Sex, and being physically disabled.

[Guest]

Wow, Im getting tons of replys, that is so cool. Thank you everyonefor al you great thoughts. I look forard to reading more.

Hey Pinn how's it going you still hanging out here with us..I told you that there were a ton of great people here ..Hope to see you posting some more..Take care

 

[unzip]

Pinnochio ,
welcome to lit friend, I'm sure your gonna find alot of very friendly folks around here. and the very fine ladies will certainly take care of you.
on here it's not who you are on the outside that matters it's who you are on the inside. just let your heart and imagination free and enjoy all that is offered here.
I ride bikes and have done so my whole life and i've had alot of bros go down and get hurt beyond repair, but it never changed how we treated them . one very good bro of mine had a really bad crash and can barely walk. then he got terminal cancer and his ol'lady has been by his side through it all. he dosn't have much time left and the one thing he wanted to do was to get married. so this coming weekend him and his ol'lady are gonna finally tie the knot. and friday night he's gonna have one hell of a bachulors party. strippers and all.
he's got it bad but he dosn't care because he knows we all love him for who he is .

live your life pinnocio and have fun

 

[Gil_T2]

Well, Hi y'all.....welcome to Lit!

Can I just say.....you guys are all great. I'm sorry some bad things have happened to y'all....and good things will come. Eventually!! And what a better place to start lookin' for some good thing but on Lit! This place is great.....everyone is very accepting and open and ....very important....honest.

Being in the medical profession....I know as well as you guys that things can happen sexually for someone with a disability. It's all about finding the right person to take the time and care to find what works for both of y'all. Might take a bit of creativity too. I've always been taught that before someone leaves my care we should in some way their sexual abilities and any problems they may experience...it goes with the founding principle of my profession....we treat the whole person. And let's face it....a person's sexuality and sensuality is a big part of their life and can greatly impact their quality of life. Anywho...I always thought it was as equally important to provide that support for the significant others.....because a lot of the times (in my experience) they significant others are the ones with the biggest hangups about a disability.

I don't if any of that makes any sense....or if anyone really gives a care about what I think, but that's the wonder of this whole bulletin board thing...LOL...you can't stop me....you can only ignore me.

.....We are out there guys....don't give up. And take care of yourselves...

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I don't think I qualify as disabled but I am on a disability pension because of a combination of health issues and I have read all the posts here and there is so much possitive thoughts to be had.
LMHM you being in a position to understand what people go through with health problems give me courage because I do live in hope that I might stll meet someone who cares.

THANKYOU for your post

 

[warpedntwisted]

Though my vessel is torn and tattered

My soul is still comeplete, won't you join me in my kitchen, and share my lusty feast. My womb no longer bears the fruit, my limbs are bent and broken, but look into my eyes and see, my will, and love, unspoken.

From a poem by one hell of women, and a friend of mine, from this world to the next, where she waits for me now.

keep it in mind , my friend, the strength, dignity, beauty and style of one hell of a human being. you couldn't stop this broad with a gun, it took an illness so vile and ungodlike............ I am crying as I write this, not for her, but for me, and my pathetic attempts to try to live up to her standard of being. Go not with fear and self reflection, friend, it is beneath your dignity. those who suffer the various reflexive prejudices are your classroom, teach them well. she did.

 

[DevilBoy79]

i totally forgot about posting to this thread, *bump bump*

 

[warpedntwisted]

Re: hello

and welcome to Lit Pinnochio!
enjoy yourself and have fun...there's alot of nice ppl here at Lit....

you magnificent wench, when i die, and i do believe in re-incarnation, can i PLEASE come back as your sports bra, i am up for the challange, believe me.!!!!!

 

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Disability

I have read with interest the comments regarding disability and sexuality. I offer a few of my own.

Sexuality and intimacy are only partly related to the body. They are more a product of the brain and spirit. (The brain has been described as the biggest sex organ.) The key is finding the right partner, who can look beyond outward appearances or limitations. That is not always easy, in that first impressions carry a lot of weight for many people. And many people do not understand/are afraid/are uncomfortable with disabilities. So, it may take time and patience to find the right partner, but it can happen. There are open and receptive people.

When you find the right partner, communication is the key. Talk about what gives each of you pleasure. Find ways to give pleasure. Be creative. Fantasies, toys, and romance are just a few possibilities. Be open and inventive. Don't try to pretend there is no disability. Talk about it. Talk about what works and what doesn't. If possible, use it to your advantage. The blind cannot rely on visual stimulation. But sound and touch are wonderful. If the penis doesn't work, but the tongue does, so what? Use it and enjoy.

Many perfectly able-bodied people fail to use their full capabilities. Some do not have sex. Some have bad sex.

Learn to be comfortable with your body as it is. Use what you have --- mind, body, and spirit --- to it's fullest and you will be successful.

I speak from experience.