Taking Caution When Writing Taboo Erotica?

[OddLove]

For those who write taboo erotica, wether it be non-consent, incest, or in my case, extremely weird kink/fetish... and you don't want friends and family ever discovering that piece of you...

What kinds of caution do you take to keep that part of your life private?

The reason I'm asking is, I write some insane stuff that my family would find disturbing.

It's all kink fused with romance. But I've written really weird stuff with that, I've even had written 'little' role play before which is definitely the most taboo IMO.

And the fear of my documents being somehow discovered by family through the wifi or snooping gives me painful anxiety.

Literally nobody I know IRL has any idea how much I love kink and romance in all the weirdest ways, and I want to keep that huge piece of me to private from people in my life.

Most of the time I don't worry about it, but once in awhile I'll get freaked out that my parents or siblings are somehow casting my roku tv that I use as a computer screen without my knowledge, or accessing my documents/stories and random sexy pictures I've saved to my computer through the wifi.

I know logically it's unlikely, and some people don't care about their privacy, but I'll have weeks or months at a time where my mouse cursor flickers, or my computer lags for a second, or the little spinny symbol pops up next to my cursor for a moment and I can't explain any of it.

My task manager will always have like two hundred random things running in the background and when I Google them they're just like videocard/windows type things. But idk.

Right now I just backed up my stories and random hot femdom pictures I cherish (lol weird) and I'm factory reseting my computer with it unplugged from the internet router cause the last couple days my file explorer has been randomly closing itself.

I do have a thing that can cause overthinking sometimes when it comes to not being exactly accurate and thinking or believing untrue things, and I know logically this caution is probably just because of some incoming symptoms and it will pass eventually.

But I feel like if I could just understand computers better and really protect my private freaky internal world of pansexual and kink I would not go through this over and over.

And I'm never moving away from my parents and siblings just to get over it cause for tons of generations we all just kind of stick together like a tribe as younger grow up and take care of the elderly and I'm not abandon my values just because I get a little paranoid about my weird interests.

I'm definitely rambling, if anyone made it this far then wow. I feel like I owe you some of my sand for your hourglass lol

 

[Jackie.Hikaru]

I recently read an anecdote on reddit in which a man was sharing photos on his Apple tv by casting from his phone. After he had finished showing his slideshow, he went to his bedroom for a “quick nap.” Five minutes later, porn started playing on the TV. The easiest thing you can do to mitigate risk of discovery is stop casting your computer to your Roku TV.

 

[alohadave]

It it's not a shared computer, put a login password on it that they won't guess. If you die before you can clean the computer, they likely won't be able to get into it unless they are computer experts. They'll likely just toss/sell the computer.

If there are files you want them to access after you are gone, put them somewhere with explicit instructions to be able to get to them.

I recommend an external drive with password protection on it for your files. It can be discarded without hurting the operation of the rest of the computer for future use.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I recommend an external drive with password protection on it for your files. It can be discarded without hurting the operation of the rest of the computer for future use.

Back up the external drive too. I learned the hard way about bit rot, when a bunch of files corrupted on the external drive. Turns out I should have kept them on the C drive, and de-fragged them regularly.

 

[000zing]

Simplest answer: don't keep anything on your device's memory.

I keep all of my stuff as email drafts and therefore stored on the internet by kind Mr Gmail and duplicated at the premises of kind Mr Outlook. All password protected... with password committed to my memory, NOT 'Password Manager'...

 

[CalBishForNow]

If you write erotica on the same device you stream content with a Roku, all I can say is, be careful.

If we're talking about files on your Windows hard drive, you can mark files and/or folders as "hidden." They'll show up when you search for them by name, but not when you simply browse the folder structure. This is a mixed blessing because it makes it harder for you to find them when you want them.
When you're ready to find them, go to folder view settings:

There are ways to password-protect files and folders on Windows machines, so even if someone knows they're there, they can't open the file. Here's a guide. Now that you mention it, maybe I should do so myself. It's one thing to say that my loved ones know and accept my (relatively minor) kinks, it's another to want them to see all my WIPs...

 

[AG31]

1 - I have a rule that I never leave my computer with Literotica open. Even to go to the bathroom.

2 - I only visit erotica sites in Private Browsing.

3 - I name my stories on my computer with random letters and symbols, but starting with the same two letters (capitalization varies).

4 - I have a subfolder off of one of my always backed up folders called "temp". I populated it with the contents of a Windows temp folder and I store my stories there. Every couple of months I copy a few recent files from a Windows temp folder into that folder so sorts on date don't reveal that this is a suspect temp folder.

I'd be interested to hear if anyone sees flaws in this plan. I do have one computer savvy child. (Thinking about when I'm dead.)

