*Relationship Venting/Advice Thread.....Lit Style*

[Essa]

Ahhhhhh I didn't realize

I must not know my place yet!

Give it time...you'll learn

 

[FantasySlut]

Give it time...you'll learn

LOL That's just it, I don't want to learn!

 

[Kylan]

LOL That's just it, I don't want to learn!

You don't want?? You mean you girls want stuff??

Dagnabbit, you'd think someone coulda told me.

 

[lovemonster]

Must you rely on us Men for everything? I am sure you are able to go to the bank yourself. You may wear clothing this time.



You are in denial, a common ailment among pretty women such as yourself. Have you tried asking his permission if you could have a drink of water to steady your nerves?




Yes, unless he decides to auction you off...then you must allow other people to do the bidding.



Again you are correct. Your training is obviously coming along nicely, He is to be congratulated for the wonderful care he has given you.

ROFLMAO....

Ahem...sound advice there....

 

[lovemonster]

What do you mean not much It's took me 17 years to learn that


Oh and one more thing, if he disappears for a couple of nights never ever ask where he's been

Essa, you gotta stop praying that he doesn't come back too.....

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

non lit
i dont know what to think anymore,YES he seems sweet...BUT lazy,,,temper and the lying thing?How much more can you take?
I just dont want to see you hurt.

 

[FantasySlut]

ROFLMAO....

Ahem...sound advice there....

What? Sound advice?!?! LOL....Wait!....Are you in cahoots with this man!

 

[FantasySlut]

Essa, you gotta stop praying that he doesn't come back too.....

And pray and pray and pray!

 

[FantasySlut]

non lit
i dont know what to think anymore,YES he seems sweet...BUT lazy,,,temper and the lying thing?How much more can you take?
I just dont want to see you hurt.

Hey Alison...
Not sure if you meant for your post to be responded to or not...

It all really depends on how much this person can take, how much they are willing to put up with. We all have to do what makes US happy inside. We know that no one else can really do it for us

 

[Kylan]

What? Sound advice?!?! LOL....Wait!....Are you in cahoots with this man!

Honestly FantasySlut, I've never seen that gorgeous girl before. You know you're the only girl for me.

Now, did I ever tell you I take a UK size 'S' ring?

 

[Diamond_Girl]

This is driving me nuts! He's told me over and over that he can't live without me, that he loves me and will always love me. Yet, if I do one little thing wrong, if I have a shitty day and can't really attend to his needs immediately, then he wants to bail. I love him and am in love with him, to the point where I'm willing to give up pretty much everything to be with him, including moving to an entirely new area, away from my friends, my job and my family. What the hell am I supposed to do from this far away? It's not like I can wait on him hand and foot from this distance. He seems to forget all the times I have been there for him and wants only to focus on those times when the halo (that I don't want to wear) is a bit tarnished or the pedestal (on which I didn't want to be placed) tips, knocking me off. He adores my humanity and the imperfections that go with that, yet when those imperfections appear, that's it.

 

[duskytip]

This is driving me nuts! He's told me over and over that he can't live without me, that he loves me and will always love me. Yet, if I do one little thing wrong, if I have a shitty day and can't really attend to his needs immediately, then he wants to bail. I love him and am in love with him, to the point where I'm willing to give up pretty much everything to be with him, including moving to an entirely new area, away from my friends, my job and my family. What the hell am I supposed to do from this far away? It's not like I can wait on him hand and foot from this distance. He seems to forget all the times I have been there for him and wants only to focus on those times when the halo (that I don't want to wear) is a bit tarnished or the pedestal (on which I didn't want to be placed) tips, knocking me off. He adores my humanity and the imperfections that go with that, yet when those imperfections appear, that's it.

Have your shitty days and I will have mine. I have been in pain all day today and all I get is why I won't talk with you. I have been jacked up on pain meds and have been asleep most of the day.

Get over me. You have proven yourself as someone who does need to have validation every day. You do need to have someone telling you that you are loved constantly and cannot stand it when I don't bend to your will.

You have always been better with words then I have been so I do know I will lose the public support you will gain by this. Good luck in the future. I and a few others DO know you for you and we are better for having known you and left you. You are something else. I know in my heart that your husband and whom ever else you can give your heart to deserves what they get.

You showed your mettle tonight...Good luck in the future. I love you now and always will, but I will not bend to your will any longer. Read what you wrote and see yourself for who you really are...a woman who is strong and knows who and what she is. You have always failed to see me as a man who is his own. I am reminded of the song "Turn, Turn Turn"

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time to build up,a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate"

You say you are willing to give up everything for me. How can you give at a distance? Turn sweetheart. Turn, I have done this for you. I took 2 months off so I could spend every day with you. I came to you at considerable cost...it was never enough for you. Turn and turn again. I guess the old saying is true....What have you done for me today....I ask this as you have asked of me. When do I make the sacrifices needed to be with you.

