Stamina Method

[Dreyk66]

Ok so I have difficulties lasting... ive read whats posted about taking care of things myself a bit beforehand... (though ive found that NOT doing so tends to help more oddly enough)... and the whole taking care of her needs in other ways etc. I would still like to find a way to simply have more staying power or at least the ability to keep going after i finish (seems i dont have great recovery time eather... god i suck lol)...

Anyway, kinda the point is, somebody suggested hearing about a method where when masterbating you bring yourself to the brink and then just stop... and your supposed to do it that way for like a couple months and never finish... it seems like that would end up making me just completely ready to cum at a minutes notice... and would be kinda frusterating in the buildup as well... though i'd be willing to try it if it actually had some kind of lasting effect (like lifting weights builds muscle... as long as you use it, you keep it)... just bringing myself to the brink and keeping myself there as long as i can handle it before finishing i think seems much more appealing but would that have the same effect etc?

Anyway, that ended up longer then i was thinking so thanks for sticking with me and thanks for any help

 

[Typo Fu Master]

Ok so I have difficulties lasting... ive read whats posted about taking care of things myself a bit beforehand... (though ive found that NOT doing so tends to help more oddly enough)... and the whole taking care of her needs in other ways etc. I would still like to find a way to simply have more staying power or at least the ability to keep going after i finish (seems i dont have great recovery time eather... god i suck lol)...

Anyway, kinda the point is, somebody suggested hearing about a method where when masterbating you bring yourself to the brink and then just stop... and your supposed to do it that way for like a couple months and never finish... it seems like that would end up making me just completely ready to cum at a minutes notice... and would be kinda frusterating in the buildup as well... though i'd be willing to try it if it actually had some kind of lasting effect (like lifting weights builds muscle... as long as you use it, you keep it)... just bringing myself to the brink and keeping myself there as long as i can handle it before finishing i think seems much more appealing but would that have the same effect etc?

Anyway, that ended up longer then i was thinking so thanks for sticking with me and thanks for any help

It's called "edging." I don't believe it increases your stamina, so much as teaches you when you're about to ejaculate. Most people aren't aware that orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events. If you can learn your body's threshold you can ease off during intercourse before you cum and thereby last longer that way.

Another possibility would be to simply use a condom. You can find many varieties that can also please her with various little nubs on them and whatnot but they all tend to desensitize you to some degree.

There are creams which can desensitize the penis.

And another technique, which, if you have the patience, is worth pursuing is to exercise your PC muscle (the muscle you squeeze when you urinate). Once you develop a strong PC muscle, at the moment of orgasm squeeze it hard and if you do it correctly you can orgasm without ejaculating and still be ready for more.

Hope that helps.

 

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other threads

There are recent threads on this very subject. Here is a recent post I left :

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=23597040&postcount=30

Maharat

 

[Chicklet]

(seems i dont have great recovery time eather... god i suck lol)...

snore

don't talk down about yourself like that

everybody's different, and it doesn't mean they're any better or worse than anyone else in bed.

if you consider edging, keep in mind that if you don't give yourself regular ejaculation, the cum might be sort of icky when it finally comes out. personally, i hate denial, so wouldn't suggest it because i'm selfish.

if i were you i might try to make intercourse the last part of the sexual encounter. do oral, do teasing, spend a lot of time building her up, so that when you finally go for the sex, she cums as fast as you do.

last night in my munch chat, we discussed using strapons during sex. that's another option for you.

anyways, good luck, hope one of the ideas you receive helps.

 

[babexbabe]

dont worry about t, like the above poster said, just make it the last part of a great session

 

[Snowman5933]

I think alot has to do with age, due to our bodies and hormone levels changing over time. When I was in my early twenties a 1-2 minutes was all I could do, but now I'm thirty-five I average about 10 minutes. I think it's important not to judge yourself to harshly, and don't ever compare yourself to what you see in porn videos (some of them use medication to depress there ejaculation and other videos are creatively edited to make it appear they lasted longer. I'm not sure about this edging technique (don't really think that would work....IMO).

Sex should be about sharing mutual pleasure with a partner, and shouldn't be about time limits. If foreplay last for an hour and intercourse last for 2 minutes that doesn't have to mean that it was not pleasurable. When I find that I'm getting too excited to quickly I'll withdraw from her and go back to foreplay till I calm down a little. This is something that she has found very pleasing in the past.

Just have fun!

Snowman

 

[golfdude1233]

ya its all an age thing - There are supplements you could take to patch it up though that make a real difference - sexual stamina is something not to mess with though cause everyone wants to perform great

 

[SweetErika]

ya its all an age thing - There are supplements you could take to patch it up though that make a real difference - sexual stamina is something not to mess with though cause everyone wants to perform great

Why is stamina not something to mess with? "'cause everyone wants to perform great" doesn't make any sense as a reason to me.


Which supplements make a "real difference" in sexual stamina? Perhaps the ones on the site in your sig? By the way, are you aware the formatting is all fucked up? Or that it's a commercial site promoting products that aren't proven to work, and advertising commercial sites on Lit is prohibited, per the Forum Rules ?

No offense, but you seem to be posting mostly nonsense in an effort to get more people to see your sig - an underhanded way to spam, if you will. If that's what you're doing, I'd suggest stopping before someone reports you.

 

[Snowman5933]

Very well put Erika. Some types of medications, such as benzodiazapines (valium, klonopin, ativan...etc) can have an adverse affect which can actually make you last longer, but prolonged use can affect your ability to maintain an erection (not much fun at all). As for supplements (there is no evidence to support them, so save your money, and leave them out of the bedroom).

Be cool!