 

[crookedletter]

I've gotten less concerned about these sorts of things as I've gotten older. There are undoubtedly things that people would be surprised to learn about me were someone to poke around in the dark corners of my computer. But isn't that true of everyone? People have sexual fantasies, they have things they think about or fantasize about that they don't talk about at parties. Things that would be awkward, to say the least, if they were suddenly broadcast publicly.

I think of it more as a social compact than as protecting my reputation in some way. It's a generally agreed thing that we don't talk about what gets us off in "polite company." I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable by proclaiming I enjoy writing smut. So I do my due diligence as far as keeping myself anonymous here, using a private browser, not labeling my files "PORN STORY," etc.

But I don't make myself nuts trying to cover my tracks. If someone really wants to dig around in my closet they're free to take a look at my skeletons. I assume they have their own, too. And it's on them if they see something that gives them an ick.

 

[Writer61]

If you write erotica on the same device you stream content with a Roku, all I can say is, be careful.

If we're talking about files on your Windows hard drive, you can mark files and/or folders as "hidden." They'll show up when you search for them by name, but not when you simply browse the folder structure. This is a mixed blessing because it makes it harder for you to find them when you want them.
View attachment 2650226 When you're ready to find them, go to folder view settings:View attachment 2650227

There are ways to password-protect files and folders on Windows machines, so even if someone knows they're there, they can't open the file. Here's a guide. Now that you mention it, maybe I should do so myself. It's one thing to say that my loved ones know and accept my (relatively minor) kinks, it's another to want them to see all my WIPs...

You can do the same sort of thing with MacOS as well.

Even though mine are all single-user devices, they are password-protected. And I really should protect the folders which I don't want others to see when I pop my clogs.

 

[SyleusSnow]

I have a blog post written in consultation with a security guru. It's long, but covers ways to protect your smutty activities from employers, family and (maybe) governments.

How to write smut in secret

 

[KittyOfSteele]

Cowards.

No, for real, I don't. Because I stopped caring.

 

[MrHereWriting]

What kinds of caution do you take to keep that part of your life private?

I don't tell anyone about it.

 

[Duil2]

For those who write taboo erotica, wether it be non-consent, incest, or in my case, extremely weird kink/fetish... and you don't want friends and family ever discovering that piece of you...

What kinds of caution do you take to keep that part of your life private?

The reason I'm asking is, I write some insane stuff that my family would find disturbing.

It's all kink fused with romance. But I've written really weird stuff with that, I've even had written 'little' role play before which is definitely the most taboo IMO.

And the fear of my documents being somehow discovered by family through the wifi or snooping gives me painful anxiety.

Literally nobody I know IRL has any idea how much I love kink and romance in all the weirdest ways, and I want to keep that huge piece of me to private from people in my life.

Most of the time I don't worry about it, but once in awhile I'll get freaked out that my parents or siblings are somehow casting my roku tv that I use as a computer screen without my knowledge, or accessing my documents/stories and random sexy pictures I've saved to my computer through the wifi.

I know logically it's unlikely, and some people don't care about their privacy, but I'll have weeks or months at a time where my mouse cursor flickers, or my computer lags for a second, or the little spinny symbol pops up next to my cursor for a moment and I can't explain any of it.

My task manager will always have like two hundred random things running in the background and when I Google them they're just like videocard/windows type things. But idk.

Right now I just backed up my stories and random hot femdom pictures I cherish (lol weird) and I'm factory reseting my computer with it unplugged from the internet router cause the last couple days my file explorer has been randomly closing itself.

I do have a thing that can cause overthinking sometimes when it comes to not being exactly accurate and thinking or believing untrue things, and I know logically this caution is probably just because of some incoming symptoms and it will pass eventually.

But I feel like if I could just understand computers better and really protect my private freaky internal world of pansexual and kink I would not go through this over and over.

And I'm never moving away from my parents and siblings just to get over it cause for tons of generations we all just kind of stick together like a tribe as younger grow up and take care of the elderly and I'm not abandon my values just because I get a little paranoid about my weird interests.

I'm definitely rambling, if anyone made it this far then wow. I feel like I owe you some of my sand for your hourglass lol

I'm lucky that I now live alone and it would be rare for anyone other than me to use my laptop but I've still named things in non obvious ways etc.
When I'm dead... well I won't care, will I? It'd be great to be a fly on the wall if any remaining loved ones found stuff. They'd probably just say it explained a lot and also what I was spending my time doing.
Sorry no practical advice here. I just haven't told anyone about it and I'm guessing that's how it will stay.

 

[BeechLeaf]

I worry about burglars breaking in a short time after I leave the house, so they can just lift the lid and see all this, because it hasn't got to the point (one hour?) where they need a password.

