RESPECTBIRTHDAY
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bailadora
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I'm not clear on what it is you are after. Do you want suggestions you can offer to your inlaws on how to make things not so rough for her? Or are you looking for a way to take your FIL to task for the way he's treated her all these years?
To me - it sounds like you think he's abused or been borderline abusive to her all these years. You're closer to the relationship than we are, but is it possible your perspective is skewed? Is it possible she preferred him being in control? The reason I ask because I recall reading a thread several years back where a woman was relating a rant she'd been subjected to by her (grown) daughter on what a controlling jerk her father was. And how she (the daughter) could not understand how she (the mother) could live with such a man. Turns out the OP was submissive - a dynamic the daughter was not privy to.
If he truly was/is abusive to your MIL, I absolutely understand your concern, RB. But this is a tricky minefield to navigate. You sound like you have the best of intentions in mind and that is laudable. But you may be met with hostility for interfering where you are not wanted. I'd advise you to tread carefully.
To me - it sounds like you think he's abused or been borderline abusive to her all these years. You're closer to the relationship than we are, but is it possible your perspective is skewed? Is it possible she preferred him being in control? The reason I ask because I recall reading a thread several years back where a woman was relating a rant she'd been subjected to by her (grown) daughter on what a controlling jerk her father was. And how she (the daughter) could not understand how she (the mother) could live with such a man. Turns out the OP was submissive - a dynamic the daughter was not privy to.
If he truly was/is abusive to your MIL, I absolutely understand your concern, RB. But this is a tricky minefield to navigate. You sound like you have the best of intentions in mind and that is laudable. But you may be met with hostility for interfering where you are not wanted. I'd advise you to tread carefully.
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bailadora
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So were you not really looking for advice? Was that more of a rant to get things off your chest? I guess I'm just wondering if I totally misinterpreted you.
