Reveal An Uncomfortable Truth About Yourself

[LadyLascivious1]

My inability to quit playing devil's advocate will almost definitely leave me with no friends one day.

You really don’t give yourself enough credit for being awesome and kind!

 

[Anastasia1999]

I am too darned comfortable in my comfort zone, that is my uncomfortable truth

 

[Mei5ter]

My inability to quit playing devil's advocate will almost definitely leave me with no friends one day.

Shhh. It's one of your best features!

 

[Mrtenant]

In a similar vein to others above, I don't often reach out first because I don't really have much to offer. When I do reach out, I mostly fail to get those connections beyond the nice but vague "we chat sometimes" level.

I would like to have healthy friendships here, but it rarely happens as I forever struggle with balancing my introvert needs for solitary time, the desire to have friends (who deserve more from me), and the intense demands of life 'behind the scenes'. Oh, and add in my deep trust issues. It really isn't conducive to creating friendships!

I refuse, however, to apologise for any of this, just because it's uncomfortable. I'd rather be labelled as shallow/cold/selfish/*fill in whatever word you like* than tying myself in knots trying to please other people.

Maybe one day we can pick out curtains together?

(Introverted here too. You're doing fine imho. You be you, unapologetically. More than enough for us. And thank you.)

 

[cheekygirl75]

I have to actively watch out to not be passive aggressive. I was raised that way, it was how my family communicated & fought. It's taken a looong time to be able to stop doing it *and* say what I need/want, instead of just seething in resentment.

 

[Tallulah82]

I have to actively watch out to not be passive aggressive. I was raised that way, it was how my family communicated & fought. It's taken a looong time to be able to stop doing it *and* say what I need/want, instead of just seething in resentment.

*raises hand too*

Also, raised in misogynistic environment, but not in an obvious way. It was passive-aggressively drip fed in the way that the males of the family were more praised, given more opportunities etc.

Well done for fighting to be better, it's a fucking hard path.

It's taken me years of therapy to understand and accept my own situation, including breaking away from being a serial people-pleaser, hence why I can seem 'too blunt' to some people when I protect myself from being sucked into any kind of mind games from anyone, family or not. You do what you need to do for you.

 

[Tallulah82]

Maybe one day we can pick out curtains together?

(Introverted here too. You're doing fine imho. You be you, unapologetically. More than enough for us. And thank you.)

Haha!

Cheers, me dears. I like finding people who understand how being sociable is actually draining. Chat then run to hide for hours/days until I'm recharged.

 

[Dribble]

I was raised in the middle of the Black Swamp region of Ohio as an only child. Nearest neighbor kid was several miles away. So I grew up with my dogs and horses. It isn't my fault they can be more trustable than humans. Many call me an introvert. But in reality my pets set the standard too high for humans to compete.

 

[Trekka]

I was raised in the middle of the Black Swamp region of Ohio as an only child. Nearest neighbor kid was several miles away. So I grew up with my dogs and horses. It isn't my fault they can be more trustable than humans. Many call me an introvert. But in reality my pets set the standard too high for humans to compete.

im reading this with a lil black n white kitty curled up next to me

 

[Lord Pmann]

I have been known to use humour or sarcasm as a method of deflection.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Parenting is a tough gig.

Single parenting multiple children with multiple special needs/mental health issues is unquestionably the hardest long-term thing I will ever do. Some days I want to call in sick.

Today is one of those days.

 

[Anastasia1999]

Parenting is a tough gig.

Single parenting multiple children with multiple special needs/mental health issues is unquestionably the hardest long-term thing I will ever do. Some days I want to call in sick.

Today is one of those days.

Are you ok?

Parenting is the toughest job I have ever had and I was not parenting kids with special needs / mental health issues alone.

 

[NewOldGuy77]

Fine. I’ll go second.

I am a Swiftie.

That speaks to your good taste!

 

[Madmar]

Parenting is a tough gig.

Single parenting multiple children with multiple special needs/mental health issues is unquestionably the hardest long-term thing I will ever do. Some days I want to call in sick.

Today is one of those days.

The uncomfortable truth about myself is that I'm glad this is not me. Never had the call to be a mom in first place and the fear that something would go "wrong" is what kept me from trying harder to have kids. Overall my family was pretty lucky physical and mental health wise and I feared the luck would run out with me. All I can offer is virtual hugs to you, Wild Honey, and pray for you to have strength.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Are you ok?

Parenting is the toughest job I have ever had and I was not parenting kids with special needs / mental health issues alone.

I'm okay.

It's a high-maintenance life and I'm short on resources. My attitude is pretty good most of the time, I'm just feeling the pinch at the moment.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

The uncomfortable truth about myself is that I'm glad this is not me. Never had the call to be a mom in first place and the fear that something would go "wrong" is what kept me from trying harder to have kids. Overall my family was pretty lucky physical and mental health wise and I feared the luck would run out with me. All I can offer is virtual hugs to you, Wild Honey, and pray for you to have strength.

Thanks!

I've never regretted having my kids. My children are the oldest grands on both sides, and it's really only been in their generation that we've learned about most of the inherited family traits.

Would I have had kids if I'd known? That's a conversation for another thread. Maybe I'll start it!

 

[1ayla]

Overwhelmed by almost everything today. That’s not what the world sees when they see me. But it’s the uncomfortable truth that is smothering me in this moment.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

When I have a rough day (or night), I still sonetimes get a little panicky and want to reach out for... someone. Someone to provide me with safety and security, someone to make me feel better.

I need to learn to be still and remember that I've made it through a bunch of shit storms all on my own and survived just fine. I've got to learn to sit with the discomfort instead of avoiding the process, but man, it's a bitch sometimes.

 

[LeatherPearls]

I concur, being a mum is truly the hardest, most challenging job there is. Sometimes you completely loose yourself in your children's needs. I confess I have sometimes thought about running away and simply leave everything behind.

I have trust issues too. I care for people quickly so I keep them at arm's length.

 

[LeatherPearls]

When I have a rough day (or night), I still sonetimes get a little panicky and want to reach out for... someone. Someone to provide me with safety and security, someone to make me feel better.

I need to learn to be still and remember that I've made it through a bunch of shit storms all on my own and survived just fine. I've got to learn to sit with the discomfort instead of avoiding the process, but man, it's a bitch sometimes.

Sending a big, warm hug. ❤

 

[lacandy]

I won’t ask for help…and if I do know that I’m on the verge of disaster. I KNOW that I need the help, but asking for it opens up that crack of vulnerability that I work sooo hard to hide from everyone.

 

[Anastasia1999]

I won’t ask for help…and if I do know that I’m on the verge of disaster. I KNOW that I need the help, but asking for it opens up that crack of vulnerability that I work sooo hard to hide from everyone.

Me too, 100%

 

[Ingenue844]

Parenting is a tough gig.

Single parenting multiple children with multiple special needs/mental health issues is unquestionably the hardest long-term thing I will ever do. Some days I want to call in sick.

Today is one of those days.

My daughter has special needs. I had a nightmare the other night where she was asked to leave a social group because the normie girls didn’t like her. In the dream I confronted the parents of these girls.

So yeah, it’s 24/7. We can’t even sleep without being anxious for our children.

I’m sending love and energy your way. I hope you get a chance to take care of you too, alongside everyone else.

 

[Ingenue844]

I’m good at thinking up boundaries, poor at reinforcing them.

 

[smtst5]

Ever since I lost my brother, I put up a wall to not let anyone in.