SEVERUSMAX
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Just my impressions
Look, I'm as prone as the next guy to find MTF transsexuals as very sexy, but there are some valid points here. Now, it's true that I might want to experience a casual encounter with one, but that doesn't mean that I would rule out a long-term relationship with one (something that I brought up in my own crude way about a year ago on the AH). I'm capable of either purely physical attraction or more romantic attachment to them, the same way that I would to anyone else (bear in mind that I'm omnisexual here).
This is a board intended to discuss both serious and playful aspects of the GLBT life. That we are all in one category board is because we are minorities that fit into a larger minority: that of people who are not strictly heterosexual. The term "straight" is still used for that sort, for the very simple reason that on some level, we're all viewed as "reaks" And, frankly, being a "freak", I tend to stick up for other "freaks". Even now, where I live (the Bible Belt), people often do not acknowledge that bisexuality (aka omnisexuality) exists, let alone respect bisexual rights. Just one example. And we are not stuck with part of our anatomy that defies our psychosexual identity/gender!
How much harder must it be to view yourself as one sex, but have genitals belonging to another? It must feel as if you have swapped bodies with the opposite sex, right? Picture yourself going to bed at night as a guy and then waking up as a woman. How would you feel about that turn of events? That kind of hypothetical question is meant to give you a feeling of empathy for what people like Tymeless are trying to relate to you.
Now, I love porn, but it is true what someone here said about the adult film industry having something to answer for in terms of structuring their TG/TS porn in a less than empathetic light. The emphasis is far too much for the one part of them that still makes them feel alienated from their own bodies! They are presented as freaks, rather than as people who are simply in transition to another stage.
Now, I've been guilty of this to some extent myself in the past, but one must look at it again (as I did recently, and bear in mind that I viewed them in a positive light even then, but still tended to overemphasize their male anatomy) and remember that this is not something that they do, by and large, on a whim. It's one thing if someone forces it on them, but this is their identity, their very soul, their essence, that they are talking about! The very core of their humanity is at stake, and that is not a fantasy: it is a cold, hard reality of human nature and human dignity.
This is not a game, man. This is the real, day-to-day life of real people who suffer through a lack of identification with their own bodies. That goes for Female-to-Male transsexuals, but in one respect they have been luckier: there has been less of a focus on their anatomy, for the most part.
I am sure that if you ask Tymeless and others, even on a purely casual basis, what they want to be seen as their best physical attribute, they won't say their dicks. They probably prefer to forget that they even have dicks. They want to be seen as women, not strange or freakish, half-male, half-female creatures. They would probably want (and I hope that they don't get mad at me for speaking for them, but they can always correct me, and I'm using my instincts and empathic tendencies here) you to forget their dicks and admire the more feminine aspects of their bodies- and that's just the purely physical side of it. Ultimately, they would want to be appreciated as being as female as those born with two XX chromosomes, instead of an X and a Y chromosomes. Because there is more to gender or sex than chromosomes, folks.
Look, I'm as prone as the next guy to find MTF transsexuals as very sexy, but there are some valid points here. Now, it's true that I might want to experience a casual encounter with one, but that doesn't mean that I would rule out a long-term relationship with one (something that I brought up in my own crude way about a year ago on the AH). I'm capable of either purely physical attraction or more romantic attachment to them, the same way that I would to anyone else (bear in mind that I'm omnisexual here).
This is a board intended to discuss both serious and playful aspects of the GLBT life. That we are all in one category board is because we are minorities that fit into a larger minority: that of people who are not strictly heterosexual. The term "straight" is still used for that sort, for the very simple reason that on some level, we're all viewed as "reaks" And, frankly, being a "freak", I tend to stick up for other "freaks". Even now, where I live (the Bible Belt), people often do not acknowledge that bisexuality (aka omnisexuality) exists, let alone respect bisexual rights. Just one example. And we are not stuck with part of our anatomy that defies our psychosexual identity/gender!
How much harder must it be to view yourself as one sex, but have genitals belonging to another? It must feel as if you have swapped bodies with the opposite sex, right? Picture yourself going to bed at night as a guy and then waking up as a woman. How would you feel about that turn of events? That kind of hypothetical question is meant to give you a feeling of empathy for what people like Tymeless are trying to relate to you.
Now, I love porn, but it is true what someone here said about the adult film industry having something to answer for in terms of structuring their TG/TS porn in a less than empathetic light. The emphasis is far too much for the one part of them that still makes them feel alienated from their own bodies! They are presented as freaks, rather than as people who are simply in transition to another stage.
Now, I've been guilty of this to some extent myself in the past, but one must look at it again (as I did recently, and bear in mind that I viewed them in a positive light even then, but still tended to overemphasize their male anatomy) and remember that this is not something that they do, by and large, on a whim. It's one thing if someone forces it on them, but this is their identity, their very soul, their essence, that they are talking about! The very core of their humanity is at stake, and that is not a fantasy: it is a cold, hard reality of human nature and human dignity.
This is not a game, man. This is the real, day-to-day life of real people who suffer through a lack of identification with their own bodies. That goes for Female-to-Male transsexuals, but in one respect they have been luckier: there has been less of a focus on their anatomy, for the most part.
I am sure that if you ask Tymeless and others, even on a purely casual basis, what they want to be seen as their best physical attribute, they won't say their dicks. They probably prefer to forget that they even have dicks. They want to be seen as women, not strange or freakish, half-male, half-female creatures. They would probably want (and I hope that they don't get mad at me for speaking for them, but they can always correct me, and I'm using my instincts and empathic tendencies here) you to forget their dicks and admire the more feminine aspects of their bodies- and that's just the purely physical side of it. Ultimately, they would want to be appreciated as being as female as those born with two XX chromosomes, instead of an X and a Y chromosomes. Because there is more to gender or sex than chromosomes, folks.
Kind of irked me the way certain people talked to you and what they had to say (threadstarter, for example). 
