I read here quite frequently and from time to time see questions pertaining to “how to give a good blowjob”. Well, forgive me if I ramble, as I’m an infrequent contributor to the board. I’ve been reading and watching and learning for a long time, and throw in my own opinions as a recipient of said blowjobs, and I’ve finally come to this conclusion: Men want what women want. Of course your mileage may vary.
I watch a fair amount of porn. I see time and time again a woman start off slowly, lots of soft touching and licking and sucking, and more often than not, she changes her technique, her rhythm, her cadence, and begins to look more and more frustrated. She gets angry at it! And the usual result is the guy has to pull out and finish the job himself. <sigh>.
I know from various readings and from personal experience that a (typical) woman wants to be touched the way she wants, not the way he wants. I want what I want, too. What I want is for my woman to find what I want and do that, not hunt and peck all over the place. She needs to find out, and I need to tell her, then I expect her to do that and stick with it. I love to hear a whispered “don’t stop”, and I love it when I can say that to her. It means DONOTSTOPUNTILIFINISH! It’s ok to spend time teasing and changing things up, but when it’s time for the climax, pay attention and do what he likes It won’t take long at all!
All that being said, what make a blowjob a good one (to me) is simple. Messy is good. Saliva is good. Finger tips on the shaft are good. Light licking of the head of his dick is good. Licking balls is good. Hands on his thighs with a mouth on his dick is good. There’s a whole packet of nerve endings that run along the underside of a dick, from the base of the scrotum, all the way up the shaft, and including the head. Once you get to the tip of the head, and start down the top side, it’s almost dead. It’s ok for a playground, and shouldn’t be ignored, but that ain’t where an orgasm’s going to come from.
That’s the foreplay part. When it’s time to get serious, take the head of his dick into your mouth and lightly suck it, while rolling your tongue around on the underside. Use your hands lightly on his tummy, chest, and thighs, or reach around and lightly stroke his butt, or barely graze his balls. But keep that gentle sucking going! Steady rhythm now. Once in a while, take more of the shaft in your mouth, than let go and go back to working on the head. (The underside – did I mention that?) Just a few minutes of that is all it takes.
That’s a good blowjob!
I watch a fair amount of porn. I see time and time again a woman start off slowly, lots of soft touching and licking and sucking, and more often than not, she changes her technique, her rhythm, her cadence, and begins to look more and more frustrated. She gets angry at it! And the usual result is the guy has to pull out and finish the job himself. <sigh>.
I know from various readings and from personal experience that a (typical) woman wants to be touched the way she wants, not the way he wants. I want what I want, too. What I want is for my woman to find what I want and do that, not hunt and peck all over the place. She needs to find out, and I need to tell her, then I expect her to do that and stick with it. I love to hear a whispered “don’t stop”, and I love it when I can say that to her. It means DONOTSTOPUNTILIFINISH! It’s ok to spend time teasing and changing things up, but when it’s time for the climax, pay attention and do what he likes It won’t take long at all!
All that being said, what make a blowjob a good one (to me) is simple. Messy is good. Saliva is good. Finger tips on the shaft are good. Light licking of the head of his dick is good. Licking balls is good. Hands on his thighs with a mouth on his dick is good. There’s a whole packet of nerve endings that run along the underside of a dick, from the base of the scrotum, all the way up the shaft, and including the head. Once you get to the tip of the head, and start down the top side, it’s almost dead. It’s ok for a playground, and shouldn’t be ignored, but that ain’t where an orgasm’s going to come from.
That’s the foreplay part. When it’s time to get serious, take the head of his dick into your mouth and lightly suck it, while rolling your tongue around on the underside. Use your hands lightly on his tummy, chest, and thighs, or reach around and lightly stroke his butt, or barely graze his balls. But keep that gentle sucking going! Steady rhythm now. Once in a while, take more of the shaft in your mouth, than let go and go back to working on the head. (The underside – did I mention that?) Just a few minutes of that is all it takes.
That’s a good blowjob!
