Sex Positions

[PertPerth]

Hi All

I'm trying to find a position which will suit both me and my b/f and I was hoping that someone here might have advice/an idea.

My cervix hangs low into my vagina (ie lower than normal). So, having sex puts a lot of pressure onto my cervix which causes me a great deal of pain.

I can find web sites showing positions which enable deeper penetration - but not less! Basically I'm looking for a way to make sure my boyfriend is satisfied without hurting me.

Thanks!

 

[helix27]

umm one that popped into my head right off was... you on your side, him on his side behind you. he enters you this way. because he is behind you he most likely will not be penetrating you as deeply as normal. but, he should still get good stimulation. one problem i may see with this is his angle as he enters you. a women should be able to confirm or deny my idea better then i could. one reason this came to mind is one ex gf i had loved deep penetration. i personally like this position for various reasons. her only compliant with this position was that i could not push as deeply inside of her in this position as say the everyday common missionary position. also have you two played around with different angles during intercouse at all?

 

[bobsgirl]

Ditto what helix said. He won't be as likely to penetrate you too deeply. It's one of my husband's favorites because it provides a lot of friction.

 

[PertPerth]

We've only tired it that way once and I was already too sore to care what position we were in!
We're both quite vanilla and although he's much more experienced than I am, he's more shy in the bedroom than I am. So, I guess I'll have to become a little more assertive with position choice in the future.

Thanks!!

 

[helix27]

there is always anal ;-}

 

[simplegirl]

Another is missionary but with YOUR legs closed. He won't be able to penetrate as deeply and the apex of your thighs will cause delicious friction for him. Don't forget the lube for this one. This is also good when your laying flat out on your belly. Have him penetrate from behind with your legs closed. Again it's shallower and it feels really good.

Also, try to "offset" your positions. What I mean by this, is instead of having both of your legs on the outside and both of his on the inside, try just having one of his legs between yours and one of your between his. This will also allow for a shallower penetration. I hope this is clear. I don't have a pic to illustrate what I mean.

You on top is always good also, since YOU control the depth of penetration. You can lay down on top and move in a circular motion instead of up/down or in/out, so your cervix isn't getting bumped.

Have you consulted a doctor about this? Is your cervix really lower? Other things such as endometriosis can cause alot of pain during sex.

Good luck, I hope these help!

 

[PertPerth]

Thanks Helix, but no anal for my virgin ass!

Simplegirl : yes, my doctor thought I had endometriosis or polycystic ovaries because I've had a few problems (including painful periods and adult acne) so I had an ultrasound and colposcopy and biopsy (I still have a scar on my cervix apparently!). So, yes, all seems normal apart from the shape of my uterus and cervix.

Legs crossed? I never would have thought of that! Thanks!

 

[helix27]

Thanks Helix, but no anal for my virgin ass!

lol i was hoping you would get a chuckle outta that.

 

[M's girl]

Ditto what helix said. He won't be as likely to penetrate you too deeply. It's one of my husband's favorites because it provides a lot of friction.

Dame BG! You look lovely today !

 

[M's girl]

Have you tried sex while both standing (and face to face)? I found that it's hard for M to penetrate deep this way, so you might want to give it a try. Of course this all depends on how tall you both are because I can imagine if you are about equal in length or the man is even somewhat smaller this position does not work for this purpose....

 

[sav_oli]

Another is missionary but with YOUR legs closed. He won't be able to penetrate as deeply and the apex of your thighs will cause delicious friction for him. Don't forget the lube for this one. This is also good when your laying flat out on your belly. Have him penetrate from behind with your legs closed. Again it's shallower and it feels really good.

I highly recomend both of those! shallow penetration, a different sensation, and still plenty of stimulation for the guy.

 

[SesameStreet]

I knew a couple with a similar problem. The doctor gave him a spongy ring that slid onto him when erect and prevented him from penetrating very deeply. You might ask your doctor about that and see if they are still on the market.

 

[Htchkr]

Hey...

I thought I'd weigh in with an opinion on a position.
Have him sit close to the edge of the bed and you mount him in a face to face position. You will be able to control the depth of the penetration by the positioning of your legs i.e. straight out, locked behind him, etc. etc . The added benefit of being able to control the speed of the action is in you pervue as well, plus there are the perks of his being able to use his hands for extra adventurous pursuits.

 

[PertPerth]

thanks

Thank you everyone. I can't tell you how I appreciate it!

SesameStreet : Thanks for the suggestion. I'm not sure how he'd react if I asked him to wear a sponge ring... so I think I'll try other things first.

(I've not seen him this week...but will tomorrow night... )

 

[midwestyankee]

Thank you everyone. I can't tell you how I appreciate it!

SesameStreet : Thanks for the suggestion. I'm not sure how he'd react if I asked him to wear a sponge ring... so I think I'll try other things first.

(I've not seen him this week...but will tomorrow night... )

Some cock rings - especially those with little vibrating thingies for the woman at the base - take up a good bit of cock real estate and would serve the same function as well as the original one, which is to prolong the erection and accentuate the experience for your man.

