beg. One partner responded well to the idea, but couldn't be gentle. The other partner really didn't want to do it on the premise that it was "gay", and I was honestly really upset by that attitude.

10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?

We used to have PIV sex very often- almost every night- and anal maybe five or six times total.

11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).

I have to be in the right mood for anal- I don't just crave it all the time like PIV sex or oral. When I do, nothing else will satisfy me. But that is only about once every two months or so.

I apologize for the long questionnaire, I am curious to find as much as I can from opinions from others about this.

Why do you want to know? Glad to help

 

[gemaussieslut]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?

18, felt kinda weird about it... but didnt think it unnatural or anything just werid

2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?

love the idea of it, huge turn on.

3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?

didnt worry me, i didnt want to be the first to bring it in to the relationship but had thought about it and explored on my own so i was happy about it and glad that he was comfortable enough to ask

4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?

totally painful and i freaked, he entered and that was it i couldnt handle anymore...but the fact i want to do it doesnt put me off it at all, next time was totally comfortbale and up for trying again


5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?

i was sore for about 5 mins i guess, i didnt feel dirty or anything, just felt shit that i couldnt take it and i freaked out

6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?

tried again, more lube, more comunication... tried again coz i want to, know it turns him on and i love the thought of it and playing with myself with a butt plug is a huge turn on so why not this

7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?
n/a

8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.

vibrating butt plug and a vibe aswell.. and i started experimenting way before he brought it up... feels awesome. i love the feeling... hence the want of anal and willingnes todo it

9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.

he indirectly brought it up (phone sex) and then approached me later on the subject about whether i had done it and what i thought about it.

10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?
atm n/a

11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? n/a

 

[Hiroyuki]

Thank you for all the replies to my thread, the reason of this thread is to make my new gf that is very scared at the subject more comfortable with anal sex. With my ex gf we did anal sex but my current one is curious but scared, bringing up my ex makes a bit uncomfortable for me so I am having her to read how others feel about it as well giving her time to think. (Thought she does enjoy when I rim her in our foreplays.)
Once again thank you for the replies and I hope to get some more.

 

[Hiroyuki]

Hi everyone,
once again thank you for the replies, now I am with a new question for you ladies.
How you feel in being the giving end of any kind of anal stimulation on your partner and how your partner feels about it?
How you and your partner feel in trading roles with the extimulation? (I don't mean only doing your partner with a strap on, but any kind of anal stimulation.)
I said before that I like rimming my GF and my ex and I enjoy teasing her, but I am not much comfortable when recieving, at least the rimjob, some teasing is for sure pleasurable and intense.

 

[Mirandy]

Thank you for all the replies to my thread, the reason of this thread is to make my new gf that is very scared at the subject more comfortable with anal sex. With my ex gf we did anal sex but my current one is curious but scared, bringing up my ex makes a bit uncomfortable for me so I am having her to read how others feel about it as well giving her time to think. (Thought she does enjoy when I rim her in our foreplays.)
Once again thank you for the replies and I hope to get some more.

Well, the fact that she's "curious" is a very good sign!

My first experience with anal sex came about from seeing it in a movie. My BF and I saw it, got turned on and he used his fingers. The next time, we went further. My first time didn't hurt at all. He was gentle, slow and very passionate. We were both madly in love and all forms of sexual expression just seemed so natural. I remember feeling even closer to him afterwards, overcome by emotion, and just wanting to be cradled. We were both sexually inexperienced so although he was rather endowed, he didn't last all that long which may have helped. I would definitely suggest you don't draw it out for your GF's first time either. By letting her know that you don't have to engage in 'marathon anal' the first time, it may help cut down on some of her anxiety, especially if she's worried about how her body will react afterwards. It really shouldn't be painful, though maybe -- just maybe -- a little bit uncomfortable.

You mentioned rimming, but what about insertion? Has she let you insert anything yet, like a finger? That is, of course, a great place to start. She'll get used to the feeling of being penetrated anally (possibly making her crave more) and you'll get a good idea of how big of an object she can handle depending on how many fingers (or how big of a toy) you're able to use. Now this is just my opinion based on my experiences, but keep contact with her clitoris while you're penetrating her to make insertion easier. Do everything that you know drives her absolutely crazy -- talk dirty, bite her neck, whatever. You not only want her relaxed, but also very turned on so that she can really let loose. (And by all means try to give her an orgasm while whatever you're using is in there so she can see just how amazing that feels! Your GF doesn't know what she's missing!)

For my first time my BF was spooning me and I think that also helped so my advice would be to let her choose a very relaxed position, too -- doggy may not be best for her first time.

I'm new to posting, but I hope this helped. Good luck.

 

[Hiroyuki]

Thank you for the reply Mirandy.
I already told her when I first mentioned that if we have anal sex is because we both want and feel good doing it, as more I love doing it I don't want to make her do something that she doesn't want to. I already said that if she is doing just for me we don't have to do it.
For our first anal sex whenever it happens It will be focused intirely in making her enjoy the experience, right now it is just rimming when I eat her out, some tickling with my fingers and some penetration with one finger and lots of teasing, mostly when I am licking her or we are having sex.
I can tell that she is enjoying that so I am slowly adding more stimulus so she can get used to feeling pleasure with anal. No toys for us yet but quite often I add more flavor with some fruits or honey.
I am quite sure that she is now enjoying when I play with her ass and lick her there, hopefully in sometime she might ask for me to rim her. For me that alone is a big step forward.

