Stereotyping to make you cry.

[cloudy]

I've told you before, and I'll say it again. If it wasn't for a certain Dragon, and a certain Red Head I would marry you in a minute. (Too bad we can't marry more than one person in the United States huh?)

Cat

polyamory, anyone?

You know, those messages go even further than body image...do you know how often I wished, when I was younger, to be blonde and blue-eyed? Now, I'm happy with my coloring, but when I was little, those little anglo-saxon looking girls got all the attention.

 

[arienette]

American Males like Big Breasts. A lot.

Or so marketing, porn, art, literature, film, television, magazines, newspapers, plastic surgeons, horny teenage boys and horny grown men tell us.

If we were inundated with messages about how men like small breasts, the larger ladies would all be stressing about how our breasts are too big and we'd be getting boob reduction surgery.

*shrug*

The best breasts are the ones that feel good when they're touched.

You said it, sister!
I don't know what I'd do if everyone all of a sudden hated big breasts - I'd be sad, just as sad as I am to find out that curves are gross, extra meat on your bones is disgusting and why Anorexia and Bulimia is such a wide-spread epidemic.

 

[elsol]

why do i feel like i should play devils advocate here?
its lovely that the people in the AH say they don't really care about physical appearance and ive no doubt that alot of you dont really care
that being said...
how many of you actually love/are friends with/care about someone who is vastly different...someone who is of a large size?
please dont blast me, im just asking because of something mentioned in this thread. we are brought up around the idea of what beautiful is. we are surrounded by ads that feature slim *read annorexic* women...not just women though. the men in some ads are slim as well.
i am a large woman and when i see the ads for lane bryant or other large women stores, i cringe. is this what i look like? i dont feel like that! i think it boils down to what messages we are brought up with...how we are raised...what we tell our kids...
oh hell, now im blathering.

I'm latin.

Thick is compliment.

Edited to Add: To be honest, vella... if that's you're leg I'd love to hump it! It's looks quite thick!


Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[Guest]

Vella,
What did I tell you the last time I replied to a post like this from you? If I recall it was something like come to West Palm and I'll make you understand why my wife loves me doing oral on her. As I have said way too many times, its not all about looks. It's about attitude.

Cat

seriously, i wasnt pointing fingers. i didnt mean to come across as an angry fat woman, just simply curious. because, i myself, find it hard sometimes to offset the msgs i was brought up with...hence the low self esteem.
im glad to see that some people are not phased by a persons looks but rather intrigued by their personalities. it makes me have hope.

 

[Guest]

I'm latin.

Thick is compliment.

Sincerely,
ElSol

ROFLMAO.
i used to tell my mother that i was going to move to italy just to have my ass pinched.

 

[cloudy]

ROFLMAO.
i used to tell my mother that i was going to move to italy just to have my ass pinched.

As I recall, there was a fair bit of pinching going on at the Cape.

didn't have to go that far at all.

 

[Wildcard Ky]

ROFLMAO.
i used to tell my mother that i was going to move to italy just to have my ass pinched.

Hell, if you want your ass pinched just call me. I'm a helluva lot cheaper than going to Italy.

 

[hugo_sam]

ROFLMAO.
i used to tell my mother that i was going to move to italy just to have my ass pinched.

Yes, Vella some of us do look at the inside. My wife is a BBW with huge tits. However, when we met it was her eyes/face that got my attention. Before her I have dated every body type inbetween from average to BBW to bone thin waifish model. Everyone is what they are inside and how they feel about themselves. I see a lot of beauty here both in the words and in the AV's.
How you feel about yourself has a lot to do with how you portray yourself to others.

Other than my wife's objection: I'd pinch your ass (or anything else) any time you asked.

Hugo

 

[Guest]

As I recall, there was a fair bit of pinching going on at the Cape.

didn't have to go that far at all.

HELL YEAH BABY! how much fun that was! cant remember a time i felt so free. beautiful memories.

Hell, if you want your ass pinched just call me. I'm a helluva lot cheaper than going to Italy.

very true! why dont lucky and i have an ass pinching party and everyone, every shape and size is welcome to cum!

Yes, Vella some of us do look at the inside. My wife is a BBW with huge tits. However, when we met it was her eyes/face that got my attention. Before her I have dated every body type inbetween from average to BBW to bone thin waifish model. Everyone is what they are inside and how they feel about themselves. I see a lot of beauty here both in the words and in the AV's.
How you feel about yourself has a lot to do with how you portray yourself to others.

