Releasing her InnerWhore

[Saint inda City]

okay.... i mean "InnerWhore" in the best possible way. that wanton sex-lover in all of us. i know she has it, i've seen it, the times she's sucked me like a porn star or fucked/got fucked so hard...

but how can i inspire her to WANT to put on sexy lingerie without me asking... or maybe watch porn together (i think she'd go for this, just chickening out on asking cuz i'm affraid she'll think i'm a pervy porn-addict. i'll take recommendations for bringing this up!)

just to let you know... we're pretty comfortable together, we've shared a few fantasies talking in the heat of the moment, mutual masterbation is often part of our sessions..... i enjoy helping her use her vibe.... so the groundwork is there.

i just wanna really release her InnerWhore and have make more appearances more often.

i know, the main answer is obvious and i already know it: "talk to her about it, let her know how you feel." but i'm hoping there's other things i can try... maybe a book/movie to jumpstart this conversation. an aphrodisiacal food i can feed her daily, some magic pills????

thanks.

 

[Beloved0903]

okay.... i mean "InnerWhore" in the best possible way. that wanton sex-lover in all of us. i know she has it, i've seen it, the times she's sucked me like a porn star or fucked/got fucked so hard...

but how can i inspire her to WANT to put on sexy lingerie without me asking... or maybe watch porn together (i think she'd go for this, just chickening out on asking cuz i'm affraid she'll think i'm a pervy porn-addict. i'll take recommendations for bringing this up!)

just to let you know... we're pretty comfortable together, we've shared a few fantasies talking in the heat of the moment, mutual masterbation is often part of our sessions..... i enjoy helping her use her vibe.... so the groundwork is there.

i just wanna really release her InnerWhore and have make more appearances more often.

i know, the main answer is obvious and i already know it: "talk to her about it, let her know how you feel." but i'm hoping there's other things i can try... maybe a book/movie to jumpstart this conversation. an aphrodisiacal food i can feed her daily, some magic pills????

thanks.

The very best thing you can do is to let her see how much you like when she lets that side of herself out. A little encouragement may be all she needs when she sees how much it gets you going.

 

[curiousjen]

I agree if she feels absolutly comforatable with you and like she can trust you- (for some of us girls have an ongoing battle with the inner slut as we aren't *supposed* to behave like that) and also if she gets a lot of encouragement from you well then i think you'll be well on your way. I think jumping in and asking her to watch porn with you could really work out- although you'll have to be careful- if shes never watched porn before showing her "anal sluts 3000" might not go down too well. Freddy and Eddy have good advice on "couply porn" and although their tastes are largely too tame for me, they have some good links to other places as well.

Also, when you watch it make sure she knows your not going to judge her for any reaction she might have to it- if she falls about laughing, dont be too disappointed, if she pulls faces of disgust at the cum shots (thats what i did) don't be upset! porn is very funny and very strange the first time you see it (trust me- i watched my first porn film a few weeks ago and was very shocked and very amused!)

its much more fun than watching it on your own though!

 

[bobsgirl]

Re: Re: Releasing her InnerWhore

The very best thing you can do is to let her see how much you like when she lets that side of herself out. A little encouragement may be all she needs when she sees how much it gets you going.

This is absolutely right on. My "inner slut" keeps slipping her leash, and I think it makes Hub a little nervous. Therefore, I am not comfortable really letting go.

 

[Saint inda City]

thanks for all the feedback.

it's very interesting, the InnerSlut concept. no man wants his woman to BE a slut.... until the bedroom door shuts.

how do you ladies balance it? it's easier for guys, we're supposed to be sex-craved studs, society says that's okay. but it's gotta be tougher for you ladies to live in a such a contradictory society. how have you developed YOUR InnerSlut? did you suppress her for years? when/how did you let her out? gradually or all at once?

how do you feel when you ARE her? i mean, if you've had a threesome, was there that moment when you're on all fours taking one cock in your pussy and another in your mouth (or getting it good from behind while you lick a pussy) that you thought, "goddamn i'm a slut and i LOVE it"??
or, forget the 3some (if you can), maybe your man was fucking you hard from behind, holding onto your hair, maybe gave you a swift slap on the ass, and you reached back to finger your anus, and you thought, "goddamn i'm a slut and i LOVE it"??

really curious to get more feedback on this from you ladies. thanks.

 

[tythisredheadup]

maybe your man was fucking you hard from behind, holding onto your hair, maybe gave you a swift slap on the ass, and you reached back to finger your anus, and you thought, "goddamn i'm a slut and i LOVE it"??

That's called Tuesday night...

 

[Saint inda City]

and how did you feel/what were you thinking tuesday night?

 

[Vixandra]

Hmm... kept her under tight reign until I turned 18 then set out after the man I loved/lusted heavily with a vengeance.
Fast forward a few months and I, the virgin, was teaching him, the experianced one, a few things.
And they say reading is good for kids, hehehehe.

Now though- the inner slut stays locked in her box, right next to the one that holds the growing Domme.
I know better then to let them out in public here. *sighs* a year to go...
In private though, well, slut gets more play then Domme, but they both get some time out of the boxes.

I'd do/perform just about anything he asked of me and I get the same in return. I expect him to be as much of a "slut" as I am, or to at least try. I've a rather voracious sex appetite, that most men can't meet. Specialy ones with heart conditions (damn lisinopril)

Hope this helps.

 

[Saint inda City]

thanks Vix.....

and good point about expecting the same from him.

 

[Saint inda City]

more feedback from the ladies please?

