So who's my owner? Jekyll or Hide?

[FurryFury]

I'm so sorry you and your PYL are going through this. I don't have much advice to offer except that while you are trying to take care of him, don't forget to take care of yourself. I find it draining to be constantly afraid for someone I adore. It can take me to my own very dark places.

*HUGS and HUGS*

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'm so sorry you and your PYL are going through this. I don't have much advice to offer except that while you are trying to take care of him, don't forget to take care of yourself. I find it draining to be constantly afraid for someone I adore. It can take me to my own very dark places.

*HUGS and HUGS*

I'm starting to experience this but am endeavouring to head it off. Being able to talk here has already been very therapeutic.

Thanks for the hugs, they're all gratefully received.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

So L went to this party with his new colleagues on Friday night. It actually went really well. He chatted with the few people he already knew and made a couple of new acquaintances. Also, he and the guy who owns the company got chatting about music. The big boss guy even wants to bring his guitar in and jam with L after work one day.

I mean way to shmooze!

Just hope that Mr Bossman can play for shit as L isn't one to pull his punches when people play crap music at him.

He was really pleased with himself when he came back home though. He had about a bottle of wine, which is a moderate amount for him. He wasn't more than pleasantly merry.

On other matters...

I had a lovely PM the other day that gave me lots to think about. I hadn't joined the dots before but L's general shyness is definitely a factor in his reluctance to see a therapist I think. If meeting new people is nervewracking in general then meeting a new person with a view to discussing painful shit is going to be doubly so.

Also, although he's pleased about meeting his new bandmates, they're also going to be a factor with his drinking because he wants to appear confident and happy around them.

So those are both things to think about. I'm not sure how someone overcomes shyness like that. It can't be easy as to my knowledge, L has been this way for as long as he can remember.