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I'm gonna try to do something a little different than just posting hot pics or gifs here. I'd like to start a discussion.

I would like to discuss with you all on how you'd go about writing a femdom scene.

First, I would think you'd need a buy-in from both parties especially the writer RPing the submissive character, right? I mean quite often the initiative is all on the writer RPing the dominant character and since the submissive character is often bound in some fashion or in a mode where they can only react to what's happening all the responsibility to advancing the scene is on the dominant writer's shoulders. How would you go about making sure the scene is hot for both of them, or new and/or unique and not boring, and most importantly serving to advance the relationship between the characters you're playing? The best answer I've come up with is communication OOC over PM or conversations between the two writers. That way the writer writing the submissive character can say "It'd be hot if your character did this or said this next" "That is so hot, but my character gave you some sass in my response so don't let him get away with that, okay". Communication is essential in real life BDSM relationships and is equally essential in writing one too.

Secondly, I want to ask you to try building the scene little by little, or step by step. Instead of mentioning having the submissive character strip and then move on to the bondage or oral or whatever...draw the stripping out instead. Have the dominant character order each article of clothing off their submissive character piece by piece and take your time. Being in a rush conveys insecurity or that any second you'll get caught...truly dominant people don't worry about such inconveniences or rather don't let them appear to worry over such minor details to the submissive character. Nothing expresses the power of a dominant like being able to take their time to reach out and touch and caress muscles pecs abs biceps, before ordering him to take off the pants next. More to the point however draw out the whole thing make whole posts all about the stripping off of clothing. Make sections of whole posts all about putting them progressively deeper in deeper in restraints. Have them choose which pair of handcuffs will be used on them, which ball gag, which blindfold, which flogger or cane or paddle. This ratchets up the tension the submissive character should be feeling of what will happen to them what the dominant character is planning to do to them and why they look forward to it scary as it is. That tension, that apprehension warring with a sense of anticipation, is what a good BDSM scene thrives off of so build it higher and higher layer upon layer.

What do you guys think?
 
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Veroe said:
I'm gonna try to do something a little different than just posting hot pics or gifs here. I'd like to start a discussion.

I would like to discuss with you all on how you'd go about writing a femdom scene.

First, I would think you'd need a buy-in from both parties especially the writer RPing the submissive character, right? I mean quite often the initiative is all on the writer RPing the dominant character and since the submissive character is often bound in some fashion or in a mode where they can only react to what's happening all the responsibility to advancing the scene is on the dominant writer's shoulders. How would you go about making sure the scene is hot for both of them, or new and/or unique and not boring, and most importantly serving to advance the relationship between the characters you're playing? The best answer I've come up with is communication OOC over PM or conversations between the two writers. That way the writer writing the submissive character can say "It'd be hot if your character did this or said this next" "That is so hot, but my character gave you some sass in my response so don't let him get away with that, okay". Communication is essential in real life BDSM relationships and is equally essential in writing one too.

Secondly, I want to ask you to try building the scene little by little, or step by step. Instead of mentioning having the submissive character strip and then move on to the bondage or oral or whatever...draw the stripping out instead. Have the dominant character order each article of clothing off their submissive character piece by piece and take your time. Being in a rush conveys insecurity or that any second you'll get caught...truly dominant people don't worry about such inconveniences or rather don't let them appear to worry over such minor details to the submissive character. Nothing expresses the power of a dominant like being able to take their time to reach out and touch and caress muscles pecs abs biceps, before ordering him to take off the pants next. More to the point however draw out the whole thing make whole posts all about the stripping off of clothing. Make sections of whole posts all about putting them progressively deeper in deeper in restraints. Have them choose which pair of handcuffs will be used on them, which ball gag, which blindfold, which flogger or cane or paddle. This ratchets up the tension the submissive character should be feeling of what will happen to them what the dominant character is planning to do to them and why they look forward to it scary as it is. That tension, that apprehension warring with a sense of anticipation, is what a good BDSM scene thrives off of so build it higher and higher layer upon layer.

What do you guys think?
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Hey Vero,

Happy 2023!