Other than my wife's objection: I'd pinch your ass (or anything else) any time you asked.

well then, you'll just have to bring your wife to our ass pinching party and ill pinch hers as well. *kiss*

 

[tolyk]

In answer to Vella's question, I have loved a larger woman.. I met her on the internet and didn't know what she looked like, fell in love with her personality and when we met, I was attracted to her, not just the personality, but her body, her face, her gorgeous ass.... I still don't find anything unappealing about her.. but hey, I did marry her after all...

I've been with a total of 5 women.. 2 large, 2 small and one in between.. One big, one small and the in-between were very good in bed. The other two.. well, there wasn't anything there.. no emotions, and the sex was very dry.... no pun intended.

Beyond sex though, the only thing that catches my attention on a woman are her eyes and ass... for physical.. I don't care what size body they have...


Great thread topic btw SeaCat

 

[cloudy]

HELL YEAH BABY! how much fun that was! cant remember a time i felt so free. beautiful memories.

me too......me too.

 

[SeaCat]

seriously, i wasnt pointing fingers. i didnt mean to come across as an angry fat woman, just simply curious. because, i myself, find it hard sometimes to offset the msgs i was brought up with...hence the low self esteem.
im glad to see that some people are not phased by a persons looks but rather intrigued by their personalities. it makes me have hope.

( I know that, but this is the only way I can get a bite of your ass without Lucky coming after me with fire in her eyes. Lust in her eyes I can deal with, fire in her eyes and I start looking for my asbestos shorts.)

Cat

 

[SeaCat]

polyamory, anyone?

You know, those messages go even further than body image...do you know how often I wished, when I was younger, to be blonde and blue-eyed? Now, I'm happy with my coloring, but when I was little, those little anglo-saxon looking girls got all the attention.

Do you ever wonder how this nut case who was born of German and Prussian parents often wondered what it was like not to be blonde? Thankfully I grew out of that. (Somewhat.)

Honestly, I have never been that attracted to overly large breasts or asses. (Nor have I ever been attracted to the overly thin, twiggy like figure.)

The young lady I mention in the start of this thread is about five feet tall and weighs in at somewhere close to 120 pounds. Large for her height but nothing insurmountable. She has a fantastic sense of humour, although she does have some body issues to deal with. My wife knows that if given half the chance I would gladly give her not a bed bath but a tongue bath. (My wife, not surprisingly because she has been with me for 13 years, agrees with me.)

Maria, (which isbn't her name but is close enough.) claimed this morning that there was no way a man would ever be attracted to her because of her piercings and kids. I explained to her that the piercings and kids didn't detract from her, rather they added to her. (Okay so I'm not your normal Yankee.) I then had to explain to her that I couldn't father children which was why my wife and I didn't have any. Do you know what it's like to have a beautiful lady crying on your shoulder in the middle of a hall way? With a bunch of women who just plain don't like you there anyways looking on? (It took less than an hour for the first rumor of my having an affair with Maria to reach my wife. Thank the gods she knows me.) Maria doesn't understand this atypical American male when he explains that her having piercings, small tits and kids doesn't make her attractive or sexy. (She would make the Sleeping Buddha sit up and take notice. Hell she would make him have a hard on.) Maria is almost as sexy to me as my wife is, and my wife pulled me out of an asexual life. (Yes she knows about my first wife. She has met my first in-laws and loves them as I do.) Heather, my wife of 13 years, would make Buddha weep and Christ pull himself off the cross to climb down. She saved me from becoming something worse than dead.

Now ladies, (to get back on thread.) You want to know what gets me turned on? Give me a bad attitude. Don't give a shit about what society want's, just what you want. That to me is sexy. I don't want Twiggy or any of these other models. I want Gretchen Wilson, Pink, etc. I want someone who is going to run alongside of this Lobo, not behind me.

Cat

 

[kinky shy girl]

I'm petite, and I'm satisfied with my modest B-cups. Like some women, sometimes I can be overly critical about my appearance. Overall I'm happy with the way I am, and my boyfriend appreciates me, small boobs and all.

 

[BlackShanglan]

You know, those messages go even further than body image...do you know how often I wished, when I was younger, to be blonde and blue-eyed? Now, I'm happy with my coloring, but when I was little, those little anglo-saxon looking girls got all the attention.

Aye. That's the worst of it. I have certain characteristics about my body that I consider unattractive, and that I think many people think unattractive. To be fair, there are some things each person has that are not ideal, whatever they may be. There's no point suggesting that everyone ought to see them as attractive; there are some things that rarely are, and it's reasonable to accept that every person is a package that is not physically ideal in some way - some with more flaws, some blessed with fewer. The key is whether we look for other human beings to be Barbie dolls, or whether we're looking at them as humans, delightful in their quirks and foibles and little imperfections, and people we're interacting with - not objects we're attempting to acquire, busily knocking down the price for every little ding and dent.

