The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[subdudeme13]

Thank you. I’m stable right now. But it’s motivated me to live life a bit harder than I might have before.

Wish I could spell!

 

[subdudeme13]

Most guys are just too "thirsty." I totally get this is sex site, but if you dig into the threads you'll see so many women who are actively looking to engage in conversation - most not even considering sexting, RP, etc... just looking to connect. Could it turn into something more? Possibly! But if you don't try, you'll never know.

Casual sex is fun for many people but it's obvious that the men to women ration is.... well, it's not good. Lol. If the goal is simply sex, well, just like in the real world, you're going to have a challenge on your hands. Lit is just a small sample of the real world after all.

It is the testosterone poisening that causes men to be men. Most men don't realize it. I had treatment for postate cancer and went thru therapy that eliminates testosterone. WOW! I could walk down the beach full of hot bodies and my head didn't turn once! I usually would have to conciously not look and of course women are doing what they can to get you to turn your head.
Carmina24, one of the founders of this room, could not continue on Lit and she did say goodby. Life happens!
All this is to say I agree with you but hormones are hormones.

 

[jacfox]

It is the testosterone poisening that causes men to be men. Most men don't realize it. I had treatment for postate cancer and went thru therapy that eliminates testosterone. WOW! I could walk down the beach full of hot bodies and my head didn't turn once! I usually would have to conciously not look and of course women are doing what they can to get you to turn your head.
Carmina24, one of the founders of this room, could not continue on Lit and she did say goodby. Life happens!
All this is to say I agree with you but hormones are hormones.

I know what you're saying but guys shouldn't use hormones as an excuse. Knowledge implies the potential to make choices. I've been led by the nose by my own testosterone too, it's true, but there's always the scope for at least making a special effort to deserve attention and not just expect it when your hormones are banging on that door.

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

I know what you're saying but guys shouldn't use hormones as an excuse. Knowledge implies the potential to make choices. I've been led by the nose by my own testosterone too, it's true, but there's always the scope for at least making a special effort to deserve attention and not just expect it when your hormones are banging on that door.

How you treat others is always a choice. Sure, hormones can be powerful influencers.... just ask my husband when the Red Monster shows up every month....

Understanding yourself, your desires, passions, and weaknesses and knowing how to handle yourself in any given situation is what truly matter.

 

[subdudeme13]

How you treat others is always a choice. Sure, hormones can be powerful influencers.... just ask my husband when the Red Monster shows up every month....

Understanding yourself, your desires, passions, and weaknesses and knowing how to handle yourself in any given situation is what truly matter.

Testosterone in not an excuse but it is the driver and it surprised me how much! It was a light switch moment. I recall reading about using castration as a cure for pedophilia. A man was castrated and could live a normal life but for some reason a Dr. gave him testosterone shots and he ended up molesting children again.

I totally agree that we must treat others with respect. The Red Monster, I can't believe that is the first time I have heard that!

 

[subdudeme13]

I know what you're saying but guys shouldn't use hormones as an excuse. Knowledge implies the potential to make choices. I've been led by the nose by my own testosterone too, it's true, but there's always the scope for at least making a special effort to deserve attention and not just expect it when your hormones are banging on that door.

I totally agree. For me the change was eye opening. I had no idea how much of a mental effect it had. Prostate cancer feeds on testosterone and that is the reason for the treament. It is basically just an injection and last for about 6 weeks. You also get hot flashes and night sweats just like women do when they go thru menopause. It was nice not to have my head on a swivel.
I have always been a gentleman.

 

[Shygentleman2]

How you treat others is always a choice. Sure, hormones can be powerful influencers.... just ask my husband when the Red Monster shows up every month....

Understanding yourself, your desires, passions, and weaknesses and knowing how to handle yourself in any given situation is what truly matter.

It's always a choice...do we mess up? Absolutely. We're human. But when we do we need to recognize our failure and work on becoming better.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Good grief..ghosted again by a guy who seemed totally genuine for SIX MONTHS - a lifetime in Lit chats.

When you and that person are so close, you talk on the PHONE multiple times a week, talk incessantly about when we can get together, when you know all about my life, and I, yours and my freaking FB suggests you as a friend...um, that's pretty close for Lit standards.

And then....POOF - gone. Done, I guess. My messages left unanswered for weeks, I'm too sad to attempt a phone call and have it go straight to voice mail.

I hope you have the life you deserve

Oh wow does that ever suck!

Hope it has gotten easier to deal with the passage of a bit of time.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I think the intensity of both friendship and sex here can be greater than IRL in some ways. That could be because of the challenges often faced in finding time and privacy for people with complicated or unpredictable lives, maybe living in different time zones. Being so dependent on language in the first place to get a relationship started also has the potential to intensify emotion and sexual excitement.

1000%

We get to show only what we want to show the other person and naturally we put our best foot forward and the other person does as well which leads to infatuation often times.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Hi, hope it's not too late to join this thread? I'm new here, trying to find some intelligent and interesting ladies to have conversations with, both 'everyday' and intimate. The initial post on the thread caught my attention and resonated with me.

