The LGBT rambling thread!

[JenJ]

I read this and I'm glad you finally told her.

 

[april-wine]

I read it......Good luck

 

[DustyWolfe]

I read this and I'm glad you finally told her.

Yeah, me too. After all the yelling and crying she did after finding my Curve magazine I thought I might as well tell her about you so she didn't get pissed off at another time. Now she's just being a total bitch to me. It's not because of you though. Mom has never acted like this. She thinks because I am a lesbian that I don't love and respect her. I don't respect her right now because she is judging me. I never in a million years dreamed that I would be treated like this by my mother. We have always been very close.
She told me not to get her anything for mother's day. And that if I did I should take it back. She also said that I don't love her anymore. She really hurt me.
Damn, I am so glad that I am in Atlanta right now. Just sucks to be confronted like that over the phone.

 

[DustyWolfe]

I read it......Good luck

Thank you very much April. I need it lol.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Well... Life has it's interesting twists and turns. I've been suprised with my encounters in the BDSM community. So far I've only met a very small handful of lesbians. I'm wondering why though. It was quite funny though because I met someone from the channel at the dungeon and the whole situation was great. My friend led me into the dungeon on a leash, and I was of course wearing a pretty collar with a heart name tag that has Jens Sweet One engraved into it. This Daddy Domme flies across the room and was like "Who owns you?" She jumped on me fast. LOL... She was shocked that I was a soft butch because evidently in the BDSM community your either Femme or a Daddy, and I'm what she calls a 'tweener' because I'm in between lol.

Growing up I was always a tomboy, yet I was femme as well. Never totally though. Then as I gained weight from various medications and my miserable living situation I became more butch, mostly because it was hard to find cute clothing.

After being with Jen awhile I slowly started to grasp my feminine side again which is wonderful, though I still think I would make a cute boi

Of course, the more I am into the D/s lifestyle the more feminine I am becoming. I'm dressing a lot more feminine now.. Like wearing the black lace up skirt and the black lace blouse. Several years ago I would have hated that lol.

Ok.. just mere ramblings of this silly lessie

 

[sexy-girl]

i dont know how i've missed this thread before but oh well found it now and i read it all the way through thanks for starting it dustygrrl

it's weird how much bisexuality is eroticized in american culture. it's a common fantasy for men. for women it's seen as "less offensive" than being a lesbian. i've been told by people that i'm not a bisexual, i'm really: 1)confused 2)a lesbian but scared to admit it 3)straight but frustraited with men or 4)sick. people also seem to think bi women have their choice of both genders. that is far from true. it is frustraiting how many lesbians look down on bisexual women. they feel like the bi women will just toy around with them and then leave them for a man because it's "easier." even men are insecure about it, despite their fantasies.
it's not about gender to me. while i'm obviously not gender blind, it is unimportant to my ability to love. it's not about sex for me. it's about loving people with minds and hearts and souls that match mine.

personally i would find it hard to date a bisexual woman i guess i would worry she would leave me or wouldnt want to be monogamous ... would always want something that she wasnt getting from me


however if i loved this girl we'd just work it out maybe she'd have to do a bit of talking with me about it to help me feel at ease but as long as the girl just wanted to be with me then it would be fine ... i guess lesbians dont understand what its like to be bisexual but if i was helped to understand by the person i was committing too i guess it would work out


i can sympathize how it can be difficult for you lexie ... i guess being lesbian and being bisexual both have there own unique difficulties

I would love for us to have our own forum... It would be really cool. Who would we have to discuss that with? Manu or Laurel maybe?

please dont take this the wrong way but i dont think i'd like our own forum i think the lesbian/bi community is seperated enough in the real world from straight people i think its healthy to have it mixed in with the general board

 

[Vivacia]

WB Dusty, I missed ya hun!

 

[ReBeLBeLLe]

Greetings

Hi Ya'll!! My nickname is FinestSilk or FS for short...lol..omg, that's truer than ya'll would know because I am short too!! Anyway, that's besides the point. I have not read all the posts here and in time I hope to so if I repeat something please forgive me. I am not one that cares for labels either. When asked who or what I am to be honest I will most likely reply that I am a woman that loves women. This has not always been the case with me. I was married quite a few years to a man that I did love and enjoyed sex with. After he and I split up I became very close to a female friend of mine and one thing led to another and we soon became lovers with an eye towards a lifelong committment. That lasted for five years. Now that she and I are no longer together I still want a woman in my life. I may have enjoyed sex with a man but I LOVE it with a woman. I also love so many other qualities that a woman has to offer and to be honest some of those qualities are what I care about most. I like the compassion and the softness of a woman. I have no interest in a man other than friendship. I rarely wear dresses, although I will if the need arises and do so gladly. I am just more comfortable in a pair of pants and a shirt. I don't feel I have any particular likes in a woman other than that she be a caring individual, have a good sense of humor, and that she be a fair and honest person. I am glad to see this thread over here, and I hope to stop by a little more often. Well, this is me ladies...I hope each of you have a great day.

