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GrrlFriday
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My rule of thumb: in a consensual relationship, cheating is whatever your partner thinks it is. Each couple decides for themselves what they're willing to give and take.
For some people, just fantasizing about a neighbour (or a porn actor) would be 'cheating in your head'. Others are more easygoing.
IOW, don't ask us, ask your partner![]()
Also, for some people, having fantasies about a movie star or someone famous would be 'ok' (because they are unattainable) but having them about someone who is right there might be too much (because that might make the OP's wife feel like the OP might cheat on her).
Would thinking about her act as a 'steam valve' or would it just make the feelings stronger? And if the OP does think about her in an unrealistic/porny way often, could it affect his real relationship with her? (I use the term 'relationship' in an archaic fashion here - to refer to the acquaintance struck up by their mutual interest in gardening and their proximity.)
