Sucking up courage and putting down shyness...

[jinnysub]

Ok...[big breath]...

I've been gone from here a long time. Too long.

Depression hell and maybe part of the way back.

I'm on antidepressants and they're working. But the problem is that they're also doing what antidepressants do to a lot of other people -- You feel good enough about yourself that you enjoy sex, you enjoy making someone else happy, but ... you can't have an orgasm.

Oh, I can in very special circumstances, if everything is just right. "Just right" has a lot of baggage, though, as many women will probably agree.

It's not a case of trying another antidepressant, because I've been on just about everything and many don't work, others make the depression worse or make me feel as if my skin is crawling.

I get a lot of those spam messages, you know the "Don't let the men have all the fun -- try the female equivalent of Viagra." Some over the counter stuff or other.

Has anyone tried anything like that? Maybe have a partner who has tried it? Is it worth even a try? The stuff isn't cheap.

 

[MissTaken]

I know some women who enjoy Viagra, but if you are on antidepressants, I wouldn't try it.

There are lotions and other items on the market that can enhance your sexual play. Try a search at about.com and look up women's issues.


How much baggage is necessary for an orgasm?
Is it possible that it is exactly what you should expect every time or does it involve his standing on his head in women's lingerie and spitting wooden nickels?



Hang in there

 

[jinnysub]

There are lotions and other items on the market that can enhance your sexual play. Try a search at about.com and look up women's issues.


How much baggage is necessary for an orgasm?
Is it possible that it is exactly what you should expect every time or does it involve his standing on his head in women's lingerie and spitting wooden nickels?



Hang in there

I've tried lotions and things, MissTaken, but I'll go back and see what about.com might have that is different. Are you talking about "heat" lotions or novelty stuff?

How much baggage? I guess I'm not talking about expectations of "every time" it's going to be magic. I'm talking about being able to get wet, get higher, but never coming home. With a vibrator, with my own fingers, with his, with fingers and cock, with...well, just about everything and everyway. And I'm talking months here.

The AD's mean I CAN feel sexy. I can walk down the street and see a hunk...I can read erotica and just melt. I can be walking down the street again and think about the last erotica I read and just about have trouble walking because of that weak-kneed thing that I thought I'd lost. I get in bed with my husband and ...

A while ago, in the midst of writing a thread here, things were "right" -- at the moment I'm home alone. Things were wonderful, and I'm still sitting here in a bit of a glow. It's been a long time.

Maybe that's what gave me the impetus to even ask here. Now that I remember what it's like again, it's even more important.

 

[nawtyleanni]

Have you tried the antidepressant Wellbutrin yet?

 

[jinnysub]

Have you tried the antidepressant Wellbutrin yet?

Yes, I have.

I've tried those that are supposed to be bad for sex. They were.

I've tried those that are supposed to be "not so bad" for sex. They weren't.

I've tried those that are supposed to have the "least effect." Not good.

Paxil was one that actually made me feel more sexy and "able." But...I couldn't function with it (outside of sexually).

 

[MissTaken]

No, I am not referring to novelty heat lotions. I will take a look, I had posted a link on lit aobut six months ago, but know I will never find it.

Speaking as someoen who can only orgasm with another person, masturbation doesn't work, I share your frustration to a point.

What meds are you on now?

PM me if you wish.

 

[MissTaken]

Someone else beat me to it.

Check this thread out!

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=123218

 

[Xtacy]

If your on SSRI's it quite possible that it is physically impossible to have an orgasm.
This is the same as for MDMA (ecstasy) use. They call it the love drug but it's definately not a sex drug. They both influence the level of serotonin in you brain, but unfortunately the level of serotonin is also used to trigger an orgasm.

So your only option is to get off the AD.