I'm looking forward to hearing from any ladies interested in chatting and being well respected.

Welcome to the thread @Blue255624

It is never too late to join in this thread with a lot of different viewpoints and knowledge

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Bingo! This is exactly how I have approached it from the beginning. We become friends first, get to know each other, and figure out where we fit in each other's life. Progress from there.

It HURTS when you've done that with someone for a long length of time and they can't be bothered to answer your texts - a simple - give me a bit, I need some time, things are in flux...whatever. It's easy enough to do. Especially when it's obvious that you're posting on here at the same time!!! WTF?

I have Stage IV cancer, I have days I feel like garbage, but I'd NEVER ghost someone I really like. Ever. It's too painful to be on the other end.

I hope your recovery is going well!

Cancer totally sucks and the randomness about who gets it and who doesn't leads to some serious soul searching.

I have never ghosted anyone and don't intend to because I know how hurtful it can be

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I have beat cancer twice but I have only had Stage 2. Throat and prostate. They can work miricals these day.

Awesome!

Glad you caught it early and got treatment when it is most effective

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Thank you. I’m stable right now. But it’s motivated me to live life a bit harder than I might have before.

That is the correct way to approach the situation imo.

We should all probably learn this lesson

 

[subdudeme13]

Awesome!

Glad you caught it early and got treatment when it is most effective

Thanks, btw have you heard from Carmina at all. I thought you guys were close.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Thanks, btw have you heard from Carmina at all. I thought you guys were close.

It has been a couple of weeks since we have communicated.

We care about each other greatly.

I am giving her some space and hopefully soon she will be back to herself.

 

[elizaloo]

I hope your recovery is going well!

Cancer totally sucks and the randomness about who gets it and who doesn't leads to some serious soul searching.

I have never ghosted anyone and don't intend to because I know how hurtful it can be

Thank you and thanks for not ghosting. We’ve all agreed that it’s so painful..even online. It takes 3 seconds to type a quick goodbye. Lie, if you have to, but be kind.

 

[elizaloo]

Oh wow does that ever suck!

Hope it has gotten easier to deal with the passage of a bit of time.

It has. And the outpouring of sympathy in PMs has helped. So many of us have been ghosted for no reason. I get it, life situations change, feelings change..but just say the polite goodbye so we at least know you’re not dead on the side of the road ffs.

Or posting happily away on Lit ignoring our forlorn texts. That’s just cruel, and lets us know how little you actually cared.

 

[elizaloo]

It has been a couple of weeks since we have communicated.

We care about each other greatly.

I am giving her some space and hopefully soon she will be back to herself.

We need a ‘hugs’ emoji here. So I found one on my phone.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

It has. And the outpouring of sympathy in PMs has helped. So many of us have been ghosted for no reason. I get it, life situations change, feelings change..but just say the polite goodbye so we at least know you’re not dead on the side of the road ffs.

Or posting happily away on Lit ignoring our forlorn texts. That’s just cruel, and lets us know how little you actually cared.

So glad you have received many PMs offering a kind sympathetic ear!

It takes that sometimes to restore our faith in humanity.

The good still outnumber the bad imo but unfortunately the bad leave more of an indelible mark

 

[Hornymwtxn]

We need a ‘hugs’ emoji here. So I found one on my phone.

Absolutely!

Thank you! Your compassion and grace in some of the shit that life has thrown at you is inspiring!

 

[subdudeme13]

It has been a couple of weeks since we have communicated.

We care about each other greatly.

I am giving her some space and hopefully soon she will be back to herself.

I thought there were circumstances outside of her control that caused her to back away. She is certainly missed and leaves a huge void.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I thought there were circumstances outside of her control that caused her to back away. She is certainly missed and leaves a huge void.

That is my understanding as well

She will come back as soon as she is able to give fully of herself again. She does nothing halfassed

 

[Hornymwtxn]

This two week lit hiatus has done me some good.

It has allowed me some introspection time and to re-examine what makes me happy.

BUT also how best to achieve that happiness.

Sometimes we set goals but fail to develop a solid plan on how to achieve those goals. It takes work and dedication to be happy and I sometimes allow others to determine whether I am happy or not.

So I have to be a bit more selfish at times and not be so disappointed when they react in a way I totally did not expect.

 

[Shygentleman2]

This two week lit hiatus has done me some good.

It has allowed me some introspection time and to re-examine what makes me happy.

BUT also how best to achieve that happiness.

Sometimes we set goals but fail to develop a solid plan on how to achieve those goals. It takes work and dedication to be happy and I sometimes allow others to determine whether I am happy or not.

So I have to be a bit more selfish at times and not be so disappointed when they react in a way I totally did not expect.

It's good to see you back kind sir and that you're doing well!

 

[Hornymwtxn]

It's good to see you back kind sir and that you're doing well!

It is good to be back and thanks for the welcome!