 

[Saint inda City]

more feedback from the ladies please?

just bumping this up in case some people didn't see it and/or haven't responded yet. thanks.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

hmmm, I'm pretty sure I've worn my inner slut on the outside most of my life. In high school it really pissed me off that the guys could do all the screwing they wanted and get praised for it. But us girls were looked down upon for having sex. (face it - those boys were fucking SOMEBODY!) So I kind of went out of my way to wear my inner slut on the outside. I had a bad reputation (or good, depending!?!?!)

My inner slut gives me the strength and daring to explore more things, try new things, enjoy non 'vanilla' things. I embrace my inner slut and feed her often!

 

[Jack Eagle]

That's called Tuesday night...

Guess fishing is gonna get moved to Wednesday and poker to Thursday. Sunday is reserved for NASCAR.

 

[kinkybrat]

thanks for all the feedback.

it's very interesting, the InnerSlut concept. no man wants his woman to BE a slut.... until the bedroom door shuts.

how do you ladies balance it? it's easier for guys, we're supposed to be sex-craved studs, society says that's okay. but it's gotta be tougher for you ladies to live in a such a contradictory society. how have you developed YOUR InnerSlut? did you suppress her for years? when/how did you let her out? gradually or all at once?

how do you feel when you ARE her? i mean, if you've had a threesome, was there that moment when you're on all fours taking one cock in your pussy and another in your mouth (or getting it good from behind while you lick a pussy) that you thought, "goddamn i'm a slut and i LOVE it"??
or, forget the 3some (if you can), maybe your man was fucking you hard from behind, holding onto your hair, maybe gave you a swift slap on the ass, and you reached back to finger your anus, and you thought, "goddamn i'm a slut and i LOVE it"??

really curious to get more feedback on this from you ladies. thanks.

Wow,

I suppressed for years, till someone i met taught me that woman should actually enjoy sex. He was the first person i was with sexually that cared enough if i O'd or not that he spent wks just helping me discover my body more then i already had and didn't expect sex or a blowjob in return. I'd say i've been letting mine out gradually since then, discovering things i want to try....and really following through with them. Being able to be open with my partner(s) has helped alot. I told hubby on our first date that i was bi and that i wanted to explore that side alot more.


How do feel when i am my InnerSlut? Powerful. I'd say the time i really thought that i was slut was giving a very random guy a blowjob in the milk cooler where i worked (with customers walking around in the store, able to see everything).

 

[fallon2]

For some women . .

it IS very hard to release that "inner whore" since they are not quite sure what the reaction of their spouse or lover will be.

I have found that when women are with me that they truly can release their "inner whore," their "dark side" or whatever term you would like to use.

That reason is very simple . . . I never judge, never. If I say no, then no it is but 99% of the time anything they want goes.

It might be verbal humiliation, degradation or physical discipline but they can for those many hours be who they truly desire to be.

I once met a slut who desired me to put her on a physical weight loss program. It was fun and it helped (eventually) to lead her to that inner whore.

 

[Saint inda City]

thanks for the responses.....

hoping to hear more, and bumping this up after reading "nightRAGES" GREAT related thread on the personals board.....

 

[Celtia]

Hmmmm...

When I first started having sex when I was 18, I really really liked it. My "inner slut" was released. The ex and I watched porn together, tried everything at least once, and had sex often.

Then he decided he liked the porn more than me. And THEN he decided that cheating was okay. Of course, I didn't know that then, but wondered why he didn't want ME. Well, he was getting it elsewhere. We finally broke up after 5 years.

So I locked away the inner slut.

Now I'm with a man who's not interested in sex at all. And the "inner slut" is being released again. I've taught him a few tricks (even though he's been with more people than I, his partners were all inexperienced as well).

How to get her to release her inner slut? Make her feel desirable! Grab her and kiss her, or grab her and fuck her silly...let her know that you WANT HER. That's always a turn on.

 

[Saint inda City]

yes, i do that....

she thinks i'm a "horn-dog" which is true, but i've made it clear that her being so sexy is what makes me that way.

we've had other stuff going on (wedding planning, her being out of work) so her stress levels haven't helped her relax and be ready to get fucked silly at the drop of a hat....

but we have great sex and good communication, so once all the real-life issues are resolved in a few weeks, we can pursue this further....

definitely want to pursue watching porn with her...

 

[Jack Eagle]

Inner Slut

I love the fact that most women have an inner slut. While some don't realize it or choose to let it out, I am thankful that the remaining few do.

I am fortunate that my S/O has a separate "2nd sexual personality" which comes out from time to time. When I least expect it, she takes over and rocks not just my world, but my universe as well.

Honey, if you're reading this, what's Nasty up to this weekend?

 

[Saint inda City]

hey Jack,
if you haven't already, you really need to check out NightRAGES' thread on the main personals board..... i think it's called something about women hiding the truth.

 

[Jack Eagle]

hey Jack,
if you haven't already, you really need to check out NightRAGES' thread on the main personals board..... i think it's called something about women hiding the truth.

Will do but I am kinda partial to this thread as some hurddles seems to have already been overcome.

Jack

 

[goldmoon]

For me it was in college. Once I simply found out how much fun sex was, instead of being a bit scared in high school, I kind of let go.

I do cherish the "inner" part though. Even to this day when I am with a new lover, I must give off an ultra innocent exterior because they always seem blown away when we finally get to play alone.

The look in their eyes at that moment of realization is why it continues to be fun to be a lady in public and a slut in private.

Goldie

 

[DirtyJJ]

The look in their eyes at that moment of realization is why it continues to be fun to be a lady in public and a slut in private.

Goldie

I like that statement, and agree.

Now - I have a question for everyone: How do I release my husband's "Inner Slut" so to speak? I know it's there - but I rarely get to see it. He is usually pretty reserved and passive in bed. Very frustrating!

JJ

 

[Saint inda City]

funny how most of us "freaks" here are paired up with slightly more "normal" peeps!