telling my wife

[DUPSMAN]

How should I go about telling my wife I want to have anal sex with a man. In other words I want to be fucked in the ass

 

[thickspear]

well you could invent a story about recurrent dreams...that you need to exorcise them by acting out...see if she warms to the idea...

or perhaps demonstrate with puppets...don't be too subtle..paint "me" on the fuckee puppet and "anyman" on the fucker puppet..

or take her to a nice dinner and surprise her with "your new friend" after being seated..

ok there's three decent ideas right there...anyone else have any advice ?

 

[Bystander]

How should I go about telling my wife I want to have anal sex with a man. In other words I want to be fucked in the ass

do the deed and surprise her on your next anniversary with a video complete with 80's porno music and multiple camera angles!
make sure you both have afro wigs on. Those are key.

 

[pogogirl]

Here is some more serious advice. The next time you guys make love after you are done and the pillow talk starts tell her or when you guys lay down and go to bed just start talking to her about sex and ask what her fantasies are and after she opens up to you then tell her about yours. Tell her you want her to be involved and share this experince with her. If you want her to be involved. Make it a threesome. She might really get into it as well. I hope this was helped you a little.

 

[Bobmi357]

Why does it have to be a man? Couldn't she with a strapon solve your problem or must it be a man?

She may be more agreeable to the strapon idea.

 

[freddyandeddy]

How about something sly, like ordering "Bend Over Boyfriend" by accident ("Oops, I can't BELIEVE they sent this!") and then watching it anyway, pretending it's all in good fun? You could use the opportunity to SUBTLY bring up that you might be open to something like this. This will get the topic into the open and you can take your time and discuss it further at your discretion.

If it's a man's cock you crave, this is a WHOLE different ball of wax and you better be DAMN careful about letting this desire out of the closet, so to speak. Use common sense, man; some things can be better left unsaid.

 

[lovechild27]

how do you think she will react to this? is she sexually adventurous or uptight?

 

[Meat Whistler]

Why does it have to be a man? Couldn't she with a strapon solve your problem or must it be a man?

She may be more agreeable to the strapon idea.

I'm with Bobmi. You should just tell her that your desire is to be fucked in the ass. Perhaps she'll go along with it.

 

[ReadyOne]

I was "lucky" the last time around.

SO doesn't like to do new things or leave her comfort zone. For her to open a discussion on sex takes a lot on her part.

I was writting her a letter about anal (agonizing over it for several days), but before I delivered it she ask what I was missing the most from our sex life.

She knew my experiences and tastes far outranged hers when we hooked up, and she must have sensed my distress.

Given the opening, I decided to try and add anal in to our relationship, she agreed to try, and I was able to ease her into it so that she found it enjoyable.

So now we fuck with both holes, and that's a 100% improvement.

 

[DUPSMAN]

Thanks for the answers . I dont want to ruin our marriage anymore than it is .So I think I will try the strapon idea. She may be more agreeable with that.

 

[Imi]

Why does it have to be a man? Couldn't she with a strapon solve your problem or must it be a man?

She may be more agreeable to the strapon idea.

That's what I was going to ask...

I dont want to ruin our marriage anymore than it is

Hmmm, this statement make me wonder if freddyandeddy's second comment might be more accurate.

 

[freddyandeddy]

Either way, stick with the strap on thing first. After getting VERY comfortable, you can always bring it up in jest and see how she reacts. Though I must admit, I doubt my wife would take it well, regardless.

We had a friend who had a weird situation. His girlfriend and he wanted to give one of their gay friends his first experience with a woman, so they agreed she'd do the guy and break him in, so to speak. The gay man agreed, but only if he could do the boyfriend; when he agreed, the girlfriend totally FREAKED that he'd even consider something like this and accused him of being gay himself! The boyfriend tried to backpedal and say he wouldn't have actually gone through with it, but the damage was done. They broke up soon afterward.

Confusing story, I know, but I'm just saying you might want to shelve your desires for a male putting it to you until after you explore ALL of the other options (strap-on, using a dildo on yourself, etc.).

 

[NaiveOne]

I just want to remind you that if you do it with a guy, it's cheating. Plain and simple. You would be cheating on your wife (assuming she doesn't know about it). If she does support it, then cool. But if she doesn't support it, then you'll have more problems than just wanting to take it from a guy.

Good luck though.

I think the strap on is the way to go.

 

[freddyandeddy]

Good point Naive, I never even considered the cheating aspect. Do NOT do this without her knowledge!!!