Sex with strangers?
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Derya
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been there done that
I have had a number of one night stands that result in oral sex or sex play that provides climax and release for both parties. In the case of all of my intercourse encounters they have been at least people I know or went out with a couple of times, but I can't say I really knew them that much better than a stranger at the point at which we had intimacy. Even in my long term relationships the sex kind of precedes the relationship. Good or bad I don't know...I've always been OK with my emotions. I wonder sometimes what my approach may say about how I feel about commitment and intimacy as my feelings are usually seen as kind of unusual for a female.
I have also had many occasions where I'd like to have acted on sexual urges (with strangers and friends alike) more than I have, and have hesitated because of image or what I think someonelse may think, or because of how I think the male is looking at things.
A lot of my girlfriends say I think like a guy. Sex is more fulfilling and unique when there is meaning and feelings and love with it, but sex is still great when it's just sex and I'm not saying anyone else has to feel this way, but why not enjoy and explore it whenever. There have been occasions where I felt guilty (good Catholic upbringing I guess) and also a couple of occasions where I felt like the guy treated me like a whore, but that's where the guy is coming from I didn't feel like that because of my feelings. Most men I've encountered although they claim to desire a woman with no strings on occasion don't really know how to deal with that either.
Just another thought regarding sexual health safety. Definitely this is a real and important consideration, but interesting circumstances to think about--- all of the cases I am aware of among family and friends and acquaintenances where I know people who have to deal with STD's (thank goodness none I know are life threatening) they ALL contracted their problems from long term partners and relationships with some level of commitment not from casual encounters....my perception (at least in today's world) greater attention is given to sexual safety in casual circumstances than in connections where the partners are more familiar, but it's sometimes a false sense of familiarity and/or a level of commitment that makes you feel comfortable with accepting certain risks that one should still be more precautious about.
I have had a number of one night stands that result in oral sex or sex play that provides climax and release for both parties. In the case of all of my intercourse encounters they have been at least people I know or went out with a couple of times, but I can't say I really knew them that much better than a stranger at the point at which we had intimacy. Even in my long term relationships the sex kind of precedes the relationship. Good or bad I don't know...I've always been OK with my emotions. I wonder sometimes what my approach may say about how I feel about commitment and intimacy as my feelings are usually seen as kind of unusual for a female.
I have also had many occasions where I'd like to have acted on sexual urges (with strangers and friends alike) more than I have, and have hesitated because of image or what I think someonelse may think, or because of how I think the male is looking at things.
A lot of my girlfriends say I think like a guy. Sex is more fulfilling and unique when there is meaning and feelings and love with it, but sex is still great when it's just sex and I'm not saying anyone else has to feel this way, but why not enjoy and explore it whenever. There have been occasions where I felt guilty (good Catholic upbringing I guess) and also a couple of occasions where I felt like the guy treated me like a whore, but that's where the guy is coming from I didn't feel like that because of my feelings. Most men I've encountered although they claim to desire a woman with no strings on occasion don't really know how to deal with that either.
Just another thought regarding sexual health safety. Definitely this is a real and important consideration, but interesting circumstances to think about--- all of the cases I am aware of among family and friends and acquaintenances where I know people who have to deal with STD's (thank goodness none I know are life threatening) they ALL contracted their problems from long term partners and relationships with some level of commitment not from casual encounters....my perception (at least in today's world) greater attention is given to sexual safety in casual circumstances than in connections where the partners are more familiar, but it's sometimes a false sense of familiarity and/or a level of commitment that makes you feel comfortable with accepting certain risks that one should still be more precautious about.
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Re: been there done that
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Yes, although I was basing my comments on personal knowledge of behavior that is true, and even taking away the "assumed" part of the monogamy---- relationships with monogamy where nothing had to be assumed and no one cheated they still passed STDs. I know a number of these personally. I think one facet that occurs is that in these relationships that are more than sexual encounters they don't start with sex being the draw and then when sex becomes a factor maybe someone's confidence isn't strong enough to share their problems and adjust or use available preventative measures because they fear possible rejection at some level now that more is invested with the other person, but the converse is usually the reality. If more is invested and you have feelings for another person the more likely you are to care, understand, and accept. Also many many people are still uncomfortable and/or ignorant about their own health and unintentionally expose others to health risks because of their own fears/hesitancies about learning more for and about themselves; combine that with the fact that in more commited relationships partners become less attentive to sexual safety measures. And also as I mentioned I think people "in love" even if it's not for a lifetime feel they are comfortable accepting certain levels of risk (example non-fatal STD) but then a lot of times the relationship isn't for a lifetime, but the STD can be.
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Yes, although I was basing my comments on personal knowledge of behavior that is true, and even taking away the "assumed" part of the monogamy---- relationships with monogamy where nothing had to be assumed and no one cheated they still passed STDs. I know a number of these personally. I think one facet that occurs is that in these relationships that are more than sexual encounters they don't start with sex being the draw and then when sex becomes a factor maybe someone's confidence isn't strong enough to share their problems and adjust or use available preventative measures because they fear possible rejection at some level now that more is invested with the other person, but the converse is usually the reality. If more is invested and you have feelings for another person the more likely you are to care, understand, and accept. Also many many people are still uncomfortable and/or ignorant about their own health and unintentionally expose others to health risks because of their own fears/hesitancies about learning more for and about themselves; combine that with the fact that in more commited relationships partners become less attentive to sexual safety measures. And also as I mentioned I think people "in love" even if it's not for a lifetime feel they are comfortable accepting certain levels of risk (example non-fatal STD) but then a lot of times the relationship isn't for a lifetime, but the STD can be.