After almost 10 months the answer is still the same, What do "I" have to do to be with you, not what WE have to do to be together...everything hinges on me. Get a grip on life. You married the man you deserve.

 

[duskytip]

This is driving me nuts! He's told me over and over that he can't live without me, that he loves me and will always love me. Yet, if I do one little thing wrong, if I have a shitty day and can't really attend to his needs immediately, then he wants to bail. I love him and am in love with him, to the point where I'm willing to give up pretty much everything to be with him, including moving to an entirely new area, away from my friends, my job and my family. What the hell am I supposed to do from this far away? It's not like I can wait on him hand and foot from this distance. He seems to forget all the times I have been there for him and wants only to focus on those times when the halo (that I don't want to wear) is a bit tarnished or the pedestal (on which I didn't want to be placed) tips, knocking me off. He adores my humanity and the imperfections that go with that, yet when those imperfections appear, that's it.

ps...take your pitty party somewhere else

 

[Diamond_Girl]

Have your shitty days and I will have mine. I have been in pain all day today and all I get is why I won't talk with you. I have been jacked up on pain meds and have been asleep most of the day.

Get over me. You have proven yourself as someone who does need to have validation every day. You do need to have someone telling you that you are loved constantly and cannot stand it when I don't bend to your will.

You have always been better with words then I have been so I do know I will lose the public support you will gain by this. Good luck in the future. I and a few others DO know you for you and we are better for having known you and left you. You are something else. I know in my heart that your husband and whom ever else you can give your heart to deserves what they get.

You showed your mettle tonight...Good luck in the future. I love you now and always will, but I will not bend to your will any longer. Read what you wrote and see yourself for who you really are...a woman who is strong and knows who and what she is. You have always failed to see me as a man who is his own. I am reminded of the song "Turn, Turn Turn"

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time to build up,a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing

To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven

A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate"

You say you are willing to give up everything for me. How can you give at a distance? Turn sweetheart. Turn, I have done this for you. I took 2 months off so I could spend every day with you. I came to you at considerable cost...it was never enough for you. Turn and turn again. I guess the old saying is true....What have you done for me today....I ask this as you have asked of me. When do I make the sacrifices needed to be with you.

After almost 10 months the answer is still the same, What do "I" have to do to be with you, not what WE have to do to be together...everything hinges on me. Get a grip on life. You married the man you deserve.

How about some good honest communication? Before when your back was that sore, you were fine the next day. And you've told me I'm not allowed to call when she's there. I wanted to talk to you about what "WE" would need to do to be together, looking at "OUR" options and coming up with a game plan. That's what I wanted with you. It was about taking those few precious hours together, completely uninterrupted, where we had the freedom to say whatever we wanted.

It gets old having to explain myself to you all the time. You thought I wanted a repeat of Friday night. Granted, Friday night was amazing, but no, that's not what I wanted. I simply wanted to be with you, for us to spend time together planning our future. I wanted to look at our truth tables and decide what we're going to do.

You did come to me at considerable cost, and we both agree that it was a fabulous 3 days, the best of our lives. Let's look, though. For the past nearly 17 months, I've been the primary bread winner for the family. All the vacation time I had (more than a week's worth and growing) I lost when I broke my foot, in addition to part of my salary. Short-term Disability only pays a part. I don't have a credit card, only a debit Visa. So, please tell me how I am supposed to take care of the roof over my daughter's head, come to you and still save up money for my move. It'd be wonderful to be with you, but do you supposed that perchance your demands are just a hair unrealistic? I can and have subjugated my wants to yours, including the trip cross-country since neither of us can afford to get me there and pay for lodging.

Maybe you need to get over yourself long enough to realize that I've given you absolutely everything I could. I've sacrificed time with my daughter to be with you. I've garnered the criticism of my in-laws so we could stay in contact during holiday gatherings. I've done more with you than I've done with anyone besides the man I married in the past 10 years. While you were spending time with me online when you took off work, I was spending as much time with you as I could, which meant letting my work slide, making me have to scramble now. You only want to focus on what you've done for me; you don't want to take the time to see what I have done for us. Maybe if you'd sit back and actually look back over the last 10 months, you'd see how much I have done.

You tell me that you've never experienced love like this before, in either the giving or the receiving. I know I've never been so cherished in my life. I think you give more than I deserve, yet you don't think it's enough. You've told me repeatedly that you've never been loved like this before, you've never been so loved before ever in your life. Yet, then you turn around and say that I don't love you enough. I wish you'd make up your mind which it is!

