seducing wife

[fondofmoisture]

I need a little help on something and thought this was the only place to get honest opinions.My wife gets very turned on watching girl on girl porn.She also gets very wet reading lesbian stories on here.I have no problem wit it and actually encourage it but when I ask her if she want s to try this she gets very defensive and say s she s not like that.I would love for her to do it but I get the feeling that it s never going to happen and I respect her if that s the case.I can tell when she drinks a bit that she opens up a little more.New years we were another couple dancing and the husband didn t dance so her and his wife danced all night and she really seemed to have a good time.She s very shy and I get the feeling that she really wants to but scared of what others especially me would think.How do you think this will play out.

 

[SweetErika]

IMHO, the best thing you can do is tell her it very natural and common for women to be curious, and you'll love and support her if she ever wants to act on any curiosity she may have, alone or together. I highlighted if and may because it sounds like she's uncomfortable with the idea of being labeled, so it's best to just open the door and leave it at that. Things will work out best if she takes action because she really wants to...not because you want her to. You should also understand that there are a lot of complex issues, and exploration can be a long (and very difficult) process. There are also several reasons I feel it's important to give her the opportunity to explore alone if you're comfortable with that.

I think that's the best way to go, but of course you shouldn't offer if there's a chance you won't be completely happy with the outcome. I wouldn't push it or point it out to the point where she clams up, but perhaps you can suggest a sharing some fantasies during sex. Even she may not be able to determine where this is going...she might decide she's perfectly happy leaving it as a fantasy, but for me, my husband's support helped me take those first few steps.

 

[hillblazer]

My wife gets very turned on by girl on girl porn. She looks at and comments on other womans boobs, butts, legs and clothes in public. She says she could never do it with woman. Woman are so hard to figure out sometimes, but it is fun trying.

 

[TwoInStAuggie]

She s very shy and I get the feeling that she really wants to but scared of what others especially me would think.How do you think this will play out.

Don't take this the wrong way, fond, but I don't think it's going to play out very well if she feels like it's something that is expected of her. Before I married my actively bisexual wife I'd always wanted to be a part, even passively, of that type of scenario and I'm pretty certain that I allowed my desire to experience it to unfortunately impose itself upon my prior relationships. People don't like to feel pressured to gratify someone else's urges and many times even subtle, infrequent suggestions can be taken as unwanted pressure. I guess my advice to you, and not to be trite about it, would be to love and accept your woman for who she is. If she is not bisexual or wishes not to act on any bisexual urges, so be it. Do not attempt to guide her however subtly toward your own ends. Also, take this for what it is worth: having now experienced my wife's bisexuality it has become rather matter-of-fact. I don't mean that it's boring. Not at all. I just mean that once you've satisfied that curiousity you're able to look back and see that it wasn't the huge deal you were making it out to be before.

Good luck to you both!

 

[heman69]

ur wife really wants to be with some girl..she just seems shy to admit it