Rocky DaBruso’s Guide to Beating Your Wife

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Btw, I like your new av, Desert Rose. I hadn't seen that one before. Classy.

~stalk~

 

[Xelebes]

Would turning up the stereo to my music on my wife be considered wife beating?

 

[meatflower]

I find it interesting that I'm being taken as a man when I am anything but.

I am also anything but what you people who spend too much time sitting on your asses in front of a computer virtual domming and subbing call "trolling". I'm not that either but to me the former is more relevant than the latter.

It's fine with me if my approach is viewed as stinking, that's nothing more than a matter of personal opinion- just as wifebeating not being linked to bdsm is, in my opinion, just another opinion.

While I'll go the long route to avoid using the word "play" in terms of sexual dealings what I am indeed getting at is that particular form of brain sex. The fantasy, the head twisting. I don't think a lot of the things we as individuals, when taken out of the context of twisted fucking, is at all funny or at all tolerable.

I believe spousal abuse to be abhorrent. I believe wifebeating in the context of grown people doing what it is they chose to do to be ultra hot.

 

[Kajira Callista]

And would it have been so difficult to explain these things with your first post so everyone reading it would understand where you were going with this rather then think you were here to stir trouble where trouble need not be?

 

[meatflower]

And would it have been so difficult to explain these things with your first post so everyone reading it would understand where you were going with this rather then think you were here to stir trouble where trouble need not be?

I can't claim that it would have been difficult anymore than I can claim responsibility for the reactions of others.

 

[Kajira Callista]

So tell me...did you intend the first post to be BDSM related...or did you intend to get the reaction you got from ppl here.



i'm off to the fair, but wil be looking forward to your answer.

 

[meatflower]

I think my first post to be full of erotic potential. Obviously it's not serious but, to me, in it are seeds of things more sinister.

I'm well aware that in any forum such this there will be people that appoint themselves to positions of stating the obvious, people too self important, people too quick to snap and people that need to remove the stick from their rectum. None of those things are revolutionary so I don't see how anyone can be shocked when they're new and not welcome. There always seems to be some etiquette of obligatory groveling before mass acceptance and since that ain't my style it's not a shocker that I got those reactions.

If I remain entertained and compelled to stay here long enough I still do not expect inner circle acceptance. I'm of the opinion that most people in what ya'll call the "bdsm community" are pussies and bitches that play it too safe, take it too seriously and devote far too much time crafting some weird sense of politically correct deviancy. If that's what tickles your pickle knock yourself out, it's just not what does it for me.

 

[A Desert Rose]

You can try to validate yourself in any fashion you want to. There will be people who will buy it.

Your self introduction to this forum was nothing short of tacky. But you will find your own little "inner circle" of friends here, I'm guite sure of that.

Look up Pure.




Thank you Pagen... this is another old AV, just new to you.

 

[meatflower]

Is that why you're here? Internet "friends"? Not me.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Is that why you're here? Internet "friends"? Not me.

You mentioned "inner circle" first. I didn't.

 

[meatflower]

yeah.

"If I remain entertained and compelled to stay here long enough I still do not expect inner circle acceptance."

not sure what your point is.

 

[WriterDom]

yeah.

"If I remain entertained and compelled to stay here long enough I still do not expect inner circle acceptance."

not sure what your point is.

There are enough inner circles to go around here.

If you are really wanting to be a rebel you'll have to come up with something original. Not another Lance.

 

[meatflower]

There are enough inner circles to go around here.

If you are really wanting to be a rebel you'll have to come up with something original. Not another Lance.

Don't know where you got that one from but good luck with those reading skills!

 

[bridgeburner]

meatflower,

Quite possible that you'll finally score higher on the asshole scale than on the Great Comediennes of August 2004, but I grinned and I think there is something to what you say. There's BDsM and Scening and then there is the Impulse Dark and just because some of the roads it leads down are abhorrent doesn't mean that they aren't on the same map as pleasanter destinations.

You might drop in on Topopolis or SMACK and take a looksee.



-B

 

[Netzach]

"If I remain entertained and compelled to stay here long enough I still do not expect inner circle acceptance. I'm of the opinion that most people in what ya'll call the "bdsm community" are pussies and bitches that play it too safe, take it too seriously and devote far too much time crafting some weird sense of politically correct deviancy. If that's what tickles your pickle knock yourself out, it's just not what does it for me."


Ooooo how transgressive. Organized SM is just soooo boring.

Only it's not really a transgressive mindset, it's kind of done to a crispy death. You've been reading too much Laura Antoniou, go play.

 

[meatflower]

bridgeburner,

I'm cool with being an asshole.

the line between abhorant action and a more refined sense of expression are no doubt sisters.

Netzach,

I've never made an attempt to be transgressive I just know what I like. I'm totally fine if that's not mirrored by many but I never have thought it makes me superior.

 

[Netzach]

"more refined mode of expression" seems to contradict what you said to me.

Do you really think that those further from the pale are more refined?

I'd rather be dirty than refined, personally, but like you said, whatever floats your boat.

