Submission and... voice type?

[FurryFury]

Marilyn Monroe worked both.

Submissiveness and eye color, coming to a theater near you.

Yes, she rocked it.

Still, it's not my "wet" voice type but she got away with it.

 

[FurryFury]

The honey-est voice I know: WriterDom
He's a melter.



Someone told me once that I sound like cigarettes and vodka. I liked that, actually.

What is this thread about, anyway?




LOL

Well, now I'm curious about WD's voice!!!



Usually it's whiskey and cigs, what is the differential if it's cigs and vodka?

*scratches head in confusion*

 

[faeriefire]

I have a quiet mellow voice. Patient's have told me it's soothing.

When I'm playing sports or watching them, esp football or hockey tho that goes right out the window. I can hollar with the best of them.

But usually I choose to be quiet. Watching and absorbing. Then if someone asks for input I'll speak up. Having a relatively low voice makes it difficult in loud social situations to be heard over the ruckus. Usually tho it's a conscious decision how I modulate. A quiet determined voice speaking up can be extremely effective. And setting is important too. The best conversations I've had have been one-on-one as opposed to in a large, loud group.

I have trouble with the idea of dating someone with a weak or squeaky voice. I think it would get on my nerves. But who knows...stranger things have happened

 

[intothewoods]

You're kidding, right? I'd love to know how he came to that conclusion. What a crock.

I haven't listened to the show in a while, but it was just a proposition based on all the women who called in with voices like that. When pressed, most of them admitted there had been some sexual abuse in their past. It's not a scientic theory of course, but I was surprised how often he was right with the callers.

 

[rida]

My voice is such that no matter how low I am whispering, you can pick it up in a noisy crowd. And it will cut through walls as well. I got in trouble for talking in class all the time in my school days ... and I was not the only one doing the talking ...

I am loud and do conversations Italian style: we all talk at the same time on top of each other. As such I can easily dominate a conversation in Japanese (where people usually wait for you to be quite before starting to talk), but I tend to loose out more often than not in Italian or English ones.

Another interesting thing is that, when I speak in Japanese, I've been told that my voice get slightly more high pitched than in my other languages. And I can even make it sound sweeter than in my other languages ... lol

 

[myinnerslut]

I have no idea if I have a "dominant" voice. Can't say that I've paid attention to that many dominants, and have no idea what one should sound like

well.. lemme just solve that conundrum for you. yes. you do.

 

[Homburg]

well.. lemme just solve that conundrum for you. yes. you do.

You, my dear, are biased.

 

[Netzach]

I haven't listened to the show in a while, but it was just a proposition based on all the women who called in with voices like that. When pressed, most of them admitted there had been some sexual abuse in their past. It's not a scientic theory of course, but I was surprised how often he was right with the callers.

Dr. Drew has some weird pedo thing going on. Every time a woman is sexual at all he immediately goes on the "you were molested weren't you?" train. I swear, the feds should be looking at HIS internet cache.

 

[intothewoods]

Dr. Drew has some weird pedo thing going on. Every time a woman is sexual at all he immediately goes on the "you were molested weren't you?" train. I swear, the feds should be looking at HIS internet cache.

Noooo, not my Dr. Drew! I heart him! He's the dreamiest.

 

[ownedsubgal]

Dr. Drew has some weird pedo thing going on. Every time a woman is sexual at all he immediately goes on the "you were molested weren't you?" train. I swear, the feds should be looking at HIS internet cache.

yeah he's a perv for sure, probably why i've fantasized once or twice about him having me reveal all of my dark sex abuse history to him on the leather couch, tell me how damaged and troubled i am, and then raping me very clinically, making littles notes in his pad every few minutes, nodding and "mmm hmmm, yes, just as i thought."

hey, it could happen.

 

[Homburg]

yeah he's a perv for sure, probably why i've fantasized once or twice about him having me reveal all of my dark sex abuse history to him on the leather couch, tell me how damaged and troubled i am, and then raping me very clinically, making littles notes in his pad every few minutes, nodding and "mmm hmmm, yes, just as i thought."

hey, it could happen.

That is disturbingly hot.

 

[intothewoods]

yeah he's a perv for sure, probably why i've fantasized once or twice about him having me reveal all of my dark sex abuse history to him on the leather couch, tell me how damaged and troubled i am, and then raping me very clinically, making littles notes in his pad every few minutes, nodding and "mmm hmmm, yes, just as i thought."

hey, it could happen.

