Talk Dirty to Him

[Somehowyou]

I love all this shit. I won't repeat what has been said..try these:

1. Talk about past lovers or past sexual escapades and how much you loved it as your being fucked.
2. Talk about fucking other men or women. Describe what you would like to do or have done to you.
3. How about a little incest fantasy? Call hubby your daddy and your his little girl. "Fuck me Daddy" and "I'm better than mommy." Wear pig tails to bed for this one.
4. Humiliation - your not as good as my lover etc...

No fake moaning and contrived screaming.

 

[badman1985]

indeed fake sounds are a turn off

 

[NativPrincess]

I have just recently started doing this. We have been together over 3 years but a lot of things that happened previously in life shut me down in some ways. I all of a sudden like a light switch started talking dirty during sex and it shocked the hell out of it in a great way. It was one of our best times together. As time goes on it is getting much easier and I know he loves it as well. I just go with whatever comes out of my mouth. It can't be planned just share whatevre you are feeling at that moment.

I feel the same

my problem is that i tend to do most of the talking

 

[hot hugo]

I post audio stories on Lit and there are some really great stories on there where women are amazing at thinking outside the box in dirty talk. It's definatly worth a listen!

just listened to your 'quicky'. AMAZING !!!

thanks for sharing your sexy voice and intimate moments with us.

can't wait to hear more.

HH

ps: feel free to pm me ;-)

 

[F1lthyfun]

Def knowing what makes your partner tick is very helpful, but if he's not very forth coming with that info then the balls in your court (if you'll excuse the pun).

Look at it as a great opportunity. It's exciting not knowing how the other half will react. If there's any fantasies you have never told him about, give it a try, you might find that talking about them turns him on massively. Try talking about the dirtiest things you would like done to you, or things you've heard the other guys like around here.

I'll never forget an ex telling me, out of the blue, that I could do whatever I wanted with her, that she was my little slut and whore - it still gets me excited now thinking about it. She would tell me how i could pee on her if I wanted etc

You don't have to act everything out, but it's exciting to share.

 

[StrongMaster7]

You can't read minds. I suggest having a chat with him sometime about his fantasies and what turns him on. Ask him to be honest and dirty.There may be certain phrases or ideas that get him off that you have never thought of.

Think about the things you know he likes. If its your breasts or ass, tell him to touch, lick, bite or fondle them.

I would say to avoid repetitive phrases. That tends to sound bored.

 

[Somehowyou]

You can't read minds. I suggest having a chat with him sometime about his fantasies and what turns him on. Ask him to be honest and dirty.There may be certain phrases or ideas that get him off that you have never thought of.

Think about the things you know he likes. If its your breasts or ass, tell him to touch, lick, bite or fondle them.

I would say to avoid repetitive phrases. That tends to sound bored.

Only problem is we have a tough time admitting what turns us on.

 

[F1lthyfun]

Only problem is we have a tough time admitting what turns us on.

How about trying to tell each other in ways that make it easier rather than face to face? You could leave little notes where you know he will find them telling him what you like and encourage him to do the same. That may make it easier for you both to express your deeper thoughts?

How about random dirty texts throughout the day as a dirty one pops in your head.

 

[alchemyandlaughter]

It takes some exploration to figure out what works for each of you. Some people love to hear it but have trouble speaking. Some like it flirty and some like it intense and edgy. And each time is a little different from the time before. The point about being non judgmental is key. You have to be free to speak even if it doesn't work perfectly.

I have found that using the talking as part of foreplay is easiest. Once you are in the heat of action it may not be easy to put together to words you are looking for.

I dated a woman who was both very sexual and from a repressive background, like many of us. She tended to be a little shy. She liked "gentlemanly filth." I would say, "You are such a nice girl but tomorrow no one will know that I made you spread your warm thighs and be my little cock slut." She loved that but, for another, it would be silly and uninspiring.

Take time to get to know each other.

just curious.... what other ways could this sentiment be expressed?

Absolutely loved it, just the way you stated it! Just sayin'....

 

[Leon_k]

... I guess I've just lost my touch. I need help getting him back exactly where I want him, which is hanging on my every word, completely mesmerized.

These will work every time I assure you, irrespective of who the man is:

1. wow, baby this is the biggest and thickest dick I've ever seen!!
2. I don't think big thing even fit inside me.
3. Baby you cum a lot like a real stallion.

 

[Rob1514]

These will work every time I assure you, irrespective of who the man is:

1. wow, baby this is the biggest and thickest dick I've ever seen!!
2. I don't think big thing even fit inside me.
3. Baby you cum a lot like a real stallion.

Gotta agree with Leon. Stroking a man's ego sometimes works better than stroking his cock.

Believe it or not, most men want to think/know that they can satisfy you; that they give you what you want ... so, for example if you like the feeling of being "filled", try "Oh God you fill my pussy up", I guarantee most men fill try to do just that ... well good lovers will anyway.

If he has what you want, then tell him ... and if he doesn't, then what are you doing with him?

 

[NippleMuncher]

Gotta agree with Leon. Stroking a man's ego sometimes works better than stroking his cock.