 

[bridgeburner]

the line between abhorant action and a more refined sense of expression are no doubt sisters.

This does not actually make sense, I hope you realize, but I believe I grasp your meaning.

Where do you intend to go with it?

Recognizing the link between controlled power games and uncontrolled abuse is uncomfortable for many, but by no means a new idea. It's only interesting when you see what ways you can poke it and twist it around.

So...?



-B

 

[meatflower]

Netzach,

I don't know how you figure that.

I feel that those with above average emotional intelligence, those with a deep self understanding and knowledge can very much be more refined in terms of their chosen sexual deeds. Besides, I was referring to a "more refined sense of expression".

I don't think everyone fits into this category. I don't think everyone fits into any category.

I'm not sure how you concluded that a person that is refined in the sense of their sexual expression (rather than being a willy nilly animal) lacks dirt.


bridgeburner,

I think it makes lots of sense.

Not sure what you mean by your question. Where do I intend to go with it?

 

[niteshade]

the line between abhorant action and a more refined sense of expression are no doubt sisters.

I could be wrong, but Bridgeburner might have been pointing out that this sentence makes no grammatical sense. You might say that abhorrent action and refined sense of expression are no doubt sisters, or you might say that there is a fine line between the two, but the way you wrote it really makes very little sense.

 

[meatflower]

I could be wrong, but Bridgeburner might have been pointing out that this sentence makes no grammatical sense. You might say that abhorrent action and refined sense of expression are no doubt sisters, or you might say that there is a fine line between the two, but the way you wrote it really makes very little sense.

makes sense.

and to me- the way I wrote it, the way my brain works- so does what I wrote and how I wrote it. an unfortunate downfall in regard to my written communication is that much of what I write lacks not only grammatical snobbery but also grammatical sense.

 

[bridgeburner]

meatflower,

Niteshade has the right of it. I assumed you'd gotten excited and mixed two different ideas in the middle of writing one. As I said, I belive I caught your meaning, regardless.

Not sure what you mean by your question. Where do I intend to go with it?

Exactly that. You made a statement that, while provocative to some, is not particularly new --- certainly not to the likes of many of the participants here. If that was all you meant to say, then, fine, but it gets the big yawn. If you intended to explore that idea or apply it to some specific then I invite you to do so. We've had several interesting and entertaining discussions about these issues and I'm always happy to engage in more, but don't expect to be regarded as some kind of enfant terrible holding the cold dark blade of truth to the neck of the bewildered sheep just because you asked a provocative question.


Show me your shimmy.


-B

 

[rosco rathbone]

No, you are losing points with this.

Points don't concern me. As I said, I am anti-wifebeating; but I am quite turned on by the overall wifebeating concept--much as one might by turned on by "rape"; and seek to incorporate it into my own sexual universe. Overall, most wifebeaters are weak and lash out physically because they are completely outclassed in mental and emotional chess; however, it's still hot to me in fantasy.

 

[rosco rathbone]

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I believe spousal abuse to be abhorrent. I believe wifebeating in the context of grown people doing what it is they chose to do to be ultra hot.

Yup. You'll find others here who feel the same.

 

[MissTaken]

I find it interesting that I'm being taken as a man when I am anything but.

I am also anything but what you people who spend too much time sitting on your asses in front of a computer virtual domming and subbing call "trolling". I'm not that either but to me the former is more relevant than the latter.

It's fine with me if my approach is viewed as stinking, that's nothing more than a matter of personal opinion- just as wifebeating not being linked to bdsm is, in my opinion, just another opinion.

While I'll go the long route to avoid using the word "play" in terms of sexual dealings what I am indeed getting at is that particular form of brain sex. The fantasy, the head twisting. I don't think a lot of the things we as individuals, when taken out of the context of twisted fucking, is at all funny or at all tolerable.

I believe spousal abuse to be abhorrent. I believe wifebeating in the context of grown people doing what it is they chose to do to be ultra hot.

Hi meatflower,

Your initial post was taken as it was because we have had a number of inidividuals come in, use a comparable tactic to condemn the intimacy we share with our SOs etc. Those "trolls", those who post for reaction and to gain some sick sense of fulfillment by looking down their noses at the "freaks" and "mentally unstable" on this site, have paved a path which leads to a certain reaction to tongue in cheek humor used to start discussion.

You will find there is little tolerance for wife beating and abuse on this forum.

In fact, in one instance, such postings by a judgemental troll led to some very difficult real life experiences for one of our kinder and gentler posters. So we do tend to become defensive, I suppose.

Perhaps, the posters here should be more willing to greet every poster with a completely open mind. However, that wouldn't necessarily be in human nature. Nasty experiences tend to color one's view, no?

Further, of the posters replying to you, you will find that many of them are not "cyber" Domming or anything of that nature. They are practicing BDSM in real time where the sting is genuine and the power exchange intense and intimate.

Now............

After moving the thread, I wondered, what would have happened if rosco, WD or netzach had started the same thread with the same post.



Finally, could we discuss "ultra hot?" Ewwww I like that term and can think of one or two little things that are exactly that!