The Feeldoe. Need some advice and help.

[Sting]

Hey all you Litsters!

My fiance and I bought a Feeldoe last weekend during our romantic getaway... want her to be able to fuck me in the ass...

Anyway, I love the feel and such, but it will take some getting used to. Here's the questions:

My fiance was having some troubles holding it in. She got really upset when it wasn't working out for her the first time, because we were really looking forward to her doing it.

Anyone else have this issue? What did you do? Any helpful suggestions would be great.

Also, since she was having trouble holding it in her vagina, should we maybe try putting the bulb end in her ass?

In case we still have problems, can the Feeldoe be used in any way with a regular harness? It was an expensive toy, and we certainly want to use it!

Thanks!

 

[exhi2]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=377233&highlight=Feeldoe

Maybe start there. Not knowing anything about this toy, this is all I can give.

 

[rthnck]

searching the forums

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=211854&highlight=feeldoe
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=377233&highlight=feeldoe

Here are two threads with lots of feeldoe information. You can also type "feeldoe" in the forum search box and look at other strapon threads.

 

[SweetErika]

It sounds like maybe her PC muscles aren't strong enough to hold it in. That can be remedied by doing lots of kegel exercises, but it'll take awhile to get results, just like any exercise program. In the meantime, anal might be a good option.

 

[StrapFantasy]

I'm by no means an expert, but I've been reading up on the Feeldoe for a while.

When using the Feeldoe for FM fucking, the need for a harness seems to be fairly common, especially if she's going to be hammering away at you. Even when used for FF, her PC muscles have to be in pretty good shape. Your ass is going to grab the horse end a lot tighter than it was designed to be held, so the pony end tends to pop out of her. Just a matter of which side offers less resistance, really. Her vagina is designed to reduce friction, right?

I think this link is in one of the threads the others found for you, but I'll point it out for you. Check out the 3D feature, it's pretty cool. They suggest crossing the straps under the Feeldoe to hold it more securely. I know the whole idea of this toy is to go strapless, but even the 3D animation with a harness is pretty damn sexy if you ask me.

http://www.sensualluxuries.com/shop/items/item_HR00205.html

There are certainly other positions you can try that may not require her to hold the pony end as tightly. And yes, she could put it in her ass - if that's what she wants to do - and if she's worked up to it. The ribbed part of the toy is supposed to work on her clit, so I don't know if she'd miss that or not. Of course, she could do kegals... or you can use a harness.

 

[Etaski]

I've used it

Yes, it works very well, and in my opinion, better, with a harness.

Put the Feeldoe through the ring of the harness, get the harness partially onto her, put the bulb in the puss, and tighten the harness. It is very stable, and infinitely more pleasure for me than a regular harness-dildo would be. The Feeldoe has ridges at the base that, when bulb-in-puss, rub over the labia covering the clit. The harness helps keep those ridges in contact with her, and she can use them, even as she's using the phallus on you. I can cum from those ridges, and my partner loves that fact; I'm not only doing it for him, I actually fuck him to get off. He likes that.

Bulb end in her ass won't work---the phallus will be much shorter, she'll be missing out of the ridges, and you'll be working at an even stranger angle. It was difficult enough for me getting used to moving the right pelvic muscles. Not only that, I'd think it might hurt after a while....

The kegels are a good idea, and not just for the Feeldoe, but the harness allows her to get used to using the "male fucking" muscles she normally doesn't use all that much without having to worry about the trouble that you (and I!) had the first time. Plus, guess what? Even with harness, the Feeldoe itself gives me a good "pelvic muscle workout". I noticed muscles are tired afterward (in a good way) that usually I'm not even aware of.

The Feeldoe was a good purchase, don't worry, it's much better than any other harness dildo. But I think most women don't start out with the "vice grip" necessary to make the harness completely unnecessary. Might have toward that point.

Get a harness; you'll have more fun.

 

[nikki3791]

I have to agree with the other posters. We own this toy and have used it twice. The first time without a harness and it did slip out a bit. The second time I used a harness, and oh boy it was ride em cowgirl time...
Good luck and enjoy the toy...
Nikki

 

[Sting]

Thanks for the help, everyone... looks like I'm off to buy a harness... any suggestions?

 

[uptoplay2]

keep checking around...

some folks have gotten away with less than a harness. Various posts in different places suggest using underwear... and just pulling the feeldoe over the waist strap....

There might be more information at the yahoo group. If you haven't made a purchase, post your question there. I think there are over 500 users there now in a group of 1000.