That sort of thing one can deal with, given time. One can accept that perhaps some specific aspects of one's physical appearance - teeth, hair, weight, whatever - are not attuned to most people's taste, and that that's all right. One is, after all, a complete person, and those accustomed to judging worth by proximity to an ideal of physical perfection are not worth cultivating as acquaintences. But when beauty is not merely a set of statistics, but a race and a culture - when "beauty" is "Anglo-Saxon" - then that seems to me a terribly painful thing. Sympathies, Cloudy - although personally I cannot imagine how folk can blind themselves to the beauty of an entire people.

Are there some physical forms which might be more attractive, to most, than others? I think it's fair to say that that is so. Most humans prefer symmetry; most prefer apparent health and regularity of physical features; most prefer weight that appears proportional to height. Many also prefer otherwise, led by personal inclination or by the images dunned into them through advertising. I think, however, that if one asks "why don't people of X appearance get as many compliments on their physiques as people of Y appearance?" one is possibly asking the wrong question. Should one be investigating racism, I'd agree that it's reasonable to ask. But if one is asking why one's (to use a personal example) oversized and roughly chipped hooves are not as highly regarded as the dainty, sleek, and fine black feet of one's comrades, one fights the tide. One's hooves are perhaps not one's finest feature. Why ask people to admire what they do not? The better question is, are they giving anything else - body, mind or soul - a bit of thought? Should they praise my pen, and perhaps remain tactfully silent on the topic of my hooves, I am content.

Shanglan

 

[LadyJeanne]

polyamory, anyone?

You know, those messages go even further than body image...do you know how often I wished, when I was younger, to be blonde and blue-eyed? Now, I'm happy with my coloring, but when I was little, those little anglo-saxon looking girls got all the attention.

Ohh, I know that feeling! My eyes made me look foreign and different, and I grew up wishing I'd been one of those blue-eyed blonde girls. It wasn't until I got to college that I realized there were people who thought my eyes were beautiful, or that they even could be.

 

[yui]

You know, those messages go even further than body image...do you know how often I wished, when I was younger, to be blonde and blue-eyed? Now, I'm happy with my coloring, but when I was little, those little anglo-saxon looking girls got all the attention.

Ohh, I know that feeling! My eyes made me look foreign and different, and I grew up wishing I'd been one of those blue-eyed blonde girls. It wasn't until I got to college that I realized there were people who thought my eyes were beautiful, or that they even could be.

Oh, flowers for you both! I too wanted to be pink and blond and blue. Sundresses, blond braids, and a smattering of freckles; these were my ideals as a child. Oy. The lament of a yellow girl.

 

[McKenna]

How you feel about yourself has a lot to do with how you portray yourself to others.

This is such a true statement, it needs to be repeated.

 

[BlackShanglan]

Nevermore, quoth the raven.

(Deleted).

 

[Wildcard Ky]

Oh, flowers for you both! I too wanted to be pink and blond and blue. Sundresses, blond braids, and a smattering of freckles; these were my ideals as a child. Oy. The lament of a yellow girl.

Well yellow girl, I think you're smokin hot. I'd let you abuse me in any way you wanted to.

 

[elsol]

The sum total of my desires about looks as a young man was

"Do I have a big cock?"

Oh... to be a guy, how much simpler our lives are sometimes.

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[AppleBiter]

Oh, flowers for you both! I too wanted to be pink and blond and blue. Sundresses, blond braids, and a smattering of freckles; these were my ideals as a child. Oy. The lament of a yellow girl.

I wanted (and still want) to be tan. I'm very pale and I have freckles and I have always, always, always felt like I would give anything to be tan. Self-tanners only make me look orange. I don't think it will ever be in the cards for me. The grass is always greener.

 

[hugo_sam]

This is such a true statement, it needs to be repeated.

We've covered that together before McKenna. You're lucky you've got the unbelievalbe looks and brains to go with it. Talk about getting it all.

*W E*
Hugo

 

[SeaCat]

Yui,

You know where I live and how to get hold of me. Come here and I'll let you know exactly how I feel about you. (Drool)

Apple, would you like to join the line behind Yui? I'm sure that if I ask nicely my wife wouldn't mind. (Hell she might join in.)

Cat

 

[AppleBiter]

Apple, would you like to join the line behind Yui? I'm sure that if I ask nicely my wife wouldn't mind. (Hell she might join in.)

Cat

Cat, you are too sweet.