 

[OrgasmicleBunny]

I have one for you to try

You laying flat on your tummy with a pillow under your hips so your ass is slightly elevated, LEGS TOGETHER, he straddles your ass and inserts and then humps you. He can't go very deep, but the stimulation is amazing and it puts pressure on your clit

My boyfriend also suggests that when in the missionary or doggy position, he holds his cock while inserting, so that just the head is inserted, it's very stimulating but then he can't go very deep

 

[necroerotica]

I have one for you to try

You laying flat on your tummy with a pillow under your hips so your ass is slightly elevated, LEGS TOGETHER, he straddles your ass and inserts and then humps you. He can't go very deep, but the stimulation is amazing and it puts pressure on your clit

I was going to suggest something similar, although we don't use the pillow - might try that actually In our version, she's on her hands and knee's, doggy style, but with her legs almost together. I ease in, then we *both* move forward, with her coming to rest on her tummy, legs still together. After that I either lean forward over her back (for the neck kissing etc ) or sit upright, with my cock staying pointed downwards a bit because it's still inside her. Basically, it looks like you're getting anal, but instead with shallow penetration to the vagina. His cock head should also be forced by this to angle down towards the front of your vagina, where those lovely nerves are.

She seems to really enjoy it, although I get shallow penetration and lots of friction. The View is fantastic as well

There's also the more obvious - have him flat on the bed, with you on top. Make sure he doesn't thrust upwards, and that gives you complete control over angle and depth of penetration. He can also relax and just enjoy it without worrying about rhythm or anything, which compensates for the shallower penetration.

 

[In Anticipation]

Some cock rings - especially those with little vibrating thingies for the woman at the base - take up a good bit of cock real estate and would serve the same function as well as the original one, which is to prolong the erection and accentuate the experience for your man.

I'd never heard this term before, so I googled it and someone has registered "mycockrealestate.info" for completely different purposes!

Back to topic though, missionary position has the effect of keeping the cervix low so it dips into that lovely pool of semen to maximise the chances of those little sperms finding and egg to penetrate, so you might find it easier to put him on his back and straddle him. Not sure whether you shoud face him or be the other way around, I find that awkward in a cock bending sort of way, but you never know. That way you will be in control of the depth of penetration, and possibly develop killer thigh muscles into the bargain.

 

[KokopelliRises]

I guess I'm going to go ahead and agree with pretty much everything that has been said. I know sometimes if we're doing deeper penetration then my cervix gets sore and I just have to take a break, occupy myself with other things.

 

[his_lil_secret]

Lots of good advice here Pert. As someone with Endometriosis I can empathize with your pain. As I have no new advice to offer- all my suggestions have already been posted- let me just say that it is wonderful that you acknowledge your pain and are trying to work on ways to accomodate it so that both of you will have pleasure. To many women these days still won't speak up when it comes to pain/discomfort and sex and just suffer thru it. I hope some of these tips work for you.

 

[oddity83]

have you tried being on top? yes it takes more work from you, but you can control how far down you go.

 

[PertPerth]

Thanks

Thank you all for the advice! It's nice to get real suggestions and advice rather than "what is wrong with you".

I've figured out that angle has a LOT to do with deph of penetration. I'm learning to tilt my pelvis if there is too much pressure. Being on top is definitely the easiest way to control what is going on.

Thanks again everyone.

 

[nwfisher]

options

Hey Pert

I just finished reading a little book call 'Teach Yourself Great Sex', I found the book very informative and in it it list numberous positions, a few that you may want to try to reduce dept of penetration or for better control of penetration may be:

theT variant - you lie on your back, knees bent, your mam lies cross ways, you place your legs over his his, he eases himself in you and you can use your legs to control the depth of his penetration??

the sitting position - your partner sits on the bed (from personal experience he may want some pillows to support his back) with either his legs out or crossed, you sit on top of him, wrap your legs around his back, you will have lots of control to the depth of penetration . . . plus it is great for intimacy as you can look in each others eyes, talk, breath together, enjoy the site of each others bodies, etc.

spooning . . . i think was already mentioned,

the passers by - you lay on your side in banana shape, your partner enters you from behind, but laying the other way, with his head by your feet . . . I have't tried this with a partner, but it says it provides good control of penetration and good stimulation of your G spot, also allows for some clitoral stimulation,

the amazon - your partner lays on his side, you raise his upper leg and kneel astride his lower leg, facing him, you can control the depth of penetration, and a slightly different position to try,

these are a few to try if you would like, enjoy, there are many more in the book, likely many other books you could pick up as well,

take care

 

[anoncuriousm]

seems like you've gotten lot of advice on positions but the truth is no position will restrict him from pushing in all the way when he thrusts, UNLESS HE WANTS TO. my advice would be to communicate with your bf. good sex is when both partners are getting maximum pleasure, and real lovemaking is when the other partners pleasure increases your own, so by helping you, your partner will actually be increasing their own pleasure (most people just dont have the patience and experience to understand this).

figure out how deep he can go before it touches your cervix - this shouldnt be hard to do. and once you figure it out, let him practice going in and out from ANY POSITION without slamming into your cervix. its also important that WHILE you are having sex you communicate with him, in other word either through words or noises let him know when it hurts it shouldnt be hard for him to back off just a little (without you going sore).

guys can tell when they hit the cervix (in an extreme penetration position one time i figured that out with my gf) - the most important thing here is that your partner figures out how to know and then works on doing it without slamming there, NOT POSITIONS. sounds a bit like he's not such a sensitive fucker (excuse my pun), teach him or get another!!!