Totally.

 

[WhiteKnight326]

lol... not sure how we got here but no complaints from me

 

[unfoundiamond]

I see a slight correlation as in...

When I am feeling very submissive my voice tends to be softer and more shaky if under pressure from a command... I will also choose my words very carefully or try to be very pleasing with my choice of words and phrasing...

Where as if I am ordering my voice is strong and low, very stern and firm. Choice of language tends to be harsher and wording is noot chosen based on their liking...

 

[nh23]

Everyone always tells me that I sound like Jennifer Tilly (the chick who plays the female doll in bride of chucky.) I suppose I have a little girl voice to a point.. My Dom has a really low deep voice *drools*. Most of the Dom men I've met do have really deep low voices, but I'm sure that's just a coincidence.. or maybe it has something to do with high testosterone levels? Men with higher levels usually have lower voices and are more aggressive when it comes to sex...

 

[BiBunny]

*Sigh* Pretty much no matter what I do, I sound like a redneck 12-year-old.

It must be pretty good, though. Men pay to listen to it.

 

[Xelebes]

Um... I'm a basso profundo (or at least I was shoehorned there in choir). Tonal range is definitely not indicative of any such things. Dynamic range (piano or forte) could provide some hints but does not provide any substantive indication of personality. Rather, one must rely on the actual personality of the person to determine such things and actually having to talk with them.

 

[Netzach]

Um... I'm a basso profundo (or at least I was shoehorned there in choir). Tonal range is definitely not indicative of any such things. Dynamic range (piano or forte) could provide some hints but does not provide any substantive indication of personality. Rather, one must rely on the actual personality of the person to determine such things and actually having to talk with them.

Go figure.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Interesting topic.

Personally, I'm 28 and look about 15-17 years old. This means that I get patronised a lot and when I try to be assertive, people think I'm some jumped up, precocious teenager. I have dealt with this for years and one of my first defence mechanisms was to modulate my voice and broaden the vocabulary I use in order to give the impression of intelligence and maturity. These days it works, more often than not - once I've been allowed to get a word in edgewise.

As for D/s... I do have a thing for voices. Master has a very deep voice that melts me but he never raises it. Either he gets what he's asked for or it descends into a low, rumbling growl or snarl.

*shivers*

Not that I'd ever act up just to get him snarling and doing mean things to me.

*bats lashes innocently*

As voices go in general, I have a thing for the soft, Edinburgh Scots accent and also for the Co. Kerry Irish accent (fellow Brits will understand the distinction) I could listen to John Hannah read a telephone directory with rapt attention.

Deep voices do turn me on more than higher pitched ones. I once chatted to a guy for a while online and then we arranged a phone call. He had a high pitched voice with a terrible lisp and although I really felt sorry for him, I just couldn't take anything he said seriously.

I am such a bad person.

 

[BeachGurl2]

I haven't listened to the show in a while, but it was just a proposition based on all the women who called in with voices like that. When pressed, most of them admitted there had been some sexual abuse in their past. It's not a scientic theory of course, but I was surprised how often he was right with the callers.

Wow. Of course, since the number of women who have been sexually abused at some point in their lives is probably pretty high, I'm not surprised. But I would wonder if he has done any kind of real study of it. Not sure I'd buy it.

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As for my own voice, I've always hated my voice because to me it sounds like a little girl. Interestingly enough, as a part of my job I am a trainer, some of which is in person, but a large amount of which is over the phone remotely controlling their computer. People are often surprised to learn that I'm in my 40s and not my 20s. Our male customers tend to request me for trainings and even try to get me to take their calls when someone else was already working with them. One of the men in my office had to call me on my line one day, and the first thing he said after I started talking to him was, "Now I understand why all our male customers want to talk to you so much. You could make a fortune as a phone sex operator." I never would have guessed it. I've also had women in my trainings tell me that they could listen to me all day because my voice was soothing. So who knows what it really is. I'm guessing it's a combination of the tone and the mild Southern accent that I still have.

But I also have what a couple of people in my office call my 'teacher' voice. I get this tone that says, 'don't mess with me.' Must work, because when I used it as a teacher, kids did what I said. And my own girls knew the difference between when they could push it and when I meant business.