I love you, T, and I always will. All I want is a man who'll love me as much as I love him, and show that. I thought I'd found that in you, but you seem, just like the man I married, to want to look only at what you're doing and feeling all good about having your wants and needs met. I've given you all I can, and I'm prepared to spend the rest of my life giving you all I can, all of me and my love. If that's not enough for you, then there's nothing in the world I can do about that.

 

[duskytip]

Unfortunately, you demand too much. YOU want me to come to you. YOU want me to completely give all of me to you. YOU want me to sacrifice everything, but YOU are not willing to give me what I need from you. Who has made it abundantly clear that she wants things to remain private between us, but who is the one who made it public.

You need the attention sweetheart. I am not going to be that man who makes you the center of his world. YOU need too much and I am not the man you hoped I am. There are reasons wrapped up in reasons behind this. Your vain attempt at validation last night fell on deaf ears. I read what you sent to the hospital. The first few paragraphs were right on, then the fantasies and YOUR own assumptions came out.

Forget about a life together. You do need to talk with someone, but it needs to be a person who will boost your ego and a person who can validate YOU. Any other therapy you attempt will fail.

Good bye sweetheart. I will find the right person for me. I am not going to ever bend like this again. Do not call or write me. You have shown what you are and who you are. Good luck in the future.

I love you and always will, but not at the cost of my soul. You say you are a Christian, but you are not following the "word" You are taking the Bible and rationalizing each and every passage to fit you. BTW, I asked you questions and never did find out your beliefs about them. You did choose to shrug them off and were not able to give me an answer. Just goes to show that you can study all you want, but if you cannot ask the right questions, it is all BS.

I really hope you find the man you are looking for. I hope you can find the man who will always bend to your will. I hope you find someone who validates you every day.

You mentioned my mood swings...I don't have any. Suprise! I am me and I am not your toy. Everything I told you is God's truth and I never tried to hide a damned thing from you.

Goodbye my love.

Good luck.

I love you always and only want the best for you. Find that man who will give you what you need. I was not afraid, I was cautious and I was right in the long run.

 

[Diamond_Girl]

Unfortunately, you demand too much. YOU want me to come to you. YOU want me to completely give all of me to you. YOU want me to sacrifice everything, but YOU are not willing to give me what I need from you. Who has made it abundantly clear that she wants things to remain private between us, but who is the one who made it public.

You made the offers. I just accepted them, darling.

You need the attention sweetheart. I am not going to be that man who makes you the center of his world.

Nope, only room for one person there.

BTW, I asked you questions and never did find out your beliefs about them. You did choose to shrug them off and were not able to give me an answer. Just goes to show that you can study all you want, but if you cannot ask the right questions, it is all BS.

I never had a chance to give them careful study between working, spending time with my daughter and being available to you every second you wanted my time. You got those questions after reading the Bible I gave you for Christmas after you requested it. Where's that Bible now, honey? Is it still hidden in the box so LP doesn't see it?

I love you always and only want the best for you. Find that man who will give you what you need. I was not afraid, I was cautious and I was right in the long run.

I love you always, darling, and I wish you the very best life has to offer. Maybe one day you'll dare to risk grabbing a hold of it.

 

[diamondjim]

How can you be so lucky and yet so foolish

No one asked me but since you made this sooooo public, you know a LOT of people have been watching the development of the realtionship between the two of you. I would love to have someone wanting me so badly that they woke up every morning touching the pillow where my head should be and feeling an emptyness in her heart. Before you thow that away I want you to think about this... I have a friend who has a bottle of very expensive wine that he has coveted for many years. It is almost a love afair. I think he has pictures of the girl who squashed the grapes with her bare feet. Silly? yes, but he is so afraid to open the bottle (maybe the wine will be bad? maybe people will make fun of him for spending so much money on it? is the occasion is special enough?, How will he feel when the bottle is empty?) any way the point is his fear keeps him from enjoying the thing that he publicly profess to "Love"
DJ

Unfortunately, you demand too much. YOU want me to come to you. YOU want me to completely give all of me to you. YOU want me to sacrifice everything, but YOU are not willing to give me what I need from you. Who has made it abundantly clear that she wants things to remain private between us, but who is the one who made it public.

You need the attention sweetheart. I am not going to be that man who makes you the center of his world. YOU need too much and I am not the man you hoped I am. There are reasons wrapped up in reasons behind this. Your vain attempt at validation last night fell on deaf ears. I read what you sent to the hospital. The first few paragraphs were right on, then the fantasies and YOUR own assumptions came out.