I once found hidden directories on a USB stick. I mean, they were mine, I put them there, but I couldn't remember doing it or why. Thing is, if you forget about hidden directories there's no obvious way of checking. You would probably have to do periodic paranoid searches. I only found these because I'd written a program to compare directories and do backups, and it (by default, not intentionally) treated hidden the same as visible.

And this was on my 'public' USB stick, the unencrypted one containing my public interests, the ones it wouldn't be embarrassing for others to see while they take a break from shovelling my rotting corpse from the floor.

 

[OverconfidentSarcasm]

Well, as I said in another topic a long time ago, most of what I write is based on stuff I saw on the job. It's more therapy than a hobby. The vast majority of it is NOT meant to ever be seen by other people, as it is just me trying to make sense of behavior I witnessed.
In short, it's stuff I do NOT want to take home to my family.
So, I keep everything I wrote and researched on an encrypted, build-in hard drive, which practically every OS can do for you by now. It won't be perfectly secure, but it'll be enough to stop people from snooping around.
If you use Windows, you should also make sure to deactivate the "Recent Files" category in your File Explorer, so other people using your computer won't get a detailed list of all the documents you worked on. Same for whatever word processor you use, most-notably MS Office, which is by default set up to show every document you last opened.

With that... you should be good to go, honestly.

 

[Writer61]

I worry about burglars breaking in a short time after I leave the house, so they can just lift the lid and see all this, because it hasn't got to the point (one hour?) where they need a password.

Aren't they more likely to just grab it and run?

 

[StillStunned]

My method is to make everyone think I'm the weirdest pervert possible IRL. Then if they find any of my stories it will all be disappointingly bland.

 

[BobbyBrandt]

I have found that hiding files in plain sight has always been more that enough to foil the average, and often the above average person searching for stuff.

For example, on my Windows 11 laptop, the is a default folder in the root of the C: drive named "Intel". Within this folder is a subfolder called "ExtremeGraphics". I keep any questionable files there and simply delete the last character in the file extension, such as Jenna.mp4, and rename it Jenna.mp. This makes it an unrecognizable file that any standard searches would overlook. Simply replacing the last character restores the file. I do similar with files on my cell phone.

 

[BeechLeaf]

Or of course the good old folder 'old/bkp 2017/TEMP', with 154 files beginning '_' so anything with a letter is buried deep below.

 

[PennyThompson]

I don't share my computer or other devices with anyone, and although I would be mortified if my friends and coworkers knew about my erotica hobby, it would be highly embarrassing but not career ruining or anything...

None the less, I conduct all of my erotica hobby via a burner gmail account with none of my erotica passwords saved or written down. All my stories and writing projects live in that cloud account and nowhere else, so I don't have word documents or paper notebooks about mothman fucking laying around

 

[MK_Whimsy]

The things I write would certainly raise some eyebrows among friends and family. I keep everything saved to a local, personal device that is PIN-locked. This is a simple safeguard to protect people I care about from accidentally finding my stories.

 

[AG31]

Well, as I said in another topic a long time ago, most of what I write is based on stuff I saw on the job. It's more therapy than a hobby. The vast majority of it is NOT meant to ever be seen by other people, as it is just me trying to make sense of behavior I witnessed.
In short, it's stuff I do NOT want to take home to my family.
So, I keep everything I wrote and researched on an encrypted, build-in hard drive, which practically every OS can do for you by now. It won't be perfectly secure, but it'll be enough to stop people from snooping around.
If you use Windows, you should also make sure to deactivate the "Recent Files" category in your File Explorer, so other people using your computer won't get a detailed list of all the documents you worked on. Same for whatever word processor you use, most-notably MS Office, which is by default set up to show every document you last opened.

With that... you should be good to go, honestly.

What sort of job do you have?

 

[OddLove]

If you use Windows, you should also make sure to deactivate the "Recent Files" category in your File Explorer, so other people using your computer won't get a detailed list of all the documents you worked on. Same for whatever word processor you use, most-notably MS Office, which is by default set up to show every document you last opened.

With that... you should be good to go, honestly.

I had no idea that was an option. The 'recent files' section on file explorer is definitely frustrating and would be nice to not see anymore. I'll probably do that along with giving my stories random boring file names.

I also looked some stuff up for privacy and found out I can change my internet settings so my computer treats the internet as a public space and keeps my computer undetected by other devices, supposedly.

 

[TheLobster]

My method is to make everyone think I'm the weirdest pervert possible IRL.

Wait, you mean even more than how you're presenting here, on the forums? Is that even possible?

 

[StillStunned]

Wait, you mean even more than how you're presenting here, on the forums? Is that even possible?

Much more! My stories are positively tame by comparison. All butterfly kisses and wholesome snuggly intercourse.