 

[mjl2010]

Learning to control ejaculation by using the PC muscle is by far the most reliable method of increasing the length of time you can hold off. The really great part of this is its effect on you.

First, once you learn good control, you can last quite a while.

Second, holding off means you'll have some "mini" orgasms without ejaculating.

Third, when you finally do let yourself go, you'll find that often you have a more intense orgasm.

Two caveats. Attempting to last an hour during intercourse is not a good idea. She'll be way too sore by then (and later, you will be too). Learn to last long enough to get her off, then let yourself go. This is something you learn. Don't expect to read up on it and automatically be able to do it.

Just do a Google on "PC Muscle" and read more than one site.

I would also say, as someone else implied or said, that intercourse can be a great finale to sex. Spend an hour or more on sex in general. Give her two or three good ones, in whatever manner she likes best, then as the last one is winding down, climb up and finish things off.

Personally, I like to last about ten minutes or so. I can go longer but it becomes work if we're going fast and hard. Twenty minutes of extra slow grinding is also really great. I find if she's on top, then I like to last longer but usually we prefer me on top or from behind.

Before I learned control, she was reluctant to stimulate me much before we "did it" because I just couldn't last long. Now we both enjoy a good hour or more of hot sex with plenty of pleasure on both sides. My only regret is I wish I had known about this when I was eighteen or nineteen.

Good luck

MJL

 

[emap]

I'm a little surprised at ya'll, you skipped one of the best lessons about lasting. The key is to not hop on and turn into a jackhammer.

No seriously, take it slow and steady and build up to the jackhammer.

Kidding aside, one of the best things I ever heard about lasting longer is to play with yourself, not to get off in 30 second, but just to feel good. That means find a good movie or story/stories wrap your hand around mr. happy and just stroke, not fast, not hard just to keep it up and feeling good. Find your own personal speed/pressure for doing that and enjoy, turn sex not into getting off and going to sleep but a constant good feeling.

Basically turn your orgasm into a by product, not the sole reason to get on her.

Oh and still do the fast bit on yourself, if all you do is slow and good feeling you will eventually stop coming alltogether and hey us women do enjoy the wham bam bit on ocassion.

 

[golfdude1233]

how long do you want to last?

 

[Cardinalduke]

My problem with stamina is staying hard, not lasting a long time. Viagra has helped me considerably. It barely and indirectly helps with ejaculatory control by shortening the refractory period and increasing tip sensitivity. I have the lasting a long time thing down I think. A long list of what works for me.....



Condoms - big improvement in control
Desensitizing cream

Increasing masturbation frequency -rather than just doing it right beforehand, try doing it a lot more often and having more sex. Doing it right beforehand paradoxically isn't so effective for me either. But doing it twice a day versus 3 times a week sure is! Increase sensitivity at tip of penis. Paradoxically going harder helps me b/c the tip starts to hurt and I can hold off longer.

Position - find the motions that drive her crazy but not you. Rub the top of your shaft along her gspot in missionary for example.

Anything that keep testosterone levels lower tend to make me last a lot longer. Certain steroidal compounds have a huge effect here.

Ever used Ephedrine? Ephedrine = best nonsterodal drug I have found for lasting longer! It can be risky maybe, but a huge number of men in bodybuilding have commented on how it takes them forever to nut. It lowers libido a bit and is fairly reliable for many men. Control your vision. If you have to make her put on three sweatshirts and give it a shot. In short, take some of the stimulus away. Try not penetrating as deeply or penetrating deeper with less in-out motion. Try constriction devices such as ball stretchers and separators. These make me come faster but may have a different effect on you!

Good luck.

 

[wellnow]

snore

don't talk down about yourself like that

everybody's different, and it doesn't mean they're any better or worse than anyone else in bed.

if you consider edging, keep in mind that if you don't give yourself regular ejaculation, the cum might be sort of icky when it finally comes out. personally, i hate denial, so wouldn't suggest it because i'm selfish.

if i were you i might try to make intercourse the last part of the sexual encounter. do oral, do teasing, spend a lot of time building her up, so that when you finally go for the sex, she cums as fast as you do.

last night in my munch chat, we discussed using strapons during sex. that's another option for you.

anyways, good luck, hope one of the ideas you receive helps.

Hi Chicklet. In your munch chat, was the use of strapons considered as a work around for premature ejaculation? If so, how well was it received by the ladies who participated?

Thanks,

 

[PassionateLady]

C-rings

You need a C-ring. A cock ring will keep the blood in your penis and/or testicles and will help you last longer. Couple that with some topical cream and you should last longer. This is such a common thing. I recently learned about some products on a website and LOVE it! I cannot talk about it enough. There are a couple of awesome c-rings - Magic Rings or the INtimacy Enhander - that are great! You should get one of these and some stay hard cream, or even topical eaze. You can get them at www.PassionPresent.com

I LOVE telling people about this stuff because it has changed my life!!

 

[Trxjw]

I don't know if this will work, but in instances where I find myself getting close to climax I try to relax my leg muscles a bit. If she is on top, I fold my legs up into an "indian style" position, or if I'm on top, I'll slide my legs closer to her body. Just something to try and ease the tension and take the focus away from what's going on. Squeezing my toes like I'm trying to pick up a pencil with my foot also helps me.

Probably not for everyone, but it's worth a shot.

 

[novmadman]

A word of caution .... the drugs listed in the above postings also have a high potential for abuse and will cause physical addiction if used over a prolonged period of time. They may very well have the effect listed, but are also serious drugs and not perscribed to enhance sex.

 

[nowitzki41]

you should try a sport, basketball, football maybe even running, I find playing basketball helps your staminia tremendously.