Sex tips and tricks

[Riton]

Hey everyone, i am a new registered member here but have been browsing around for a while!
Im rather young and im not sure how common this is, but hey, I may only be 18 and only have been with a few partners, but i wanna learn! And i think many more should follow my way!
So i read all the blank manual and it was very cool!
I can't wait to try Mr. G's G-spot trick
Now i am wondering about how to make it better while having actual sex... i mean this may sound stupid but... yeah well... where to "point"... and stupid stuff like that...
Im kinda shy so i usually don't say things the way they are... so be kind
I look young too... but if you really want a picture i can probably hook you guys up...
Well i guess that's it for now...
You can't blame a young guy for trying ot make it better for his partner right?
Thanks in advance
David

 

[SweetErika]

I may be out of it or not up with the jargon, but I really have no idea what you're asking here. What do you mean, 'where to "point" and stupid stuff like that"? Bluntly, if we can't figure out what the heck you're talking about because you're using vague terms out of embarassment, the only advice you're likely to get is along the lines of "you should wait until you can talk about sex like an adult to have more sex."

This is pretty anonymous and we can't see you blushing, so feel free to clarify/rephrase in a language we can understand.

 

[Riton]

sorry... truly sorry but it's really hard for me... english really isn't my native language either...
so please bear with me...
im thinking what kind of motion i should do... long periods of quicker action... then long of more slower action with cuddling and other more romantic things... do you see what i mean? or another idea (heck, im guessing), start slow and then quick all the way (like rabbits lol)...
that's what i meant...
and also... hmm how can i say this :S... when we're having sex... is there a particular part of her that i should "aim" to with my penis when im inside of her... i mean is there a particular side of her organ that should be more sensitive? or is that different for every woman...
sorry about the confusion... i just really find it hard :S
thanks a lot sweeterika for answering so quick and bearing with me!
i wish i could get taught personally some day but nobody lives around here can't wait to get back to the UK and maybe have a better luck!
David

 

[SweetErika]

sorry... truly sorry but it's really hard for me... english really isn't my native language either...
so please bear with me...
im thinking what kind of motion i should do... long periods of quicker action... then long of more slower action with cuddling and other more romantic things... do you see what i mean? or another idea (heck, im guessing), start slow and then quick all the way (like rabbits lol)...
that's what i meant...
and also... hmm how can i say this :S... when we're having sex... is there a particular part of her that i should "aim" to with my penis when im inside of her... i mean is there a particular side of her organ that should be more sensitive? or is that different for every woman...
sorry about the confusion... i just really find it hard :S
thanks a lot sweeterika for answering so quick and bearing with me!
i wish i could get taught personally some day but nobody lives around here can't wait to get back to the UK and maybe have a better luck!
David

Much better! The motion completely depends on both of you and the mood. Sometimes slow and long is better, but sometimes hard and fast is better. Listen to her, try different things, and go with what feels right at the time. You can even alternate styles, maybe starting slow, speeding up, slowing down again...but there's no formula, so you have to find what works for both of you.

As for angle and the like, that also depends on the woman. Once you locate her g-spot, you can try positions and angles that stimulate it. Experiment and see what she really responds to, and ask her for feedback. One of things men tend to not know or forget is that even intercourse isn't all about the vagina. Make sure you try positions where you can kiss her, stroke her, play with her breasts, clit, etc.

 

[Riton]

thanks for the answer!
well is it just me or does asking your partner "hey, do you like what im doing" or "how can i make this better for you" either make you sound like a dude who has no idea what he's doing... It seems to me thta if i ask her i'll totally ruin the moment...

 

[bobsgirl]

thanks for the answer!
well is it just me or does asking your partner "hey, do you like what im doing" or "how can i make this better for you" either make you sound like a dude who has no idea what he's doing... It seems to me thta if i ask her i'll totally ruin the moment...

Absolutely not! Please ask her! Unless you're a mind reader, you won't really know if you don't ask. Trust me, it won't make you look like you have no idea what you're doing. It will make you look like a guy who cares whether his partner is enjoying herself.

Besides a little sexy talk in bed can be a real turn-on!

 

[SweetErika]

Absolutely not! Please ask her! Unless you're a mind reader, you won't really know if you don't ask. Trust me, it won't make you look like you have no idea what you're doing. It will make you look like a guy who cares whether his partner is enjoying herself.

Besides a little sexy talk in bed can be a real turn-on!

Exactly! Sometimes we talk afterwards too...one of us will ask, "Did you like it when I ___?" or one will say, "I'd like to try ____ next time" or "I really loved it when you ____. Let's do that again."

 

[funwdi]

Gotta communicate with your woman! She will tell you what she likes! Every woman is different, remember that!

 

[Riton]

i do realize all women are different
but maybe there was some general pattern that was overall best...
well as soon as i get together will her again, i'll do my best to get to know her better in that way
any other things you would like to share with a young man in search of better sexual achievements?

 

[Vixandra]

The other ladies hit the nail on the head here- talk to her.
Ask her before you even get busy what she wants, does she have any fantasys you could help create.
Take a look in the BJ Etiquette thread: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=301609
just in case she offers.
Also check the Blank Manual: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=243894
Its got the majority if not all of the best threads here on the How To forum and is great.

I'd like to toss in that having one's breasts played with while having sex doggie style is a great turn on. A lot of guys forget about them, which is sad because it can be that tiny little bit needed to push her over the edge into an orgasm of her own.

 

[Riton]

hehe i read both of those thanks
here's a new thread:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=302883
i just made it about what to do with womens' breast as i think it didn't quite fit the intention of this thread.