I'm by no means an expert. But to answer your first question, I'd say your writing partner ought to be of the dominant type in the real world. However, if you're both indeed respecting the dynamic, She would have lead the RP, as would happen in reality. And that perhaps might be too intense for Her, as writing seriously contextualizes the dynamic in the RP. I'm not entire sure what the solution would be. Perhaps, it depends on how you work together. Whether She comes up with the plot, or you do if She's OK/comfortable with that?

Yes, that may work, but what's your secret sauce if you get what I mean? Though you're focusing on elongating the beginnings of play, IMHO you run the risk of writing what's been written so many times before. What's going to be different or special about your RP to draw interest in others reading it?

I hope I've been of some use! I wish you all the best with the RP Vero!
 
Justplatonic said:
Hey Vero,

Happy 2023!

I'm by no means an expert. But to answer your first question, I'd say your writing partner ought to be of the dominant type in the real world. However, if you're both indeed respecting the dynamic, She would have lead the RP, as would happen in reality. And that perhaps might be too intense for Her, as writing seriously contextualizes the dynamic in the RP. I'm not entire sure what the solution would be. Perhaps, it depends on how you work together. Whether She comes up with the plot, or you do if She's OK/comfortable with that?

Yes, that may work, but what's your secret sauce if you get what I mean? Though you're focusing on elongating the beginnings of play, IMHO you run the risk of writing what's been written so many times before. What's going to be different or special about your RP to draw interest in others reading it?

I hope I've been of some use! I wish you all the best with the RP Vero!
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Good points. Platonic, but the problem is all the responsibility is on the dominant's shoulders. Generally RP's thrive on a balanced sharing of the load. I've seen plenty of great BDSM thread ideas fall apart or go nowhere because of that. The guy playing the submissive needs to take some of the load off her shoulders, not in the story itself, but at least in the planning parts. Most RPs don't last very long, even shorter for BDSM oriented ones mostly because of this imbalance between responsibilities IMO. I would think the only answer would be a conversation or OOC thread between the writers for planning and checking in as the thread progresses. Communication like with BDSM relationships in real life is crucial for a successful femdom RP.

Although I admit the ones I've tried this communication idea on has produced admittedly mixed results.

Also I dispute your assertion that you'd need a dominant type in real life. All RP is exploring different facets of your own soul. A completely vanilla person in real life could explore writing a dominant character, just by focusing on those elements of their own personality that would lend itself to a dominant character. I've done it myself, and while I admit that it was very anxiety-inducing on whether or not I was getting it right, it was ultimately my most rewarding femdom thread ever-since I was generally just writing my dream domme, and I had such a clear vision for her in my head, and a wonderfully cooperative partner I communicated regularly with.

Secondly, the secret sauce should be that tension I mentioned earlier, it'll be the thing that makes even the most basic BDSM scene absolutely compelling to a reader if built up well. It's the thing that keeps us turning pages eventhough its late and we need to get some sleep for we have a long day of work the next day, but just one more chapter to find out what happens next...that's the secret sauce of a really good book it'll be the secret sauce of our femdom thread.
 
Veroe said:
Good points. Platonic, but the problem is all the responsibility is on the dominant's shoulders. Generally RP's thrive on a balanced sharing of the load. I've seen plenty of great BDSM thread ideas fall apart or go nowhere because of that. The guy playing the submissive needs to take some of the load off her shoulders, not in the story itself, but at least in the planning parts. Most RPs don't last very long, even shorter for BDSM oriented ones mostly because of this imbalance between responsibilities IMO. I would think the only answer would be a conversation or OOC thread between the writers for planning and checking in as the thread progresses. Communication like with BDSM relationships in real life is crucial for a successful femdom RP.

Although I admit the ones I've tried this communication idea on has produced admittedly mixed results.

Also I dispute your assertion that you'd need a dominant type in real life. All RP is exploring different facets of your own soul. A completely vanilla person in real life could explore writing a dominant character, just by focusing on those elements of their own personality that would lend itself to a dominant character. I've done it myself, and while I admit that it was very anxiety-inducing on whether or not I was getting it right, it was ultimately my most rewarding femdom thread ever-since I was generally just writing my dream domme, and I had such a clear vision for her in my head, and a wonderfully cooperative partner I communicated regularly with.