Forget about a life together. You do need to talk with someone, but it needs to be a person who will boost your ego and a person who can validate YOU. Any other therapy you attempt will fail.

Good bye sweetheart. I will find the right person for me. I am not going to ever bend like this again. Do not call or write me. You have shown what you are and who you are. Good luck in the future.

I love you and always will, but not at the cost of my soul. You say you are a Christian, but you are not following the "word" You are taking the Bible and rationalizing each and every passage to fit you. BTW, I asked you questions and never did find out your beliefs about them. You did choose to shrug them off and were not able to give me an answer. Just goes to show that you can study all you want, but if you cannot ask the right questions, it is all BS.

I really hope you find the man you are looking for. I hope you can find the man who will always bend to your will. I hope you find someone who validates you every day.

You mentioned my mood swings...I don't have any. Suprise! I am me and I am not your toy. Everything I told you is God's truth and I never tried to hide a damned thing from you.

Goodbye my love.

Good luck.

I love you always and only want the best for you. Find that man who will give you what you need. I was not afraid, I was cautious and I was right in the long run.

 

[FantasySlut]

Not sure what to say to those that have posted recently...

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} to each of you....hopefully soon you'll be able to work out whats best for each of you...Please feel free to continue to vent/shout/ when the mood strikes..

 

[Kylan]

Hi, I've a problem most serious

I've fallen passionately in lust with a poster here on Lit who shall remain nameless, but I s'pose I should give you a hint so you can help.

It's just she's so confounded gorgeous, sexy and charming I get all tongue tied around her...have you any idea what I should say or do to impress her?

Satanically yours...

@>,-'Kylan,-'​

 

[FantasySlut]

Hi, I've a problem most serious

I've fallen passionately in lust with a poster here on Lit who shall remain nameless, but I s'pose I should give you a hint so you can help.

It's just she's so confounded gorgeous, sexy and charming I get all tongue tied around her...have you any idea what I should say or do to impress her?

Satanically yours...

@>,-'Kylan,-'​

You made the first step in admitting how you feel......that's a big hurdle to overcome......

If you truly want to impress her, then you must go out and buy her as many trinkets as possible......then you must go to her and present her with said trinkets........on your hands and knees......then you must sing her praises every day in front of the all LIT members.....on your knees.....you must wait on her, comply to her every need.....her wishes are your commands.

 

[Kylan]

You made the first step in admitting how you feel......that's a big hurdle to overcome......

If you truly want to impress her, then you must go out and buy her as many trinkets as possible......then you must go to her and present her with said trinkets........on your hands and knees......then you must sing her praises every day in front of the all LIT members.....on your knees.....you must wait on her, comply to her every need.....her wishes are your commands.

Well, perhaps it just wasn't meant to be

Is there nothing else I could do? I'd hate to miss the chance because I'm not wired the way you advise.

Is there anyway you could perhaps... change me.

 

[FantasySlut]

Well, perhaps it just wasn't meant to be

Is there nothing else I could do? I'd hate to miss the chance because I'm not wired the way you advise.

Is there anyway you could perhaps... change me.

As you mentioned, perhaps it's not meant to be.....That's a shame too. You could have been such a fine specimen waiting on me and serving me day and night....

But being you had to ask if I could change you only means that you aren't the one..............UNLESS YOU are willing to sit in *MY SPECIAL* chair?

 

[Kylan]

As you mentioned, perhaps it's not meant to be.....That's a shame too. You could have been such a fine specimen waiting on me and serving me day and night....

But being you had to ask if I could change you only means that you aren't the one..............UNLESS YOU are willing to sit in *MY SPECIAL* chair?

And what, I wonder, would a dazzling siren wish to be served day and night?

Of course I'll sit in a chair and feel special. I do that a lot.

Do you think the pretty lady we're referring to might buy me trinkets?

 

[FantasySlut]

And what, I wonder, would a dazzling siren wish to be served day and night?

Of course I'll sit in a chair and feel special. I do that a lot.

Do you think the pretty lady we're referring to might buy me trinkets?

Meals in bed....massages....again, sing her praises.....list could go on and on....

Ohhhh you'll feel special alright.....I'll make sure of that

If you behave and obey her orders, she may buy you a little something....

 

[Kylan]

Meals in bed....massages....again, sing her praises.....list could go on and on....

Ohhhh you'll feel special alright.....I'll make sure of that

If you behave and obey her orders, she may buy you a little something....

Why, that does sound nice. I so like my meals in bed followed by a good massage. In fact I would certainly sing her praises to everyone else if she done that. You see, she's really somthing else...this mysterious lady I've a crush on.

Whatever else would she do to make me feel more special then I already am, I wonder?

I'll be very good and take her orders to someone else...they'd be no use to me.