 

[DustyWolfe]

i dont know how i've missed this thread before but oh well found it now and i read it all the way through thanks for starting it dustygrrl





personally i would find it hard to date a bisexual woman i guess i would worry she would leave me or wouldnt want to be monogamous ... would always want something that she wasnt getting from me


however if i loved this girl we'd just work it out maybe she'd have to do a bit of talking with me about it to help me feel at ease but as long as the girl just wanted to be with me then it would be fine ... i guess lesbians dont understand what its like to be bisexual but if i was helped to understand by the person i was committing too i guess it would work out


i can sympathize how it can be difficult for you lexie ... i guess being lesbian and being bisexual both have there own unique difficulties

please dont take this the wrong way but i dont think i'd like our own forum i think the lesbian/bi community is seperated enough in the real world from straight people i think its healthy to have it mixed in with the general board

*grins* well I am glad that you have found this thread. It stayed dead for quite awhile and I decided to revive it.
Yes, after I posted the thing about us having our own forum I realized that it would be bad. I don't like the idea of segregation.

Hey, don't worry about me taking things the wrong way, unless you say something bad about Jen or call me fat we are cool hehe.

 

[DustyWolfe]

WB Dusty, I missed ya hun!

*huggles* I missed you too Vivacia!!!

 

[DustyWolfe]

Re: Greetings

Hi Ya'll!! My nickname is FinestSilk or FS for short...lol..omg, that's truer than ya'll would know because I am short too!! Anyway, that's besides the point. I have not read all the posts here and in time I hope to so if I repeat something please forgive me. I am not one that cares for labels either. When asked who or what I am to be honest I will most likely reply that I am a woman that loves women. This has not always been the case with me. I was married quite a few years to a man that I did love and enjoyed sex with. After he and I split up I became very close to a female friend of mine and one thing led to another and we soon became lovers with an eye towards a lifelong committment. That lasted for five years. Now that she and I are no longer together I still want a woman in my life. I may have enjoyed sex with a man but I LOVE it with a woman. I also love so many other qualities that a woman has to offer and to be honest some of those qualities are what I care about most. I like the compassion and the softness of a woman. I have no interest in a man other than friendship. I rarely wear dresses, although I will if the need arises and do so gladly. I am just more comfortable in a pair of pants and a shirt. I don't feel I have any particular likes in a woman other than that she be a caring individual, have a good sense of humor, and that she be a fair and honest person. I am glad to see this thread over here, and I hope to stop by a little more often. Well, this is me ladies...I hope each of you have a great day.

LOL... I am short too..... Great to meet you FS, always wonderful to meet new people. Yes I know what you mean about labels and stereotypes, they just suck don't they?
Hehe, I know what you mean about clothing.. I generally wear jeans and a goalie's shirt or something like that. But when I go out alot of times I will wear a lace shirt and lace up skirt. *G*. LOL.. One of my friends told me I look like a dyke in a dress. It was funny. I don't care though, I just wear whatever people tell me I look cute in.

Yes, I of course love women and pretty much everyone knows whom I love.

Stop by again soon everyone!

 

[DustyWolfe]

LOL... well... I have my own label. How ironic.... It's been settled on that I'm a femme boi. *looks at herself in the mirror with her short hair, dangly earrings, LOVE necklace, goalie shirt, and jeans.* Hmmm.. Yeah... that works for me.

So now, I need to find a way to talk to my parents about my future. I could be leaving to live with Jen anywhere from August to January.

I also need to figure out how to do introductions with my grandparents when Jen comes. I think it is going to be a bit obvious that we are in love with each other. Guess it ones of those 'we'll cross that bridge when we come to it' type thingies. I just wonder if mom and dad will even come to our wedding when we get married up in Vermont. I really want them to love and accept Jen and the girls but I also don't want to push them.