Secondly, the secret sauce should be that tension I mentioned earlier, it'll be the thing that makes even the most basic BDSM scene absolutely compelling to a reader if built up well. It's the thing that keeps us turning pages eventhough its late and we need to get some sleep for we have a long day of work the next day, but just one more chapter to find out what happens next...that's the secret sauce of a really good book it'll be the secret sauce of our femdom thread.
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Thanks Vero... For the practical purposes of a writing partnership, I'd agree with you in retrospect. An ideal RP scenario and equal work load ought to be conducive, while keeping the lines of communication outside of the RP wide open. Though it's easier said than done...

Perhaps we can agree to disagree, as I feel we're both right? I can think of many examples including my dominant Wife who is extremely vanilla. She would be absolutely clueless when attempting to write from a BDSM Dominant Woman skew. That's not to say all vanilla writers out there could not, just that I think it's rare.

But I'd still maintain the importance of the secret sauce if you're trying to keep RP partner captivated. It has to be extraneous from the dynamic, kink, or BDSM. An over arcing theme which is of interest to both of you. And a structure, with a clear direction of your objectives. What's your target words/pages, etc...
 
Justplatonic said:
Thanks Vero... For the practical purposes of a writing partnership, I'd agree with you in retrospect. An ideal RP scenario and equal work load ought to be conducive, while keeping the lines of communication outside of the RP wide open. Though it's easier said than done...

Perhaps we can agree to disagree, as I feel we're both right? I can think of many examples including my dominant Wife who is extremely vanilla. She would be absolutely clueless when attempting to write from a BDSM Dominant Woman skew. That's not to say all vanilla writers out there could not, just that I think it's rare.

But I'd still maintain the importance of the secret sauce if you're trying to keep RP partner captivated. It has to be extraneous from the dynamic, kink, or BDSM. An over arcing theme which is of interest to both of you. And a structure, with a clear direction of your objectives. What's your target words/pages, etc...
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Taget words/pages? Not sure what you mean.

Generally I find posts two to five short paragraphs long to be ideal if me and my partner want a detailed but conversational pace between us. Pages? I don't think I've ever reached that target in a femdom thread. My most successful one had an introduction period which led to a long "one-night-stand" scene and one short D/s scene then gearing up for a good long more hardcore BDSM scene that was cut off because my cowriter unfortunately had to leave Lit to deal with RL stuff.:(
 
Veroe said:
Taget words/pages? Not sure what you mean.

Generally I find posts two to five short paragraphs long to be ideal if me and my partner want a detailed but conversational pace between us. Pages? I don't think I've ever reached that target in a femdom thread. My most successful one had an introduction period which led to a long "one-night-stand" scene and one short D/s scene then gearing up for a good long more hardcore BDSM scene that was cut off because my cowriter unfortunately had to leave Lit to deal with RL stuff.:(
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Hey Vero... Sometimes it helps to have an end goal in mind. In other words as you've expanded upon in your second paragraph ;)

Yes, I think you've highlighted what it's all about. Truthfully there can be a legitimate reasons why the RL ends prematurely. No pun intended!

Literotica is a place for many skill levels, and commitments. Some may take it more seriously than others, but that's the territory we reside in. But keep at it! And who knows? Perhaps one day you'll find someone who'll stick to it until the bitter end... :)
 
Justplatonic said:
Hey Vero... Sometimes it helps to have an end goal in mind. In other words as you've expanded upon in your second paragraph ;)

Yes, I think you've highlighted what it's all about. Truthfully there can be a legitimate reasons why the RL ends prematurely. No pun intended!

Literotica is a place for many skill levels, and commitments. Some may take it more seriously than others, but that's the territory we reside in. But keep at it! And who knows? Perhaps one day you'll find someone who'll stick to it until the bitter end... :)
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Thanks Platonic. That's the key to thriving here on Lit, expect things to flame out for no one's fault, but keep at keeping at it no matter what.
 
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