 

[Amora]

MY experiences

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?



2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?



3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?


4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?



5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?



6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?


7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?



8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.



9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.



10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?



11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).


I apologize for the long questionnaire, I am curious to find as much as I can from opinions from others about this.

Ok, my answers:

1, I was around 26
2, Love it, quite frankly
3, He's my husband so I love him, I was a little unsure at first however.
4, First experience was amazing, we read a lot online, lots of lube and some anal play over the leading up to months. I controlled the whole thing and I think he was quite surprised at the time as it wasn't a planned first time. I didn't find it painful at all.
5, My ass was fine because of the lube, no problems. I remember feeling a little strange about it, but the feeling of how good it felt made up for that.
6,
7, Definitely wanted to repeat, and have.
8, Not before the idea was suggested I hadn't, but once it was I became curious and started to read about it and so on.
9, My partner, originally I was against the idea but over several months of gradually increasing ass play the actual first time was entirely instigated by me.
10, Almost every time we have sex.
11, Regular.

The main thing I would say is work up to things, if you or your partner have a virgin ass don't go straight for anal penetration, start off with some gentle stroking during oral sex, then a finger tip at the entrance and so on. That way you start to see the enjoyment in it rather than anything else.

Also, personally I don't always think that a big plan and production for the first time is the best way to go, otherwise you are both already tense and have put pressure on yourselves nd it's less likely to work for you.

Amora

 

[Amora]

OK, and more

Hi everyone,
once again thank you for the replies, now I am with a new question for you ladies.
How you feel in being the giving end of any kind of anal stimulation on your partner and how your partner feels about it?
How you and your partner feel in trading roles with the extimulation? (I don't mean only doing your partner with a strap on, but any kind of anal stimulation.)
I said before that I like rimming my GF and my ex and I enjoy teasing her, but I am not much comfortable when recieving, at least the rimjob, some teasing is for sure pleasurable and intense.

Well, I for one only started doing this for my partner recently. I have to say that we both really get off on the idea, took him a littlw while to get used to the idea but he enjoys it now. I think he is still slightly uncomfortable with it but more from the what he's been taught to think point of view then the actual experience point of view. We have done rimming and a little finger insertion, he also enjoys wearing a butt plug whilst making love, as do I. Maybe in time we'll work up to other things.

Amora

 

[Hiroyuki]

Few new questions

Hi, first I want to thank everyone for all the replies until now. I am a bit curious about new methods of getting clean for anal sex, with my ex gf she didn't told me what she did. When together was just a shower and washing there with my fingers and soap. (Also a nice foreplay too.)
While I do 'wash' my gf when we bath together I need some ideas for a correct cleaning to suggest when she agrees to try anything else than my finger and tongue.

 

[femmedeviant]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?
2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?
3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?
4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?
5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?
6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?
7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?
8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.
9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.
10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?
11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).

My answers:
1 - I was 17, and curious
2 - I love anal almost as much as I love regular sex!
3 - It was with my boyfriend at the time, and if he wanted to try it so did I. I trusted him not to do anything that wasn't OK with me first.
4 - I can't really pinpoint my first time, but it didn't hurt, we made sure there was enough lube and didn't go too fast that first time.
5 - I felt no different after trying anal sex than I felt beforehand. I had been curious and knew if I tried it I would not feel bad about it, and it didn't hurt so that was not a factor.
6 - n/a
7 - I did it a few more times after the first experience. Then later I met my fiance and it turned out he was really into giving anal as well, so it's part of our routine now.
8 - I have experimented with anal by myself but not before actually trying it with my ex that first time.
9 - The night I met my fiance we were at a party and ended up watching some anal porno on the web and he asked if I was into that. Later... I let him know!
10 - As for how often, its about 1/2-1/3 of the times we have sex we also have anal. And we have sex pretty much every day.
11 - Anal sex is definitely a part of our regular routine, like I said its about every couple of days.

Now mind you not every girl would like this as well or as often as I do! Make sure you've got the OK each and every time, I know I need that day off every once in a while! Hope this helps!

 

[Lookingforideas]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?

I was 18 and I brought it up to my hubby.


2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?

I love it when I can control how deep and fast it goes.


3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?

Like I said I was the one that asked for it.


4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?

Actully went very smooth and kinda happened on accident, one morning with the early morning grinding you know the kind before your actully awake, it just went in.


5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?

Anus was sore for a couple of days, but other then that I felt fine.


6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?

First was very enjoyable...


7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?

Loved it came the first time it went all the way in, I repeated it very often with the ex-hubby, trying to talk my now boyfriend into trying it.


8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.

I experimented with a very small dildo and enjoyed it very much.


9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.