It's really hard being a lesbian at times, but I wouldn't trade it for the world because that would mean that I would not have Jen as my wonderful partner.

 

[JusticeLupus]

*bumping cause I can*

 

[DustyWolfe]

woohoo.. someone bumped me lol

I was just about to post the lyrics to this song that describes where I am at right now. I think alot of people might be able to identify with it...

thought i knew my mind
like the back of my hand
the gold and the rainbow
but nothing panned out as i planned
and they say only milk and honey's
gonna make your soul satisfied
well i better learn how to swim
cause the crossing is chilly and wide

twisted guardrails on the highway
broken glass on the cement
a ghost of someone's tragedy
how recklessly my time has been spent
they say that it's never too late
but you don't, you don't get any younger
well i better learn how to starve the emptiness
and feed the hunger

up on the watershed
standing at the fork in the road
you can stand there and agonize
till your agony's your heaviest load
you'll never fly as the crow flies
get used to a country mile
when you're learning to face
the path at your pace
every choice is worth your while

and there's always retrospect
(when you're looking back)
to light a clearer path
every five years or so i look back on my life
and i have a good laugh
you start at the top
go full circle round
catch a breeze
take a spill
but ending up where i started again
makes me wanna stand still

up on the watershed
standing at the fork in the road
you can stand there and agonize
till your agony's your heaviest load
you'll never fly as the crow flies
get used to a country mile
when you're learning to face
the path at your pace
every choice is worth your while

stepping on a crack
breaking up and looking back
til every tree limb overhead just seems to sit and wait
til every step you take becomes a twist of fate

up on the watershed
standing at the fork in the road
you can stand there and agonize
till your agony's your heaviest load
you'll never fly as the crow flies
get used to a country mile
when you're learning to face
the path at your pace
every choice is worth your while

up on the watershed
standing at the fork in the road
you can stand there and agonize
till your agony's your heaviest load
you'll never fly as the crow flies
get used to a country mile
when you're learning to face
the path at your pace
every choice is worth your while

and when you're learning to face
the path at your pace
every choice is worth your while

That song is Watershed by Indigo Girls

 

[cesra]

Oooooooh I love this thread. Hi everybody. A little intro, perhaps? 21, Canadian, bi, in love with the most incredible woman in the world (no, I'm not biased, shh).

A ramble, too? We dealt with the bisexual thing, too, whether we'd both be ok just being with a woman, no men. Talked and talked and came up with the trail period idea. It sucked. We gave it 6 months where we could play with whomever we wanted to, no questions, no guilt. At the end of it we both admitted that we had no fun and missed each other every time we were with other people, lol. So we're monogamous now, have been for 11 months. Neither of us miss men in the least, she says she's glad to be rid of them lol. I've always been monogamous (except for the occasional threesome that included my lover at the time), but she hasn't, always went out with more than one person at the same time. We've got a lot of differences, but we're working them out.

Now...We've talked about this stuff ad nauseum, forgive me if I go on and on in an incoherent manner. There are people who need both female and male partners, at the same time. That's the way they are, they need both those energies. They're bisexual. There are people who are capable of monogamy and long-term, permanent relationshhips with people who are either male or female. They're bisexual. There are people who like a steady partner of either sex and many people to play with of only the opposite sex, or of both sexes. They're bisexual. Etc. , etc. There's a lot of variety of relationships, for bisexual people as well as for others.

Most people like to see only the variation on the bisexual theme that threatens them the most. Insecure lesbians like to think bisexual women will leave them for a man, because they crave that...They miss the women who are happy to be monogamous with somebody of only one gender even though they themselves are bisexual. Insecure men think bisexual woman are sluts who'll go after anything that moves. Insecure people in general make up hideous theories that bisexual men and women are the ones spreading AIDS from the gay community to the straight one and back. Etc. It's a nice big mess.

Bisexuals have been unrecognized in the gay community and the straight one outside of safe, sanitized fantasies for a long time. Things are changing, though. Yes, right now, in some cases, including bisexual people in some areas might slightly hurt the image of GLBT organizations amongst the more ignorant of their supporters. That's why they should be included, to break down that ignorance.

I think I'll stop now. Right now my little issue is whether anybody will really believe I'm bi when I'm so obviously in a serious, monogamous, permanent relationship with a woman.

Anyway...This was my horribly long "Hello" to everybody here.