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out at a well-known dance club, trawling for action as i was wont to do, i found myself surrounded by several well-built young men in delightfully pressed and polished whites. accents from all over the isle, offering me drinks, chatting of world experiences..... all of which i halted by the use of a simple sentence....
"so you guys want to go somewhere and fuck?"
(not overly subtle, i know, but surprising how often it works! especially when coming from ruby lips.)
in short order we're in a hotel room and i am being stripped of my garments (not too many as i tend to wear only the basics - dress and shoes!), the surprise of finding no underwear, the touch of many hands....
supplying my own lube and condoms (like i said, gotta be ready for everything!) and having 8 hands rubbing lube into every part of my body before taking the first of 4 tumescent throbbing cocks into my mouth, deeply and feeling several fingers, not all from the same person, push deeply into my now-dripping pussy.
getting a finger-fuck and feeling a digit or two press into my ass while sucking on a delicious 6/7 inches.......the first of many orgasms building...
i was lifted onto the penis of a nicely built blonde guy, before having another thrust at my mouth which i took in at the same time as i was being impaled onto another, the feeling of having my ass, cunt and mouth filled all at the same time being totally violated as it were....
and then i felt a thrust from behind, i released my mouth and turned to see, and there was one under me, one behind me, and another behind him........ he was being fucked while he was fucking me!
wow!!!!!!!
the feeling of timing our moves to get the complete thrusts.....
i returned to my meal and took him all the way down into the back of my throat, where he started to come.
all the guys began to climax at the same time, and i was not long after.
the night continued in this way as we changed positions and then rested, only to begin all over again. eating and being eaten, and having four well-skilled men come all over me.......
in the morning, i showered, dressed and wished my studs a safe journey.
i have yet to repeat that kind of encounter, but i must tell you, even sitting here typing it out has got me all wet .....
copied into this thread, as requested!
"so you guys want to go somewhere and fuck?"
(not overly subtle, i know, but surprising how often it works! especially when coming from ruby lips.)
in short order we're in a hotel room and i am being stripped of my garments (not too many as i tend to wear only the basics - dress and shoes!), the surprise of finding no underwear, the touch of many hands....
supplying my own lube and condoms (like i said, gotta be ready for everything!) and having 8 hands rubbing lube into every part of my body before taking the first of 4 tumescent throbbing cocks into my mouth, deeply and feeling several fingers, not all from the same person, push deeply into my now-dripping pussy.
getting a finger-fuck and feeling a digit or two press into my ass while sucking on a delicious 6/7 inches.......the first of many orgasms building...
i was lifted onto the penis of a nicely built blonde guy, before having another thrust at my mouth which i took in at the same time as i was being impaled onto another, the feeling of having my ass, cunt and mouth filled all at the same time being totally violated as it were....
and then i felt a thrust from behind, i released my mouth and turned to see, and there was one under me, one behind me, and another behind him........ he was being fucked while he was fucking me!
wow!!!!!!!
the feeling of timing our moves to get the complete thrusts.....
i returned to my meal and took him all the way down into the back of my throat, where he started to come.
all the guys began to climax at the same time, and i was not long after.
the night continued in this way as we changed positions and then rested, only to begin all over again. eating and being eaten, and having four well-skilled men come all over me.......
in the morning, i showered, dressed and wished my studs a safe journey.
i have yet to repeat that kind of encounter, but i must tell you, even sitting here typing it out has got me all wet .....
copied into this thread, as requested!
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warrior queen said:
Damn, I am dripping a bit myself now.
Thanks for sharing.
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I went through a stage for a long time in which I had sex only with strangers or friends that knew there would be nothing more than sex. I guess I still am in that stage to a point. It was a defense mechanism for me. If I don't care I won't get hurt but I still get laid. After a while though like someone else said I sometimes do feel used, even though I was using him/her just as much.
It is so amazing to make love to someone and honestly, if there was someone in my life I could really make love to I wouldn't desire anything else.
It is so amazing to make love to someone and honestly, if there was someone in my life I could really make love to I wouldn't desire anything else.
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shescurious said:
i went thro a similar stage - there was a time when i didn't want the complication of a relationship.
but now i have met the guy i'm going to grow old with - 10 ys + - and the fact that he still lets me out to 'play' is just perfect.
i hope you find your soul-mate
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warrior queen said:i went thro a similar stage - there was a time when i didn't want the complication of a relationship.
but now i have met the guy i'm going to grow old with - 10 ys + - and the fact that he still lets me out to 'play' is just perfect.
i hope you find your soul-mate
Beautiful post right till the end
I am gonna vomit next time someone uses that godawful lie as a cutsie love phrase
truly
Don't get me wrong, I believe you & your honey love each other
but that "soul mate" jazz is SO part of the machinery of "love" as created to enforce ideas about sex, love, and monogamy
Makes me queasy, even when the person using it is someone who doesn't ascribe to the typical notions of what those things "should" be
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James G 5 said:
my man is definately my soul-mate - but we don't let ourselves get constrained by any of the typical lovey-dovey, relationship crap.
we happen to respect eachother's needs as well as wants, and don't see it as integral to the success of our union to be faithful to the death.
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