Like i Said I was and it took some talking to get him to even try.


10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?

Still trying to get boyfriend to try it.


11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).

I have to really be in the mood for it so yes its an occasional variation, but no i dont plan it. But god I really am wanting it how can I convince boyfriend to at least try it?

 

[Darla_Darling]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it?


I remember the first time I found out about it, I was about 8 or 9 and I was watching an AIDS segment on a current events show. It was showing how health volunteers were handing out free condoms and lube to gay guys. I knew about gay people, but it had never occurred to me how gay guys had sex before then. I asked me mother's friend who happened to be in the room at the time and she explained it to me. At first, I was really disgusted by it and thought it sounded scary and weird. Later, I was interested in it and in my late teens, after I started having sex I was keen to try it.


2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it?

I don't find the concept disgusting at all. A lot of people really like it. Personally, I don't enjoy it.

3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex?

If a partner asked me to do anal, I wouldn't be offended, but I would say no. I don't like it.

4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences?

The first, and only, time I ever tried anal sex was with my boyfriend when I was 21. I really wanted to try it, and it was my idea. He was a little reluctant at first, but after I convinced him that I really wanted to do it, he agreed.

We used a lot of lubricant, but it was still really difficult. When we finally managed to carry out the act, he only had just got in there when I began to experience the worst physical pain I have ever felt in my life! I screamed at him to pull out immediately. After that, I ran to the bathroom and sat on the toilet, in a daze. I guess I thought that I might lose control of my bowels or something.

At that stage, I fainted, fell off the toilet and hit my head on the side of the bathtub on the way to the bathroom floor. When I woke up, my boyfriend was crouched above me in a panic. Apparently, I had had what appeared to be a minor seizure. He was so upset. It took me about a half an hour to calm him down. I felt so embarrassed. Needless to say, I have never ever wanted to repeat the experience.

5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself?

I didn't feel dirty, just in a lot of physical pain!

6- If your first experience wasn’t pleasant or enjoyable did you repeat the act? If you did what changed from the first time and what made you decide to try again?

I have used anal beads and anal sex toys, but never tried anal sex again.


7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience?

While, since the only time I ever tried it, it was the most painful thing I had ever felt, I would never want to repeat the experience!

8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt.

I had used an 'anal trainer', which felt good, but I found it was nothing like actually having the anal sex.

9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea.

Like I said before, it was my idea. (Obviously, it was a bad idea.)

10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine?

Guess this doesn't apply to me.


11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands).

I don't know if I will ever try it again. Maybe I would consider it, but not if my partner was well-endowed. He would have to be quite small.

 

[aurenard]

1- How old were you when you first faced the concept of anal sex and how you felt about it? I was probably around 10 and read about it in an adolescent sex book like "It's Perfectly Normal!" or something similar.


2- What you think of the act of anal sex? You find it disgusting? You enjoy it? I initially didn't think I would want to have it because I didn't realize that it was a source of good sensations. I don't find it disgusting and I definitely enjoy it.


3- What you thought about the person that asked for anal sex? At first I thought he'd watched too much porn but then I figured out that he knew a lot about having good sex and I decided to trust him.


4- In your first experience how it felt? If it was painful, uncomfortable or unpleasant did it changed with more experiences? My first-first experience was about a half second long when he thought my ass could take him and it didn't and hurt like hell so he stopped. That time I was really on edge because we were about to not see each other for a month, so it wasn't an ideal situation. The actual first time was a random morning when we were waking up together. I was very relaxed and I really enjoyed it.


5- After the first experience on anal sex how you felt both physically psychologically? You felt sore, your anus was hurting? You felt ‘dirty’ or bad about yourself? My anus didn't hurt because he had spent a significant amount of time working on getting me comfortable for him. Psychologically I was actually proud of myself.

7- If your first experience was enjoyable how you felt after the act and did you want to repeat the experience? I felt elated that we had found a new source of pleasure and that I could give my partner something I know he really enjoys.

8- Did you ever experimented anal stimulation by yourself with out and before a partner suggested anal sex? If you did what you used on the experiences and how it felt. I did, but briefly and only to keep my ass used to it stimulation while we had some time apart. I've found that I prefer a cock to fingers...they're too pokey.

9- Who was the first to bring up anal sex to the ‘bed’? Your partner or you and how you or your partner responded to the idea. It was my partner and I was very open to it because we like to try lots of new things.


10- Assuming that you enjoy anal sex or at the very least don’t feel any kind of pain on the act how often you and your partner perform anal sex and how many times you have regular sex in your routine? We like to use as many holes as often as possible, so if we have enough time we'll switch between vaginal and anal in one session. Usually that means sex about 5 times a week, anal 2-3 of those times.


11- Is anal sex something as an occasional variation to spice up the sex life or is something usual in your sex life? In either case you and your partner make special plans for anal sex (a day focused only on anal sex, not counting your favorite foreplay) or do it whenever feel like (as having regular sex and deciding to change to anal sex, of course with proper lube on hands). It's definitely something usuall in my sex life. We often have regular and anal at the same time.