 

[Guest]

Oooooooh I love this thread. Hi everybody. A little intro, perhaps? 21, Canadian, bi, in love with the most incredible woman in the world (no, I'm not biased, shh).

A ramble, too? We dealt with the bisexual thing, too, whether we'd both be ok just being with a woman, no men. Talked and talked and came up with the trail period idea. It sucked. We gave it 6 months where we could play with whomever we wanted to, no questions, no guilt. At the end of it we both admitted that we had no fun and missed each other every time we were with other people, lol. So we're monogamous now, have been for 11 months. Neither of us miss men in the least, she says she's glad to be rid of them lol. I've always been monogamous (except for the occasional threesome that included my lover at the time), but she hasn't, always went out with more than one person at the same time. We've got a lot of differences, but we're working them out.

Now...We've talked about this stuff ad nauseum, forgive me if I go on and on in an incoherent manner. There are people who need both female and male partners, at the same time. That's the way they are, they need both those energies. They're bisexual. There are people who are capable of monogamy and long-term, permanent relationshhips with people who are either male or female. They're bisexual. There are people who like a steady partner of either sex and many people to play with of only the opposite sex, or of both sexes. They're bisexual. Etc. , etc. There's a lot of variety of relationships, for bisexual people as well as for others.

Most people like to see only the variation on the bisexual theme that threatens them the most. Insecure lesbians like to think bisexual women will leave them for a man, because they crave that...They miss the women who are happy to be monogamous with somebody of only one gender even though they themselves are bisexual. Insecure men think bisexual woman are sluts who'll go after anything that moves. Insecure people in general make up hideous theories that bisexual men and women are the ones spreading AIDS from the gay community to the straight one and back. Etc. It's a nice big mess.

Bisexuals have been unrecognized in the gay community and the straight one outside of safe, sanitized fantasies for a long time. Things are changing, though. Yes, right now, in some cases, including bisexual people in some areas might slightly hurt the image of GLBT organizations amongst the more ignorant of their supporters. That's why they should be included, to break down that ignorance.

I think I'll stop now. Right now my little issue is whether anybody will really believe I'm bi when I'm so obviously in a serious, monogamous, permanent relationship with a woman.

Anyway...This was my horribly long "Hello" to everybody here.

Very nice to meet you. Thanks for posting, it's always nice to get the opinion of someone else. I don't know that I ever gave myself much of a serious introduction to tell the you the truth... So a bit about me at the moment.

I came the boards in February of this year, my love whom is Jenj on here introduced me to the board. We have been together online for a bit short of 6 months and will be together for a couple of weeks in August. I am currently residing in Texas but the first week of January I will be heading to Michigan to live with Jen.

Yes, bisexuals get alot of lip from both the straight and gay community but I think that the gay community is slowly becoming more accepting. It's just one of those things that is tolerated.


Another issue that is of importance with the gay community but it swept under the rug is domestic violence. If a lesbian reports abuse at the hand of her partner she is often shunned from the community because it makes the community as a whole look bad.

Amazingly there are no resources out of there for survivors of domestic violence unless you are in the straight community. Which is bad because there is an obvious need. And most gay men and lesbians don't feel comfortable attending groups for straight people. It just feels wierd, you feel like people are judging you are something...

 

[DustyWolfe]

Grrrrrr

That last post was me

 

[sexy-girl]

i started a thread for this but i thought i'd post it here too and bump up this thread



"Portman's Lesbian Lust

Sensual Star Wars babe Natalie Portman has feelings for other women. The stunning actress who plays Senator Amildala in Attack Of The Clones announced that, although she has never explored her lesbian fantasies, she would not rule it out. The sexy stunner, who once dated Moby, claimed that although her personality is more compatible with men she wouldn't want to close herself off to girl only action. She says, "I've never dated a woman or anything like it. But I think it's much more the person that you fall in love with and why would you close yourself off to 50-per-cent of people?"

 

[JenJ]

I keep forgetting about this thread lol.

Yes soon we will be in each other arms Dusty.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Wow! Lookie what I dug up. This was when we kept hoping for our own board!

 

[Jessalynvix]

wow yes indeed blast from the past thread.

 

[DustyWolfe]

LOL dunno if that's good or bad... but anyways... ramble on

 

[DustyWolfe]

Woohoo!~ Moved

 

[Jessalynvix]

yay it lives

 

[Jessalynvix]

hey Dusty you gonna lick the frosting off of your cupcake?

in reference to something earlier in these pages