Believe it or not, most men want to think/know that they can satisfy you; that they give you what you want ... so, for example if you like the feeling of being "filled", try "Oh God you fill my pussy up", I guarantee most men fill try to do just that ... well good lovers will anyway.

If he has what you want, then tell him ... and if he doesn't, then what are you doing with him?

You have to be careful with this that you are not "training" him with lies. If you tell him something is good when it's not, then he's going to continue unless you correct what he's doing to make it good. Faking an orgasm is a prime example of this. If he's not doing what you need to get you off, you are not doing either of you any favors to fake or lie about it.

 

[Leon_k]

You have to be careful with this that you are not "training" him with lies...

hahaha thanks, it actually gave me a story idea: what if woman faking orgasms and giving fake compliment about dick size, in turn makes her man feel that he is a real stud and then he starts cheating around with other woman!

 

[Rob1514]

You have to be careful with this that you are not "training" him with lies. If you tell him something is good when it's not, then he's going to continue unless you correct what he's doing to make it good. Faking an orgasm is a prime example of this. If he's not doing what you need to get you off, you are not doing either of you any favors to fake or lie about it.

Hence "If he has what you want, then tell him ... and if he doesn't, then what are you doing with him?"

 

[more_snow_plz]

These will work every time I assure you, irrespective of who the man is:

1. wow, baby this is the biggest and thickest dick I've ever seen!!
2. I don't think big thing even fit inside me.
3. Baby you cum a lot like a real stallion.

Seriously? I'd laugh out loud if a woman said this to me. Because....

1. I ain't that big.
2. See answer to #1.
3. LOL, I loved the Rocky movies!!!

 

[abit2theleft]

Honesty, and just the tone of the voice are what does it for me. Just feeling the desire from her drives me crazy. That and just whispering in my ear how she wants it. Absolutely love it!!

 

[hottyfire102]

what should you do when you finally get the guts to talk dirty, and it ends up turning him off?? Yup sad enough I guess he's the only one who can talk dirty to me but I can't in return! URGH!

 

[quimsical]

what should you do when you finally get the guts to talk dirty, and it ends up turning him off?? Yup sad enough I guess he's the only one who can talk dirty to me but I can't in return! URGH!

He's probably "turned off" because he's not used to seeing you in dirty-talkin' mode, and is caught by surprise. Reticence, or the feeling that you're making someone do something against their own grain, can be a bit of a turn off for some (not me, though *unless* it looks like my partner is *really uncomfortable -- then cut her some slack obviously).

What if you turn it on full throttle? Don't feel shy about it. Just go for it, without reticence. Mainly just start with descriptions of what's going on in the present ("God, I love when you do that..." etc.)

Q

 

[hottyfire102]

He's probably "turned off" because he's not used to seeing you in dirty-talkin' mode, and is caught by surprise. Reticence, or the feeling that you're making someone do something against their own grain, can be a bit of a turn off for some (not me, though *unless* it looks like my partner is *really uncomfortable -- then cut her some slack obviously).

What if you turn it on full throttle? Don't feel shy about it. Just go for it, without reticence. Mainly just start with descriptions of what's going on in the present ("God, I love when you do that..." etc.)

Q

Oh thanks for the idea. Yeah I usually don't do it, so it may have caught him by surprise. I know my actions can be dirty so that's why I thought I would try it. He got very quiet...So I like your suggestion...And believe me I liked doing it and would love to do it again, just kind of worried of how he would take it LOL

 

[Ex Princess]

Always tell him/her what you want. It is both a turn on and also good, clear direction (or imagery) for for partner.

"I want that hard cock deep in my pussy. I want to soak your cock so you can shove it in my ass, baby."

 

[MrsSeven]

I like to talk about fantasies and use them to my advantage. Tell him to do what he wishes he could do to "hot neighbor, lady at Starbucks..etc" Or tell him your fantasies and how you would act them out.

 

[Friendly_Guy]

I want to soak your cock so you can shove it in my ass, baby."

If this was Jeopardy....

What is "something I've never overheard at church"?

Seriously though, that's a hot quote

 

[Friendly_Guy]

I like to talk about fantasies and use them to my advantage. Tell him to do what he wishes he could do to "hot neighbor, lady at Starbucks..etc" Or tell him your fantasies and how you would act them out.

This is brilliant! If I could tell the woman I'm with about the 9000 sexual things that went through my head about other women that day...wow...we'd have a night that would last well past dawn

 

[silverwhisper]

hottyfire, maybe it would be a good idea to see what kinda erotica/written porn gets your guy going and going from there?

you could make a fun experience out of it. maybe he's one of those guys who isn't big on words like "cunt" or "dick". maybe he wants different words there: pussy, cock. maybe he's really into more euphemistic stuff: lower mouth, hardness.

ed

 

[boomer177]

I like to talk about fantasies and use them to my advantage. Tell him to do what he wishes he could do to "hot neighbor, lady at Starbucks..etc" Or tell him your fantasies and how you would act them out.

How about telling him what you wish he would do to that hot neighbor and perhaps that you would like to watch or even participate?