 

[intothewoods]

Wow. Of course, since the number of women who have been sexually abused at some point in their lives is probably pretty high, I'm not surprised. But I would wonder if he has done any kind of real study of it. Not sure I'd buy it.

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Oh god no. Totally anecdotal. And Netz says he's just a perv who sees it everywhere.

In contrast to osg's fantasy, I see him as this white knight who would tell me what a good girl I really am. Slurp. A good girl for you, Dr. Drew! If anyone's ever watched Celebrity Rehab (with Dr. Drew), you've seen how built the man is.

*fans self*

My voice changes a lot too. I'm like Homburg, in that I can mimic voices pretty well. I do it without even noticing. I do have my "mom voice," which is anything but submissive. I don't use it all the time, just when I mean business.

 

[Netzach]

When I'm in "playing with my food mode" my voice, which is a definite alto, actually goes up a little, my laughter especially. There's no mistaking the "you're a funny monkey" voice for a submissive one though.

It's all very contextual. M tells me I'm loud often, other people tell me I'm quiet, I definitely do Mediterranean style conversation when I am in NYC or talking to the family on the phone, but not always with other people. I definitely learned to Zelig my way in with the WASPS and frankly, I find it a less stressful kind of dialogue, to a point.

 

[cati]

I have a deep but soft voice, so sometimes I have to use effort in order to be heard. Yelling isn't my style though, I am usually extremely relax so I am more likely to just wave someone closer. My eyes seem to be a different story though, they seem to make anyone shut up in mid sentence. Its rather mysterious to me really, often if I just look at someone they apologies for having done nothing. -shrugs-

I believe in the old adage "speak softly but carry a big stick" I think it was from a chocolate candy ad for "thick" bars.
In clubs or restaurants, where it's generally very noisy, people have to lean in towards you and focus more closely on what you are saying.. that is if they are interested in hearing those important things you have to say.
I used to have a problem of not speaking loudly enough or mumbling. More assertive people spoke over me and simply ignored me. Now, I raise my voice an octave or two to get my two cents in.
I still hate when the conversation stops completely and everyone's attention is turned to me ...too much attention makes me a wee bit uncomfortable.

As a submissive, I've been taught to wait until the Dom/mes have finished speaking, then I can ask for permission to speak. That's so dumb, 'cause by that time either I've forgotten what I wanted to say or it just doesn't seem important anymore. It's much easier just to listen...smirks.
Other people just have these big booming voices that need to be heard.
My Master has some hearing loss too, something I often forget. After repeating things two or three times to him, we are both so annoyed with each other by that time, that I've lost the whole gist of what it was I was going to say in the first place...smiles.

 

[LadyC]

I have found I am obeyed fastest when my orders are issued in a measured soft, almost gentle voice, but regardless of the tone of my voice, my orders are obeyed....or else.

 

[unfoundiamond]

FDR and chocolate bars...

I have a deep but soft voice, so sometimes I have to use effort in order to be heard. Yelling isn't my style though, I am usually extremely relax so I am more likely to just wave someone closer. My eyes seem to be a different story though, they seem to make anyone shut up in mid sentence. Its rather mysterious to me really, often if I just look at someone they apologies for having done nothing. -shrugs-

I believe in the old adage "speak softly but carry a big stick" I think it was from a chocolate candy ad for "thick" bars.
In clubs or restaurants, where it's generally very noisy, people have to lean in towards you and focus more closely on what you are saying.. that is if they are interested in hearing those important things you have to say.
I used to have a problem of not speaking loudly enough or mumbling. More assertive people spoke over me and simply ignored me. Now, I raise my voice an octave or two to get my two cents in.
I still hate when the conversation stops completely and everyone's attention is turned to me ...too much attention makes me a wee bit uncomfortable.

As a submissive, I've been taught to wait until the Dom/mes have finished speaking, then I can ask for permission to speak. That's so dumb, 'cause by that time either I've forgotten what I wanted to say or it just doesn't seem important anymore. It's much easier just to listen...smirks.
Other people just have these big booming voices that need to be heard.
My Master has some hearing loss too, something I often forget. After repeating things two or three times to him, we are both so annoyed with each other by that time, that I've lost the whole gist of what it was I was going to say in the first place...smiles.

"Speak softly but carry a big stick" was a quote from FDR, or our ex presiednt Roosevelt...